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Using Failure

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It is a fact of life that we all fail in many ways and in many situations. The key of course is to learn from our failures and with God’s help to endeavour not to repeat them.
As I reflect on my many failures a few questions come to mind. How do others react to my failure? Who is hurt or saddened by my failure? What do I learn from my failures?
The last is the only one I can really do much about.

I am convinced that God never wastes an experience and if we are willing we can often learn much from our negative experiences. In the midst of my failure I come back to the reassuring words of Paul in Romans 8:28,

‘We know that God is always at work for the good of everyone who loves Him.’

We see this clearly in the lives of biblical characters and need to accept that it is equally true for us if we will only allow it to be so. Admitting failure is painful, and necessary but the key is how we allow God to work through it making us more useful servants who are increasingly able to identify with the failures of others and so able to honestly encourage them. Failure need not be fatal. It can make us chastened, humble and increasingly useful to God and His church.

Never let failure be fatal. With God’s help make it the first stepping stone to a renewed and enriched life.

– Alan Hermann

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Preceding articles:

Why “Selfishness” Doesn’t Properly Mean Being Shortsighted and Harmful to Others

Failures, mistakes and Initiatives for Excellence and success, Working towards turning a Dream of yours into reality

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Additional articles

  1. First mention of a solution against death 3 Tempter Satan and man’s problems
  2. Fragments from the Book of Job #6: chapters 38-42
  3. Struggles of life
  4. Failing Man to make free choice
  5. Fear of failure, and fear of the unknown
  6. At first looking like a loss
  7. Are you being swept along by the world
  8. Let not sin reign in your mortal body
  9. Redemption #2 Biblical solution
  10. Partakers of His Suffering
  11. The mistake is the one from which we learn nothing
  12. Opportunity!
  13. Seeing the world through the lens of his own experience
  14. Praying and acts of meditation without ceasing
  15. God my fence, my hope for the future
  16. Thirst for happiness and meaning
  17. Change
  18. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life

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  9. Gentle Words & Missed Arrows
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  22. Balancing Time
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Home-stayers and their to do list

After “Day after day having reprogrammed the mind to see good, think good, feel good and be good” people would like to have some time off, not feeling to have to worry about anything.

Many people have the impression that they always have to conquer a battle. So many are bothered by thoughts of fear, thoughts of having to gain places and to proof oneself. Thoughts of striving should outweigh thoughts of struggling.

You’re not made to crawl, you’re made to walk, run and fly. {Simple nugget of truth!!!!……..}

Summer Holiday (album)

Summer Holiday (album) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

and at holiday-time people feel like liberated from the daily struggles.

Sometimes people feel like that others want to pull them down.

If you were not a threat to anyone then they wouldn’t bother putting you down. If you were not on the right track then they wouldn’t work so hard to throw you off. {You believe you???….}

When leaving the own environment people do feel safer and do not worry so much encountering people who would try the same as those they see nearly every day. They would be surprised when they would get to know them better and longer.

Much too often people allow the opinions of others to become their reality of self.

Much to often people let others crawl over them and let others empower them. Often they do not have enough energy or background to react in the right way.

English: A girl lost in her thoughts!

A girl lost in her thoughts! (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Holiday time may be a good period to recharge and take in new energy. It is also the time which can be used to read wise words which can help to be standing strong in this world were evil is all around.

When everybody seems to be relaxing there are the many people who take care that others can enjoy their holiday and then there are the fathers and mothers who try to do their best to keep the kids happy.

A working mom in a small town writes:

I see all the pinterest posts of fun things to do in the summer. I see all my friends (and acquaintances) posting their time at the lake, at the pool, doing all the fun things summer is meant for.

But being a working mom makes things a little different. Living on an acreage comes with more responsibilities. Living within our means (well trying at least) puts a dollar sign on every activity. Being a mom that respects (demands) sleeping and eating schedules for my kids, makes things harder. {Summer Time & Being a Working Mom is Hard}

Though those who do not have the means to go far away on a trip for several days, can also enjoy the little things, and even more than those who could have everything at their hands.

Having breakfast, lunch, and supper outside can already be a thrill. Setting up the sprinkler near the swingset and slide may be a great way to spend the afternoon with everybody enjoying each-others company. Having the feeling that every body is there to be with each other, ready to spend several great moments outdoors, with or without adventurous happenings makes the days great and to remember. Also here snapshots can be a memory of those family days.

Today too many people do not know to appreciate the small things in life. Many even say ‘holiday’ and think ‘travelling’. Several people do find that they did not have a holiday when they stayed at home or in the family. Lots of people do not see the nice part of all those small or little things which are free or inexpensive and can fit into busy schedules of homework.

Summertime is hard especially when you try to live up to other people’s pictures and lives. Make it simple and do your own thing. Take away the guilt and be happy that the little things make your child smile. You don’t have to spend a lot, take an extravagant trip, or go too far to make your little one smile. {Summer Time & Being a Working Mom is Hard}

Roman Holiday

Roman Holiday (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Having lazy mornings, in-between the home work just taking some time off to go for a walk or to play. Not so much worrying for a moment that the house is (already) clean, the supplies are already stocked and you just looking around from your easy chair. That also is enjoying Summer.

