All about giving a gift

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Gifting is all about giving the gift
that sends the right message
in hopefully the kindest way possible.
~ Jewish Young Professional
{JYP’s Holiday Gift Guide! [Updated]}
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The power of random acts of kindness

Shuhua Xiong

Warm words from a stranger. A free cup of coffee. An unexpected ride home. Random acts of kindness such as these can have a powerful effect on their recipient — one that may be underestimated by the perpetrator, according to research published last month.

“People tend to think that what they are giving is kind of little, maybe it’s relatively inconsequential,” said one of the study’s authors, Amit Kumar. “But recipients are less likely to think along those lines. They consider the gesture to be significantly more meaningful because they are also thinking about the fact that someone did something nice for them.”

There may be a social cost to underestimating those acts, he warned: “Not knowing one’s positive impact can stand in the way of people engaging in these sorts of acts of kindness in daily life.”

That kindness boosts well-being is hardly new. Studies have shown that voluntarily helping others can help lower people’s stress levels. Simple acts of connection, like texting a friend, mean more than many of us realize. But researchers who study kindness and friendship say they hope the findings strengthen the case for making these types of gestures more often.

Kindness

 

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Why I love him?? Like, Love him so much?

Well he shaped me from within, it’s a kind of a mental and spiritual growth together with a physical one. He has some special characteristics may we call small flaws that makes him perfect and unique. His kind of kindest heart which is hardly visible to the outside world that he procures for me to see makes me feel so special.

I will share one small incident that never failed to make a mark on me of his character. And honestly there are many many more .

One day some scanvengers came to clean the leakage of one of our septic tanks and after hours of some laborious work that they do started cleaning themselves up. I instantly chided my husband asking him to tell them not to touch the water pipes to wash themselves up, he looked at me so…

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Kindness Makes Everything Better

 

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How To Count (Poem)

 

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How to delineate a life lived?

Let us use not temporal posts of days or years

But limn the finer measure

Of love given and received

Of kindness extended with a free hand

Of compassion shown in minute and larger ways

Of laughter shared with those around.

Choose to see joy

And continue to delight in our communal dance.

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A difficult year soon to forget and a Kindness Calendar

2020 has been a difficult year in so many ways.

This year many have suffered with uncertainty, anxiety, isolation and challenges with their financial situation, health or relationships.

Though we had not many opportunities to meet friends in real life, luckily we had the cool media tools like Zoom, Hangouts, Jitsi meet, Meets, Messenger and FaceTime to have some virtual contact and be some balsam against loneliness. Many did not see directly a solution for their bad feelings and how to continue. They should know they were and are not forgotten.

One thing that can hold us together and help us get through is kindness. Although we can’t change our situation, we can choose to respond to others (and ourselves) with kindness. And when we’re kind, everything goes better. We help others, we help ourselves and we encourage others to be kinder too.

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Do you know there exists a Kindness Calendar?

The Do Good December calendar is full of ideas to help you help others. It’s the advent calendar we need in 2020! Please share the calendar with others

Here’s how you can get involved and make a difference:

• Take daily actions using that calendar and app
• Go deeper & learn more by joining a local group
• Spread the word on social media #DoGoodDecember

This month’s theme is based on Giving: Do things for others which is one of the Ten Keys to Happier Living >> Find out more about the Ten Keys.

To try to act a little kinder than is necessary

”“If every person in this room made it a rule that wherever you are,
whenever you can, you will try to act a little kinder than is necessary –
the world really would be a better place.
And if you do this,
if you act just a little kinder than is necessary,
someone else, somewhere, someday,
may recognize in you, in every single one of you,
the face of God.”

~ Wonder by R.J. Palacio.”

 

A Quote on Kindness

“We may, if we choose, make the worst of one another.
Every one has his weak points; every one has his faults;
we may make the worst of these;
we may fix our attention constantly upon these.
But we may also make the best of one another.

