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Don’t Harden Your Heart

When taken by grief and facing many disappointments the danger is that our heart becomes hardened and that we do not want to see the source any more of living water.

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Today we listen to Baptist preacher Shawn Thomas who knows that there can be “great” sorrow, and “unceasing” grief also for a Christian.

He remarks

Perhaps, contrary to all we’ve heard and been taught all these years, the measure of a godly person is not how “happy” they are all the time, but how unceasingly sorrowful, as they bear in their souls the burdens of the lost and hurting individuals around them. Those who do so are in good company: they are like Paul, and most importantly, they are like Jesus Christ Himself. Those who do not feel deeply the spiritual burdens of others cannot claim to be like Him who was characterized as “a man of sorrows.” {Are Good Christians Always “Happy”?}

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We may suffer emotions and shed tears more than once in our life. Every day we face the world we also must face that we do have to tackle the problems of the day, enduring at the sight of them.

Often, being wronged we ourselves fall in the trap of doing wrong to others. Or we leave ourselves be carried away by all the problems, agony and heartache, that our own heart becomes hard like a stone. Very great sadness and emotional suffering can tear us down or become a cancer in our life.

Facing this life we also do have to face the difficulties of it. We must know we have been given a library of books to guide us through that life in a way that we shall be able to bare those pains and difficulties. We often forget that when certain things happen we perhaps also where the origin of or causing the problem to ourself. Sometimes we are put back in place, corrected as if you were. sometimes it are others who remind us of what we are doing wrong.

The tendency of our proud human nature is to reject criticism and stick to our stubborn path. But we do so to our own harm.

There is time to “stick to your guns” and do what you know God is leading you to do. But we should also have an openness to listen to someone who sees that we are making a bad mistake and need to correct it. Blessedly, David had the wisdom and humility to listen to Joab, and then act — and he saved his kingdom as a result. May God give each of us the humility and grace to listen to loving criticism, and respond in a way which will benefit ourselves and others. {Responding To Correction}

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To remember

  • Those who have hardened their hearts will believe and do just about anything except turn to the Lord.
  • they believe Any likely (or unlikely!) alternative => they’ll take any other course of action, to keep from humbling themselves + having to repent of the sin that they are clinging to instead.
  • need to beware of any hardness of heart creeping into our own life

In light of these warnings:

  • — Don’t let
    a sin remain unrepented in your life
    a bitterness against someone remain unforgiven
    pride refuse to be humbled
    an area of disobedience stand

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Preceding articles

Our existence..

Facing our existence every day

Facing daily events and exclaiming “Good grief!”

Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression

Reminding myself!!

Are you right down in the dumps? Stop digging!

Ruth having reason to grief

A look at the Poet’s corner’s grief basket

Some Thoughts On Bitterness From Various Authors

Dealing with Disappointment

A Glory followed by Despair

Depression Is and When

Crying is good for inner self!!

I said God it hurts

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Additional reading

  1. Failing Man to make free choice
  2. A time for everything
  3. Trusting, Faith, Calling and Ascribing to Jehovah #16 Benefits of praying
  4. If there is bitterness in the heart
  5. No time for immorality
  6. What Jesus did: First things first
  7. Be humble like Christ
  8. Forbidden Fruit in the Midst of the Garden 2
  9. Necessity of a revelation of creation 4 Getting understanding by Word of God 2

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Further reading

  1. non-failure is not equal to success.
  2. The Personal Priority of the Word
  3. The Revealing Nature of Mourning
  4. To the proud and worldly
  5. #4. What we reap
  6. Too Much Grace?
  7. Confident Humility
  8. Pride…
  9. They are Hard but Necessary

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“Now while they were on their way, some of the guard came into the city and reported to the chief priests all that had happened.” (Matthew 28:11 NASB)

You have to ask yourself: just how depraved were these chief priests? The guard reported to them “all that had happened” — i.e., that the angel had appeared, etc. — didn’t they fear that this might really be a work of God? If Jesus could do this, was there any way that they could stop Him? And yet they schemed together (:12) and spread a lie about His body being stolen (:13-15) instead of repenting and believing in the Lord themselves.

There is an important lesson here:

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Crying is good for inner self!!

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Tears , often at childhood days. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Tears, be it of sadness but also of joy , can come over our cheeks. Often it can be a good thing to led tears have their free run. Often we can’t control them but at times we want to be master over them and would not like others to know something has moved us so much it could bring us to tears.

We should know that at certain moments that flowing water also can be the necessary fluid to give good to our inner strength, making us grow stronger in this world.

