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The Real ‘Choice’

In this world were superficially everything seems to be so nice there are lots of people who at first trusted everything and everyone with their huge open heart, but by all they ever wanted was people and the world to love them back, suddenly something went totally wrong in their life.

For some such a day of horror or day of the unexpected may have the direct consequence which gets them facing one of the most uncomfortable and emotionally challenging moments they probably will ever have. For sure their experience will change their life forever.

When after such an incident they become pregnant an other difficult matter bothers their soul. At that time that person has a weight on her head she shall have to carry for her whole life. To make a decision either to carry the baby and to be confronted for the whole life with the horror experienced or to abandon the fruit of the nightmare and remember the lessons she learned along the way, will give her thoughts ‘for ever’.

It is a sad situation and the consequences in both cases are very sad for both parties.

In such instance it is the environment, the people around the victim who play an important and supporting role.
When people have voluntary sex with each other they must be aware of the consequences of their act. Though sometimes it might have happened before the girl and boy really realised what was happening. Being carried away at a young age also can happen.

Afterwards people have to realise that we as human beings have to be responsible for our acts in the past, the present and in the future. Therefore we should think before we act. And even when things which we do not like came over us and have certain consequences we would never would have liked, we should come to make choices we shall not regret later.

That is not easy.

As a wife and a mom the writer of the article calls rightly to start being real and stating what the real choice is. For her it is clear that we should look at the only two possibilities: 1. a choice to raise a kid (or to give up for adoption) or 2. it is a choice to kill.

Much more people should also come to see the second option in the first choice. That part of possibility is much too often overlooked or not looked at at all.
There are so many people hoping to get a child, but not able to get one from their own. For them an adoption would be a good solution and for many it can be a real blessing. So, what is a curse for the one should be made in a blessing for the other.

It must have been not an easy choice for the 11-year-old Paraguayan girl who denied an abortion after allegedly being raped (when 10) by her stepfather and this August gave birth to a healthy baby girl in Asunción, Paraguay, where a fierce debate was brewing over a law banning most abortions.
In that mostly Catholic country, 684 girls between the ages of 10 and 14 gave birth last year.

“The physical and psychological impact of forcing this young girl to continue with an unwanted pregnancy is tantamount to torture,”

Guadalupe Marengo, deputy director for the Americas at Amnesty International said then.

“The Paraguayan authorities cannot sit idly by while this young rape survivor is forced to endure more agony and torment.”

Naturally by abortion sometimes also comes an other terrible choice at the forefront. When the doctors are sure something is wrong with the foetus or that there never shall come out a normal child. What than?

Having to hear the ordeal of the doctors, having to be confronted having to make a choice, does not make life easy.

Others may than easily say you may not abort the foetus and have to make the best out of it. But who is going to turn up to care for years for the handicapped person? Who is going to deal with the many costs to take care? what life is one going to give to that handicapped person, when the mother is not able to take care physiologically, physically or economically?

For the ones standing at the site it may be easy to judge and condemn.

For the one to make the decisions it may be an other nightmare to go through.

Those who call themselves Christian should remember the Nazarene rabbi they should have to follow. Jesus did not judge. He will do later at the authority of his heavenly Father. In the end it is to that Father of Jesus, Who is also our Father, to Whom life belongs, knows the heart and will judge last.

It is in His hands we should leave it.

And the ones who doubt and are in our neighbourhood we should try to help to come to a good decision. we should try to show the beauty of life and how we should try to give everybody the right to live.

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To remember:

  • don’t enjoy shaming people for choices they make > haven’t been in their shoes
  • made choices in life > everyone has
  • blessed to have not been in the position to make the decision
  • pregnant with first child => beauty of real life growing inside of me was magical
  • if I would have miscarried, my mourning and grief would have been real and deep > Because I had life growing inside of me.
  • couple who has struggled to get pregnant >  You can make the decision to try, but it isn’t always that easy
  • ‘choice’ to be a parent > real choice is not whether or not you want to be a parent … but rather a choice to kill your child because you don’t want to be a parent.
  • raped = tough one
  • ask myself the option of taking care of the life or ending the life = >  consider the ‘choice’
  • wouldn’t want to live with both pains
  • always live with the consequences of their ‘choice’

Let’s stop sugarcoating it.