Summer is the high-time to love for the songs the birds sing, the brightly coloured flowers we can see and smell, and the warm sunshine that touches our skin.

Sometimes, you might just have to let the ant, singular or plural, crawl along your hand, foot, leg, arm, maybe even up your back or across your neck. Let the fiendishly seeming and feeling little insect decide. {Rejected experiences}

In lots of places there are different events to please the people who did not go away. Art galleries, people selling other crafts at local fairs, street performances, community games, a.o.. In several places there are so many outdoor activities and attractive events, with so many interesting restaurants or eating outdoors pop-up restaurants and cafés that people have to make an “our to-do list“.

There is so much to do and so much to undergo. And

Experience is what makes life worthwhile after all, so why not try and take as much of it in as possible? {Rejected experiences}

Now the sun gives us longer enough light to sit outside and enjoy the sound of the birds or river, we should also find some time to take the Book of books, finding interesting stories or beautiful poetry and great wisdom with a lot of proverbs.

There are may who seriously think they have no God or gods, whilst others are convinced that we do not live in a godless society.

We do not live in atheism, we do not live in agnosticism. Our world has many gods, one mightier than the other – if you wagered that we count more gods today than even the Greek or Roman did in their polytheism, you would not be wrong, and your money well placed. {A different perspective}

The housewives and housemen who have no facilities to go away on holiday and look at those who can go away may not forget that their money does not necessary makes them happy.

The select few to escape the grasp of money to some measure are shunned, exiled, pitied under the names of madmen, anarchists, punks, third-world countries, simply poor.

Money however is a very punitive god, one that leads to one’s own destruction. Possessing this god, or rather having this god and being possessed by it, leads one to want to amass more of it. Money buys things,  therefore money has value. {A different perspective}

But that value is temporarily.We better go for better value which stays for ever. That eternal value and true treasure can be found in the Bible. It is a book which can give colour and light at the darkest moments of the day and at the darkest moments of your life. Everywhere it can bring the rainbow and the live giving light.

Why not taking some time to read the Bible now you do not have to go at work?
Perhaps you might start by reading the poetry and wisdom books: Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Psalms, Song of Songs and compare the events of your life with the events in Job his life.

Though compiled centuries before the modern scientific endeavour, we can find serious and good easy to understand explanations. The Bible offers us a collection of sayings and truisms which should not be boring to read, because they are presented in a variation of styles, poetic and memorable.

That holy book does not have to be so perplexing or difficult to understand as many want you to believe. It is by holding fast to human doctrines that it might be difficult to understand. When you throw overboard all those false teachings and let the words of the Bible say what they say black on white, than there is not such a problem at all. Therefore just try to read what is written in it and when it says for example ‘son of man‘ do think a son of a human being and do not think ‘the God’ or something else. The same when there is written ‘son of God‘ do not think ‘god the son‘ or ‘god son‘ but understand that it is all about a or the ‘son of God‘ or ‘God’s son‘. When you read the Bible that way you shall find out that everything from the Old Testament fits clearly well in with the New Testament, like a jigsaw puzzle.

Try it!

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Preceding articles:

Summerholiday season time to read the Bible

Holiday making and dreaming

 Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

A little ray of sunshine

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Additional reading:

  1. Struggles of life
  2. Are you being swept along by the world
  3. Looking at things, distinctions resolutions and expressions
  4. Let you not be defined by the effect of your wrong choice
  5. Seeing the world through the lens of his own experience
  6. Voice for the plebs
  7. Do we have to be an anarchist to react
  8. Thirst for happiness and meaning
  9. A Living Faith #9 Our Manner of Life
  10. We find by losing. We hold fast by letting go.
  11. A treasure which can give me everything I need
  12. True riches
  13. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
  14. Count your blessings
  15. Change
  16. This was my reward
  17. Good to make sure that you haven’t lost the things money can’t buy
  18. Morality, values and Developing right choices
  19. Sharing thoughts and philosophical writings
  20. Words to inspire and to give wisdom
  21. Believing what Jesus says

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Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

Instead of using what happened in the past as an educational experience and to continue the positive way, too many people get stuck and chained by the past.
Let us look forwards and focus on the present in the knowledge that perhaps tomorrow we aren’t there any-more.