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To remember:

  • many feelings buried deep within us > resurface > love, hatred, anger, jealous, pain, sadness, kindness
  • ways of displaying these feelings like hugging, kissing, spreading smile, holding hands, throwing things, winking, crying..
  • Crying = first feeling we feel when we are born
  • cry even before realizing we’re crying = very deeply entangled to our soul
  • cry > sad + failed + in fear + happy + too much going on
  • crying = feel connected to it
  • Cry for the sad, the dead, the helpless, the weak. But make sure you are back to yourself again after the moment
  • Lighten your heart once in a while

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Additional reading:

  1. Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression
  2. A Glory followed by Despair
  3. Materialism, would be life, and aspirations
  4. Give your tears to God
  5. Depression Is and When
  6. Coming Out Of The Bipolar Closet
  7. A time for everything
  8. The soul has no rainbow if the eyes have no tears
  9. Come, walk with me and find rest for your soul
  10. Crying and trusting ones do not get disappointed

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  • You (It) Will Be Ok (acvoice.com)
    It is impossible to make a list of all the places I’ve cried, not because I’m a huge crier, but because my childhood, like many, was a bathtub of tears. So what follows instead is a list of (sometimes amusing) moments of beautifully necessary crying, followed by a reflection on what these moments might mean:
  • Wordy Wednesdays: Cry (winwhileyoung.com)
    It’s OK to cry.Really, who hasn’t cried.Even if you have an eight pack and look like the Terminator with zero emotion, I can almost guarantee you cried as a baby.
  • Tears for fears (jeannejennings108.wordpress.com)
    Tears for all these fears,that appear realin one moment

    dissipate as vapor

    in the next.

  • Tears (rajasinsight.com)
    Tears run down his grief stricken face
    And land on the ground of that isolated place

    A call out to his father if there were any other way
    The tears on the ground are there to stay

    The grief so heavy his sweat turns to blood
    Tears keep falling the dirt turns to mud

  • Cleansing Tears… (stormiesteele.com)
    All things have their place & time – consider what you can do…what you can’t do – then release.The cleansing tears have a season.
  • The Storehouse (workforthecausenottheapplause.com)
    The last twenty-four hours has been an infinitely unique dance, the stroke of a pen, some tears and breakthrough. It’s hard to explain how in the middle of your greatest struggles you have a hope that is alive and vivacious and thriving. How the tears can sting as they fall but you are smiling. Believing God is an art, a choice, a step, a motion. You are walking in the darkness following the light. And though the forest is thick with brush, He becomes the walking stick, the guide, the means, the only. It is only through a deep-seated place in your soul that you can learn to love your Jesus more than you love your sin.
  • My Mask That Always Smiled (spicyemozione.wordpress.com)
    I was once sad and lonely,
    Having nobody to comfort me,
    So I wore a mask that always smiled;
    To hide my feelings behind a lie.
  • 365 Writing Prompts: Happy happy joy joy (sabethville.wordpress.com)
    We cry for lots of reasons:  sadness, pain,fear….. and happiness.When was the last time you shed tears of joy?
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    I am longing to see and  feel the fresh air without covering myself from head to foot, the green grass, trees covered with leaves, birds singing, announcing the end of winter and welcoming the arrival of summer.
  • Father (lifeisaferriswheel.wordpress.com)
    The first time i heard my father cry was when i was with him in his office. He owns a restaurant, it doesn’t make a lot of money but it profits enough for us to live comfortably. Or so I thought. We were watching television as we had dinner as usual. He was in his chair when he slowly turned around, and the sniffs began. It took me a few seconds to piece the random bits of conversations between him and my grandmother, but i understood. We were running low on money. I just focused on the television not really watching the show but simply staring at the odd colors.
  • Are you sad? (amazingjenni.wordpress.com)
    All emotions have purpose. Sadness isn’t destructive if not prolonged. Sadness isn’t unproductive, as it offers awareness. Telling someone to “cheer up” or “be happy” is so ineffective and patronizing.

 

Smiles here & Smiles there

We have so many feelings buried deep within us. These feelings resurface and to name a few like love, hatred, anger, jealous, pain, sadness, kindness and lots..

We have ways of displaying these feelings like hugging, kissing, spreading smile, holding hands, throwing things, winking, crying..

We all are familiar with all these feelings and at some point or other in life we feel these feelings and act on these in our own unique ways..

Crying is the first feeling we feel when we are born. We cry even before realizing we’re crying and crying is always so very deeply entangled to our soul. One doesn’t cry just because he is sad and failed but also when he’s in fear.. when he’s happy.. when there is too much going on in his life and crying becomes just a passage to lighten his heart and sob for sometime to make the passage…

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Coming Out Of The Bipolar Closet

We like to introduce the online photography gallery for people affected by mental illness and share this witness which can help many people.

Every person should know that it is most importatn always to be and stay your own self, loving your self and loving the others like they are.

To free yourself from the chains and boundaries it is necessary to get rid of secrets and to dare to be open to others. They either may accept you or leave you for what you are. But in this world there are enough people and you can not be befriended with everybody, so it is better you concentrate to become befriended with those who are willing to take you as you are.

Let yourself be known, come out of the dark and let others also come out the closet.

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To remember:
  • Be open about many of your mental health challenges
  • dare to publicly discus them
  • do not hide
  • be not afraid of stigma.
  • Gain the courage to do and act
  • recognize what you have but also that it might be just one piece of your complex mental puzzle
  • We are all individuals on our own twisting journeys to mental health and wellness. 
  • Frustration, anger, guilt, shame, sadness, isolation, self-loathing, and hopelessness
  • Nothing is  hopeless.
  • Feel a shift, and realize you can choose to live.
  • Come to live with the emotional ups and downs
  • Dare to look for help
  • Stop ignoring advice and stop hiding in that damn closet
  • take your meds, see your doctors, and be more self-aware — you can actually take some control, and start moving in a positive direction. One baby step at a time.
  • There are still a few people in your life that find you worth fighting for
  • fight through this for them, and … do it for yourself
  • You are strong. You are capable. You are talented. You are worthy of a life worth living. A change will come.

