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In the New Year…

 

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    In the New Year, you carry all the experiences of the past years
    and that is the greatest power of every New Year.

    • Mehmet Murat Ildan

    photo credit: Jim Ridley Photography

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            I Walked A Mile

            In our life we may encounter lots of pains and moments we would not like to encounter, but we have to carry them with us and live with them. Point is that we learn from those not so nice moments and that we can learn from those less pleasant experiences, so that Hard days may strengthen us.

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            I really like this simple but powerfully stated poem by Robert Browning Hamilton called “I Walked A Mile.”  It is only two stanzas but has a lot to say: 

            “I walked a mile with Pleasure;
            She chatted all the way
            But left me none the wiser
            For all she had to say.

            I walked a mile with Sorrow;
            And ne’er a word said she
            But, oh! The things I learned from her,
            When Sorrow walked with me.”

            I completely agree with what he said in this poem for I have received many more blessings from Sorrow than ever I did from Pleasure!  Please share your thoughts with me on this poem!

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            There are two kinds of knowing


            There are two kinds of knowing
            – experience and understanding –
            and the confusion between them is
            the cause of all sorts of trouble for any thinking person – which is all of us

            Experience is the knowing of things. It is exactly what appears to our senses precisely as it is without us doing anything. It is immediately and directly present to awareness with no mediating activity.

            Understanding is the knowing about things. It comes to us in the form of the inner language of thought.

            Reason is intuitive knowing. It is the self evident knowing that isn’t derived from rational deduction. It is directly perceived pure awareness. Understanding is the knowing-about-things that is contained in explanations, interpretations and logic.

            > Read more > Experience and Understanding by Jeff Carreira

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            ek is bang ek vergeet

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            22 Maart 2018

            Ek neem so baie in en my oë sien prentjies om elke hoek en draai. Vandag plunge ek na ‘n diep plek en ek dink sommer aan alles wat vir my belangrik is.

            Ek is bang ek vergeet hierdie ervaring.

            Ek moet my hande en my hart oopvou. Alles wat ek sien en beleef moet deur my spoel.

            Een van die dae is ek terug in my gewone roetine, maar ek sal nie dieselfde wees nie.   Hierdie ervaring word deel van my en verander die buitelyne van my wese.

            Ek gaan nie dieselfde wees nie maar tóg presies soos gister. Dit is die lewe.

            A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.

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            The time had come to open her heart to joy, to love, to the unknown, to sadness, to what was, to hope, to what will…

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            Reflection to gain strength, courage and confidence


            “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.
            You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror.
            I can take the next thing that comes along.
            ‘ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
            Eleanor Roosevelt, You Learn by Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life


            Dutch version / Nederlandse versie > Bedenking over verkrijgen van kracht, moed en vertrouwen

            George T. Bye, Eleanor Roosevelt. Westbrook Pe...

            George T. Bye, Eleanor Roosevelt. Westbrook Pegler, Deems Taylor, Quaker Lake, Pawling, New York (home of Lowell Thomas) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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            (Poem) Endless Time

            Time for some or many may be their side, but for many it also may be against them. For many time can also slip through the shadows and get them frustrated and not knowing where and when to go.

            Perhaps an old poet, but that does not mean one has become out of time. Today many companies wanting to get rid of the older persons, forgetting that they have the experience and knowledge. Though it looks like today their time is not any more accounted for. Therefore pleased to find some people not leaving themselves put aside but crawling into the pen and daring to let their voice be heard on the internet.

            Today’s guestwriter remarks

            We all grow up believing things we are told, to be correct, mostly. If we are told by our parents, teachers or Pastors that this or that is the truth most kids, if they have respect for these people tend to believe them. But you know, sometimes these people are simply incorrect. {Truth}

            With the years , passing time, we come to see and experience different things and then time may give that we get more knowledge and insights, if we are willing to grow.

            Today’s guest writer got to see that so many things told to him were not Biblical, so he dared to take the time to learn more about it by taking up the Book of books itself. He also writes on his blog

            I did a somewhat quick read through the Bible just so I could say I had done it once. But, after I had finished reading through it I realized that these things my Mom had told me “the Bible says”, I didn’t remember seeing anywhere. So, I started rereading the scriptures more slowly and with pen and pad so that I could make notes. {Truth}

            This is a good attitude which can bring man to think better about what he reads and about what he hears what should or could be written there – but is not. We always should remember that the others are not always telling lies but do not know the exact truth and have also been part of their time and their generation’s thougths.