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Preceding articles:

Whoopi Goldberg commandments and abortion

My Choice (by Jezabel Jonson)

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Through the Stillness

DSC_0125I know where I stand on the issue. Never have I heard a strong argument to make me doubt my stance. Still though, I have a hard time announcing my stance.  I don’t enjoy shaming people for choices they make.  I haven’t been in their shoes.  I have made choices in my life that I regret, everyone has.  I am not perfect.  I am not taking the ‘high horse’ stance on this.  I am no better than anyone.  I cannot stress that enough.  I know someone will be offended by these words I am about to say.  Someone will think I am being insensitive to those faced with the decision.  And––I know I have been blessed to have not been in the position to make the decision.  But nonetheless, I know what I would ‘choose’.  To me, it just isn’t even my choice to make.

I remember Mother’s Day 2009…

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Life isn’t unfair

A thirty something, addicted to music and books, like many others in this world, may have many questions about this life in her head, but unlike many she can still say that life isn’t unfair. And that is not what many dare to say. The home country of her husband is being destroyed more and more day by day and they could quickly go ahead and even shout out how unfair life is but, giving it a second thought, they see also parts in it which don’t let them break down completely.

It is not bad this lady gets stuff out of her mind from time to time. A way to get some thoughts getting from our shoulders is to let them loose in the out. Also by writing down what bothers us we can get rid of certain worrying thoughts or even better, we can share our thoughts so that they not only loosen ourselves but also others.

Roses (Roxe) Nature: Cold in the first degree,...

Roses (Roxe) – From the Tacuinum of Vienna (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The writer of the blog reminds us that we often forget in our life full of stress that there are so many reasons to be thankful and instead complain far too much. In many industrialised countries we might consider that a big problem. People are having so much and are seeing others having so much that they bother more about what the others have and they do not. Jealousy makes many people in the world of abundance very unhappy.

Having a rooftop above the head, being able to put a heather on, many keep harping on the weather. Others like to complain about the job or about the prizes in the supermarkets getting higher. They often have enough food and are teasing others about what to eat. Many may have a lot of things around them which they do not like, but most of them forget how many people in the East or in the South can only dream of our bare minima.

In I have so many reasons to be thankful the writer brings into attention that what many of the Western public long have forgotten. How many senses do we really still want to use properly?

Some may blame the pollution having many of us not having any more the pleasures of smell. Sense of smell should bring us lots of memories and desires. With our eyes we than can see all those flowers, all those colours which wave and tell their story in the wind. How many in the West do still want to hear those stories and notice all those animals which move around in that colourful world?

Going into the Autumn season the world is changing colour and red comes more to have its say in this world where the wind wants to make enough noise to have it tell her own stories whilst the branches of the trees dare to react and go to fight with the powers of nature.

We shall not find it warm enough to take some naps in the sunshine, but our wandering and now and then standing still, we shall still be able to feel truly connected with the nature and earth around us. In this time of turmoil, creepy sounds at night, we can feel at ease indoors, close by the fire, or having it nicely warm while we do know Winter shall be coming soon and bringing the bitter cold. Every day becomes shorter, but we want to fight the darkness and have found the candles “for having a soothing source of light” whenever we feel it is needed. The candle light also can bring memories and whispers in our ears that what we would love to hear, from the past. and in the cosiness of the warm living room we may not forget that we are blessed to have all this around us what can make life easier.

Some SFI Thoughts by Geoffrey West

Some SFI Thoughts by Geoffrey West (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Many may not like the rain and forget that without it we would not have so much green. So we should be happy it nourishes our surroundings and let us “listen to its beautiful sound”.

Do not forget to think about all the beautiful things around us and about the many everyday things, so many we so often just take for granted. This coming season let it not get us down in the ‘depri world’ but get it down on our knees to be thankful for all what wee have received before and for all what is in front of us.

Life shows us more than enough possibilities to make the best out of every situation and we need to adjust our expectations. I each and every second there are little moments to treasure, we just have to see life through the eyes of love to uncover them.{Is life unfair?}

Like so many magazines we too would say to listen to your inner voice and to enjoy life.

We are driven by our thoughts and emotions and every single magazine tells you to listen to your inner voice but still your life isn’t happy. {Change your habits to lead a happy life}

In Autumn we may find the wind turning from one site to the other, wanting to push us from here to there, and letting us think no way is the good one.