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Broken Light: A Photography Collective

Photo taken by contributor Danielle, a woman in her thirties from New Jersey who has suffered from a variety of mental health challenges, including severe depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, as well as traits of BPD, OCD, and ADD. Danielle is a writer, photographer, photo editor and certified professional life coach. she is also a passionate mental health advocate and the founder and director of Broken Light Collective.

About this photo: “I took this self-portrait several years ago, in the midst of a two-year major depressive episode. I had become agoraphobic and spent almost all of my time in that bed. I ate there, I started Broken Light Collective from there, and I even did my therapy from there. This photo represents sadness, fear, isolation, and hopelessness.

I have since emerged from that particular darkness. I still have moments of sadness, fear, isolation and hopelessness, but I also have moments of joy, connection, and hope.

I have been…

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Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression

Do you feel like having “the blues”?

From time to time people shall feel sad or shall have downswings in mood. We should not fear this being an abnormal reaction to life’s struggles, setbacks, and disappointments. Many people use the word “depression” to explain these kinds of feelings, but depression is much more than just sadness.

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Depression 2 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We shall have to start worrying when the normal ups and downs of life let us feel more sad than we should do or would bring us out of balance. When getting the “the blues” brings us in a stadium where we do have no control any more, than we should start to worry.

When emptiness and despair have taken hold of your life and won’t go away, you may have depression. Such a negative state of mind can make it tough to function and enjoy life like you once did and should do. When you become so ‘depri’ that you do seem to loose any control and that you are just getting through the day is overwhelming, you could find yourself in a situation where others should come to help you.

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Depression 6 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Always you should know, no matter how hopeless you feel, that there is a solution for you and that you can get better. Understanding the signs, symptoms, causes, and treatment of depression is the first step to overcoming the problem. When you hear other people talking and get to know they where depressed at some time, never think your depression should be like theirs. Every depression is different, but every different case has ways to come out of it.

Depression varies from person to person, but there are some common signs and symptoms. It’s important to remember that these symptoms can be part of life’s normal lows. But the more symptoms you have, the stronger they are, and the longer they’ve lasted—the more likely it is that you’re dealing with depression. When these symptoms are overwhelming and disabling, that’s when it’s time to seek help. {Depression Symptoms & Warning Signs}

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signs and symptoms ptsd (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

When you start like losing interest in things you enjoy, you should start worrying and going to look out for people who really can help you. But do know that you yourself have enough inside you to bring yourself up again. But than you have to start believing in yourself first. Yeah, believing in yourself is the main gate to recovery. Because of the darkness in you it may be difficult to find that door to rescue. But if you are willing to look carefully you shall be able to find a tiny light which can become brighter if you are wiling to open your eyes more.

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Symptoms of Stress (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

You may feel weak but do know that depression is a medical illness, not a sign of weakness. And it’s treatable. If you think you might be depressed, don’t try to tough it out. Make an appointment with a doctor or therapist. Perhaps many persons would like to set you on medical drugs straight away, but it would be safer to use the many other effective, proven ways to relieve depression.
For most people, the first treatments a doctor will try are antidepressants and psychotherapy. Some studies have found that combining therapy with medication works better than medication alone.

You should know there are a lot of options, and nature provides many of solutions which do not poison your body with synthetic drugs. Walking in green areas may already be a very simple solution, letting your eyes wonder over the beauty of creation and letting it perhaps go chaotic for the time walking, bombarding you with all sorts of ideas. Daring to let all those ideas coming out of your mind will help you.

When you feel that you are taken by depression look for reading material about the decease. Keep reading to learn more about antidepressants, therapy, and healthy habits that can help

When you have severe symptoms that interfere with your ability to work, sleep, study, eat, and enjoy life and doctors find it better to take some medication, you may consider such a help. Check if there are previous histories in your family. However, depression can occur in people without family histories of depression too.

Scientists are studying certain genes that may make some people more prone to depression. Some genetics research indicates that risk for depression results from the influence of several genes acting together with environmental or other factors. In addition, trauma, loss of a loved one, a difficult relationship, or any stressful situation may trigger a depressive episode. Other depressive episodes may occur with or without an obvious trigger.
Certain medications, and some medical conditions such as viruses or a thyroid disorder, can cause the same symptoms as depression. A doctor can rule out these possibilities by doing a physical exam, interview, and lab tests. If the doctor can find no medical condition that may be causing the depression, the next step is a psychological evaluation.
Talking with a psychiatric doctor may bring you on the way to find solutions for your unpleasant condition. Some people shall be advised to ad may physical exercises to their daily routine, or to take homoeopathic or phytotherapeutic treatment to work on that what is weakened or not working so well in the body system, others need more drastic drugs which go to work in the brain directly, working on brain chemicals called neurotransmitters, especially serotonin and norepinephrine..

Depending on the medication, antidepressants may cause increased appetite and weight gain, low sex drive, insomnia, jittery feelings, dry mouth, blurred vision, and fatigue and drowsiness.