            After completing time two, I realized that these things Mom had told me weren’t correct, they just weren’t there. I know that Mom wasn’t lying to me, she was just wrong. We can grow old and comfortable with the stories of our youth’s no matter who they were told by, or we can use our own brains to think a little. Parents, teachers, priests, they all have stories they had been told in there youth’s, is it possible that on some items they were told wrong? {Truth}

            The Final Testament of the Holy Bible

            The Final Testament of the Holy Bible (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

            So they and we do have to take the time to come to know more and to correct those things we learned wrongly. By time we have to keep willing to learn and to adapt otherwise we shall become stain or a rock where the fast streaming water runs over and past, making us in a little grain of sand after some time.

            We always should remember that time depends how we want to perceive it. When we are young all seems to take such a long time. When we are old all seems to go too fast. And when we look at the time of God

            There are several places in scripture where we are told things like “My days are not your days”, and how a human life is like the twinkling (blink) of the eye to Gods time. Even in the New Testament the Apostle Peter told the people that one of Gods days are like unto a thousand of our years. In other words, our days and Gods days don’t match up. Think about it, even in our own orbits of the sun, the planets that are in this orbit with us have different amounts of time that make up their days. {Truth}

            And in this world we so often are confronted by people who want to own our time. Often we look at time and wonder what we can do with it or what to do next, or how we missed doing things we wanted or should have done.

            Facing the universe we can see that planets that surround us possess their own concept of time on a clock. And while they continue to circle around in the universe our own personal life’s hour-glass as the sand falling down.

            English: Readin the Bible.

            Reading the Bible. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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            Using Failure

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            Adaptation of above image illustrating an Internet meme (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

            It is a fact of life that we all fail in many ways and in many situations. The key of course is to learn from our failures and with God’s help to endeavour not to repeat them.
            As I reflect on my many failures a few questions come to mind. How do others react to my failure? Who is hurt or saddened by my failure? What do I learn from my failures?
            The last is the only one I can really do much about.

            I am convinced that God never wastes an experience and if we are willing we can often learn much from our negative experiences. In the midst of my failure I come back to the reassuring words of Paul in Romans 8:28,

            ‘We know that God is always at work for the good of everyone who loves Him.’

            We see this clearly in the lives of biblical characters and need to accept that it is equally true for us if we will only allow it to be so. Admitting failure is painful, and necessary but the key is how we allow God to work through it making us more useful servants who are increasingly able to identify with the failures of others and so able to honestly encourage them. Failure need not be fatal. It can make us chastened, humble and increasingly useful to God and His church.

            Never let failure be fatal. With God’s help make it the first stepping stone to a renewed and enriched life.

            – Alan Hermann

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            Preceding articles:

            Why “Selfishness” Doesn’t Properly Mean Being Shortsighted and Harmful to Others

            Failures, mistakes and Initiatives for Excellence and success, Working towards turning a Dream of yours into reality

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            Additional articles

            1. First mention of a solution against death 3 Tempter Satan and man’s problems
            2. Fragments from the Book of Job #6: chapters 38-42
            3. Struggles of life
            4. Failing Man to make free choice
            5. Fear of failure, and fear of the unknown
            6. At first looking like a loss
            7. Are you being swept along by the world
            8. Let not sin reign in your mortal body
            9. Redemption #2 Biblical solution
            10. Partakers of His Suffering
            11. The mistake is the one from which we learn nothing
            12. Opportunity!
            13. Seeing the world through the lens of his own experience
            14. Praying and acts of meditation without ceasing
            15. God my fence, my hope for the future
            16. Thirst for happiness and meaning
            17. Change
            18. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life

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            Further related articles

            1. Not Today (Failure)
            2. Can this week please be over
            3. Failure Is Not Fatal
            4. How to Flop on Twitter
            5. 8 Ways You are Contributing to Your own Failure
            6. What Do You Want to Achieve before 2017?
            7. I am…Fearfully and Wonderfully Made
            8. Failure paves the path to success
            9. Gentle Words & Missed Arrows
            10. Breakdown From Pressure
            11. It’s All About Effort
            12. Where Feet May Fail
            13. Failed – not once but twice
            14. Fat Fingers Can’t Play Guitar but JK Rowling Told Me it’s Okay to Fail
            15. “You may encounter many defeats…
            16. Knock off from a straight line
            17. The Gremlins Of Change
            18. Totes Fails
            19. Grieve & Live
            20. Preparing to Overcome My Sugar Weaknesses
            21. Day 3: Still finding no feet
            22. Balancing Time
            23. Take the Advice You’re Given

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            Home-stayers and their to do list

            After “Day after day having reprogrammed the mind to see good, think good, feel good and be good” people would like to have some time off, not feeling to have to worry about anything.