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Read also: Don’t put off for tomorrow what you can do today

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  • Have You Ever Seen Tomorrow? (sugar4love.wordpress.com)
    What is the first thought that comes into your mind when you open your eyes in the morning? Some would be groaning because it’s early morning and they have to get out of bed and go about their chores. Some would probably start thinking about yesterday’s events. Others would spend the day thinking about what they have prepared for the day and how they will get through it. Some would even wish that morning wouldn’t come.
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    We never see tomorrow, because we are in today. Yet most of us spend the time trying to live in the past or the future, never in the present. How can we not understand that the past can not be changed and that the future can not be altered. We can only hope that tomorrow may hold good promises but should just spend time to make today the best it can be.
  • What to Do When You Are Feeling Stuck: 10 Ways to Get Your Life Moving in a Positive Direction (thehealersjournal.com)
    feeling stuck at times is just part of life.  So don’t fret.  Don’t get depressed.  Don’t fight it.  Just accept that in this very moment, it’s what you need to experience.  Embrace it.  Doing this releases much of its hold over you instantly.  And then, as mentioned previously, start looking at things differently.  Get out of your normal habits and routines and shake things up.  Take a vacation.  Do something new or challenging… and your stuckness will float away like a cloud in the sky.
  • Day 624: Yesterday, today, and tomorrow (annkoplow.wordpress.com)
    Also, when I was feeling grateful, connected and clear yesterday, I spent some time thinking about what blog posts I might write, in the future.
  • Inbound14 Day One Highlights (enmast.com)
    If you are a small company looking to get bigger, you can’t compete with money. There’s always someone willing to pay more for attention or for talent. To be a small player competing with 800 pound gorillas, you need to have something else to offer. Dharmesh believes that “something” is your culture.
  • Just Do It: Tomorrow is National Make Your Bed Day (apartmenttherapy.com)
    Heads up, tomorrow is National Make Your Bed Day and ’round here we plan to celebrate. As we’ve always maintained, making your bed each morning is a great way to start out your day on the right foot. What better day to begin?

    Turns out, there’s lots of evidence that making a habit of making your bed can be the turning point that begins a positive spiral. In his book The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg calls it a keystone habit:

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Many of us focus on the past and keep re-living all our pain and misery.  Others focus on the future and what might or might not happen.  People living in the past or future are unlikely to live in happiness and good health.  They are stressing about past issues and worrying about what will happen in the future.

Focusing on the present allows us to enjoy our lives and be thankful for what we have.  Here are some great quotes to remind us to live in the present.

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Yesterday is gone.  Tomorrow has not yet come.  We have only today.  Let us begin.  ~Mother Teresa

I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.  ~William Allen White

Nothing is worth more than this day.  ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Seize this day and put the least possible trust in tomorrow.  ~Horace

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Let you not be defined by the effect of your wrong choice

Leah Houseman, writing as Sophia Bar-Lev writes:

as we continue to make our way through the Hebrew month of Elul which is dedicated to repentance in order to prepare our hearts for the approaching Festivals of the Lord (Lev. 23), this is the time to take an honest look at our personal acceptance of responsibility.

A big difficulty for a lot of persons is that they never want to take up the blame for something that went wrong. Most people prefer to give others the fault. When they themselves did something wrong they are fast to find somebody else to blame, even when they can put it on an imaginary figure like a devil.

These days of reconciliation and looking at the transition of the old into the new year it is time to look into our own heart. When we are prone to blaming others for our problems, we should reconsider and wonder if it is not high time to change our attitude.

Our world is still at war. Also in the Torah readings for this week the Jews find wars, at the beginning and the end. In the Weekly Torah Commentary — Ki Tetzei September 5, 2014 the author wants us to look at the cause-and-effect relationship, something which is too often overlooked.

From the writings we can get that the clear absence of unity between parents breeds rebellious children. today we do find lots of families with problems between partners and children. Many adults forget how their actions, their way of treating others, affects their children.

how parents live affects their children far more than what they say.

How many times we do see today that partners are not honest to each other and betray the people around them? In how many cases negativity becomes a bigger facto in the family life than positivity. Parents saying to their children they are not doing well enough. Family-members shouting at each other. Are the parents willing to remember the stupid things they did themselves when they were children? Are they willing to accept that their children learn by their mistakes?

English: We are not born parents we have to le...

We are not born parents we have to learn how to be parents (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In a household each member should help each other to make it work. Together they should aim to go united on the path to greatness by choosing to learn the lessons of every experience we have in life.

The lesson for all of us is unavoidable: Human beingschildren and adults -are too easily tempted to blame others for their own shortcomings. The Torah sets a higher standard, one consistent with how we were created.

Every human being has Free Will; regardless of what has happened to you, what parents you had, what hurts you’ve experienced, what hardships you’ve endured, You – and only You – have the responsibility for your decisions. It is ‘we’ not ‘them’ who have the ability and the power to choose whether we will wallow in negativity and in the past; or will we have the wisdom to learn from every life experience, using each one as a stepping stone to greatness. Cycles of abuse and pain can and must be broken. Amon and Moav, as well as Lot, has so many opportunities to learn from their experiences and become great men. It was for choosing to focus on their own feelings of disenfranchisement, their experiences of cruelty and selfishness, their own anger and sense of fatalistic doom, that they were forever barred from the congregation of Israel.