Life isn’t a one way road and there are always possibilities, you may not see them directly but if you start to dig deeper you will find them.
Instead of waiting for big changes take your life in your hands and start to see all those small things that can change your life without too much efforts – and as always, many small changes sums up to be sometimes more effective than turning your life upside down. {Change your habits to lead a happy life}

In Summer we got the energy from the sun and lots of us went to sunny places to charge our batteries. So, let our full batteries now give enough power to come through Winter, but let it also give new impulses to take time to contemplate and to mediate about which way we want to continue and where we want to go to.

MissFaith Munich knows also that we all struggle at certain times and forget the reasons why we started to do something in first place. She is aware that others may start to doubt but that we are better to believe in ourself.

whatever comes along you can succeed. People who start to doubt because of others may lose track and fall, but if you stand up for your dreams and show all disbeliever that you will make it you will create a certainty within yourself.  {Never stop to be a dreamer…}

Now comes the time there will be lesser outdoor-activities and more time to stay indoors at our own little place. Perhaps it is now not so bad to take some more time to come to ourselves. Why not making time to get a more relaxed mind. That means not putting our mind asleep, but giving place to a creative mind which

can bring you forward so stand on your toes, open your arms wide, close your eyes and breathe – life isn’t that complicated! {Never stop to be a dreamer…}If not you, who else will follow your dreams? {Never stop to be a dreamer…}

To come to a relaxed mind come to trust yourself and trust the loved ones around you. as the writer of the mentioned articles also knows:

To rebuild life from within, a wonderful thought but at the same time quite scary.
It seems so much easier to build our life from the outside.
Dress up, sit in a fancy restaurant, surround yourself with hip friends and enjoy.
Easy as that, isn’t it? {Rebuilding Life from Within}

The coming Winter we can take some more time for ourselves, getting closer to the ‘one within’.

The earlier you realize that our “within” is the essential part the better as you haven’t caused too much damage within a short time. {Rebuilding Life from Within}

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Please read the full articles:

  1. Is life unfair?
  2. Change your habits to lead a happy life
  3. Rebuilding Life from Within
  4. Never stop to be a dreamer…

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Additional reading:

  1. Be Honest
  2. Be an Encourager
  3. How do Other People Feel About Mental Health?
  4. What IF you’re only driven by stress?
  5. Depression Is and When
  6. Depression, Anxiety, Pressure and megachurches
  7. Being ‘broke’ a state of mind
  8. Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression
  9. Oh god, this is never going to end!
  10. Materialism, would be life, and aspirations
  11. Ageing and Solidarity between generations
  12. Try driving forward instead of backwards
  13. A little ray of sunshine.
  14. Getting fate in your change to positiveness
  15. Searching for fulfilment and meaning through own efforts, facing unsatisfaction and depression
  16. Give thanks to the One Who gave much
  17. By counting our blessings we not only feel good, but we multiply our good
  18. God should be your hope
  19. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
  20. Remember there’s a light in the next day
  21. Receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken
  22. You’re Lighter Than Air~
  23. O’ Captain! My Captain!
  24. Coming Out Of The Bipolar Closet
  25. Self-development, self-control, meditation, beliefs and spirituality
  26. To be relapsing
  27. Pieces
  28. Thanksgiving wisdom: Why gratitude is good for your health
  29. Aligned
  30. Importance of parents 1
  31. Belonging to or being judged by
  32. Wisdom Quote #21…..seeking within with Carl Jung!
  33. Shelter in the morning
  34. Control and change
  35. Words in the world
  36. A person is limited only by the thoughts that he chooses
  37. Accommodation of the Void
  38. When you think you have nothing to say or to show
  39. Think hard before you act today
  40. Two forms of Freedom
  41. Don’t let anyone move you off the foundation of your faith
  42. Light within
  43. Wondering
  44. Know by trying
  45. Keep positive
  46. A cheerful heart filled of hope good medicine
  47. Hope as long as you live
  48. Gods word like a surgeons scalpel
  49. Without God no purpose, no goal, no hope
  50. A call easy to understand
  51. Getting of at the fence
  52. Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience
  53. A gift of 86,400 seconds
  54. Know Who goes with us and don’t try to control life