            Many people have the impression that they always have to conquer a battle. So many are bothered by thoughts of fear, thoughts of having to gain places and to proof oneself. Thoughts of striving should outweigh thoughts of struggling.

            You’re not made to crawl, you’re made to walk, run and fly. {Simple nugget of truth!!!!……..}

            Summer Holiday (album)

            Summer Holiday (album) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

            and at holiday-time people feel like liberated from the daily struggles.

            Sometimes people feel like that others want to pull them down.

            If you were not a threat to anyone then they wouldn’t bother putting you down. If you were not on the right track then they wouldn’t work so hard to throw you off. {You believe you???….}

            When leaving the own environment people do feel safer and do not worry so much encountering people who would try the same as those they see nearly every day. They would be surprised when they would get to know them better and longer.

            Much too often people allow the opinions of others to become their reality of self.

            Much to often people let others crawl over them and let others empower them. Often they do not have enough energy or background to react in the right way.

            English: A girl lost in her thoughts!

            A girl lost in her thoughts! (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

            Holiday time may be a good period to recharge and take in new energy. It is also the time which can be used to read wise words which can help to be standing strong in this world were evil is all around.

            When everybody seems to be relaxing there are the many people who take care that others can enjoy their holiday and then there are the fathers and mothers who try to do their best to keep the kids happy.

            A working mom in a small town writes:

            I see all the pinterest posts of fun things to do in the summer. I see all my friends (and acquaintances) posting their time at the lake, at the pool, doing all the fun things summer is meant for.

            But being a working mom makes things a little different. Living on an acreage comes with more responsibilities. Living within our means (well trying at least) puts a dollar sign on every activity. Being a mom that respects (demands) sleeping and eating schedules for my kids, makes things harder. {Summer Time & Being a Working Mom is Hard}

            Though those who do not have the means to go far away on a trip for several days, can also enjoy the little things, and even more than those who could have everything at their hands.

            Having breakfast, lunch, and supper outside can already be a thrill. Setting up the sprinkler near the swingset and slide may be a great way to spend the afternoon with everybody enjoying each-others company. Having the feeling that every body is there to be with each other, ready to spend several great moments outdoors, with or without adventurous happenings makes the days great and to remember. Also here snapshots can be a memory of those family days.

            Today too many people do not know to appreciate the small things in life. Many even say ‘holiday’ and think ‘travelling’. Several people do find that they did not have a holiday when they stayed at home or in the family. Lots of people do not see the nice part of all those small or little things which are free or inexpensive and can fit into busy schedules of homework.

            Summertime is hard especially when you try to live up to other people’s pictures and lives. Make it simple and do your own thing. Take away the guilt and be happy that the little things make your child smile. You don’t have to spend a lot, take an extravagant trip, or go too far to make your little one smile. {Summer Time & Being a Working Mom is Hard}

            Roman Holiday

            Roman Holiday (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

            Having lazy mornings, in-between the home work just taking some time off to go for a walk or to play. Not so much worrying for a moment that the house is (already) clean, the supplies are already stocked and you just looking around from your easy chair. That also is enjoying Summer.

            Summer is the high-time to love for the songs the birds sing, the brightly coloured flowers we can see and smell, and the warm sunshine that touches our skin.

            Sometimes, you might just have to let the ant, singular or plural, crawl along your hand, foot, leg, arm, maybe even up your back or across your neck. Let the fiendishly seeming and feeling little insect decide. {Rejected experiences}

            In lots of places there are different events to please the people who did not go away. Art galleries, people selling other crafts at local fairs, street performances, community games, a.o.. In several places there are so many outdoor activities and attractive events, with so many interesting restaurants or eating outdoors pop-up restaurants and cafés that people have to make an “our to-do list“.

            There is so much to do and so much to undergo. And

            Experience is what makes life worthwhile after all, so why not try and take as much of it in as possible? {Rejected experiences}

            Now the sun gives us longer enough light to sit outside and enjoy the sound of the birds or river, we should also find some time to take the Book of books, finding interesting stories or beautiful poetry and great wisdom with a lot of proverbs.

            There are may who seriously think they have no God or gods, whilst others are convinced that we do not live in a godless society.