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Please read the exhortation by Sophia Bar-Lev: Weekly Torah Commentary — Ki Tetzei September 5, 2014

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  1. Running away from the past
  2. Trusting, Faith, Calling and Ascribing to Jehovah #15 Exposition before the Creator
  3. Being Religious and Spiritual 7 Transcendence to become one
  4. The Existence of Evil
  5. Satan the evil within
  6. What is life?
  7. Elul Observances
  8. Never making mistakes because never doing anything
  9. We all have to have dreams
  10. Youngster all over the world with the same dream
  11. 30 things to start doing for yourself – #6 is vital.
  12. Not holding back and getting out of darkness
  13. It is a free will choice

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  • Judaism Does Not Allow Us to Hate (algemeiner.com)
    Ki Tetzei contains more laws than any other parsha in the Torah, and it is possible to be overwhelmed by this embarrass de richesse of detail. One verse, however, stands out by its sheer counter-intuitiveness:

    Do not despise an Edomite, because he is your brother.

    Do not despise the Egyptian, because you were a stranger in his land. (Deut. 23: 8 )

    These are very unexpected commands. Understanding them will teach us an important lesson about leadership.
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    If we think less of a person because of the colour of his or her skin, we are repeating the sin of Aaron and Miriam – “Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses because of the Cushite woman whom he had married, for he had married a Cushite woman” (Num. 12: 1).
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    Generous Tit-for-Tat says, don’t always do to him what he does to you or you may find yourself locked into a mutually destructive cycle of retaliation. Every so often ignore (i.e. forgive) your opponent’s last harmful move. That, roughly speaking, is what the sages meant when they said that God originally created the world under the attribute of strict justice but saw that it could not survive. Therefore He built into it the principle of compassion.
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    Do not forget the past but do not be held captive by it. Be willing to fight your enemies but never allow yourself to be defined by them or become like them. Learn to love and forgive. Acknowledge the evil men do, but stay focused on the good that is in our power to do. Only thus do we raise the moral sights of humankind and help redeem the world we share.

  • Ki Tetzei (thejc.com)
    The term mamzer has no precise English equivalent. Hertz in his translation of the Chumash renders it “bastard”, but clarifies in his commentary that this “does not mean a child born out of wedlock, but the child of an adulterous or an incestuous marriage”.The moral difficulty raised by this law is obvious. Why is the child punished with severely restricted marriage opportunities because of the sins of the parents? Doesn’t this sidrah itself say further on that “Parents shall not be put to death for children, neither shall children be put to death for parents; everyone shall be put to death for his own sin”(24:16)?
  • Ki Tetzei (anitasilvert.wordpress.com)
    I guess before we can fully forgive or be forgiven, we need to engage with the memory of what’s happened, and sometimes it takes time for that to dissipate.  Maybe that’s also why we start thinking about forgiveness a full month before Rosh Hashanah; to give ourselves and even God time to work on the process, and it’s not clear if the process begins with Forgiveness, Remembering or Forgetting.   This year, I’m still in the remembering stage.
  • Ki Tetzei (thejc.com)
    One example of how the laws of war differ from peace time concerns the protection of enemy civilians. Are they protected by the familiar category of pikuach nefesh — the injunction to save life at nearly all costs. Following the approach of the verse above that at wartime many rules are suspended, Rav Yosef Babad of Tarnopol (1800-74) argues in his iconic work, Minchat Chinuch, that there can be no sense in applying pikuach nefesh during a war. On the contrary wars are won by minimising the value of life.
  • Ki-Seitzei: DIY Judaism (5tjt.com)
    We must take precautions. Although we believe in miracles, we are not permitted to rely upon them. There is a Yiddish proverb that “the man destined to drown will drown even in a glass of water.” But that doesn’t mean that you have to be the one to put his head under the hose. In short, we believe in the concept of bashert but we mustn’t live by it. Otherwise, why go to work? We say in the bentching (Grace after Meals) that G‑d is the feeder and provider for all. So if G‑d will support us, why must I schlep off to work?
    Clearly, this is not the Jewish attitude. That’s why it is a commandment of the Torah to safeguard our health. Likewise, we are not to live dangerously by leaving roofs unenclosed or swimming pools unfenced or our doors unlocked. As they say, “Trust in G‑d, but lock your car.”
  • Ki Tetzei: Doing Jewish (anitasilvert.wordpress.com)
    We’re heading into a New Year.  How will you connect your inside spirituality to your outside…connect your Jewish feelings to your Jewish actions?  It isn’t necessarily about praying or changing your kitchen (although…maybe that’s what your spirituality learning leads you).  But maybe you eat a little differently, and know why.  Maybe you take moments to see the good things in your life, and acknowledge them);  maybe you find out about a Jewish way of acknowledging those good things (that’s called blessings).  Jewish life is a verb.  How will you Jew?

 

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A little ray of sunshine.

We should know that it has no use to let negativity overshadow our life. Though we do have to grow up with falling and standing up again, we always better try to stand up each time and to go on with the experience we got, using it not to weaken us but to sharpen us and to strengthen us in our life.

Every time we are confronted with something negative, we should take a deep breath and try to remember the better happenings, the events we enjoyed, the people who could give us some warmth and the friendships which are dear to us.

The best reliance is the the deeper inner self, the trust in what is perhaps hidden deep in ourselves. Never shall alcohol, overeating, or drugs be of any real help. Sometimes it may look it can give some solace, but it shall not really bring alleviation.

