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Optimism or pessimism: Which is better for you?

If it would be up to us to say, we would assure you that optimism is the best way to live longer. We advise you to do away as much as you can from negative influences.

In these dark Corona days and time of Climate Change, we are pulled back and forth by the many changing reports and many feel very insecure. Today, for the umpteenth time in a row, the government is coming up with new tightening corona measures that will again restrict us in so many areas. (Positive thinkers will rather look at the new or renewed measures with an attitude of “ah, we can still do this!

Negatively you could say “what the heel, again a lockdown”. Positively you could say

“Is it only the fourth wave of the pandemic, or is it already the fourth lockdown?”

For many it almost has become part of their everyday life.

Somehow it is everyday life. This pandemic reminds us of what we like to ignore: life is unpredictable. Now it’s just being taken to the extreme. {Another Lockdown}

Thanksgiving Day and weekend is already behind us, but soon we shall get some other days of family gathering and happiness. For some Christian it is now Advent (peculiar to the Western churches) and a time to prepare for Christmas. In the old days that period was a time of fasting and meditation. For Catholics with November 30 (St. Andrew’s Day) it is the beginning of the liturgical year. So, when you think of starting a new year, hopefully, you would not do that with a grim, dark mind, but would look forwards with a lot of good ideas, positivism and hope. In many Eastern churches, the Nativity Fast is a similar period of penance and preparation that occurs during the 40 days before Christmas. Normally having a ‘Fast’ a person would take such action to clear the mind and to do away with all bad things. As such in that period a person should also do away with negative thoughts and come to see the good things in life, appreciating again all the tiny bits.

Those who believe in Jesus Christ have the advantage, that there is hope for them for better times. Therefore, there should be no reason for a Christian to run around with the chin hanging on the ground. Our faith provides the foundation of courage to assist us when we have to endure that difficult ‘walk of life‘. Even when the days are becoming shorter and darker, this does not have to make our mind darker and has to stop us from dreaming or going further with our bold adventure and directs our steps to greatness. The light in the darkness Christians may see, they can show also to others, to bring them some positive news in these darker days.

The coming of Christ in his Nativity was overlaid with a second theme, also stemming from Gallican churches, namely, his Second Coming at the end of time. Some people are convinced we have already entered that time of the end. For others, this interweaving of the themes of two advents of Christ gives the season a peculiar tension both of penitence and of joy in expectation of the Lord who is “at hand.”

In life it often goes the wrong way with people when they have too many expectations. We typically do demand too much from ourselves. At the same time, we create borders for ourselves thinking that we shall not be able to do this or that. By setting such limitations in front of us we collide with a bare wall. We should know our feelings have all to do with our attitude to ourselves and to others. But it also has to do with what we want from ourselves and how we want to project ourselves to others.

Some of us are afraid to have some dark thoughts or see such pessimistic ideas as a threat or danger to our well-being.

Studies suggest that around 80 percent of people have an optimism bias, or tendency to overestimate the likelihood of positive events. But does that mean they live happier lives?
Marnie Chesterton – accompanied by Hannah, a CrowdScience listener and self-proclaimed pessimist – investigates how we form our views on what the future holds, and whether it’s better to always look on the bright side of life.

‘If we think things are gonna be good for us in the future, we tend to put in the effort’

Can CrowdScience answer your question?

Let us not forget even when we are becoming restricted, we can use this time of more isolation, to think more about ourselves, what we have done and what way we shall continue to go. Now it is time to think of ways to go forward, even when we have to face certain times to draw back, and considering that tis moment may be totally different from the moment and time of someone else we know. Not comparing ourselves with others all the time shall make life much easier.

In this darkness, dare to step forward at your own speed and with your own capabilities!

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Preceding

In October-November People often too busy with death and the dead

Misleading world, stress, technique, superficiality, past, future and positivism

What kind of attitude do you have?

don’t look at me in that tone of voice!

Some Hope for 2021

Expectations

Your only limitations are those you set upon yourself

Getting up to bring changes into your life

On Positivism

Benefits of Positive Thinking

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Additional reading

  1. Unlikely silence
  2. CoViD-19 Curation
  3. No time yet to relax the CoViD-19 restriction measures
  4. Another Lockdown
  5. The importance of utopia and how to get there
  6. Utopian dreams
  7. Thoughts for the day (Our World) = Thoughts for the day (Some view on the World)
  8. Thanksgiving wisdom: Why gratitude is good for your health
  9. Good time to sort out your friends and contacts
  10. Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement (Our World) = Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement (Some view on the World)
  11. Offering words of hope (Our world)Offering words of hope (Some View on the World)
  12. God, let me be a light in these dark times

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Related

  1. Punch Through: Harsh Life and the Problem of Positive Thinking
  2. When You Make A Mistake
  3. Seeds, Roots and Shoots
  4. Changing World
  5. Confidence in the Lord
  6. 🤗 A Better Life ~ Sing a Happy Song
  7. 👊 Today’s Power Thought ~ Yes, Good Things Are Headed Your Way
  8. 👊 Today’s Power Thought ~ You Have Undiscovered Potential
  9. Review of “The Future We Choose: The Stubborn Optimist’s Guide to the Climate Crisis”
  10. Throwing of the Gauntlet: Quotes for Philosophical Dads
  11. The Walk down Memory Lane
  12. One Lesson From a 100 Day Tweet Challenge
  13. Dancing Lights 

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Expectations

 

Jewish Young Professional

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“Every cloud has a silver lining” – proverb

We watch the heavy storm –

Clouds whose bellies hang low,

Weighted with our expectations

For silver linings – but life is just

Phantom pregnancies, labor pains

That do not deliver joy.