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  • Act Your Age (fernandogros.com)
    The common line is your teens are a time to experiment and enjoy the freedom you will not have in later life. But, this might be changing as social media is apt to keep all our teenage mistakes alive, digitally, for the rest of our lives (especially with video and photos). Moreover, many of the life-defining decisions my grandparent’s generation made in their teens (what career, who to marry, where to live) are now deferred into people’s twenties and even thirties.In fact, being a teenager today might be more about experiencing (or resisting) a narrowing of horizons. The internet is making a lot of teens more tribal, with narrower, rather than broader tastes in music, film and the arts. And, while many key decisions in life are being deferred, prejudices and attitudes are sometimes being hardened earlier, especially in countries where the effects of globalisation are being strongly resisted.So, the teenage years shouldn’t just be a time to experiment with identity and freedom, but also with ideas. It’s a time to learn how to make friends, but also, how to work and collaborate with people who we maybe don’t get along with that well, or perhaps don’t even understand. It’s a time to keep the candle of cultural curiosity alight, before the 24/7 news cycle, internet content farms like BuzzFeed and the workplace water cooler try to snuff it out.
  • The Beauty Of Limits (awildhealing.wordpress.com)
    In the everyday world, the outward changes I’ve made (and been forced to make by the power of fate, a power that seemed to know more than I did about the beauty of having faith) – finally leaving a job that supported the parasitic financial industry, and abandoning the vain and empty hope of a ‘bigger, brighter future’ in London where I would one day ‘make it’, or at least be able to keep up with the others ‘making it’ – to become what, in our current success-obsessed culture, would be classed a ‘failure’.The old skin has shed away, and as I get used to living with the eyes and hands of a beginner, and continue to integrate all that I have learnt piecemeal these last few years, I realise that becoming whole and remaining sane in an increasingly insane world is more of a struggle than it needs to be because our culture – and us, as active participants in it – refuses to acknowledge the central part that limits play in balancing our relationship to the world around us.
  • Uniting the People of the world (filmsforaction.org)
    The more intellectual and thorough our analysis, the more we become entangled in an endless examination of commercialisation and its grievous effects. We find there is no end to its web of complexity. Yet there is nothing theoretical or academic about the family that doesn’t have enough food to eat, that cannot afford to see a doctor, that has no right in some countries even to debate or protest. The more we write and intellectualise, the more we criticise and contest, the more insoluble become the many crises of the world.
  • Rebuilding The Nation: Lessons From Other Lands By Governor Babatunde Fashola (abusidiqu.com)
    in addition to material reconstruction, there is an urgent and massive need for moral and spiritual reconstruction as well: the kind of reconstruction which will help to demolish morbid desire for naked power and domination; abuse and misuse of power and office; greed, selfishness, and intolerance; nepotism, favouritism, jobbery, bribery, and other forms of corruption; and erect, in their places, probity, tolerance, altruism, and devotion; equality of treatment, justice, equity, and fair play to all.”
  • Rebuilding Nigeria: Lessons from Other Lands – by Gov Fashola (olufamous.com)
    the reality is that this rebasing did not, and has not, addressed chronic poverty, infrastructure decay, creeping authoritarianism, mass youth unemployment, adult underemployment, burgeoning insecurity and overall bad governance, and other challenges that confront the country.

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The Happiest People

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My life…

Born on this earth we have to grow up in it. We may want to do it all on our own, but shall we be able to manage it? We need our parents, teachers, guides in our life and employers or customers, people who give us the capability to survive. Though we would perhaps would like to do it without all those people, I am afraid we can not succeed without the outers around us.

though we do have to stand on our own legs and therefore we do have to take on an attitude as if we are willing and going to do it on our own. In case we can make us strong enough so that we do not need exterior tools to overthrow our own obstacle, that would be great.

Therefore let us all have our own ‘little madness’, our own stubborn mind, full of spirit to go through walls and to resist all storms which we may face. Looking through the for, going through hurricanes, with our heads high up in the clouds, knowing that if we want we shall be able not only to work at our dreams, but to get there in some time at the goal where we are reaching for.

Good luck.

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  • Get downright dirty and muddy (thehindu.com)
    It’s probably easier and a matter of pride to say one is training for a marathon or cyclathon than draw curious glances declaring that one is looking forward to a mud run.
  • The Art of Diametrical Opposition (sweetmarie9619.wordpress.com)
    You settled down but never took up root

    in the earth you claimed you were bonded to.

    How did want become brute force

    and partnership, possession?