All being created in the image of God we should know we do have Somebody to count on. Wherever we are in whatever situation we might be, we should not feel lonely or on our own. If we really want to allow the Supreme Divine Creator enter in our life, He shall be willing to take our stretched out hand and to help us over the ridge, the dessert or the dangerous river.
In Him we can find our Helper, our Sword, our Light and The One Who brings us further in this life.
In and with Him, the God of gods,  we shall be able to feel the love and to give love to others so that they shall come closer to us wanting to share the same feelings of unity and close friendship in this universe which has so much to offer.

Always keep looking for the positive and believe in yourself, because you are here created and placed on this earth with reason. You will not always see it directly what your purpose in life will be, but when you continue your way you shall find out and find it worthwhile living.

Open yourself to see opportunities and to love your life. Be wise enough to be grateful. Be courageous enough to be happy.

Success.

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  2. Searching for fulfilment and meaning through own efforts, facing unsatisfaction and depression
  3. Running away from the past
  4. Remember there’s a light in the next day
  5. What If you’re only driven by stress?
  6. Getting fate in your change to positiveness
  7. Without God no purpose, no goal, no hope
  8. Materialism, would be life, and aspirations
  9. Depression, Anxiety, Pressure and megachurches
  10. Thanksgiving wisdom: Why gratitude is good for your health
  11. Aligned
  12. Importance of parents 1
  13. Always a choice
  14. Change should not be stressful
  15. Happiness is like manna
  16. We have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace
  17. The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands
  18. Everything that is done in the world is done by hope
  19. Commit your self to the trustworthy creator
  20. Be an Encourager
  21. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life

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Other articles of interest:

  1. Who do you think you are?
  2. Love your life.
  3. You’re worth it.
  4. God – Made
  5. In All Honesty
  6. April Showers: A Celebration of Life in Loss
  7. A new routine
  8. Your New Identity: An Interview with Jeff Crouse
  9. Rick Warren’s Horrific Tragedy & The Sickening Response of Some “Christians”
  10. Beyond Kindness
  11. Happy international women’s Day 2014
  12. Leave the Apathy
  13. Revital of life
  14. Burn my ego
  15. How to Feel Good About Yourself

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  • A Ray of Sunshine (authenticlove789.wordpress.com)
    I live in probably the rainiest city in the South, Greenville-South Carolina (yes the home of Delvin Choice from The Voice lol.) In Greenville, it rains (monsoons) for at least four days d a week and then the rest of the week is filled with  beautiful rays of sunshine.
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    We have to maintain a positive attitude and remember that each time God shines a little sunshine in our lives, it is an opportunity for us to show our gratitude and to bring positivity to others. Be a ray of sunshine! Don’t allow  your complaints to  turn your life into a continual rainy day.  Recognize the good that you are experiencing and rest in God’s goodness towards you. Just rest in His eternal light!
  • Sunshine (lifeasagarden.wordpress.com)
    Sunshine doesn’t have to be something that is external from you, but instead, it can be internal and live deep down inside of you. It can be raining and gloomy, or snowing and cold, but because of the glow from your sunshine, you will be toasty and warm.

    That little ray of sunshine chases away the blues when the ego tries to bring trouble into view. Sometimes you do have to dig very deep to grab your sunshine up from the heap, but it’s worth it when the road gets rough and tough up ahead.

  • Sparkling with Sunshine (justinewinter.wordpress.com)
    I  was  absorbing  an  abundance  of  positivity,  reading  the  signs  the  world  threw  my  way  and  interpreting  them  to  mean  something  good,  something  worthwhile,  something  that  made  me  chipper.
  • Sunshine and gratitude (grandmasbriefs.com)
    As the years pass, I am coming more and more to understand that it is the common, everyday blessings of our common everyday lives for which we should be particularly grateful.
  • Hello Sunshine! (frenchadventure.net)
    The sun has returned with a vengeance today, 30 degrees in the shade and I’m loving it, as i type this I’m sat at my office desk in the garden with the view of the last rays of the day on the distance sunflowers and vines, how lucky am i?
  • Sunshine (astewaygattew.wordpress.com)
    Sunshine light sunshine bright
    Not a dark cloud close in sight
    Sunshine thrive sunshine imbibe
    Sweet healing rays on all your tribe
    Sunshine healing sunshine feeling
    Its the essensce of our beeing
  • Summer Sun (whenwordsescape.wordpress.com)
  • You Are My Sunshine by Kasey Carney (countrymarketplace.wordpress.com)
    You Are My Sunshine, first recorded during the Great Depression in 1939 by the Pine Ridge Boys, is an American classic.
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    Recently, a young woman dropped by the store to choose her Sunshine sign. She explained that she was a URMS black framelittle girl when her mother passed away. Her grandmother used to sing the Sunshine song to her and tell her stories about her mom.  She said being at Country Marketplace and seeing the sign reminded her of the two important women in her life. I was so touched she shared her story with me.
  • Cold Sun (thelovesprockets.wordpress.com)
    In my state of melancholy, all I really wanted was to lay in the sunshine and be warmed by His loving rays.