If such linings were common, they’d be plastic;

We’d pollute the ocean with them.

They’re only silver because they’re rare.

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time is running out

At the beginning of our life time may seem endless long, but by becoming older it seems to go faster and faster. So many times we wonder what we have accomplished in life and have the impression we are still nowhere, though we have already passed half a century. And when we are retired we still want to do so much, but do not seem to have time enough.
The clock ticks further and for some louder, whilst for others (like me) it becomes more quiet, but having the sun giving us enough energy to pass the time and having us to enjoy the time as long as it can.

Take the time in your hand; give time your energy and let your thoughts inspire others, with the knowledge we all walk the path of life, sun, moon and stars allowing days to come, even in the time we do not let the clocks arrange our life.

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Read also

  1. First man’s task still counting today
  2. If Today Was Your Last Day On Earth?
  3. Who is considered Old
  4. Ageing and Solidarity between generations
  5. To Work Longer or Die Younger

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Additional reading

  1. To create a great journey
  2. Cognizance at the doorstep or at the internet socket
  3. You shall howl in your latter end
  4. Leap

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Related

  1. When you walk the path of life…
  2. The Path
  3. Light unto my path of life
  4. I’ve Become My Dad
  5. You Are Exactly Where You Are Right Now, Because That’s Where You’re Supposed to Be
  6. Verse of the DayLife [A Quote]
  7. There is danger when you put your mind on riches.Where You’re At

CRAZY LIFE

Life clock ticks
Makes me the sicks

What have I accomplished?
I have only been auto-punished

I see the clock
I feel like I have in my head a big rock

Time is running out
I just hope I find my life inner scout

Stay Frosty gents and gentesses.

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Dark times, dry places, panting hearts, thirsting, being cast down and patience

 

 

Rom 8:18-28 KJ2000  For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.  (19)  For the earnest expectation of the creation waits for the manifestation of the sons of God.  (20)  For the creation was made subject to vanity, not willingly, but by reason of him who has subjected the same in hope,  (21)  Because the creation itself also shall be delivered from the bondage of corruption into the glorious liberty of the children of God.  (22)  For we know that the whole creation groans and travails in pain together until now.  (23)  And not only they, but ourselves also, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, that is, the redemption of our body.  (24)  For we are saved by hope: but hope that is seen is not hope: for what a man sees, why does he yet hope for?  (25)  But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it.  (26)  Likewise the Spirit also helps our weakness: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought but the Spirit himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.  (27)  And he that searches the hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because he makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God.  (28)  And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Psa 42:1-11 KJ2000  [To the Chief Musician.  A maschil, for the Sons of Korah.] As the hart pants after the water brooks, so pants my soul after you, O God.  (2)  My soul thirsts for God, for the living God: when shall I come and appear before God?  (3)  My tears have been my food day and night, while they continually say unto me, Where is your God?  (4)  When I remember these things, I pour out my soul within me: for I had gone with the multitude, I went with them to the house of God, with the voice of joy and praise, with a multitude that kept holyday.  (5)  Why are you cast down, O my soul? and why are you disturbed within me? hope in God: for I shall yet praise him for the help of his countenance.  (6)  O my God, my soul is cast down within me: therefore will I remember you from the land of Jordan, and of the Hermonites, from the hill Mizar.  (7)  Deep calls unto deep at the noise of your waterfalls: all your waves and your billows are gone over me.  (8)  Yet the LORD will command his lovingkindness in the daytime, and in the night his song shall be with me, and my prayer unto the God of my life.  (9)  I will say unto God my rock, Why have you forgotten me? why go I mourning because of the oppression of the enemy?  (10)  As with a sword in my bones, my enemies reproach me; while they say daily unto me, Where is your God?  (11)  Why are you cast down, O my soul? and why are you disturbed within me? hope in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.

Psa 100:1-5 KJ2000  [A Psalm of Praise.] Make a joyful noise unto the LORD, all you lands.  (2)  Serve the LORD with gladness: come before his presence with singing.  (3)  Know you that the LORD he is God: it is he that has made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture.  (4)  Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name.  (5)  For the LORD is good; his mercy is everlasting; and his truth endures to all generations.

 

Eph 1:16-23 KJ2000  Cease not to give thanks for you, making mention of you in my prayers;  (17)  That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him:  (18)  The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that you may know what is the hope of his calling, and what is the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints,  (19)  And what is the exceeding greatness of his power toward us who believe, according to the working of his mighty power,  (20)  Which he performed in Christ, when he raised him from the dead, and set him at his own right hand in the heavenly places,  (21)  Far above all principality, and power, and might, and dominion, and every name that is named, not only in this age, but also in that which is to come:  (22)  And has put all things under his feet, and gave him to be the head over all things to the church,  (23)  Which is his body, the fullness of him that fills all in all.

Psa 23:1-6 KJ2000  [A Psalm of David.] The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not lack.  (2)  He makes me to lie down in green pastures: he leads me beside the still waters.  (3)  He restores my soul: he leads me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.  (4)  Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for you are with me; your rod and your staff they comfort me.  (5)  You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies: you anoint my head with oil; my cup runs over.  (6)  Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD forever.

 

Psa 46:1-3 KJ2000  [To the Chief Musician for the sons of Korah.  A song upon alamoth.] God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.  (2)  Therefore we will not fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea;  (3)  Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof. Selah.

 

Psa 46:10-11 KJ2000  Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.  (11)  The LORD of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge. Selah.