These side effects don’t affect everyone, and if they do, many times they eventually fade. But if they don’t, your doctor can change your medicine or dosage or talk with you about how to manage side effects so they don’t bother you as much. {Antidepressant Side Effects}

Alcohol and other substance abuse or dependence may also co-exist with depression. Research shows that mood disorders and substance abuse commonly occur together. In such instance the patient has to be prepared to look for solutions to get rid of those disorders as well. Though if they are willing to tackle already one problem, they shall find out that treating the depression can also help improve the outcome of treating the co-occurring illness.

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Find additional reading:

  1. What Is Depression?
  2. Depression By John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
  3. Symptoms & Types of Depression
  4. Depression Treatment
  5. Christadelphian Life Solutions – Home

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  • Antidepressants Make Things Worse in the Long Term (madinamerica.com)
    The authors propose the term “tardive dysphoria” to describe this condition.  Tardive means delayed; dysphoria means unhappy or depressed.  The idea is that just as prolonged ingestion of neuroleptics causes tardive dyskinesia, so the prolonged ingestion of antidepressants causes tardive dysphoria.  It’s a nice idea, but the name hasn’t caught on – at least not yet.
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    “In…patients who have developed TDp [tardive dysphoria], ongoing attempts to treat the depression with antidepressants perpetuate the TRD, and may ultimately make the chronic depression permanent.”
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  • Treatments for Depression (sarahmireles4.wordpress.com)
    There are many ways to treat depression without taking medications. Different types of therapy are available to relieve symptoms of depression.  Therapy teaches practical techniques on how to reframe negative thinking and employ behavioral skills in combating depression. Among these are cognitive behavioral therapy, interpersonal therapy, and psychodynamic therapy.
  • Scientists “Fingerprint” A Culprit In Depression, Anxiety, & Other Disorders That Could Lead To Treatment Breakthroughs (publichealthwatch.wordpress.com)
    According to the World Health Organization (WHO), such mood disorders as depression affect some 10% of the world’s population and are associated with a heavy burden of disease. In fact, the WHO recently reported that depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide. That’s why numerous scientists around the world have invested a great deal of effort in understanding these diseases. Yet the molecular and cellular mechanisms that underlie these problems are still only partly understood.The existing antidepressants are not good enough: Some 60-70% of patients get no relief from them. For the other 30-40%, that relief is often incomplete, and they must take the drugs for a long period before feeling any effects. In addition, there are many side effects associated with the drugs. New and better drugs are clearly needed, an undertaking that requires, first and foremost, a better understanding of the processes and causes underlying the disorders.
  • 7 Ways Depression Differs in Men and Women (livescience.com)
    “We have known about sex differences for years when it comes to depression, and they are absolutely essential to understanding the illness,” said Jill Goldstein, director of research at the Connors Center for Women’s Health and Gender Biology at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston.In one of the largest depression-related differences between the sexes, women have about twice the risk of developing the condition as men, Goldstein said. This results in part from biological reasons, such as hormones and genes that get disrupted when brain regions are developing in the male and female fetus, she said.These biological changes during fetal development lay the groundwork that creates a vulnerability to mood disorders, such as depression, she said.
  • Antidepressants and Youth: A Decade since the “Black Box” (psychologytoday.com)
    Ten years ago, the Food and Drug Administration mandated that all antidepressants carry a prominent “black box” warning to alert prescribers of the potential danger in children and adolescents of these medications leading to new suicidal thoughts or actions.  The warning came in the midst of passionate debate about the potential risks and benefits of using and not using these drugs.  A decade later, this discussion has largely disappeared from the public eye and evaded media headlines.  Nevertheless, antidepressants continue to be prescribed and research into their use has continued.
  • Does depression require hospitalization? (sciencedaily.com)
    A new study has analyzed the difference between day hospital and inpatient stay in depression. Depending on the severity of depression, patients may be treated at different levels of care with psychotherapy and/or antidepressant medication. While several previous studies compared the efficacy of different levels of care for psychotherapy of personality disorders, sufficient data is lacking for the comparison of day-clinic and inpatient psychotherapy for depression. The current pilot study evaluates the feasibility of randomization in a routine hospital setting and compares preliminary efficacy for day-clinic and inpatient psychotherapy for depression.
  • Types Of Depression Medications (howtocuremaledepression.com)
    There is much misconception regarding male depression and there are many of them that make out that they fully understand what it is and the effect that it can have on people, but really if the truth be known they don’t have a clue or real understanding of the illness. If you are one of those who are unclear about the disorder and think that it is a disorder but rather an excuse to get attention, it does however goes deeper than that. Depression in men is not something you want to mess with or ignore, because if not put in check it is not only discouraging you from carrying out certain tasks and living a normal life, it is killing you.
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    Depression is actually a disorder that has an effect on your entire body, your mind and also your mood. This illness has an effect how you eat your food and sleep at night. It can also have a major effect on your attitude about certain subjects and people, and more essentially about your own being. Depression is not just a dark mood swing that is going to snap out of in a few minutes. Click Here! for lots more practical information.
  • You and Your Antidepressant (annecwoodlen.wordpress.com)
    While all prescription medications have side effects, antidepressant medications appear to do more harm than good as treatments for depression. We reviewed this evidence in a recent article published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology (freely available here).
    The widespread use of antidepressants is a serious public health problem, and it raises a number of ethical and legal issues for prescribers (physicians, nurse practitioners). Here, we summarize some of the most important points that prescribers should ethically tell their patients before they prescribe antidepressant medications. We also discuss the ways that prescribers could be held legally liable for prescribing antidepressants. Finally, we implore practitioners to update the informed consent procedure for antidepressant medication to reflect current research and exercise greater caution in the prescription of antidepressants.
  • ‘Overreaction’ To Warnings About Teen Antidepressant Use Leads To Spike In Youth Suicide Attempts (publichealthwatch.wordpress.com)
    A few years ago, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration issued warnings that children and teens who took a common kind of antidepressant might experience suicidal thoughts. The point of the warning was to make sure that parents and doctors paid closer attention to kids taking these medications. But the plan may have backfired.As the public took the Food and Drug Administration’s 2004 warning to heart, adolescent attempted suicides increased and antidepressant use dropped, according to research published in BMJ. Meanwhile, attempted suicides among teens rose 22 percent. Among those ages 18 to 29, attempted suicides increased 34 percent.The effect of a regulatory warning that gained wide attention in the media shows the need for better communication by public health professionals, said Christine Lu, the study’s lead author. The drop in antidepressant prescriptions among adolescents and young adults probably means depression went untreated, she said.
  • When Antidepressants Aren’t Enough | How Counseling Can Help With Depression (safeharbor1.wordpress.com)
    Those who are curious about alternative ways to treat depression or are not getting enough from their antidepressants may want to consider counseling. There are many ways that counseling can help individuals cope with and overcome depression, including:

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      Whether you have felt that antidepressants are not the answer for you or you want to explore additional paths for treating depression, there are many trained counselors available to assist you through the journey.

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A Glory followed by Despair

  • The Identity of a Girl (lifeunhindered.com)
    But hiding her feelings, instead of surrendering them to her father, ruins the glory that he did make her for. They pollute everything she does with lies and soon she can’t live or look out into the world or at herself except through the lenses of these lies, fears, and shame. Since all she sees are these lies she starts to live in a way that reflects them and soon her life begins to represent what she’s the most afraid of being true. They wouldn’t be true, of course, if she were willing give up the lies and surrender them over to her father to judge honestly and righteously. But her fear of having those lies confirmed as true by her father keep her enslaved to them. And because they hurt her deeply all she can do is see life through her pain
  • The Demons of Denial and Despair (cerkas.wordpress.com)
    Arguably, Denial and Despair are the epitome of darkness.  When light evades our thoughts and appears light-years away, denial and despair swoop in to conquer our souls, control our minds and forever shroud our lives in the absence of light; for that is precisely what darkness is defined as, the absence of light.However, as physics dictates in our physical world, for every Action there is an Equal and Opposite Reaction .  This most appropriately applies to Life & Death, Good & Evil, Denial & Acceptance, Despair & Hope.
  • The Sixth Petition of The Lord, Prayer (gospelofbarney.wordpress.com)
    God tempts no one. We pray in this petition that God would guard and keep us so that the devil, the world, and our sinful nature may not deceive us or mislead us into false belief, despair, and other great shame and vice. Although we are attacked by these things, we pray that we may finally overcome them and win the victory.
  • The Space Between (goddessarriving.com)
    Whether you are a Christian or not, whether you believe in the resurrection of Jesus or not….I ask you to stop and consider how this video  (by the young talent at Amina) about Holy Saturday touches on that “space between.” The space between sadness and joy, failure and accomplishment. It’s that muddy place where people tend to drift for long periods of time waiting for their lives to change; that place of hopelessness which eventually leads to despair.
  • Prayer: Sets of Tens (rosevoc2.wordpress.com)
    Praying is an act of humility and faith.  It warms the soul, heals the heart and calms the body. As the Holy Spirit comes, during prayer, you will feel a centered concentration, pureness and joy in the heart.  For a while, you are lost in a mode of bliss and acceptance of all things mortal, or you see through
  • The X Factor (brandoneskew.wordpress.com)
    The world says that after everything that is going on, I should start compromising, that the complacency should sit in at any moment. However, that’s not whats happening. I feel the fire burning brighter, I see the hunger increased, and I see the determination to help a dying and cold world grow exponentially. I see a desperate young man scratching and crawling to escape his falling into dark circumstances. I see the opportunity to give up and quit becoming easier and easier. I see the world trying to bury my flame. However, the response is quick to say “go ahead, fire away.”
  • Liturgy (6/1) (immanuelblog.wordpress.com)

    We have lived for our own glory and not yours alone.

    We have worshipped other gods: money, power, greed, and convenience.

    We have served our own self-interest

    instead of serving only you and your people.

    We have not loved our neighbors as you have commanded.

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Where I thought I wouldn’t achieve it
I did
Where I thought I wouldn’t cry
I did
Where we all thought we wouldn’t stand up for each other
We did

A glory followed by despair
A glory that I won
Yet the despair that came out of nowhere

When you feel like everything you do is wrong
Where you feel like you should do one sacrifice
Where it all ends, where we all are sad
When comfort isn’t enough for those in despair

Forgive me my friends
But your journey is still far ahead
Forgive me my friends
I may disappoint all of you
Forgive me my friends
For coming in with victory while leaving you all alone in deep sadness

Do not say congratulations to me
I am congratulating you
For all we went through,
I have to admit it was tough
But you were tougher to face it

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Depression Is and When

Depression 1

depression is loving someone with nothing in return,
depression is slowly living instead of jumping head first,
depression is acknowledging the mistake but without learning,
depression is not trying, giving into your life’s curse.

depression is cutting and cutting thinking you cant stop,
depression is staying quiet thinking no-one will care,
depression is floating around with the desire to drop,
depression is ignoring the people who always seem to be there.

depression is trying to end the life you’ve been given,
depression is watching other people watch you,
depression is giving up instead of being hard driven,
depression is depression, do you feel it too?

