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Not finding yourself as important as to create yourself


It’s not so much about finding yourself,
But to make yourself.

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie > Niet vinden van jezelf zo belangrijk maar creëren van jezelf

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Picking up suitcases of pride


“Every woman that finally figured out her worth,
has picked up her suitcases of pride
and boarded a flight to freedom,
which landed in the valley of change.”
― Shannon L. Alder


Dutch version / Nederlandse versie > Koffers van trots inpakken en wegwezen

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To come to live in the peace of fulfilment of our own Divine Identity

We had a look at Susan Billmaier her views on the turbulence of life, and the transformation of the self.

At her blog SusanWithPearls – Living Life. Learning to do that better. Sharing it here.- she often wonders how we know ourselves and how we do get at what is inside.

Lots of people question their own self and look for way to have a good life. For years they try out several things. Most often they go looking for

The self that… is a deeper self, some say a “higher self”, some say a “Christ self”, or the “Buddha/enlightened self”, in some Native cultures it is called, simply, “beauty”. {Knowing your Self is more than knowing the size of your stomach.}

She writes

 Whatever it is– the moral self, the good will– I am not too particular about the label, or the words– it is simply the best that a person can find within themselves and everyone has it…whether they know it or not. {Knowing your Self is more than knowing the size of your stomach.}

Copyright Tam Black 2013 Designed for susanwithpearls.comShe also knows that man has to come to a point where the individual comes to see that it has its own value and its own reason to be, demanding to take personal action and own personal focus on personal awareness.

My own Loving Presence is my Self. I turn my attention inward and become aware of my own Loving Presence. With my focused awareness, my own Loving Presence fills me, grows brighter, and grows warmer. {Claim only the Self that you love. A Journey of Purpose: Day 32}

Being faced with the self one may not loose that self nor the faith in the self. Being confronted with the surroundings one need also to be willing to go into confrontation with it and with the inner thoughts, at the same time willing to perceive the necessary changes to be taken or the changes going on around the self.

as a guiding thought can be notated

Accept your light and your lightness! Feel your Self expand! As you perceive change around you, remain anchored in your Being of Light. Allow yourself to sit peacefully in the still place of nothingness as life moves quickly around you. {Arguing with myself and losing: Journey of Courage 2017 – Day 19}

Too many people do forget that we are here on this earth because we are allowed to be here by the Most High Divine Creator. Many do not want to know about that Omnipotent, Omniscient, Powerful Eternal Divine Source of all life, existence and knowledge, but also of peace and joy Though daily they are confronted with “Existence” that surrounds them.

In ““Self Fulfilled”: Journey of Fulfillment 2.0 – Day 05” Susan Billmaier looks at the guiding thought

In Divine Mind, I am filled full! All are equally filled full. All are equal in Love. I fill my mind with thoughts of fulfillment and remember what I already know. I am determined to fulfill my purpose, to know my Self as Divine Love, and to share the fullness I am.{“Self Fulfilled”: Journey of Fulfillment 2.0 – Day 05}

For her “Guiding Thoughts”

acts like a guided visualization and I see/experience the words. There are days when reading the Guiding Thought seems to open a channel within me and I can feel energy within me moving in a new or different way. {“My Self Has My Back, Now if It Would Scratch…”: Journey of Abundance 2.0 – Day 33}

First page of "On the Difficulty of Knowi...

First page of “On the Difficulty of Knowing One’s Self”, 1744 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We can only ascertain that lots of people are afraid of looking at them self in the light of a Higher Being that would be Master over them and would be responsible for their being. We can enact that it is difficult for man to accept that there is a Higher Being Mightier than them and giving them all what the can see around them. That High Being wants us to come into a good relationship with our self, with others around us and with Him. He wants us to get filled with that what made Him create us in the first place. Even when the first man rebelled it was His love for man that made He wanted to allow them to take care of themselves and to find solutions for themselves, but providing also The solution to bring an end to their agony, suffering and continues wandering. Also that foreseen solution, the sent one from God, the Messiah, God His own begotten beloved son shared that love of God with mankind and gave his life for all. Like that man of flesh and blood did not want to do his own will, but only did the Will of God, we too should come to a point where we want to do the Will of God and share His love with others.  Only that way we can come to fill our mind and heart with love, aligning with the Light of Truth. Steadfast and focused on our own Loving Presence, than we shall be able to live in the peace of fulfilment of our own Divine Identity.

Copyright Tam Black 2016 Designed for susanwithpearls.com

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Inner Voice

Transformation is easy, when you step into something that already IS.

In the turbulence of life, listen and wait.