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Preceding article: Dark Times and Dry Places

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  • Light to My Path (theencouragementexpress.com)
    Some of you have been asking the Lord for direction. Go to Bible and seek it out. Go through the prophetic words and promises you’ve received. The path will become clear. Ask for grace, and the Lord Jesus Christ will fill you with the grace and courage you need to walk and stay on this path.
  • SOS, Serving Our Savior (news.sosevents.org)
    Many people ask what the meaning of SOS is, Serving Our Savior is what the letters stand for, but more importantly it is what the team members feel in their hearts.
  • (Usus Antiquior) Quinquagesima Sunday (II Classis) – Sunday, 15 February 2015 : Offertory, Secret Prayer of the Priest, Communion and Post-Communion Prayer (petercanisiusmichaeldavidkang.com)
    Blessed are You, o Lord, teach me Your justifications. With my lips I have pronounced all the judgments of Your mouth.
  • fallow deer in the psalms (brucefong.wordpress.com)
    The deer that is in the image of the psalmist may very well be the Fallow Deer.  It is indigenous to the Israel.The Fallow Deer with its spotted, chocolate, black or white coat is a beautiful animal.  It can run at spurts of speed up to 30 mph.  Striking palmated antlers are sported by the bucks of the herd.  Think of this deer when this psalm crosses into your mind.
  • God is. (activeinspiration.wordpress.com)
    God is, everything, He’s faithful, dependable, He is always with us, He loves us beyond what we can imagine, He forgives us, He carries out our vengeances, He sustains is, and whatever ever you would like to add. God is infinite in how He cares for us, and yes we joyfully sing.
  • To deep for words (genesisone.wordpress.com)
    God speaks to us in so many ways, not least in and through our everyday exposure to His creation. It is a message worth perceiving, believing and receiving. It is worth our deepest response.“O Lord my God, When I in awesome wonder,
    Consider all the works Thy hands have made;
    I see the stars, I hear the mighty thunder,
    Thy power throughout the universe displayed.
    Then sings my soul, My Saviour God, to Thee,
    How great Thou art, How great Thou art.”
  • Observations on Psalm 111 (purifyingfires.com)
    Verses 2-4:
    6. God’s workings are so marvelous they cannot be forgotten
    7. Those who love God delight in and seek out His wondrous works
    8. The nature and character of God is justice and holiness
  • Are Humans Merely Sophisticated Programmed Robots? (humansarefree.com)
    Everything in this Virtual Reality works on programming – everything! Programming can be man-made, but most of it originates elsewhere. Often people accept things happening around them as being “the way things are”. Few suspect that they are programmed to accept “the way things are”.
  • God Turns Darkness Into Light (divinedirection.typepad.com)
  • God is not the author of confusion (bummyla.com)

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Believe in yourself!

Logo of ACCEPT

We often fall in the trap of creating too high expectations and comparing ourselves with others. In case we are willing to accept our ‘honest self’ we shall find an easier life, giving more meaning to our saying “I am”.

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Remember you have to :

  • accept yourself.
  • take care of your mind, body and soul
  • treat yourself with love, respect and care
  • do meaningful things => reminds you how worth it you are
  • have relativism
  • recognise your enormous potential inside -> empower all your best qualities to continuing learning and trusting in yourself
  • stop overestimating other people opinions
  • ignore negative criticisms
  • listen to the constructive remarks
  • create your own opinion.
  • = Accept yourself, take care of yourself, love yourself ==> You are worth it.

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Hope

Every nation has to be build on hope. Every person has to grow by having hopes, aspirations, many dreams, but also by being strong enough to become not disillusioned as soon as the slightest thing goes wrong. Real hope is there where there is a cherisher who wants to cherish a desire of fulfilment, having confidence in the possibility of fulfilment.
When we are willing to trust ourselves in our capabilities to handle the expectation of obtaining what we are dreaming of, we are on the good way.

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To remember:

  • holding on to, to prevent from getting hurt
  • hope we might achieve our goals
  • constant force > motivating
  • aiming for the stars
  • sense of false belief > control a particular situation
  • believe that can happen
  • to make a difference
  • string of thread that keeps the cloth from tearing
  • change course of lives
  • living in a make believe + happy ending

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  • Hope in the dark (treebeardgarden.wordpress.com)
    We wake / With hope in our hearts / We live / With hope in our minds
  • Myanmar Opposition Leader Aung Sang Suu Kyi to Visit China (thediplomat.com)
    Suu Kyi, the chairperson of the NLD, famously spent the better part of 20 years under house arrest after the government refused to recognize her party’s successes in the 1990 general election. Suu Kyi was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize “for her non-violent struggle for democracy and human rights” in 1991, but remained under house arrest until 2010, when the Myanmar government released her as part of a general reform effort that promised greater respect  for human rights.

A Random Nobody

Hope; something that humans hold on to, to prevent themselves from getting hurt. It is like a ray of sunshine on a dark, cloudy day or like a breath of fresh air after a day of scorching heat. The hope that we might achieve our goals or the hope of a miracle is the constant force that motivates us to put in our heart and soul in the given project and aim for the stars.
We don’t really have any power over time or destiny and hope is the only thing that gives us a sense of false belief; that we can actually control a particular situation and that the odds might be in our favour.
Our decision making ability is overshadowed by hope, and we are ready to believe that anything can happen at any point of time. Hope is basically like the last weapon which a warrior uses…

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Life isn’t unfair

A thirty something, addicted to music and books, like many others in this world, may have many questions about this life in her head, but unlike many she can still say that life isn’t unfair. And that is not what many dare to say. The home country of her husband is being destroyed more and more day by day and they could quickly go ahead and even shout out how unfair life is but, giving it a second thought, they see also parts in it which don’t let them break down completely.