Depression 2

depression
a state of agitated depression
now facing the depression
like a closed session
needing medical attention
making my agitated confession
depression my obsession
depression my only material possession
years of oppression before the recession
see the expression of my depression
depression leaving a facial impression
at it’s own discretion
like a rapper at a rap session
and a singer in a jam session
or a poet at the blog talk radio session
you can’t forget the internal impression
the repossession of my depression
it’s a new life i’m now facing without question

Depression 3

depression is the looks that lie
depression is the tears i cry..

depression is the mistakes
that one person makes..

depression is the sad song
where no one sings along

depression is where i have no friends
depression is the cut that mends..

depression…
just a feeling that gets everyone sad
and maybe to the point where you go mad

but depression is sad but true..
because it is my life without you…

Depression Is

depression is my life without you,
depression is the darkness taking over the light,
depression is the thoughts of suicide
depression is isolation from the outside world
depression is where no one loves me
depression is where i have no friends
depression is where everyone looks at me and rolls there eyes
depression is…….

Depression Is When

depression is when you hate everyone around
depression is when you don’t want to make a sound
depression is when all you want to do is cry
depression is when you feel like you’re dying inside
depression is when your thoughts wonder all the time
depression is when you can’t sleep even though you’re tired
depression is when you don’t want to go on
depression is when you can’t stop shaking outside
depression is when you hide who you are
depression is when you put on a mask to hide what you feel
depression is when you feel weak all the time
depression is when you give in to everything around
depression is when you don’t care what happens anymore

depression is just another day in my life

Depression Makes Me

depression makes me feel pain
depression makes me stupid
depression makes me feel low
depression makes me mad
depression makes me sad
depression makes me forget the world
depression makes me tensed
depression makes me lose self control
depression makes me hate everyone
depression makes me think over and over
depression makes me feel lonely
depression makes me think wild
depression makes me worthless
depression makes me sick
what does depression give me?
when it runs high…
it will make me die – rest in peace…

– Tashi Coote
Depression 6

Depression 6 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

  • 10 Things I Wish People Knew About Depression (worldobserveronline.com)
    Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain—a deficiency of either serotonin, dopamine, adrenalin or noradrenalin. Just because it’s an invisible illness, doesn’t mean it’s not real.
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    It can make you feel exhausted. It can make you hate yourself. It can make you self-harm. And worst of all, it can make you feel suicidal and drive you to carry out those thoughts. Depression is a word many people throw around carelessly (“I have to go to work on Monday, that is so depressing”), but when used in its clinical sense, it describes a debilitating, gut-wrenching illness.
  • Different types of depression (tersiaburger.com)
    Clinical depression goes by many names — depression, “the blues,” biological depression, major depression. But it all refers to the same thing: feeling sad and depressed for weeks or months on end (not just a passing blue mood).
  • Depression lies. (zerofoxgiven.wordpress.com)
    Depression is awful. It whispers in your ear. It rattles in your head. It steals your joy. It disrupts your sleep. It brings storm clouds to bright sun-shiny days. And it fucking lies. Terrible, horrible, no good, very bad (hurtful) lies.
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    I wrote this as a “sort of” end when I started down this country path: And if you’re suffering from depression, please know that you’re not alone. I know how difficult it is to look for help, I’m there right now. (I hate asking for help. I hate talking about myself in any way.) Talk to someone. (For a great list of people who would love to help you, go here: Getting Help.) Take care of, and be gentle with, yourself. You’re only human, this is a terrible illness and the people who tell you that you have nothing to be “sad” about and should “buck up” are assholes (some of them mean well, they just don’t understand).
  • Dealing with depression (confusedinfj.com)
    What we need more of is understanding, compassion, and just being there for our dear loved ones who suffer. Depression is just as debilitating as anything I can think of.
  • Depression is Often Called the Common Cold of Mental Health (modvive.com)
    To the nonprofessional “mood disorder” sounds like a passing phase, however, depression goes beyond just a passing phase and right into a life-altering disorder. If left untreated depression becomes chronic, meaning it sticks around for a long time. Some studies predict that by 2020 depressive disorders will be a leading cause of disease burden second only to heart disease.
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    Heart disease, an increased risk of type 2 diabetes, obesity, and substance abuse are just some of the health risks associated with depression. Untreated depression can lead to the most dangerous health issue, suicide. It is estimated that two-thirds of all suicides are linked to depression. This risk increases when substance abuse is part of the mix.
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    Whether you have the blues, the blahs, or something much darker, take that first step to get help. Go to your doctor. Find a counselor, your doctor or clergy can help with this. If you have a friend or family member suffering from depression do not close the door, reach out and help them. Go with them to the doctor; maybe even go with them to the counselor’s office.
  • Somewhere Someone Loves Us: Depression Stories, Vol. 1 (powderroom.jezebel.com)Depression is like being in that well in The Silence of the Lambs. That light’s being pulled up and I just see the evidence of all the attempts to crawl out before, and in my head, it’s evidence that the cloud won’t lift. The weight on my chest is never going to let up; the pressure I can feel on my brain is winning.Of course, I know on an academic level that that’s just not true. Things will get better, and I’ll be happy again. In fact, I’m probably happy more often than I’m not. But even when I’m thinking clearly, I fear my depression, because it’s just so oppressive.
  • Is Depression Just A “Rich Person” Problem? (thoughtcatalog.com)
    the National Alliance on Mental Illnesses says that 64% of young adults who are not attending or no longer attending college are doing so due to mental illnesses, and that 40% of students with diagnosable mental health conditions did not seek assistance because of the concern of stigma.
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    I am not depressed because I get too fixated on a concept and can’t see the other sides to any given situation (although I do have this problem as well). I am depressed because I medically lack the normal amount of serotonin that people need to be functional. No amount of therapy is going to make me better because all I really need is my daily 60 mg of Prozac.  I am disgusted when I have to spend time with people who lecture me on how depression is a fake disease.
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    Maybe one day people can be successful and public about their depression. But until we decide to actively alter our prejudiced and exaggerated attitudes about depression, that day will never come.Never forget what the impact of your words are on the people around you. We’re everywhere.
  • Controlling Your Black Dog (canislupuspc.wordpress.com)
    I did this through a mixture of the following things. They worked for me but may not work for you.