We may forgive, even as we hope to be forgiven.
We may put ourselves in the place of others,
and ask what we should wish to be done to us, and thought of us,
were we in their place.

By loving whatever is lovable in those around us,
love will flow back from them to us,
and life will become a pleasure instead of a pain;
and earth will become like heaven;
and we shall become not unworthy followers of Him whose name is love.”

 

A Quote on Kindness from the The Lutheran Ladies Connection blog daily devotional. The author is A.P. Stanley(1815–1881) who was an English churchman and academic, Dean of Westminster, from 1864 to 1881, author of a number of works on Church History.

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Window 190 – The door to our truth, can only be opened from within

A Window Of Wisdom

“When we are unable to face the truth of our own feelings, we will vent our emotional pain upon anyone that goes against what we are trying to control, due to the exhaustion of representing our self as the truth, we wish we could be.”

 True freedom can only be felt when we stop concealing our thoughts, desires, and beliefs, and stop pretending to be someone we are not, or pleasing others out of fear; for when our truth is spoken, our spirit emerges, and our fear becomes void, to which freedom of our true self takes flight.

~ WOW ~

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High Recognitions . . . We must enrich the Earth with love and kindness.

We are not the owners of this world, but as renters and permitted users we have to take care of what is given to us to live in and to share our love.

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie: Hoge herkenningen. . . We moeten de aarde verrijken met liefde en vriendelijkheid.

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Looking forward to a year full of Kindness

Kindness to Yourself

Where It All Needs to Start

The smallest act of kindness…..

Constant kindness can accomplish much.

. . . he who plants kindness gathers love.

The world needs a bit more Kindness and Compassion

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2. It’s A Small World After All
3. Despondency Act 3: Earth Disheveled
4. Who’s Space is it anyway?
5. When Polluters Cannot Hide
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7. Powered by Nature
8. Elements: Earth (Part 3)
9. 1 Million
10. big blue
11. Researchers can’t tell if any newfound worlds could sustain life – Axios
12. Recover health, hope and happiness with the help of trees — guest post
13. Evolution

Purplerays

“We must enrich the Earth with love and kindness.
We must hold our hands over plants and animals and protect them,
for we are servants, guardians, protectors,
and consequently masters on Earth!”

– Roselis von Sass(The Truth About the Incas)

Text & image source: Garden of Illumination https://web.facebook.com/Garden-of-Illumination-1433140463620723/

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The world needs a bit more Kindness and Compassion

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Looking forward to a year full of Kindness

Kindness to Yourself

Where It All Needs to Start

The smallest act of kindness…..

Constant kindness can accomplish much.

. . . he who plants kindness gathers love.

Purplerays

“The Little Boy and the Old Man
Said the little boy, “Sometimes I drop my spoon.”
Said the old man, “I do that too.”
The little boy whispered, “I wet my pants.”
I do that too,” laughed the little old man.
Said the little boy, “I often cry.”
The old man nodded, “So do I.”
But worst of all,” said the boy, “it seems
Grown-ups don’t pay attention to me.”
And he felt the warmth of a wrinkled old hand.
I know what you mean,” said the little old man.”

~Shel Silverstein

Artist~Daniel Kevin
Text & image source: Rest in the Arms of Angels https://web.facebook.com/Rest-in-the-Arms-of-Angels-164081253667227/

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. . . he who plants kindness gathers love.

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie: . . . hij die vriendelijkheid zaait, verzamelt liefde

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Kindness to Yourself

Where It All Needs to Start

The smallest act of kindness…

Constant kindness can accomplish much

Purplerays

“A good deed is never lost;
he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and…
he who plants kindness gathers love.”

~Saint Basil

Artist~Frederick Morgan
Text & image source: Rest in the Arms of Angels https://web.facebook.com/Rest-in-the-Arms-of-Angels-164081253667227/

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Constant kindness can accomplish much.

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie: Constante vriendelijkheid kan veel bereiken

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Kindness to Yourself

Where It All Needs to Start

The smallest act of kindness…..