    But I felt no warmth from this particular sunshine.
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    I felt resigned to the possibility that maybe I was going to die and I didn’t much care anymore. I scribbled down some words in a notebook, picked up my guitar, and in less than 10 minutes had a song floating in the air around me.

The Hurt Healer

you are my sunshineKeep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.’ – Helen Keller

Do you believe that every day brings the possibility for a little ray of sunshine? Or does negativity overshadow your life? Is your glass half-empty and running out fast? Or is it half-full and waiting for a sparkling refill? The choice is yours.

An upbeat attitude can bring brighten up the gloomiest of circumstances. Choosing to think positively can revive you when you feel weary, provide clarity in chaos and keep you encouraged during uncertainty And when you make a conscious decision to refuse to allow the darkness to engulf you, you keep the way clear for your optimistic thoughts to shine.

Admittedly there are some days when tragedy strikes or a huge disappointment has to be dealt with and it is impossible to feel anything but despair. That’s a natural and expected way to…

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The waiting game – Wachten

Men zegt wel eens dat alles in het hood zit. En daar heeft men wel gelijk in. Ieder van ons kan zelf bepalen welke richting hij of zij uit gaat en zich laat gevoelen, om al of niet lekker in het vel te voelen.
Als iedereen de moeite neemt om zichzelf vrij te laten ontwikkelen tot een eigen persoonlijkheid waarbij de andere rondom hem of haar ten volle wordt gewaardeerd, gerespecteerd en vrij wordt gelaten, kan eenieder in de omgeving zich vrij ontplooien en tot een goede samenwerking komen welke de gehele maatschappij ten goede kan komen.
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In our head we all do have the choice to decide what we want to believe, what we want to follow up and which ways we want to go and what we would not mind letting influence us.
What can work for all of us is that each person accept his or her individuality and gives full respect and freedom to the individuality of the other.

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Additional reading:

In English:

  1. Growth in character
  2. Every man’s work is always a portrait of himself
  3. A bird’s eye and reflecting from within
  4. Two forms of Freedom
  5. No man is free who is not master of himself

In Dutch / Aanvullende lectuur:

  1. Groei in karakter
  2. Marx, het Volk, Religie, Christendom en verwrongen ideeën
  3. Elke man zijn werk is altijd een portret van zichzelf
  4. Tot bewust zijn komen voor huidig leven
  5. Vrijheid van mens en centrale plaats in ons wereld- en mensbeeld
  6. Hyper-individualisme
  7. Wat betreft Waar ELKE mens recht op heeft
  8. Wij zijn zelf verantwoordelijk
  9. Twee vormen van Vrijheid
  10. Geen mens is vrij die geen meester van zichzelf is

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  • Re-connect to Inner Peace (chykaranews.wordpress.com)
    It was a long time waiting for the moment that Jay’s brother Neil could finally come to Hungary.
    If you ask him what the ‘Nostalgia’ of Christmas means to him … He answers: ‘Don’t know’, or in the best case ‘Don’t remember’.
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    after 2 weeks stay with us, his greatest achievement is the re-connection to his feeling of Inner-Peace. He knew he had this, but the Puszta helped to re-activate this feeling.
    ‘Peace  is a piece of cake … When you come to the Puszta’ … His words
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    Nu, na twee weken bij ons op de Puszta, is zijn grootste succes het herontdekken van een gevoel van innerlijke vrede. Hij wist dat hij het had en de rust en de vrede van de Puszta hebben hem geholpen dit gevoel te reactiveren.
  • Pool time (allsignlanguage.blogspot.com)
    While I find my happy self back at the poolside (we are lucky, when can watch this full hour how our children develop their skills in the water) I proudly come to the conclusion that my child can swim pretty good! The last 10 minutes and a zillion thumb ups later they are allowed to show off on the springboard. One by one the children sort of fall from the board into the water and we proud parents applaud them. My son is almost up and raises his thumb. With one foot on the board he turns to me and signs his secret message. He takes off, runs to the end of the board and dives into the water. I knew what was coming, I read his ‘Momma, I’m going to dive!’ but the other parents had no idea. And all around me I see surprised and amazed parents who applaud loudly for my child.
  • A crowd! (allsignlanguage.blogspot.com)
    One of the best perks of working with small children is the absolute adoration they will give you when you succeed in telling a story or when you take them on a trip down the storybook you are reading to them. Since this is a blog about sign language with small children, the story you are telling or the book you will be reading is told with supporting sign language. This makes it even more fun for (hearing) children since you’ll give them the chance to really participate.
  • Too late, too little, (and how) to fail gracefully: Gracieus achterhoedegevecht (jessevanwinden.wordpress.com)
    Voor de ingang van Kunstfort Asperen is een bakstenen muur gemetseld in de kleuren van de Nederlandse vlag. Met de titel Equivalent verwijst maker Marc Bijl naar de serie liggende bakstenen werken van Carl Andre. Waar Andre de toeschouwer toestond over de stenen te lopen en zo het kunstwerk openstelde voor het publiek, ontneemt Bijls Equivalent (2000) je de toegang tot de tentoonstelling. De titel echoot ook de gelijkwaardigheid die iedereen in Nederland volgens Artikel 1 van de grondwet geniet. Zo vormt de muur een krachtige openingsmetafoor voor een land in verandering. Je kunt er nog wel langs om je doel te bereiken, natuurlijk, maar van een feestelijk welkom is bepaald geen sprake.