    1. Education and awareness
    2. Music
    3. Identifying the cause and doing something about it
    4. Exercise.

    I will briefly explain each of the four stages and how it has helped and is still helping me to control my black dog in hope that somebody might benefit from it and begin to gain some control over their own black dog.

  • Open Letter Re: This Morning Feature on Depression (madinamerica.com)
    Regarding Nicola, you again pushed the use of long-term drugs, saying it ‘gets you back to normal.’ Drugs cannot make you ‘normal’, as their very mode of action is to impair true normal brain functioning.  You are making yet another recommendation for drugs to correct an imbalance that has never been consistently found and shown to cause depression. Quite the opposite in fact: Research has shown that psychiatric drugs do indeed create ‘perturbations in neurotransmitter functioning’ thereby affecting normal homeostatic mechanisms that exist in the brain, which in the long term can cause permanent neural dysfunction (Hyman 1996). As a result, we feel Nicola would clearly have benefitted more from intensive talking therapy to explore her underlying fears and anxiety, and certainly from the support of caring friends and family rather than resort to long term ADs.The notion of a ‘chemical imbalance’ is now a fairly outdated view, and it is irresponsible and unethical to continue to indicate to the public they suffer from an imbalance where non has ever been consistently found and replicated within the peer reviewed professional journals.
  • Confessions of a depressed comic (thesecretkeeper.net)
    Television, the news, media, fictional films and stories, distort how people are who suffer from depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, agoraphobia, panic disorders, the list is so long the DSM-5 has over 300 diagnoses. Before anyone judges anyone, be sure you are not amongst those who have their own mental condition in which to deal.
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I said God it hurts

I said God it hurts
and God said yes I know

Sexta/Viernes/Friday-POSER-Deus - Dios - God

Sexta/Viernes/Friday-Poser-Deus – Dios – God (Photo credit: Caio Basilio)

I said God I cry a lot
God said that’s why I gave you tears

I said God im alone
God said that’s why I gave you loved one’s

I said God im sad
God said that’s why I gave you emotions

I said God im bored
God said that’s why I gave you a life

I said God it hurts
and God responded with I Know

– RiRi S…

RiRi S…  loves writing poems about any topic. Whatever her heart feels she writes down. She has been writing ever since she was in 7th/8th grade.