 

Purplerays

Constant kindness can accomplish much.
As the sun makes ice melt,
kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust
and hostility to evaporate.

– Albert Schweitzer

Text & image source: Precious World https://www.facebook.com/ourpreciousworld/

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The smallest act of kindness…..

> Dutch version / Nederlandse versie: De kleinste daad van vriendelijkheid …..

Purplerays

“The smallest act of kindness is worth more
than the grandest intention.”

– Oscar Wilde

Text & image source: Precious World https://www.facebook.com/ourpreciousworld/

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Where It All Needs to Start

Uninterestedness, self-centredness, self-assurance, lust are characteristics of all times. But as time goes by, it is important that man pays more attention to how he lives and how he relates to the environment, the other creatures that the Creator has provided for man.

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“We must think critically…” to check what to nurture and leading yourself towards love – guiding to a place of courage and compassion, generosity and hope, joy and kindness and forgiveness and integrity.

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Kindness to Yourself

Adventures of the Madcap Christian Scientist

You know, this stuff didn’t start with Trump. The greed, the racism, the me-firstness, the bullying, the dishonesty, the corruption, the mean-spiritedness – that stuff has been a part of our society and politics for a long time – the only difference in the last couple of years is that it’s come out in the open – people almost seem proud of their hate and greed and dishonesty now. And to see all of that being played out in front of us – in the open – is disheartening, yes. But… here’s what gives me hope: It seems to me that if there’s been a rise in acts of hatred, there’s also been a rise in acts of kindness in the last couple years – people seem, to me, to be more conscious and deliberate about kindness.

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Kindness to Yourself

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Additional reading

1. Created in the image of the Elohim to use their likeness properly
2. Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair
3. He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass
4. Call to help others
5. The truest greatness lies in being kind
6. Kindness
7. If you want to go far in life
8. Be kinder than necessary
9. Spread love everywhere you go
10. When we love we do not need laws
11. The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands
12. A man who cannot forgive others
13. If there is bitterness in the heart
14. Guard well within yourself that treasure, kindness
15. For attractive lips, speak words of kindness
16. The first on the list of the concerns of the saint
17. Looking for True Spirituality 5 Fruitage of the Spirit
18. The Nazarene master teacher learning people how they should behave
19. Matthew 12:33-37 – The Nazarene’s Commentary: Judgment Day
20. Be sound in mind and be vigilant with a view to prayers
21. Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience
22. International Day of Happiness!

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My Journey back to Love

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I met up with the person who told me I need to be with a man again. He looked happier this time which is good. I am happy for him. He continued to ask me different questions to see if there is any guy interested in me these days. I am not looking for one. I avoided mentioning any name and gender of my new friends but eventually after asking for a while in vain he finally asked me if there was any boy. Pretty much half of the time we were talking about it. To me he was forcing his opinion on me even though he said he wasn’t. I wish I was better then I would have been able to defend myself better.

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Looking forward to a year full of Kindness

Christine Greenwood is an author, health consultant and business entrepreneur, who finds New years time to be a time for reflection of the past year and goal setting for the coming year. She is also a huge believer in reflection of the year past, distilling the wisdom of lessons learned and a big believer in prayerfully setting annual goals for the year to come and practical strategies of how to get there. {2019 – Our Year of Kindness}

One of the goals she likes to set are character goals, things that she would like to concentrate on her life for that year. For 2019 one she wants to share  is Kindness. She writes

I have discovered that every person that I deeply respect and love have has a common attribute. They are Kind. Deeply, consistently, and unapologetically Kind. {2019 – Our Year of Kindness}

Lovely to hear that those people around her have that common attribute. That is not so obvious or normal as many would hope for. Kindness becomes a rare aspect of our materialist world. Not many people are having empathy with others or are willing to show their good heart for them. Kindness is missing in a lot of discussions and talks on the social media. Over-there we can see a lot of ugly words and calling names. The way people talk today says a lot of the wrong going of our society. We have to admit in the so called civilised countries the way they treat people is not always better than in the uncivilised countries.

