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The self and the other in times of insecurity

In these times of insecurity, we can see that lots of people are not sure about themselves and get lost.

Insecurity, primarily due to social and economic instability, but also exacerbated by a weakening of the perception of ethical principles makes man feeling very bad these days.

The perception of ethical principles that underpin the law and personal moral attitudes, which always give strength to the rules that govern society, have so much weakened or moral and ethical values have been placed in the cupboard and are way forgotten.

People should know even when churches may be closed, it are those institutions which can bring some light in the darkness. Modern thought has developed a reductive view of conscience, according to which there are no objective references in determining what has value and what is true; rather, each individual provides his own measure through his own intuitions and experiences, each possesses his own truth and his own morals. When each individual has and keeps to his or her own morals we shall come to see chaos.

People have forgotten that the Creator has provided a Guide for life. Whatever the situation may be, man should be able to find answers to his questions and find solutions for the crisis encountered. All those who feel depressed, feeling down by the present Corona situation, should know that when everybody would keep to the regulations prescribed by the government everybody would soon find it much easier to cope because it would not take such a long time as it has taken now.

Because there are so many people who do not know the Scriptures or have forgotten or abandoned the Gospel announcement, they no longer identify themselves in a community of brothers and sisters where agape love is the most important rule.

Many environments, even in traditionally Christian societies, are reluctant to open themselves to the word of faith and have placed the “Self” or “I” in the first place, giving not much place for protecting the other. today we can see a lot of people who pu their self interest at the beginning of their activity line. They are not concerned what their presence might do on a shopping street or in a shopping mall. One can wonder why they were not able to go online to buy the goods they so urgently do need to have.

Whilst a lot of worry circles around, many do not seem to worry about the effect of their presence on the streets or in the shops. Is it out of ignorance or out of selfishness that they are not concerned about taking more precaution measures to avoid spreading the coronavirus?

When one could place the “self” more aside and give more thought to the “other”, especcially to all those working in the health sector, for sure all the measures the goverment asks to follow would be so much easier to follow and would not feel as a limitation or restriction of our liberty.

So many people are complaining that they would be not able to celebrate Christmas. Why and how does it come they would not be able to have some sacred time together with their own household members? How does it come they can not make it cosy and pleasant for their own little bulb?

If they want to go to church, why can they not enjoy the virtual church service their church may be offering? Or is their church insisting, contrary to the governmental advice, to come together in the church building?

Each sensible person should know it is his or her duty to do everything to protect the other. Under duty of gratitude towards recognisance, each should muster the brotherly love to work for the good or welfare of the other and as such keep to the safety measurements.

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Read also:

  1. Tinderbox for domestic violence
  2. No time yet to relax the CoViD-19 restriction measures
  3. Just to remember for the coming Winter holiday period
  4. Challenges of the Post-Pandemic period
  5. What ethical principles do we need in the Covid-19 pandemic?
  6. Turning Your Home into a Sacred Space

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You choose your atitude.

In this world of internet and social media lots of people like to present themselves better than they are in real life. They create a virtual “I”” or a “Self” they would love to be, instead of trying to find themselves happy with the being they are.

The one who chooses to be himself or herself in the end is the stronger one who shall be happier at the end of this race, being content with what he or she could reach by himself or herself, without having fooled the self.

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Nobody has the power to make you feel any type of way you choose your own feelings focus on the positive even when everything is negative.

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Choose to always find the good in others

If you choose to always find the good in others,
you will end up finding the good in yourself.

 

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie: Kies er voor om in anderen altijd het goede te vinden

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What could happen when you follow your dream

Today we do not find many who can say they do the job for which they studied. Also a lot of people can not say they do what the had loved to do in first instance.

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We would advice always to follow your dreams and to do only what you would love to do, but this always in respect to nature and into respect of the Will of the Divine Creator.

When following a dream, trying to make things as best as you can, this often requires to take measures and steps which are not always liked by others. Sometimes it also mean you have to leave place you love or where you have been born and grown up.