            We do not live in atheism, we do not live in agnosticism. Our world has many gods, one mightier than the other – if you wagered that we count more gods today than even the Greek or Roman did in their polytheism, you would not be wrong, and your money well placed. {A different perspective}

            The housewives and housemen who have no facilities to go away on holiday and look at those who can go away may not forget that their money does not necessary makes them happy.

            The select few to escape the grasp of money to some measure are shunned, exiled, pitied under the names of madmen, anarchists, punks, third-world countries, simply poor.

            Money however is a very punitive god, one that leads to one’s own destruction. Possessing this god, or rather having this god and being possessed by it, leads one to want to amass more of it. Money buys things,  therefore money has value. {A different perspective}

            But that value is temporarily.We better go for better value which stays for ever. That eternal value and true treasure can be found in the Bible. It is a book which can give colour and light at the darkest moments of the day and at the darkest moments of your life. Everywhere it can bring the rainbow and the live giving light.

            Why not taking some time to read the Bible now you do not have to go at work?
            Perhaps you might start by reading the poetry and wisdom books: Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Psalms, Song of Songs and compare the events of your life with the events in Job his life.

            Though compiled centuries before the modern scientific endeavour, we can find serious and good easy to understand explanations. The Bible offers us a collection of sayings and truisms which should not be boring to read, because they are presented in a variation of styles, poetic and memorable.

            That holy book does not have to be so perplexing or difficult to understand as many want you to believe. It is by holding fast to human doctrines that it might be difficult to understand. When you throw overboard all those false teachings and let the words of the Bible say what they say black on white, than there is not such a problem at all. Therefore just try to read what is written in it and when it says for example ‘son of man‘ do think a son of a human being and do not think ‘the God’ or something else. The same when there is written ‘son of God‘ do not think ‘god the son‘ or ‘god son‘ but understand that it is all about a or the ‘son of God‘ or ‘God’s son‘. When you read the Bible that way you shall find out that everything from the Old Testament fits clearly well in with the New Testament, like a jigsaw puzzle.

            Try it!

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            Preceding articles:

            Summerholiday season time to read the Bible

            Holiday making and dreaming

             Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

            A little ray of sunshine

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            Additional reading:

            1. Struggles of life
            2. Are you being swept along by the world
            3. Looking at things, distinctions resolutions and expressions
            4. Let you not be defined by the effect of your wrong choice
            5. Seeing the world through the lens of his own experience
            6. Voice for the plebs
            7. Do we have to be an anarchist to react
            8. Thirst for happiness and meaning
            9. A Living Faith #9 Our Manner of Life
            10. We find by losing. We hold fast by letting go.
            11. A treasure which can give me everything I need
            12. True riches
            13. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
            14. Count your blessings
            15. Change
            16. This was my reward
            17. Good to make sure that you haven’t lost the things money can’t buy
            18. Morality, values and Developing right choices
            19. Sharing thoughts and philosophical writings
            20. Words to inspire and to give wisdom
            21. Believing what Jesus says

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            Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

            Instead of using what happened in the past as an educational experience and to continue the positive way, too many people get stuck and chained by the past.
            Let us look forwards and focus on the present in the knowledge that perhaps tomorrow we aren’t there any-more.

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            Read also: Don’t put off for tomorrow what you can do today

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            • Have You Ever Seen Tomorrow? (sugar4love.wordpress.com)
              What is the first thought that comes into your mind when you open your eyes in the morning? Some would be groaning because it’s early morning and they have to get out of bed and go about their chores. Some would probably start thinking about yesterday’s events. Others would spend the day thinking about what they have prepared for the day and how they will get through it. Some would even wish that morning wouldn’t come.
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              We never see tomorrow, because we are in today. Yet most of us spend the time trying to live in the past or the future, never in the present. How can we not understand that the past can not be changed and that the future can not be altered. We can only hope that tomorrow may hold good promises but should just spend time to make today the best it can be.
            • What to Do When You Are Feeling Stuck: 10 Ways to Get Your Life Moving in a Positive Direction (thehealersjournal.com)
              feeling stuck at times is just part of life.  So don’t fret.  Don’t get depressed.  Don’t fight it.  Just accept that in this very moment, it’s what you need to experience.  Embrace it.  Doing this releases much of its hold over you instantly.  And then, as mentioned previously, start looking at things differently.  Get out of your normal habits and routines and shake things up.  Take a vacation.  Do something new or challenging… and your stuckness will float away like a cloud in the sky.
            • Day 624: Yesterday, today, and tomorrow (annkoplow.wordpress.com)
              Also, when I was feeling grateful, connected and clear yesterday, I spent some time thinking about what blog posts I might write, in the future.
            • Inbound14 Day One Highlights (enmast.com)
              If you are a small company looking to get bigger, you can’t compete with money. There’s always someone willing to pay more for attention or for talent. To be a small player competing with 800 pound gorillas, you need to have something else to offer. Dharmesh believes that “something” is your culture.
            • Just Do It: Tomorrow is National Make Your Bed Day (apartmenttherapy.com)
              Heads up, tomorrow is National Make Your Bed Day and ’round here we plan to celebrate. As we’ve always maintained, making your bed each morning is a great way to start out your day on the right foot. What better day to begin?