It is not bad this lady gets stuff out of her mind from time to time. A way to get some thoughts getting from our shoulders is to let them loose in the out. Also by writing down what bothers us we can get rid of certain worrying thoughts or even better, we can share our thoughts so that they not only loosen ourselves but also others.

Roses (Roxe) Nature: Cold in the first degree,...

Roses (Roxe) – From the Tacuinum of Vienna (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The writer of the blog reminds us that we often forget in our life full of stress that there are so many reasons to be thankful and instead complain far too much. In many industrialised countries we might consider that a big problem. People are having so much and are seeing others having so much that they bother more about what the others have and they do not. Jealousy makes many people in the world of abundance very unhappy.

Having a rooftop above the head, being able to put a heather on, many keep harping on the weather. Others like to complain about the job or about the prizes in the supermarkets getting higher. They often have enough food and are teasing others about what to eat. Many may have a lot of things around them which they do not like, but most of them forget how many people in the East or in the South can only dream of our bare minima.

In I have so many reasons to be thankful the writer brings into attention that what many of the Western public long have forgotten. How many senses do we really still want to use properly?

Some may blame the pollution having many of us not having any more the pleasures of smell. Sense of smell should bring us lots of memories and desires. With our eyes we than can see all those flowers, all those colours which wave and tell their story in the wind. How many in the West do still want to hear those stories and notice all those animals which move around in that colourful world?

Going into the Autumn season the world is changing colour and red comes more to have its say in this world where the wind wants to make enough noise to have it tell her own stories whilst the branches of the trees dare to react and go to fight with the powers of nature.

We shall not find it warm enough to take some naps in the sunshine, but our wandering and now and then standing still, we shall still be able to feel truly connected with the nature and earth around us. In this time of turmoil, creepy sounds at night, we can feel at ease indoors, close by the fire, or having it nicely warm while we do know Winter shall be coming soon and bringing the bitter cold. Every day becomes shorter, but we want to fight the darkness and have found the candles “for having a soothing source of light” whenever we feel it is needed. The candle light also can bring memories and whispers in our ears that what we would love to hear, from the past. and in the cosiness of the warm living room we may not forget that we are blessed to have all this around us what can make life easier.

Some SFI Thoughts by Geoffrey West

Some SFI Thoughts by Geoffrey West (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Many may not like the rain and forget that without it we would not have so much green. So we should be happy it nourishes our surroundings and let us “listen to its beautiful sound”.

Do not forget to think about all the beautiful things around us and about the many everyday things, so many we so often just take for granted. This coming season let it not get us down in the ‘depri world’ but get it down on our knees to be thankful for all what wee have received before and for all what is in front of us.

Life shows us more than enough possibilities to make the best out of every situation and we need to adjust our expectations. I each and every second there are little moments to treasure, we just have to see life through the eyes of love to uncover them.{Is life unfair?}

Like so many magazines we too would say to listen to your inner voice and to enjoy life.

We are driven by our thoughts and emotions and every single magazine tells you to listen to your inner voice but still your life isn’t happy. {Change your habits to lead a happy life}

In Autumn we may find the wind turning from one site to the other, wanting to push us from here to there, and letting us think no way is the good one.

Life isn’t a one way road and there are always possibilities, you may not see them directly but if you start to dig deeper you will find them.
Instead of waiting for big changes take your life in your hands and start to see all those small things that can change your life without too much efforts – and as always, many small changes sums up to be sometimes more effective than turning your life upside down. {Change your habits to lead a happy life}

In Summer we got the energy from the sun and lots of us went to sunny places to charge our batteries. So, let our full batteries now give enough power to come through Winter, but let it also give new impulses to take time to contemplate and to mediate about which way we want to continue and where we want to go to.

MissFaith Munich knows also that we all struggle at certain times and forget the reasons why we started to do something in first place. She is aware that others may start to doubt but that we are better to believe in ourself.

whatever comes along you can succeed. People who start to doubt because of others may lose track and fall, but if you stand up for your dreams and show all disbeliever that you will make it you will create a certainty within yourself.  {Never stop to be a dreamer…}

Now comes the time there will be lesser outdoor-activities and more time to stay indoors at our own little place. Perhaps it is now not so bad to take some more time to come to ourselves. Why not making time to get a more relaxed mind. That means not putting our mind asleep, but giving place to a creative mind which

can bring you forward so stand on your toes, open your arms wide, close your eyes and breathe – life isn’t that complicated! {Never stop to be a dreamer…}If not you, who else will follow your dreams? {Never stop to be a dreamer…}

To come to a relaxed mind come to trust yourself and trust the loved ones around you. as the writer of the mentioned articles also knows:

To rebuild life from within, a wonderful thought but at the same time quite scary.
It seems so much easier to build our life from the outside.
Dress up, sit in a fancy restaurant, surround yourself with hip friends and enjoy.
Easy as that, isn’t it? {Rebuilding Life from Within}

The coming Winter we can take some more time for ourselves, getting closer to the ‘one within’.