A wife and a mother of two boys, Nezel Yurong earned a degree in Business Administration but after more than a decade in the corporate world,  chose to freelance full time in writing and virtual assistant services and heed to her calling, with the knowledge that obstacles are inevitable, but

Whatever they may be, just have the faith and determination that you can overcome them. {The 5 Qualities You Need to Reach Your Biggest Goals}

She writes

I may not have gone to a faraway place, but I feel I’ve been to the deepest core of every human existence. This may sound weird, but yes, for more than a year, I’ve exposed myself to the ideas of what makes us who we are, why we do what we do.

Of course, I don’t have all the answers to all my questions because I feel I have only touched the tip of my beingness. But it’s enough to make me understand more of myself and more of others. {Home Again}

Life would be so much easier if we would know the answers. Everyday, we are confronted with questions and looking for answers and every day we shall have to face new challenges. Often it may loook like it has become too difficult for us or that we feel we have enough of it.

Be persistent. Strong successful people do not give up. Do not push too hard on people or on yourself. You may make it slow according to your capacity; just keep moving forward. {The 5 Qualities You Need to Reach Your Biggest Goals}

We want to do so much in our life. Getting older, reflecting on what we have done, we often see many failures or notice how many dreams were not fulfilled. It seem frustrating, is it not? Several times we also thought this or that way would be a good one. We took a new road or an other turn. Time passed … and once more it did not look  or did not turn up to what we had expected.

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How many times did we not look at the road and at the goal we wanted to reach. How many times we did not know to be patient.

According to Beverly Sills,

“there are no shortcuts to places worth going.”

Get into the mindset that the wait will be worth it. Always take massive action. And remember that great things take time. {The 5 Qualities You Need to Reach Your Biggest Goals}

In the end that’s all what we have to give ourself in life: time, endurance and being resilient.

Along your journey, especially if you are just starting, there are people who tell you you won’t make it. Those are just challenges that might want you to quit. Don’t listen to them. It’s your journey not theirs. You’re aiming for your success not theirs. Look for a support group or people who are willing to encourage you. Better yet, hire a coach or a mentor who is an expert in that area you want to excel in. {The 5 Qualities You Need to Reach Your Biggest Goals}

Nezel Yurong knows that

How liberating it is to allow others to lead us to take a peek of their perspective, of how they see things much differently from us. The greatest lesson I learn is, there’s no us versus them, there’s only we. {Home Again}

It is the “We” and the “I” we do have to face. Most important in the end you shall have to face the “I” of yourself and to look back at all the things you have done in your life. Then it shall be important that you can say

“i did it my way”

but also that you shall be able to say

“I did it in a right way”

or

“I did it in a way I would not have to shame myself for it”.

We all have to remember that

Life is short, we all know it. What is the best thing we could do to this short-lived existence? {What fuels your drive?}

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It might well be (as said above) we had to leave something behind on our trip to the future life; something beautiful, something useful.

Many great and not-so-great souls had passed this way. The great ones left inspiration and hope. The not-so-great ones left fear and continuing cultural conflict. This is a sad reality. And it is up to us to do our fair share of legacy. {What fuels your drive?}

The above mentioned writer who calls herself a purposive ninja tells her readers

I thought I would stay there for long, but after learning some of the necessary lessons, I have to move on to another path. It’s what I feel I’m called to do. I also learned, discovering our passion can’t always be done in one step. We need to follow a series of steps before we’re finally ready to do that mission we’re called to do.

For this, I’m allowing the waters to take away what no longer serves me and to prepare me with a refreshed mind for the journey up ahead. {Home Again}

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Always keep trying and believe in yourself


“Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself,
because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie?”
~ Marilyn Monroe


Dutch version / Nederlandse versie > Steeds blijven proberen en in jezelf blijven geloven

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Seeking meaning, not happiness, will make you happier

A true believer in Christ Jesus even surrounded with lots of difficulties shall be able to receive the pleasures and well-being of their hope in the promises of God.
As such their happiness may be an unintended side effect of their personal dedication to a greater cause than many human pleasures and greater than oneself or as the by-product of their surrender to the Most High Divine Being, Jehovah God.