              Turns out, there’s lots of evidence that making a habit of making your bed can be the turning point that begins a positive spiral. In his book The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg calls it a keystone habit:

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            Many of us focus on the past and keep re-living all our pain and misery.  Others focus on the future and what might or might not happen.  People living in the past or future are unlikely to live in happiness and good health.  They are stressing about past issues and worrying about what will happen in the future.

            Focusing on the present allows us to enjoy our lives and be thankful for what we have.  Here are some great quotes to remind us to live in the present.

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            Yesterday is gone.  Tomorrow has not yet come.  We have only today.  Let us begin.  ~Mother Teresa

            I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.  ~William Allen White

            Nothing is worth more than this day.  ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

            Seize this day and put the least possible trust in tomorrow.  ~Horace

            The world of tomorrow belongs to…

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            Let you not be defined by the effect of your wrong choice

            Leah Houseman, writing as Sophia Bar-Lev writes:

            as we continue to make our way through the Hebrew month of Elul which is dedicated to repentance in order to prepare our hearts for the approaching Festivals of the Lord (Lev. 23), this is the time to take an honest look at our personal acceptance of responsibility.

            A big difficulty for a lot of persons is that they never want to take up the blame for something that went wrong. Most people prefer to give others the fault. When they themselves did something wrong they are fast to find somebody else to blame, even when they can put it on an imaginary figure like a devil.

            These days of reconciliation and looking at the transition of the old into the new year it is time to look into our own heart. When we are prone to blaming others for our problems, we should reconsider and wonder if it is not high time to change our attitude.

            Our world is still at war. Also in the Torah readings for this week the Jews find wars, at the beginning and the end. In the Weekly Torah Commentary — Ki Tetzei September 5, 2014 the author wants us to look at the cause-and-effect relationship, something which is too often overlooked.

            From the writings we can get that the clear absence of unity between parents breeds rebellious children. today we do find lots of families with problems between partners and children. Many adults forget how their actions, their way of treating others, affects their children.

            how parents live affects their children far more than what they say.

            How many times we do see today that partners are not honest to each other and betray the people around them? In how many cases negativity becomes a bigger facto in the family life than positivity. Parents saying to their children they are not doing well enough. Family-members shouting at each other. Are the parents willing to remember the stupid things they did themselves when they were children? Are they willing to accept that their children learn by their mistakes?

            English: We are not born parents we have to le...

            We are not born parents we have to learn how to be parents (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

            In a household each member should help each other to make it work. Together they should aim to go united on the path to greatness by choosing to learn the lessons of every experience we have in life.

            The lesson for all of us is unavoidable: Human beingschildren and adults -are too easily tempted to blame others for their own shortcomings. The Torah sets a higher standard, one consistent with how we were created.

            Every human being has Free Will; regardless of what has happened to you, what parents you had, what hurts you’ve experienced, what hardships you’ve endured, You – and only You – have the responsibility for your decisions. It is ‘we’ not ‘them’ who have the ability and the power to choose whether we will wallow in negativity and in the past; or will we have the wisdom to learn from every life experience, using each one as a stepping stone to greatness. Cycles of abuse and pain can and must be broken. Amon and Moav, as well as Lot, has so many opportunities to learn from their experiences and become great men. It was for choosing to focus on their own feelings of disenfranchisement, their experiences of cruelty and selfishness, their own anger and sense of fatalistic doom, that they were forever barred from the congregation of Israel.