The earlier you realize that our “within” is the essential part the better as you haven’t caused too much damage within a short time. {Rebuilding Life from Within}

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Please read the full articles:

  1. Is life unfair?
  2. Change your habits to lead a happy life
  3. Rebuilding Life from Within
  4. Never stop to be a dreamer…

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Additional reading:

  1. Be Honest
  2. Be an Encourager
  3. How do Other People Feel About Mental Health?
  4. What IF you’re only driven by stress?
  5. Depression Is and When
  6. Depression, Anxiety, Pressure and megachurches
  7. Being ‘broke’ a state of mind
  8. Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression
  9. Oh god, this is never going to end!
  10. Materialism, would be life, and aspirations
  11. Ageing and Solidarity between generations
  12. Try driving forward instead of backwards
  13. A little ray of sunshine.
  14. Getting fate in your change to positiveness
  15. Searching for fulfilment and meaning through own efforts, facing unsatisfaction and depression
  16. Give thanks to the One Who gave much
  17. By counting our blessings we not only feel good, but we multiply our good
  18. God should be your hope
  19. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
  20. Remember there’s a light in the next day
  21. Receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken
  22. You’re Lighter Than Air~
  23. O’ Captain! My Captain!
  24. Coming Out Of The Bipolar Closet
  25. Self-development, self-control, meditation, beliefs and spirituality
  26. To be relapsing
  27. Pieces
  28. Thanksgiving wisdom: Why gratitude is good for your health
  29. Aligned
  30. Importance of parents 1
  31. Belonging to or being judged by
  32. Wisdom Quote #21…..seeking within with Carl Jung!
  33. Shelter in the morning
  34. Control and change
  35. Words in the world
  36. A person is limited only by the thoughts that he chooses
  37. Accommodation of the Void
  38. When you think you have nothing to say or to show
  39. Think hard before you act today
  40. Two forms of Freedom
  41. Don’t let anyone move you off the foundation of your faith
  42. Light within
  43. Wondering
  44. Know by trying
  45. Keep positive
  46. A cheerful heart filled of hope good medicine
  47. Hope as long as you live
  48. Gods word like a surgeons scalpel
  49. Without God no purpose, no goal, no hope
  50. A call easy to understand
  51. Getting of at the fence
  52. Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience
  53. A gift of 86,400 seconds
  54. Know Who goes with us and don’t try to control life

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  • Act Your Age (fernandogros.com)
    The common line is your teens are a time to experiment and enjoy the freedom you will not have in later life. But, this might be changing as social media is apt to keep all our teenage mistakes alive, digitally, for the rest of our lives (especially with video and photos). Moreover, many of the life-defining decisions my grandparent’s generation made in their teens (what career, who to marry, where to live) are now deferred into people’s twenties and even thirties.In fact, being a teenager today might be more about experiencing (or resisting) a narrowing of horizons. The internet is making a lot of teens more tribal, with narrower, rather than broader tastes in music, film and the arts. And, while many key decisions in life are being deferred, prejudices and attitudes are sometimes being hardened earlier, especially in countries where the effects of globalisation are being strongly resisted.So, the teenage years shouldn’t just be a time to experiment with identity and freedom, but also with ideas. It’s a time to learn how to make friends, but also, how to work and collaborate with people who we maybe don’t get along with that well, or perhaps don’t even understand. It’s a time to keep the candle of cultural curiosity alight, before the 24/7 news cycle, internet content farms like BuzzFeed and the workplace water cooler try to snuff it out.
  • The Beauty Of Limits (awildhealing.wordpress.com)
    In the everyday world, the outward changes I’ve made (and been forced to make by the power of fate, a power that seemed to know more than I did about the beauty of having faith) – finally leaving a job that supported the parasitic financial industry, and abandoning the vain and empty hope of a ‘bigger, brighter future’ in London where I would one day ‘make it’, or at least be able to keep up with the others ‘making it’ – to become what, in our current success-obsessed culture, would be classed a ‘failure’.The old skin has shed away, and as I get used to living with the eyes and hands of a beginner, and continue to integrate all that I have learnt piecemeal these last few years, I realise that becoming whole and remaining sane in an increasingly insane world is more of a struggle than it needs to be because our culture – and us, as active participants in it – refuses to acknowledge the central part that limits play in balancing our relationship to the world around us.
  • Uniting the People of the world (filmsforaction.org)
    The more intellectual and thorough our analysis, the more we become entangled in an endless examination of commercialisation and its grievous effects. We find there is no end to its web of complexity. Yet there is nothing theoretical or academic about the family that doesn’t have enough food to eat, that cannot afford to see a doctor, that has no right in some countries even to debate or protest. The more we write and intellectualise, the more we criticise and contest, the more insoluble become the many crises of the world.
  • Rebuilding The Nation: Lessons From Other Lands By Governor Babatunde Fashola (abusidiqu.com)
    in addition to material reconstruction, there is an urgent and massive need for moral and spiritual reconstruction as well: the kind of reconstruction which will help to demolish morbid desire for naked power and domination; abuse and misuse of power and office; greed, selfishness, and intolerance; nepotism, favouritism, jobbery, bribery, and other forms of corruption; and erect, in their places, probity, tolerance, altruism, and devotion; equality of treatment, justice, equity, and fair play to all.”
  • Rebuilding Nigeria: Lessons from Other Lands – by Gov Fashola (olufamous.com)
    the reality is that this rebasing did not, and has not, addressed chronic poverty, infrastructure decay, creeping authoritarianism, mass youth unemployment, adult underemployment, burgeoning insecurity and overall bad governance, and other challenges that confront the country.

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Watch out

Expectations have to be build on hope, believe and faith. Without believe in him or herself a person shall not be able to get somewhere hoped so easily.

Believing in yourself is the first requirement to get forwards. Having a positive attitude and willingness to dream is the second requirement to get somewhere. Every human being shall have to face difficulties. It is how he or she can cope with it which is going to influence his or her life in the positive or negative way. Going through quite a lot of struggles even can make somebody stronger, more resistant. What is important then is ‘to never give up!’