How to Live Beyond the Ordinary

Learning that stuff is just stuff

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Additional reading

  1. No curtain placed over tomorrow
  2. There is no true and constant gentleness without humility
  3. Only the contrite self, sick of its pretensions, can find salvation
  4. For those who make other choices
  5. Knowledge of Christ and fear for God
  6. Looking for answers on the question Is there a God #4

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Further writings of interest

  1. Body image bullshit
  2. If I could talk to my younger self
  3. Scattered Thoughts
  4. Spring Cleaning for the Mind
  5. Solitude..
  6. Desires
  7. What’s Happening To Me
  8. “I don’t know what living a balanced life feels like..”
  9. Dear self
  10. Your Greatest Privilege
  11. One-Forty-Five AM Exert- Self Discovery
  12. My sensory problems: The Big List
  13. Flush the Ugly and Soar
  14. Vacay
  15. On Strength
  16. Rejection: What Others Think (Our Challenge)
  17. Color and Character
  18. Making Sense of the Senses
  19. Issue With the Self-Image
  20. It is not what it seems… maybe
  21. Knowing Me…
  22. Am I, a Romantic?
  23. Self Obssession is Getting Out of Hand
  24. The Paradox of Being in the Present Moment
  25. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (1): Introduction
  26. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (2): Mental multiplicity
  27. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (3): Material causes
  28. Who Do You Find Your Worth In? Part 2
  29. A Female Factory Worker & a Writer, the Features of a Woman
  30. Putting Yourself Down: Don’t
  31. Intellectual, maybe not
  32. Work from within: Combatting inflammation with lifestyle changes
  33. Dreaming in India
  34. Connection
  35. The Monkey-Trap
  36. To Open Up, Once More, Memories of a Plant
  37. Selfie Woes
  38. Lets put the self in selfie
  39. The Well of Knowledge
  40. Initially, you are unformed
  41. If I could only…
  42. Time for Changes
  43. Thoughts to Myself
  44. What is love?

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A Brief Thought on Leadership

Not everybody is given to be a leader and not everybody can take up the leadership. The one taking up leadership always should respect those under him, willing to give them something more and offering them positive prospects, putting them on fire, willing to explore, discover, strive, soar and excel.

Joe DeRosa
Joe DeRosa loves marketing and has spent a significant amount of his time and energy studying buyer behaviours. As an executive leader of several Marketing and Sales teams he has gathered vast amounts of data – qualitative and quantitative – around the customer journey.

He, like us, is convinced that leadership is not selfish and that great leaders make it all about their teams which they lead with dignity. As we showed already in our previous postings, life is a learning process. In this competitive world the best leaders should be continuous learners, not claiming to have all the answers nor believing they themselves are the only ones capable of generating great ideas. With many youngsters, this might a be problem today and the cause of so many projects failing in the end.

An other big problem today is the lack of communication or the will to listen to others, and nobody wanting to take responsibilities.

With many of those born in the 1980s and 1990s we find a very placating and narcissistic tendency, many having a very strong ego. Many of them are also not willing to trust others and do not want to share all that they know, but want to be recognised as the one who knows most and best, which is not always so true.

Purpose-driven leaders understand the importance of gratitude.  Being gracious for a job well done separates a good leader from a bad leader.  There’s nothing wrong with expressing your gratitude or thanks to an employee who did a good job even though a good job is what’s expected.  It’s often the smallest acts of kindness that embolden a team to its leader. {10 Things a Leader is Not}

Many youngsters think they know already everything and are often not open to learn more. They forget that everything changes so fast and everyday offers again something knew. For good leaders there is no place for ignorance and no place for such proud that no questions are dared to be posed about matters not known.

In good leadership is also no place for indecisiveness or a regular hesitating attitude.

Enduring leaders know that making decisions are required for leadership longevity.  Those that shy away from making decisions, difficult or easy, don’t last long as leaders.  Indecisive leaders are some of the most difficult leaders to work for. {10 Things a Leader is Not}

LeadershipLet us therefore remember

  • Leadership = collection of experiences, ideas, values, beliefs, and opinions
  • = demonstrating humility while acknowledging = still more to learn
  • not about being right but rather getting it right.

relationship formed through existence of mutual trust

Very important > Knowing when to lead + when to follow = area that separates good from great leaders.