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Greeting a person to give happiness

Antidotes for Chimps

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One of the most stinging ironies of our species is the pursuit of happiness, an idea that is tragically self-defeating. Like the donkey being pushed forward by a glistening carrot that will forever elude him, pursuing happiness will position it just out of reach, but close enough for us to continue striving. It’s right there to be taken – so near and yet so far – if our grasping mitts were just a little longer.

As it turns out, happiness is incidental. It cannot be obtained by striving, and by doing so you’re making an ass of yourself. This is known as the paradox of hedonism, the idea that seeking happiness/pleasure only serves to hinder it, and in fact, you’re more likely to be happier if you quit your foolish efforts.

An example from Wikipedia illustrates the concept perfectly:

“Suppose Paul likes to…

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Trouble in my brain

Who does not want to be loved? Who is not longing for attention, recognition, acknowledgement and for being recognised as a human being, to be seen and heard and why not for receiving a hug?

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I’m so confused.
There’s a big mess in my head.
I don’t know where to start and where to end.
There’s no problem in my life.
The only problems are made by me.
I’ve got no big threats against my life.
Then why is my brain fried?
Problems are problems, if you give them the space to be problems.
Because the only one recognizing those problems, is you.
It’s your brain telling you there’s a problem, but when is it really one?
My brain is fried with problems.
Or aren’t they such things?
Are they just thoughts, which pass my mind too many at the same time, so that I can’t see which one is which anymore?
I can’t differentiate between them.
I want things but do I have the right to?
I’m aware of my past and my failures.
I try to stop myself from doing weird things.
But…

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to Strive to get lessons of living life

One of our readers  officially graduated from the Dale Carnegie course which strives to teach the lesson of living life, which is something that reader and we do believe each of us should constantly be conscious of and getting better at.

That visitor of our ecclesia-site like so many would love to see his best version of himself. Understandably would not be that the best thing to hope for?

He knows there is no substitute for good health and we can do a lot to keep ourselves well. Too often lots of people do forget that we have a lot of power over our lives and we can effectively realize and use it by just being intentional. As told more than once at this site, the ideal visualization of the future generates positive feelings and hopes, which is an important part of the journey to get there. We have to set a goal and think positively.

The nagging feeling in itself is not a great motivator or productivity inducer. Even worse constant confrontation with the negative thought pulls us down. So we better avoid contact with negativeness, be it thoughts or even negative people or people who have a bad influence on us.

We should have confidence in ourselves, knowing that what we want to do is not impossible! concerning that matter he writes

And this probability is not from factors outside of our control. The ratio shows how many people come up with the strength to win against the odds. It can be up to us what side of this ratio we land on. {Draw Your Future}

He looks at Patti Dobrolowski her model and wants to highlight her explanation of a factor that makes her strategy work:

Your brain actually emits serotonin and oxytocin when you draw and dream. So you feel happy. Capable. Creative.” Who wouldn’t want to feel that? Without getting too scientific about it, serotonin and oxytocin do affect mood positively and they can also be attained by exercise or a detailed daydream so whenever you need a boost, you can also try that. {Draw Your Future}

All of us should know we are fallible, but all those around us are as us also not perfect and have their faults and limits. We should not always compare ourselves to others but believe in ourself going for what we believe we should and can do. We should set our mind to delivering on that, knowing that it is in our power. And if we need some help, we also should know there is always Some One high above Who is stronger and mightier than all beings, Who can help us.

The effort to realize this reality in our visitors life started well before the Dale Carnegie course. He was encouraged by it, and wants to continue on his path for long after. He writes

With work and personal issues clouding my mind, I did not get a chance to appreciate the course as much as I would have liked (I failed at being intentional there but we all have our down days). However, I hope that, in coming time, I can realize some benefits from the foundation that the course set for me. I also want to learn more about the man and the movement that grew into this program. {The Power in Me}

We would advise him to look beyond the doors of that institution and to get even more wisdom in the Book of books, trusting in the Most High Establisher Elohim, God His Power but also the power which can grow in himself, which is the power each of us at to be on the look-out for.