Others may consider you to be a clown, a swaggerer, a dreamer, or a loony or stupid one. Let no negative reactions stand in the way and go for what you want to achieve. Without dreams nothing can be build up.

If things would not go how you want it, you should try to adjust them so that they can work for you. No matter what you try, how it works out, how negative reactions may be, keep trying, keep going forward trying to pursuing your dream.
Whatever happens try to see the positive in it and always be ready to pursue your happiness. That is the positive lesson in our life where we should keep at.

There always have to be motivation to may the dreams work, but some kind of realism is also necessary to not fall to deep in a well. We always should be careful not pursuing our goal out of greed or lechery. Leering at something materialistic can bring us in a spiral where we do not have an eye for the human thing and spiritual matter. A person can become overtaken by the power of money by the desire to have financial gain, more than spiritual gain.The desires of the flesh can break a person instead of building him up to become a better person. We always have to be careful where we want to set our priorities in life.

Today we can find more people who love wealth and modern gadgets? Wealth has become their biggest motivation. when they are young it may be working very well, and they can love it to swim in their fulfilling dreams of material wealth. But what about their spiritual wealth? Are they interested in that also?

It is not by going to have the latest model of phone or pc tablet a person is going to find the real luck and staying happiness. Soon the phone shall be an old model and the person shall be feeling again not so happy because he has not the newest model any more.

It is good to see and to know you need your “best friends” for ever, around you, because they will be there at the more difficult times and they shall be ready to catch you when you fall down. Because each person has to grow up and learn things by falling and standing up again. And that last bit is very important. Never to get so frustrated that you do not want to get up any more. Everybody can mess up things. To start over again is what you have to dare. Do not stand still by what happened, but get up to try again and go every-time in a new adventure.
You have to keep believing in your dreams and aspirations, no matter what negative things may happen or others may say. But never forget also to be realistic and be taken in account others around you. Never go over death bodies to reach your goal and always stay honest to make it come true.

The biggest difficulty to conquer when trying to build up a financial wealthy life, shall be the ‘sharing bit’. Without willing to give also to others, without allowing others also to have part of what you have, no real happiness shall come into your life. Around the corner shall always be the material egoism and the avarice, which by some even can turn in the acquisitive and stingy. We always should be careful not to become so greedy or money-grubbing. That is not going to bring happiness, though it may be very attractive at a young age. the jealousy of others can also bring bullying with it, making you feeling so alone, being cast out. And people do need other people.

By changing yourself to fit in for others it never is going to work. A person has to stay his Own. You have to believe in yourself, accept yourself for who and what you are. Without the love for yourself you can not give the right love for the other. Also be sure that in case the others only would become your friend because you changed yourself to their way of thinking, than they would not be the right friends. Good friends are those who are willing you for what you are and respect your own personality, your real ‘I’.
Adapting to people is not the right way and shall not bring the solution. Trying to impress people is what many today try, with their gadgets, their capital gain, their way of clothing and their loose way of living. Presenting their world better than it really is. Look at so many Facebook postings which try to present ‘the would like to be’ people and would like to be ‘friends‘. Always try to stay your own self, being honest to yourself and being honest to others, respecting them, also if they do not fit your plan or dreams, or would not agree with your personality. By time they will turn by and get to know your true self and shall come to respect you too.

Without dreams, hopes and aspirations no new worlds can be build, so keep dreaming, keep going forwards, and above all always stay positive.

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Please do find also:

  1. Greed more common than generosity
  2. Misleading world, stress, technique, superficiality, past, future and positivism
  3. Intellectual servility a curse of mankind
  4. Gender connections
  5. Within despair
  6. Preparedness to change
  7. Getting fate in your change to positiveness
  8. Helping to create a Positive Attitude
  9. With Positive Attitude
  10. Not holding back and getting out of darkness
  11. Your struggles develop your strengths
  12. Pain and Suffering is inevitable but Misery is optional
  13. Your struggles develop your strengths
  14. When discouraged facing opposition
  15. Begin your day by, Living your positive attitude
  16. Science, scepticism, doubts and beliefs
  17. How we think shows through in how we act
  18. Don’t be the weakest link
  19. Be a ready giver
  20. 30 things to start doing for yourself – #6 is vital.
  21. Count your blessings
  22. God should be your hope
  23. Always set a place in your life for the unexpected guest

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Other articles of interest:

  1. Celebrating diversity by looking the same?
  2. Gender Roles & Self Sacrifice
  3. If you can dream it, you can achieve it.
  4. Positivism and The Quantity Theory of Money
  5. If you’re afraid to do it, do it afraid.
  6. Positivism for Millennium 3

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  • Global education and the ‘American Dream’ (universityworldnews.com)
    Put most simply, the ‘American Dream’ is the belief that everyone has a reasonable chance – although not a guarantee – of achieving success through means under their own control. It is the assurance that personal qualities such as hard work, frugality, honesty and self-discipline can make for a good life, however you (or I) may define that.
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    Poorly conceived, however, global education, like the American Dream itself, can overemphasise the pursuit of material wealth and leave learners ignorant of how systemic and structural inequalities in most, if not all, societies frustrate so many dreamers and so many of their dreams.
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    The recent movement by some scholars to calculate the gross domestic happiness of a country, in contrast with a simple financial measure, both expands the universe of goods constituting success and allows for cultural variety within this expanded universe.Other cogent criticisms of the American Dream focus on the socio-economic and institutional obstacles to the achievement of success by disadvantaged or disenfranchised groups, which may include women, racial, ethnic or religious minorities, the poor or their children.