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  • God in my … (helenblogs.com)
    ‘God in my hoping, there in my dreaming
    God in my watching, God in my waiting
    God in my laughing, there in my weeping
    God in my hurting, God in my healingBe my everything, be my everything’ – (Tim Hughes)
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    I must be known as the ‘weeping woman’ in church for my inability to go and not cry (although I have managed a couple of services lately!).Anyway, its a really powerful song. One thats been sung a couple of times in the church Im at now since I’ve been there. And I’ve always had to leave. Just like I’ve always had to leave when a couple of other songs are sung. Because I’ve been unable to cope with the words. I’ve been unable to cope with what they mean. I can’t open my mouth to sing them (if I’m not much else, I’m not a hypocrite, so I aint gonna sing something I don’t believe) and I could not even bear to sit and listen to them. When my brain overloads or something gets too close to the bone my default reaction is to run away – hence always leaving the services.
  • Where Is God In Tragedy? (oakgrovepastor.org)
    In the wake of the latest natural disaster, the tornado in Moore, OK, the “explanations” for why it happened invariably start to come out again.  As a pastor, as a Christian, and just as a human being, I find many of these “explanations” not only unhelpful, but downright harmful.  Explanations such as God’s will or punishment for sin will be thrown out there, maybe because they are so simple, maybe because folks actually believe it is God’s will to kill innocent children.  I remember the claims that Katrina was punishment for the sin of New Orleans, but none of those people making that claim could ever explain why homes of the poor were destroyed while the French Quarter was spared. Jesus, by the way, rejected such notions.The better and more helpful question, I think, comes when someone will ask me, “Well, if it wasn’t God’s will, then where was God in this situation?”  I am reminded of a story told to me by one of my pastoral mentors and good friend, the late Rev. Guss Shelly.
  • Tell me true, tell me why … (atpaulwaters.wordpress.com)
    Because we don’t care. We would rather fight and torture and kill each other than admit that we needed God. And even when we have admitted it, we have often carried on fighting and killing. Not you personally, of course. You’re not like that – and neither am I. Except sometimes. Ever told a half-truth to get out of trouble? Ever thrown the charity appeal envelope straight in the waste paper without reading it? Ever got bored by all the tragic stories on the nine o’ clock news?
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    What Jesus did when he died on the cross was to show us God’s eternal pain. In fact, in some way beyond our comprehension, he actually bore God’s pain, then and there. All the centuries of hate and spitefulness and petty selfishness that is human history. All that, concentrated into a few hours of human time. All that, to cry out to his tormentors – all of us – “I forgive you. I love you. What are you going to do with my love?”
  • Is our Suffering God Tearing us to Pieces to Build us Back up? (chronicillnesspaindevotionals.wordpress.com)
    How does one make sense of the scriptures where it says God will inflict trouble or suffering on us? Lisa shares her perspective of this in her own life of chronic illness and pain.
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    Someone recently gave me a kind compliment on my endurance and faith and I replied “It is called ‘face-plant faith’ when you are on your knees–spiritually–every moment.”
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    He knew before we were born that our life would have seasons of joy and seasons of tears and He knew every cause of them. God is much more interested in cleaning us out than cleaning us up. He debrides us, layer by layer by layer.And it hurts. It hurts more than anything we will ever go through. But we gradually depend on less on our own strength and more of His. The layers of sin get skimmed off in the fire and yet we still do not get burned. He may withdraw His protection at times, but never His presence.
  • Grateful (nikkisparrow.wordpress.com)
    give me strength to remove the pain of my emotions and the possibility of failureyou can do thisthey said

    you can make it

    they repeated

    you will fail

    they meant

    but giving up is what i did not do…

    now I am here, smiling

    because you never gave up on me

    God

  • Change Is Gone Come (thebeautywithinhim.wordpress.com)
    There are times when we do not have the pleasure of being in our home and have to dwell outside with the storm at full speed. There’s stituations that are so bad you feel like it is the end. You might not even want to call on God. Well here’s some news. The storm might just be starting, but don’t allow the storm to tell you it’s over. Yeah, it may look spooky and make you want to feel a little depressed but we serve an awesome God. If you have ever walked in rain with glasses, you know the smartest thing to do is to wipe them or take them off so you can see a little better. Take off the worries and the fears you have about the storm. Allow God to be your glasses. He will show you where to go and what you need to get out of the storm. With God nothing is scary.
  • Fear (peacefulwife.com)
    I don’t often quote Dr. Phil. But he has a saying, “What I fear, I create.” This is so true!
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    I may be so desperate to try to get my husband to affirm me and build me up that I come across as a black hole and unending pit of need instead of being confident in Christ. I can actually make it much harder for him to love me when I make “feeling loved by my husband” or my husband into the most important thing in my life (an idol).
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    Fear is unbelief in God. Fear is the opposite of faith. We have fear when we are trusting ourselves not God.
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    Fear is not an innocent emotion – it is a theological declaration of what we believe to be true about God and ourselves. It declares to us and everyone around us that we do not trust God, we do not believe God is who He says He is and that we are not claiming God’s victory, power, promises and His Word.
  • 6 Ways to Worship God Outside of Church (selahfortoday.wordpress.com)
    God is worthy of worship through the duration of our days. Oftentimes it’s difficult to unravel how this works outside of our church attendance on Sundays. However, God has crafted our souls, designed our world, and granted us every tool necessary to worship him whenever, wherever, and basically, however.
  • The Matter Of The Heart (shellykropp.wordpress.com)
    Even with the things that did actually happen to me, I never really acknowledged the sensitivity of my heart. I didn’t realize how much things really affected me. I thought that I was immune to them.It wasn’t until recently that I discovered that my heart was overwhelmed, even hurting. This time though it wasn’t due to watching a movie or a commercial it was due to people. My heart had been collecting hurtful words that were spoken to me and recording the painful actions that others had done to me. I was feeling like I was not valued, not respected, rejected, taken advantage of, not good enough, and not worth the time or effort to be with. My heart was even taking other people’s hurts upon it.  My heart was holding it all in, allowing hurt upon hurt, wound upon wound, to build up on the inside. Pretty soon, I began to notice that I was starting to feel angry at what people had done. Sometimes, I even felt bitter. Thus, the struggle had begun. I knew that it wasn’t right to be feeling this way. I was supposed to be loving people and I didn’t want to. I thought if I don’t deal with this I am going to be in a world of hurt.
  • Attempting to answer a difficult question (triggermanblog.wordpress.com)
    While some emotion may be referenced, it doesn’t control the argument, but is informed by the argument. They also avoid hypocritical points: they don’t take the other’s position while, at the same time tearing it down. Arguments attempt to capture the idea of one point while not misrepresenting the other’s point.
    Often, especially in those arguments where the God of Christianity, the God of the Bible are called into question, all of those objectives of good, logical argumentation get tossed out by one side in order to launch an attack.
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