> Please do find to read also:

  1. Should You Clean House? The most difficult question you’ll face as a leader.
  2. Is it time to change?
  3. Leader or Executive – Which Are You?
  4. Preparing to Fail is the First Step to Winning
  5. Best Practices…Who Says?
  6. Your Ability To Change Determines Success or Failure
  7. Are You a Helper, or a Server? An Important Question for Your Brand.
  8. Be An Inspiration
  9. Never Settle
  10. Stop Managing Change, Start Inspiring It
  11. Why Generosity?
  12. How Pressure Affects Performance
  13. 3 Hints to Help You Hit Your Goals in 2016: Hint #1 – Visualization
  14. 3 Hints to Help You Hit Your Goals in 2016: Hint #2 – Write it Down
  15. 3 Hints to Help You Hit Your Goals in 2016: Hint #3 – Tell People

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Failures, mistakes and Initiatives for Excellence and success, Working towards turning a Dream of yours into reality

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Joseph DeRosa

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Leadership is a collection of experiences, ideas, values, beliefs, and opinions. Good leaders ask great questions. Great leaders apply what they’ve learned from those questions to their actions.  It’s not about having,or projecting an attitude, but rather demonstrating humility while acknowledging there is still more to learn. It’s not about being right but rather getting it right.

Leadership is a privilege.  It’s not a right, nor a duty as some may think. It’s a gift given to those who have earned it by demonstrating their desire to serve others. Those who have been given a leadership role without earning it are exposed rather quickly.  People are eager to follow those they believe in, trust, and care about.  That relationship can only be formed through the existence of a mutual trust.  It’s the leaders job to build that trust.  It is granted to the leader who demonstrates his or her genuine interest and caring for…

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Families with four or more kids most happiest

Coming from a big family, I myself also wanted to have a big family, being convinced in such environment the kids can learn how to socialise, to communicate and to cope with different difficult situations. Though I do agree sometimes when the household is too big it is in later generations not always easy to keep contact with each other. therefore personally I think 4 or 5 kids is an ideal.

Family portrait with parents and four daughters.

A family portrait with parents and four daughters. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

According to a study by Australia’s Edith Cowan University, Dr. Bronwyn Harman, of the psychology and social science school at the university, after five years studying what types of families are most content, found out that parents of large families have the most life satisfaction.

During her five-year study, Harman interviewed hundreds of parents from different family makeups. Her findings are based on resilience, social support, self-esteem, and life satisfaction.

Family therapist Lois Braverman, president and CEO of the Ackerman Institute for the Family in New York City, says larger families are probably happier because they always have someone to talk to and count on. They face less isolation. But, despite family size, she says the number one thing that determines happiness is family processes like positive parenting, setting boundaries, showing love and offering consistency.

I also think they learn to be patient with each other and always find ways to enjoy some time together. This time spending with each other is according to me the most important factor to bring happiness in the family. The study also mentioned this sharing time as important factor of happiness, like watching together to television, sitting around the table having lunch together and sharing ideas.

 

Find out more:

Researcher Finds Pattern among Happiest Parents

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Bring Back My Happiness

Bring Back My Happiness (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Believe today and now!

People do have to live with themselves, which is only possible when they accept themselves. First of all they have to believe in themselves. Only when they come to see themselves as a acceptable being in the universe they can go to look further and come to see the Hand behind their own being. Only then faith can come into their life.

You have to believe you can do it and that you can pull out of yourself that of what you are dreaming of.

You have to believe in your self, whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence, or self-assurance, it is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes – the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.

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to get anything done > your life relies on belief

all have dreams, goals and wishes > to achieve them > need to take action

Learn to live

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Believe in yourself!

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Courage

Often we do not want to give ourselves nor others enough time to grow up and to become that what we should really become, or what our destination is. Many dare not to be who they really are and put on a mask for the others instead being themselves and having more self-esteem.

Good to dare to thread the unknown, to gather strength to go into the depths of the valleys and to try out things, whatever others say to discourage. The one who goes his way ardent enough believing in himself will come somewhere where he shall not have to be ashamed for what he accomplished.

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To remember:

  • be awake to your fears
  • gather your strength
  • develop from so many life lessons lived
  • move ahead with courage
  • trust
  • with clarity of purpose and calmness of heart, right action will lead you where you want to go.

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This Abundantly Delicious Life

Courage

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I choose to be awake to my fears, in all their varied forms…fear of not being enough, fear of going too deep, fear of letting go or getting lost, fear of being amazing, fear of the unknown magic of my dreams coming true. From this place of awareness, I choose to gather  my strength, developed from so many life lessons lived, and move ahead with courage, trusting that with clarity of purpose and calmness of heart, right action will lead me where I want to go.

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Shawna Howson over eigenwaarde

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Nanalew (Shawna Howson) is een top-list Canadese Youtuber. Ze heeft hier wat interessante dingen te vertellen over je zelfbeeld. Omdat een laag zelfbeeld kan bijdragen tot het ontstaan of onderhouden van depressieve symptomen vind ik het belangrijk om haar tips en ideeën met jou te delen.

Heb je zelf bedenkingen of wil je je mening delen? Comment gerust!

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