    From this perspective, the American Dream offers a false promise of fair and equal opportunity to achieve success by ignoring the many ways in which the social order fails to recognise and reward merit.

  • What is your dream job ? (beautiful69.wordpress.com)

    Most people I know have a dream. In fact, I’ve asked hundreds, if not thousands, of people about their dream. Some willingly describe it with great detail and enthusiasm.
    Others are reluctant to talk about it. They seem embarrassed to say it out loud. These people have never tested their dream. They don’t know if others will laugh at them. They’re not sure if they’re aiming too high or too low. They don’t know if their dream is something they can really achieve or if they’re destined to fail.

  • A Journey Toward Your Goals (robertjrgraham.blogspot.com)
    Too many of us assume if we just have a larger goal in mind and work towards it then success will follow. Well, guess what?! This rarely works in practice. All of us have dreams, but to be truly effective at goal achievement we need to focus on the path toward the goal and let the ultimate dream be our motivation.
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    Set realistic goals. This doesn’t mean that you should not aim for the stars. However, keep a realistic state of mind, taking into account your level of talent and capabilities, as well as, your individual situation. If you presently don’t possess the talents or qualifications to reach your goal, make sure that one of your short-term goals is to acquire some of those skills so that you can reach your long-term goal.
  • Sebastiano Serafini 030 – Dream a little every day – (sebastianoserafini.wordpress.com)
    In order to live our lives without limits we must be willing to never let our imaginations die, and we must never forbid ourselves from dreaming at least a little bit every day. Without our dreams we have nothing in our lives to reach for or to go after.
  • 10 Habits Of People Who Follow Their Dreams (theunboundedspirit.com)
    People who are true to their purpose and are really successful didn’t always get there because they had the financial means to do so or were just lucky enough to have been brought up in a confidence boosting environment. There are actually a few common habits that have helped them get to where they are.

    People who are true to their purpose and are really successful didn’t always get there because they had the financial means to do so or were just lucky enough to have been brought up in a confidence boosting environment. There are actually a few common habits that have helped them get to where they are. The best part is that these are habits that anyone can attain! – See more at: http://theunboundedspirit.com/10-habits-of-people-who-follow-their-dreams/#sthash.lfFd7SzI.dpuf
  • Greed is Wrong, But What About Wealth Itself? (palamas.info)
    Is it morally wrong to pursue wealth? The question was asked because both of my conversation partners had heard from different priests that in fact, yes, the pursuit of wealth is wrong. Christians especially, we are frequently told, should not seek to become wealthy but focus our lives on more noble goals.  On the one hand I agree with this. Wealth is not an end in itself and to make becoming wealthy the sole, or even central, goal of one’s life is not compatible with a wholesome human life much less the Gospel. While granting that working to become wealthy simply for the sake of becoming wealthy is immoral, does this mean that is it morally wrong to pursue wealth? In other words, it is sinful to want—and so to work to become—wealthy?
  • Virtuous egoism (profitableandmoral.com)
    Egoism is virtuous because it makes possible the achievement our long-term well-being and happiness without initiating physical force on others. The moral justification of egoism is that it makes it possible for us—who don’t have automatic knowledge about the goals we should pursue and about the means to reach them—to achieve our values in the long-term: to survive and to be happy. It is a moral code for living and flourishing.
    Starting from the premise that the pursuit of self-interest is moral and necessary for our well-being and happiness, Ayn Rand identified seven egoist virtues—principles that define the actions required to achieve long-term self-interest: rationality, independence, integrity, honesty, justice, productiveness, and pride. Rand and others have written much about these virtues, so here I focus only on rationality, the primary virtue on which the others rest. Rationality guides us to use reason—to adhere to reality through observation and logic—as “our only means of knowledge, our only judge of values, and our only guide to action.”
  • Chasing Your Dreams (landeniv.wordpress.com)

    “Go after your dream, no matter how unattainable others think it is.”

    “Every morning you have two choices: continue to sleep with your dreams or wake up and chase them.”

    “It’s not enough to dream your dreams. You’ve got to pursue your dreams.”
  • Don’t Give Up On Your Dreams (sarahcolevaondemand.wordpress.com)
    Every day you are faced with a choice and that is, do you pursue your dream with determination and zeal or do you sit and wait for that dream to materialize by itself?  I believe in taking action steps every day in order to be a participant in the realization of our dreams.
  • Pursuing the Guyanese dream (guyanatimesgy.com)
    Hundreds of Guyanese are now in a position where it is possible for them to pursue the Guyanese dream, regardless of their socio-economic circumstances, ethnicity or political beliefs.The Guyanese dream refers to a situation in which nationals possess the ability to access equal opportunities to work and recreation. It also refers to the ability to achieve prosperity and a higher standard of living through hard work and determination.

    The Guyanese dream is founded on the principle of a realistic society where there are high levels of religious, political and social tolerance. It contemplates a situation where a largely mixed, plural and diverse cultural and ethnic society can co-exist with little or no conflict.