For now, he leaves his readers on Matters of Living with a good thought from Dale Carnegie, which we like to repeat here too:

Are you bored with life?
Then throw yourself into
some work you believe
in with all your heart,
live for it, die for it,
 and you will find
happiness that you
had thought could
never be yours.

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you can’t wake a person that is pretending to be asleep

To remember

  • Learning to love parts of me that no one claps for. (Rudy Francisco)
  • Listening to myself > carrying a lot of unspoken stress.
  • Environment allowed to silence inner voice.
  • Want to feel that I am living the best life possible.
  • Did not give appropriate attention to blind spots in my life =>area where a person’s view is obstructed.
  • re-examine my life … again
  • We think we are safe in the bubble => we actually put ourselves in danger by becoming powerless.
  • group mentality doesn’t really offer fertile ground for creativity.
  • responsible for own moral + ethical landscape.
  • search for your blind spots
  • Examine your environment + ask hard questions
  • Freedom comes when we speak the truth. Even if our voices shake.
  • When truth revealed >  blind spot = weak spot.

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I am still learning to love the parts of me that no one claps for.
(Rudy Francisco)

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I was listening to myself speak lately and I realised that I was carrying a lot of unspoken stress. The emotions that I felt caught me completely off guard and I wondered why I allowed my environment to silence my inner voice.
I want to feel that I am living the best life possible.
I want to think that I am comfortable with my choices and that they are intentional.
I want to believe that I learned from previous mistakes and experiences.
I want people to experience me as a free spirit with an eclectic view on life.
Newsflash …!
I am so comfortable inside my own identity that I did not give appropriate attention to the blind spots in my life.

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Blind spot: an area where a person’s view is obstructed.
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To come to live in the peace of fulfilment of our own Divine Identity

We had a look at Susan Billmaier her views on the turbulence of life, and the transformation of the self.

At her blog SusanWithPearls – Living Life. Learning to do that better. Sharing it here.- she often wonders how we know ourselves and how we do get at what is inside.

Lots of people question their own self and look for way to have a good life. For years they try out several things. Most often they go looking for

The self that… is a deeper self, some say a “higher self”, some say a “Christ self”, or the “Buddha/enlightened self”, in some Native cultures it is called, simply, “beauty”. {Knowing your Self is more than knowing the size of your stomach.}

She writes

 Whatever it is– the moral self, the good will– I am not too particular about the label, or the words– it is simply the best that a person can find within themselves and everyone has it…whether they know it or not. {Knowing your Self is more than knowing the size of your stomach.}

Copyright Tam Black 2013 Designed for susanwithpearls.comShe also knows that man has to come to a point where the individual comes to see that it has its own value and its own reason to be, demanding to take personal action and own personal focus on personal awareness.

My own Loving Presence is my Self. I turn my attention inward and become aware of my own Loving Presence. With my focused awareness, my own Loving Presence fills me, grows brighter, and grows warmer. {Claim only the Self that you love. A Journey of Purpose: Day 32}

Being faced with the self one may not loose that self nor the faith in the self. Being confronted with the surroundings one need also to be willing to go into confrontation with it and with the inner thoughts, at the same time willing to perceive the necessary changes to be taken or the changes going on around the self.

as a guiding thought can be notated

Accept your light and your lightness! Feel your Self expand! As you perceive change around you, remain anchored in your Being of Light. Allow yourself to sit peacefully in the still place of nothingness as life moves quickly around you. {Arguing with myself and losing: Journey of Courage 2017 – Day 19}

Too many people do forget that we are here on this earth because we are allowed to be here by the Most High Divine Creator. Many do not want to know about that Omnipotent, Omniscient, Powerful Eternal Divine Source of all life, existence and knowledge, but also of peace and joy Though daily they are confronted with “Existence” that surrounds them.