Altermie

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Hi you,

I don’t like this waiting game, letters are been sent, posters are made, institutes are being asked to communicate… And all I can do for now is wait!
Anticipation ,stress, feeling awkward and a little voice in my mind saying horrible things like: they will not respond, you will fail, you are not good enough, you are nobody, …

How to hush that little voice?

Stop the waiting game! Take action!

I wish I could tell you to ignore that tiny voice but I can’t ignore it! If I try to ignore it, it grows and takes a humongous proportion in my mind!
I just tell Mie that I can hear the things that are being said but that doesn’t have to be Mie truth!

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Cancer and Life Lessons

People often forget how they have much more in them than they would think at first. Not only could they find the power in themselves to help themselves and fasten the healing process by taking on the right mind, they also can help others by sharing what they feel and how they went on to battle the disease which got to them.

It is nice to find people on the net who are wiling to share their quest in life and their adventure with what bothered their body and mind.
By sharing the many thoughts and providing information where to find more people can help each other and give better chance to each other, finding solution which perhaps can help them on their way to an acceptable life.

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Remember: Giving opportunities:

  1. Cancer by no means only life experience that forces you to face in a concrete way the reality that there will in fact be an end to your life someday
  2. Cancer does not need to be the end
  3. Experience the hard teacher
  4. reassess what’s important in life
  5. reflect back on own experience
  6. are not afraid to come to know how to cope, how to get help, and so forth
  7. learn valuable life lessons from each experience
  8. learn how to adapt to changed capabilities
  9. inform yourself
  10. set off in exciting new directions
  11. continue to do what is important
  12. keep on dreaming
  13. reach out for the help and support that you need
  14. decide on a treatment plan with doctors
  15. cope with fear of losing control
  16. be aware that time really is precious and we need to choose very carefully how we spend it
  17. make sure that you do the things that matter most to you
  18. help others by sharing our stories and experiences
  19. contribute by willing to share your thoughts and life lessons
  20. understand how factors in our external environment interact with inherited mutations or other susceptibilities to lead to cancer
  21. learn how to stop the disease process – to prevent it or to intervene effectively when it does start.

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  • People Celebrate Kicking Cancer’s Butt (wsaw.com)
    Cancer is an awful, life-threatening disease, so when someone beats it, there’s reason to celebrate. That’s exactly what many people did Monday on National Cancer Survivor’s Day.

    Barb Rebstock is one of them. She started her battle with breast cancer three years ago. Her mother and sister both had breast cancer, and her mother also got lung cancer too. Both women lost their lives to the disease. Upon diagnosis, Rebstock had 38 rounds of radiation that she said were not easy. Although she’s still going through other treatment now, she said her screenings have been clear.

    “Everybody out there that has cancer, don’t give up,” she said. “Just keep going, keep fighting it. Listen to the doctors and don’t give up. Half the battle is your attitude.”

  • New Targeted Therapies Show Promise In Fighting Aggressive Cancers (publichealthwatch.wordpress.com)
    Several new targeted therapies have shown promise against advanced cancers of the blood, lungs, ovaries, and thyroid, according to research released Saturday at a major US cancer research conference.

    Among them is an oral drug called ibrutinib, made by Pharmacyclics. It was found to be “highly active” against chronic lymphocytic leukemia (CLL) and extended survival in some patients whose cancers did not respond to the standard treatment, chemotherapy.

  • ‘Cows’ milk is good for calves, but not for us’: Avoid cancer by axing dairy, meat products, U.K. scientist and six-time survivor urges (news.nationalpost.com)
    In 1993, the breast cancer that had plagued Jane Plant since 1987 returned for the fifth time. It came in the shape of a secondary tumour — a lump in her neck the size of half a boiled egg.

    Doctors told her that she had only months to live.

    Then a mother of two young children, Plant recalls the shocked discussion she had with her husband, Peter. As scientists — she is a geochemist, he a geologist — they had both worked in China on environmental issues, and knew that Chinese women had historically very low rates of breast cancer: one epidemiological study from the ’70s showed the disease affected one in 100,000 Chinese women, compared with one in 12 in the West.

    “I had checked this information with senior academics,” Plant says. “Chinese doctors I knew told me they had hardly seen a case of breast cancer in years. Yet if Chinese women are on Western diets — if they go to live in the U.S. or Australia, for example — within one generation they got the same rate. I said to Peter, ’Why is it that Chinese women living in China don’t get breast cancer?’ “

  • High protein diet linked to spiked cancer risk akin to smoking 20 cigarettes a day: U.S. study

    Eating too much protein could be as dangerous as smoking for middle-aged people, a study has found.
    Research which tracked thousands of adults for nearly 20 years found that those who eat a diet rich in animal protein are four times more likely to die of cancer than someone with a low-protein diet.

    The risk is nearly as high as the danger of developing cancer from smoking 20 cigarettes each day.