Anthony's au pair experience

I realized something.
It came to me rather slow.
I was pursuing a thing,
I barely even know.
Living up to people’s expectations.
Doing what others think is best.
Handling a lot of limitations.
Maybe this was all a test?
I must say, by all means,
Realizing this is not the way.
Living other peoples dreams,
While mine are slowly fading away.
Missing out on opportunities.
Missing my life because others take it away.
Being part of all those communities.
Being part of something where I have nothing to say.
Time to step up my game and live my life.
Not the one other’s tell me to live.
Time to step it up and go all in on my thrive.
Believe me, I have a lot to give.
My motivation is enormous,
My dedication is grand.
Watch out for my performance,
‘Cause everything is going as planned.
You can be…

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Overcoming Hurt Feelings

Many people may feel lonely or pushed away, because they had looked for a love or a connection which was not actually there. Nobody is perfect and nothing is perfect. If we plant our expectations to high we shall much easier become hurt. Do not expect to much of life but see in everything the beauty of life and live by positive aspirations.
As 83bc indicates we better leave those things that hurt us far away behind us and look forward to the positive things, always having a room free for what feels good.

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  • Relationship Observations (charlielaneauthor.wordpress.com)
    Let me start by saying this isn’t aimed at anyone in particular and it’s not meant to be ‘anti-men’ because that isn’t me, women make just as many relationship mistakes.
  • Momma said there’d be days like this (bennyb15.wordpress.com)
    My latest novel “Wounded” was #4 on the best sellers list, and positive reviews were starting to roll in. One of my co-workers at the gym (my second job) asked if she could buy my book. I was happy. I never in a million years believed she would support it, but that happiness was cut short instantly when another co-worker said out loud “Ugh, I couldn’t even finish it. It had rape and shit with kids and I just couldn’t stomach it.” I was embarrassed, and a little angry by the comment. Apparently she didn’t get past the third page. While it was true, my story does have dark parts in it. “Wounded” is about overcoming your past and not letting it ruin and control your life. Luckily for me, the co-worker who was interested purchased the book, but I feared her mind was already tainted by the comment.
  • Triggers (randomnessarranged.wordpress.com)
    There are two sides to the coin. On the one side, we heal from wounds and move on (but are often left with scar tissue), which we’ve already discussed here (http://randomnessarranged.wordpress.com/2014/06/04/it-pains-me/) On the other side, the wound is not fully healed. There’s  a Band Aid on it so an outsider can’t really see how bad the cut is or how deep it runs, but it’s there…slightly protected from infection and it maybe even has the possibility of getting better if the Band Aid stays on.
  • Sometimes the s… (hopeinhealingblog.wordpress.com)
    More Than Skin Deep was born out of a passion and desire to help people who are struggling with self harm/self injury, as well as other addictive behaviors and/or mental health issues.
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    Sometimes the strongest thing you will ever do will be to let go of someone.
  • 10 Strategies To Stop Being Easily Hurt Or Offended (xpresx.wordpress.com)
    As you interact with people, whether it be your boss, your family members or your friends, there is every opportunity to get hurt or irritated. Some people get hurt more easily than others. They can be particularly sensitive and take things to heart. We all do at some points in our lives.
  • You Are An Overcomer (thechattytexan.wordpress.com)
    In times of struggles, we can either focus on the negative or look at how we can grow from it. During the time I was being bullied, it was a faith building time for me. It was a time where I chose to believe what God says about me and stand firm on His Word, trusting that God is with me. I relied on Him during my time of trouble. However, more importantly, God helped me to overcome. Whatever you are facing today, know that you can overcome too.
  • The Power of Companionship (dailybibleplan.com)
    When the Lone Ranger had a job to do, he did not try to go it alone.  He always had Tonto there to help him.
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    When one man falls, another can pick him back up. (Vs. 10)  Without someone to share this life with, we live a cold existence, but when others are present, we add “fire” to our lives. (Vs. 11)  When one man is attacked, he is likely to be overpowered but when two or more stand together, they can defend themselves. (Vs. 12)
  • Unforgiveable~Plumb (hopeinhealingblog.wordpress.com)
    I want to become brave and courageous
    Not buried in self-pity of my own
    Ashamed and alone from all
    That’s been done to me
    It’s not my fault I remind myself
  • Title-less. (livelaughlovedaily.wordpress.com)
    I’m struggling to overcome something right now. I mean, it’s not just right now because I’ve been struggling with this for a while…but it’s bothering me right now. One little thing triggers it time and time again… and I cannot overcome how different my upbringing has been to the people I’m surrounded by. It’s often placed a barrier in between me and the next person. See, I’ve been raised to be curteous and kind, loving and caring, conscientious and open minded, warm-heart and loyal. I give myself to others- friend or romantic interest – and yet, I’m often disappointed when I don’t receive the same. Is it too much to expect?
  • Breaking The False Safety Of Silence (bansutil.wordpress.com)
    I’ve thought and analized my battle. (Fishbone analysis!) Where does it come from? Why i cannot forgive? What do i need to be able to forgive? Is there anyway a person could do to make it easier for me to forgive? Yes, the crucial thing is – to confess. There is a big difference between admission and confession. Admission is acknowledgement of fact. Confession is acceptance of guilt in a crime or wrongdoing. Admitting involves softening, making excuses for things that cannot be excused whereas confessing just name the crime at its full severity. And that was something i needed…

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Shadow

Captain A

I fall in the dark,
I wish I was there with you.

You..
You’re probably sleeping, I wish I was sleeping to.
Next to you. Wherever you are.
I wish you’d fall back into my arms.

And I..
I left the whole room.
Just the way it used to be.

With the pictures plastered higher than the ceiling.
Trying to keep the feeling alive by trapping it inside.

Because your shadow is haunting me.
And your shadow is all I see,
Your shadow is haunting me.
Why won’t you..
Let me be.

Because I’ll never have you.
Wherever you are.
I wish you’d fall back into my arms.

And you..
Wherever you are.
You know that we.. We can’t be that far.

Can’t be that far.
You and me.
We can’t be that far.

 

– Jonathan Clay –

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