When Christine Greenwood tries to define kindness, she admits to falter.

If we would know her husband we, according to her, would know that he is gentleness and kindness personified in public. She tells us

I can assure you he is even kinder behind closed doors. It can be mildly infuriating, especially when I am feeling impatient or entitled. {2019 – Our Year of Kindness}

When looking at a person his or her “kindness” we can notice  this in the reflection of the way a person acts and reacts. Often kindness shows up before we have to ask for something.

I feel loved with acts of service. Knowing this he cleans every week till the house shines. Even when I am home from work, or on holidays. He does it as though it is his sole joy. He always takes the clothes out of the dryer and off the line and folds them as I also hate this job. These small things mean the world to me. {2019 – Our Year of Kindness}

And perhaps it is in the many small things that we can discover the pure and real love and kindness. It might be difficult to describe or define, yet kindness is easy to recognise in people around us.

If we all think about kindness a person in our lives will always spring to mind as someone who is innately kind. {2019 – Our Year of Kindness}

Kindness is an underrated quality that Mrs. Greenwood is seeking after in her life.

Before we can be kind to others we should be kind to ourselves. To do so we also have to know ourself and love ourself. Practice ‘Kindness’ to yourself is an essential part for making a good life for yourself but also for the others around you. As such a person has to learn to be kind for when he or she feels tired or sad, give himself or herself permission to stop to feel that there are others who care about him or her. Most important is it when the person comes to see how we have a much Greater Being that cares for us. It is when we start feeling and knowing that we have a  heavenly Father Who knows our heart and Who is close to the broken hearted and loves to comfort us in our grief. {Kindness In 2019 – Continued}

Christine Greenwood promises

I am going to practice Kindness and release myself from a drive to provide for our family and know that God is our provider and I need not strive for with the motivation of financial resource but rather the Kingdom and let God in his Kindness be our Provider.

I will practice Kindness to myself in everything I do, I refuse to compare myself to others. For I am unique and nobody can do what I can do. {Kindness In 2019 – Continued}

We should remember to

Practice Kindness and do not force yourself to do anything that you do not enjoy or that you cannot maintain. Find something that you love to do. That you would do for Fun. Whether it is walking, dancing, running or surfing and make time to do it. For it is being Kind to yourself.  {Kindness In 2019 – Continued}

Big problem in our society of social media is that lots of people want to shine in front of others and dare not to show their real “me”. Many people let their expectations about you known by presenting themselves better than they are or by pushing you should also have this or that, or wear this or that.

Practice Kindness to your body by giving your body permission to be whatever it decides to be and celebrate it. No one else cares about the muffin top over your jeans more than you. No one notices it. You are glorious.

Practice Kindness and wear what makes you feel beautiful and comfortable at the same time. Who cares about what the latest trend is. You dance to the beat of your own drum. No need to conform to anyone around you. Find your own style and flaunt it!   {Kindness In 2019 – Continued}

In all this, what surrounds us, we should place ourself as we want to be ourself. We also should remember that kindness is our greatest commodity and is life changing. Though it’s definition may be hard to profess.

Kindness is in the small things {Kindness – Our Greatest Commodity – A Poem}

Kindness is the outworking of the love one has for an other. It is taking time for the other and showing gratitude. Kindness also shows when a person is willing to show his dedication to the other and willingness for doing the unexpected things to help others or to be there for others, showing the agape love.

Kindness shows also by the way a person communicates with the other and by the way he or she chooses words and speaks with patience and love.

The best way to bring and show kindness is to give out kindness and friendship without expecting something in return. It starts by showing respect, compassion, positivity, and love. Kindness can come around when we treat everyone as we would like to be treated ourselves.

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Inspiration to Boost your Karma in the New Year

don’t look at me in that tone of voice!