    Previous studies have shown a link between cancer and red meat, but it is the first time research has measured the risk of death associated with regularly eating too much protein.

    Nutritional advice has traditionally focused on cutting down on fat, sugar and salt. The World Health Organization announced a consultation Wednesday suggesting that guidelines on sugar consumption should be lowered, but there have been few warnings about excess protein.

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  • Doctors worry cancer terminology contributes to overtreatment (triblive.com)

    If Dr. Steve Shapiro had his way, some cancers wouldn’t even be called cancer.

    “The word cancer just scares people to death. It’s expensive and it weighs on people’s minds, both the patient and the doctor,” said Shapiro, chief scientific officer at UPMC and a lung cancer expert.

    What’s troubling, Shapiro and other experts say, is that the word often is used for lesions so tiny or insignificant, they might never develop into an illness that would cause harm. They say this leads to unnecessary treatments such as chemotherapy, radiation and surgery to remove tumors that could go away on their own.

    To avoid this, a panel of experts advising the National Cancer Institute is urging the medical community to reconsider use of the word. In a May article published in The Lancet, the experts suggest renaming some pre-cancerous lesions and tailoring screening to individual patients.

    “The medical community, just like the public, thinks if you hear the word cancer, it’s something you’re going to die of, unless you treat it and treat it aggressively, whereas there’s a whole spectrum of disease, and it can be low-risk and it can be high-risk,” Dr. Laura Esserman, the study’s lead author and a breast surgeon at University of California San Francisco, told the Tribune-Review.

    “Maybe part of the solution is to take these low-risk things and rename them and move them out of that category of things that we have a visceral response to.”

  • Cancer Messed With the Wrong B*tch: Hey, Hey, We’re the Metsters (wonderfultips.wordpress.com)
    A lot of people out there hear the words breast cancer and think that’s it. That the breast cancer you have, is the same one I have, and the same one your mom had, and the same one your fish had, etc. But that couldn’t be farther from the truth. There are many subtypes of breast cancer (such as inflammatory breast cancer, and triple negative breast cancer), and the different subtypes respond differently to treatments. There are also different stages of breast cancer.
  • Smoking and cancer gene ‘deadly mix’ (bbc.co.uk)
    The research, published in the journal Nature, found the gene could double the likelihood of getting lung cancer.

    And some men and women faced a far greater risk, a team at the Institute of Cancer Research in London said.

    Cancer Research UK suggested drugs targeted at breast cancer may work in some lung cancers.

    The links between variants of the BRCA genes and breast cancer are well established – a diagnosis led Hollywood actress Angelina Jolie to have a preventative double mastectomy – but it has also been linked with an increased risk of other cancers affecting women such as ovarian cancer and prostate cancer in men.

  • Cancer Lesson #46: What to Wear on a No Hair Day (kabcancerlessons.wordpress.com)
    It’s important to remember wigs, scarves and hats can offer protection for self-confidence by dented hair loss. In this post, I present options – some serious, some not –for anyone forced to deal with those dreaded no-hair days.
  • Friend With a Brain Tumor? (everydayleft.com)
    Do you have a friend with a brain tumor? Do you have friends who have friends with a brain tumor? Do you have a family member, perhaps a distant cousin with a brain tumor? How about some random acquaintance at work, does he/she have a brain tumor? Does a close family member have a brain tumor? Do you have a brain tumor?

    Every body knows someone who has or had cancer of some kind in other parts of their bodies – there are really too many out there. But chances are you know someone who’s experienced living with a brain tumor – primary or secondary. You may have known someone who died from brain cancer. Maybe you just heard about someone who was diagnosed with a brain tumor, but you really don’t understand what that means.

  • A personal note: The mirage of the “magic bullet” for cancer – and a better alternative (stage4living.wordpress.com)
    One thing I’ve found interesting is that there was less interest than I expected in nutritional measures that people can adopt in helping manage their illness. More people are interested in finding the “magic bullet” for cancer. The magic bullet is the one pill, drug, potion, food, or drink that will magically dissolve the tumor and metastasized cancer cells and allow the patient to continue with the same diet, lifestyle, mental state and other factors that contributed to causing the cancer in the first place.
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    In some cases radical lifestyle and dietary changes have actually resulted in late stage remission of diseases; for example the over one thousand such cases documented in medical journals and written about in Radical Remission by Dr. Kelly A. Turner (see my review in an earlier post below). And Dr. Turner believes that for every documented case of “Radical Remission” there are probably over a hundred cases that are never documented. In some cases radical lifestyle and diet changes may result in a few extra months, a year, three years, five years or more of “bonus time” versus just using conventional treatment alone.
  • Teen fighting cancer surprised by Suns gorilla, dancers, friends on eve of surgery (azfamily.com)
    At only 16 years old, Cody Hatch is battling a rare form of cancer called metastatic paraganglioma. He has a series of tumors that have a tight grip on his spine.”I’m hoping it’ll recover faster and I haven’t been too worried, I’m just trying to be optimistic about it,” Cody said Monday, just a day before undergoing surgery.
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