In ““Self Fulfilled”: Journey of Fulfillment 2.0 – Day 05” Susan Billmaier looks at the guiding thought

In Divine Mind, I am filled full! All are equally filled full. All are equal in Love. I fill my mind with thoughts of fulfillment and remember what I already know. I am determined to fulfill my purpose, to know my Self as Divine Love, and to share the fullness I am.{“Self Fulfilled”: Journey of Fulfillment 2.0 – Day 05}

For her “Guiding Thoughts”

acts like a guided visualization and I see/experience the words. There are days when reading the Guiding Thought seems to open a channel within me and I can feel energy within me moving in a new or different way. {“My Self Has My Back, Now if It Would Scratch…”: Journey of Abundance 2.0 – Day 33}

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First page of “On the Difficulty of Knowing One’s Self”, 1744 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We can only ascertain that lots of people are afraid of looking at them self in the light of a Higher Being that would be Master over them and would be responsible for their being. We can enact that it is difficult for man to accept that there is a Higher Being Mightier than them and giving them all what the can see around them. That High Being wants us to come into a good relationship with our self, with others around us and with Him. He wants us to get filled with that what made Him create us in the first place. Even when the first man rebelled it was His love for man that made He wanted to allow them to take care of themselves and to find solutions for themselves, but providing also The solution to bring an end to their agony, suffering and continues wandering. Also that foreseen solution, the sent one from God, the Messiah, God His own begotten beloved son shared that love of God with mankind and gave his life for all. Like that man of flesh and blood did not want to do his own will, but only did the Will of God, we too should come to a point where we want to do the Will of God and share His love with others.  Only that way we can come to fill our mind and heart with love, aligning with the Light of Truth. Steadfast and focused on our own Loving Presence, than we shall be able to live in the peace of fulfilment of our own Divine Identity.

Copyright Tam Black 2016 Designed for susanwithpearls.com

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Inner Voice

Transformation is easy, when you step into something that already IS.

In the turbulence of life, listen and wait.

How to Live Beyond the Ordinary

Learning that stuff is just stuff

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Additional reading

  1. No curtain placed over tomorrow
  2. There is no true and constant gentleness without humility
  3. Only the contrite self, sick of its pretensions, can find salvation
  4. For those who make other choices
  5. Knowledge of Christ and fear for God
  6. Looking for answers on the question Is there a God #4

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Further writings of interest

  1. Body image bullshit
  2. If I could talk to my younger self
  3. Scattered Thoughts
  4. Spring Cleaning for the Mind
  5. Solitude..
  6. Desires
  7. What’s Happening To Me
  8. “I don’t know what living a balanced life feels like..”
  9. Dear self
  10. Your Greatest Privilege
  11. One-Forty-Five AM Exert- Self Discovery
  12. My sensory problems: The Big List
  13. Flush the Ugly and Soar
  14. Vacay
  15. On Strength
  16. Rejection: What Others Think (Our Challenge)
  17. Color and Character
  18. Making Sense of the Senses
  19. Issue With the Self-Image
  20. It is not what it seems… maybe
  21. Knowing Me…
  22. Am I, a Romantic?
  23. Self Obssession is Getting Out of Hand
  24. The Paradox of Being in the Present Moment
  25. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (1): Introduction
  26. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (2): Mental multiplicity
  27. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (3): Material causes
  28. Who Do You Find Your Worth In? Part 2
  29. A Female Factory Worker & a Writer, the Features of a Woman
  30. Putting Yourself Down: Don’t
  31. Intellectual, maybe not
  32. Work from within: Combatting inflammation with lifestyle changes
  33. Dreaming in India
  34. Connection
  35. The Monkey-Trap
  36. To Open Up, Once More, Memories of a Plant
  37. Selfie Woes
  38. Lets put the self in selfie
  39. The Well of Knowledge
  40. Initially, you are unformed
  41. If I could only…
  42. Time for Changes
  43. Thoughts to Myself
  44. What is love?

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