When remaining angry

High time to show the way to peace

Tunnel under resentment

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Additional reading

1. Created in the image of the Elohim to use their likeness properly
2. Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair
3. He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass
4. Call to help others
5. The truest greatness lies in being kind
6. Kindness
7. If you want to go far in life
8. Be kinder than necessary
9. Spread love everywhere you go
10. When we love we do not need laws
11. The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands
12. A man who cannot forgive others
13. If there is bitterness in the heart
14. Guard well within yourself that treasure, kindness
15. For attractive lips, speak words of kindness
16. The first on the list of the concerns of the saint
17. Looking for True Spirituality 5 Fruitage of the Spirit
18. The Nazarene master teacher learning people how they should behave
19. Matthew 12:33-37 – The Nazarene’s Commentary: Judgment Day
20. Be sound in mind and be vigilant with a view to prayers
21. Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience
22. International Day of Happiness!

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14. Have You Said More Than You’ve Done?
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17. Good Stuff This Week | Vol. 14
18. Ran Into My Friend Tony
19. Thoughts
20. Heading Toward a Digital-Filled-Future?
21. Love Language
22. Kindness: it is always possible
23. 47 for 47 – Act of kindness #24
24. 75 Acts of Kindness that Are Sure To Inspire Others to Pay It Forward
25. His Kindness
26. Sermon on the Mount Part 1: Beatitudes
27. But the fruit of the Spirit is…
28. The Only Power to Change: Goodness And Kindness

 

When remaining angry

MSW blog likes to tell his clients

“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind. Now, just imagine if you spent those sixty seconds providing self love and/or kindness.,,”

(in a reaction on How could I possibly be offended?: about  being angry, resentful, filled with hate and plagued with a vindictive heart, which is tantamount to drinking poison.)

Read also:

From a stumbling spiritual pilgrim on his way from one place to an other on a journey of self-discovery, in the spirit of service, generosity, and gratitude, but has little sympathy for the perpetually aggrieved:

1. How could I possibly be offended?
2. How could I possibly be offended?
3. The kind of danger we are ready for is the kind we can face from a safe distance
4. When you can’t look on the bright side, I’ll sit with you in the dark -Alice in Wonderland

Plus from Real Life of an MSW

1. Kindness Gone Awry
2. Radom Act of Kindness

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Anger: When I get angry, I suffer, because anger is always unjustified, and, deep inside, I know that.  Help me to turn to my journal and vent there when I am overwrought.  I never get angry unless I am stressed.

Inspiration to Boost your Karma in the New Year

In a world where there is a growing decease of indifference let us make sure we are ready to be there for and to help others.

Find Your Middle Ground

Every year I like to review this list to bring good Karma to the year ahead, and beyond. This year I have added more self compassion and kindness towards others. Let me know what resonates with you this year.

1. Keep your word.
2. Be curious. Listen to understand.
3. Show respect to everyone you encounter.
4. Be respectful of those you haven’t met.
5. Be a good friend.
6. Look for the best in everyone.
7. Be kind to others.
8. Be kind to yourself.
9. Forgive others.
10. Forgive yourself.
11. When you make a mistake say, “I’m sorry.
12. Pour out your love when someone asks for it.
13. Put your children’s needs before your own.
14. When someone is speaking to you, be fully present and listen.
15. Express yourself joyfully.
16. Don’t be cruel with your words.
17. Be grateful for everything you have. It is more than enough.
18. Share your wisdom with those who ask for it.
19. Give away what you…

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Tunnel under resentment

Tunnel under resentment
and take the subway to forgiveness.

…be kind to one another,
tender-hearted, forgiving one another,
just as God in Christ also forgave you.’
Ephesians 4:32

Dear God
Let me be strong enough
to respect every creature around me
and to be a living example of a true Christian,
or serious follower of your only begotten son Jesus,
prepared to forgive those
who did wrong or even do not like me.