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            Please read the exhortation by Sophia Bar-Lev: Weekly Torah Commentary — Ki Tetzei September 5, 2014

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            Find also to read:

            1. Running away from the past
            2. Trusting, Faith, Calling and Ascribing to Jehovah #15 Exposition before the Creator
            3. Being Religious and Spiritual 7 Transcendence to become one
            4. The Existence of Evil
            5. Satan the evil within
            6. What is life?
            7. Elul Observances
            8. Never making mistakes because never doing anything
            9. We all have to have dreams
            10. Youngster all over the world with the same dream
            11. 30 things to start doing for yourself – #6 is vital.
            12. Not holding back and getting out of darkness
            13. It is a free will choice

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            • Judaism Does Not Allow Us to Hate (algemeiner.com)
              Ki Tetzei contains more laws than any other parsha in the Torah, and it is possible to be overwhelmed by this embarrass de richesse of detail. One verse, however, stands out by its sheer counter-intuitiveness:

              Do not despise an Edomite, because he is your brother.

              Do not despise the Egyptian, because you were a stranger in his land. (Deut. 23: 8 )

              These are very unexpected commands. Understanding them will teach us an important lesson about leadership.
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              If we think less of a person because of the colour of his or her skin, we are repeating the sin of Aaron and Miriam – “Miriam and Aaron spoke against Moses because of the Cushite woman whom he had married, for he had married a Cushite woman” (Num. 12: 1).
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              Generous Tit-for-Tat says, don’t always do to him what he does to you or you may find yourself locked into a mutually destructive cycle of retaliation. Every so often ignore (i.e. forgive) your opponent’s last harmful move. That, roughly speaking, is what the sages meant when they said that God originally created the world under the attribute of strict justice but saw that it could not survive. Therefore He built into it the principle of compassion.
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              Do not forget the past but do not be held captive by it. Be willing to fight your enemies but never allow yourself to be defined by them or become like them. Learn to love and forgive. Acknowledge the evil men do, but stay focused on the good that is in our power to do. Only thus do we raise the moral sights of humankind and help redeem the world we share.

            • Ki Tetzei (thejc.com)
              The term mamzer has no precise English equivalent. Hertz in his translation of the Chumash renders it “bastard”, but clarifies in his commentary that this “does not mean a child born out of wedlock, but the child of an adulterous or an incestuous marriage”.The moral difficulty raised by this law is obvious. Why is the child punished with severely restricted marriage opportunities because of the sins of the parents? Doesn’t this sidrah itself say further on that “Parents shall not be put to death for children, neither shall children be put to death for parents; everyone shall be put to death for his own sin”(24:16)?
            • Ki Tetzei (anitasilvert.wordpress.com)
              I guess before we can fully forgive or be forgiven, we need to engage with the memory of what’s happened, and sometimes it takes time for that to dissipate.  Maybe that’s also why we start thinking about forgiveness a full month before Rosh Hashanah; to give ourselves and even God time to work on the process, and it’s not clear if the process begins with Forgiveness, Remembering or Forgetting.   This year, I’m still in the remembering stage.
            • Ki Tetzei (thejc.com)
              One example of how the laws of war differ from peace time concerns the protection of enemy civilians. Are they protected by the familiar category of pikuach nefesh — the injunction to save life at nearly all costs. Following the approach of the verse above that at wartime many rules are suspended, Rav Yosef Babad of Tarnopol (1800-74) argues in his iconic work, Minchat Chinuch, that there can be no sense in applying pikuach nefesh during a war. On the contrary wars are won by minimising the value of life.
            • Ki-Seitzei: DIY Judaism (5tjt.com)
              We must take precautions. Although we believe in miracles, we are not permitted to rely upon them. There is a Yiddish proverb that “the man destined to drown will drown even in a glass of water.” But that doesn’t mean that you have to be the one to put his head under the hose. In short, we believe in the concept of bashert but we mustn’t live by it. Otherwise, why go to work? We say in the bentching (Grace after Meals) that G‑d is the feeder and provider for all. So if G‑d will support us, why must I schlep off to work?
              Clearly, this is not the Jewish attitude. That’s why it is a commandment of the Torah to safeguard our health. Likewise, we are not to live dangerously by leaving roofs unenclosed or swimming pools unfenced or our doors unlocked. As they say, “Trust in G‑d, but lock your car.”
            • Ki Tetzei: Doing Jewish (anitasilvert.wordpress.com)
              We’re heading into a New Year.  How will you connect your inside spirituality to your outside…connect your Jewish feelings to your Jewish actions?  It isn’t necessarily about praying or changing your kitchen (although…maybe that’s what your spirituality learning leads you).  But maybe you eat a little differently, and know why.  Maybe you take moments to see the good things in your life, and acknowledge them);  maybe you find out about a Jewish way of acknowledging those good things (that’s called blessings).  Jewish life is a verb.  How will you Jew?

             

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