  • Like. (asinnersolace.wordpress.com)
    Love, like firespring on candle-fountains. Like new shoes for Spring, like sunflowers in Winter. Like watermarked pictures — trademarks in aesthetic possessives and careless knowledge. Like running barefoot, pebbles kissing soles.
  • Mystery Monsters of the Deep Dark Sea (mysteriousuniverse.org)
    We live on a planet mostly plunged into cold darkness. Most people know that two-thirds of the Earth’s surface is covered with water, but have you ever stopped to think about how most of that area lies in the deep dark where no sunlight ever penetrates? The fact is that the majority of our planet lies in a cold, eternal night; a practically unexplored alien world deep under the sea that lies in perpetual darkness.
  • Warrior Dash (ryzmomplus2.typepad.com)
    The warrior dash has never been on my list of “things to do“, but for some reason, turning 50 this year I wanted to experience some different things, so I thought…. why not?
  • I just want to walk into a desert (lannasaywhat.wordpress.com)
    Sometimes I just want to walk into a desert with no water and hope for a mirage to bring me to a mecca of magical wonders of waterfalls that soothe and comfort and there I will meet an enlightened figure who show me the way to a eternal peace and happiness. Yet, I keep walking in the search for the mirage and end up having my hands  turn to sandpaper.
  • Don’t Be Afraid to Negotiate with Someone More Powerful (cperky.wordpress.com)
    It can be daunting to ask your boss for a new assignment or to try to land a deal with a major client. But you can succeed if you approach the negotiation in the right way. Don’t let fear of the competition cloud your judgment.
  • Depression: Trying To Escape The Abyss (newsninja2012.com)
    Nearly a year ago I wrote about being in a dark place on my personal blog. I laid bare my struggle with addiction, depression, and cutting in a rare moment of vulnerability. I don’t like sharing that side of who I am. It’s a dark side (hence the title ‘A Dark Place’) I believe no one should ever see. And I don’t say that just because “Ooooh darkness ooooh.” I say it because it’s embarrassing. It’s debilitating. It’s frustrating. It’s painful- physically and mentally. It’s shameful. No matter how many times I’m told, or I tell others that there is no reason to be ashamed or embarrassed, going through the abyss of depression is exactly that. But in talking and writing I stave off the crush of the darkness for a little while.
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    Depression is a void. It’s an abyss. It’s a chasm. It’s a violent, invisible storm. It’s suffocation while breathing normally. It’s walking through life as a person and feeling invisible while simultaneously feeling like all eyes are on you, judging you. Depression is smiling and laughing and doing what’s expected of you while counting down until you can crawl back into bed because you were exhausted before you even crawled out of it that morning. Depression is living and, not just feeling but, Knowing you’re dead already inside and yet still hurting so much you’re blinded by it.
  • Of Misogyny and Madness.. (insanitybytes2.wordpress.com)
    No matter how much pain you think you’re in, it hardly compares to the pain you’re going to inflict on the people who care about you. People who kill themselves take a little piece of everyone else with them.
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    I didn’t find misogyny, I found something far more heartbreaking, the brokenness of wounded men, the pain of rejection, an endless parade of shame and a sense of failure. Did I mention the shame? They’re quite defensive about the shame. I also discovered that what men desperately seek is intimacy with women, so desperately, they’ll attempt to bend the entire nature of reality to help themselves cope with that loss. Sadly, what they seek, they so often destroy.
  • Mirage (storieswithasoul.wordpress.com)
    Mirage usually manifests itself when you are least expecting it and creeps up on you from the most unknown quarters. It grips your heart, churns your mind and charms you to follow it. The first few steps are filled with robust bursts of energy, as you leap ahead towards the unknown, that lies ahead…mysteriously calling you in ways, you have never heard before. The call spellbinds you. You are left with no choice but to abandon your immediate pursuits and move towards the charming Mirage that allures you.

Beatriz Esmer

And there is irony in my eyes and tiredness, I cross my arms and never go around… my glory is not to follow anybody. I live with the same desire of whom tore the mother’s womb and ran for life. I prefer to slip in the muddy alleys, I prefer to swirl to the winds like rags and drag my bloody feet than to go around without direction and appreciation for life… If I came to this world was only to deflower the virgin forests and draw my feet in the unexplored sand. I do not need tools, axes and courage to overthrow my own obstacles. I love from far, the abysses, mirages, torrents, deserts and I have my madness and I lift up it burning like a torch in the dark night.

My life is a storm that broke, it is a wave that rose. It is more an atom that…

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