What IF you’re only driven by stress?

As first posting I come to present something which is not of my own, but which I would like to share with you, because it can be a good lesson for all of us, how bad previous experiences can lighten us up and can let us conquer many negative things , by helping others.

The writer of this reblogged article is Eman Kawas, who had a very nasty experience in her life. There were times when people disappointed her and let her down, but those were the times when she had to remind herself to trust her own judgement and opinions, to keep her life focused on believing in herself and all that she was and is capable of.

Every person in this world caries her or his own story with awful but also nice experiences. All of us will have to face challenges to make in their life. The outside world may put pressure on us with many things. We should know we always should be in charge to make our own choices and that we can not be called guilty for those things which happened to us, without our consent.

In our life we often let us be carried away by bad experiences or let others ‘kill our spirit’ because of bad things they have done to us or like to do to us. At work, in our neighbourhood, in our circle of friends and family, we may encounter many circumstances which would like to impress on us positively but also negatively.

To make the best out of our life we first of all have to know where we stand and where  we would like to be. Before we can go forward in our life we get to get rid of all the ballast and do away all the dirt lying in front of us.
We have to take care we do not have to face a negative emotion that can produce negative experiences. Because once negative experiences are present, they can take us in a negative spiral, downward on the road instead of upwards. Basic daily events or tasks at hand, may never going to suck the good energies from us and turn them into negative energies. We may never let it come to a point where that what we have to do or to tackle comes to look like impossible or seems not to be solved.
We always should take care that we are able to be ready to undertake the ‘battle of life’. We should take care we do not come into a situation where we think the only solution would be to take a flight. We should always remember that we have to choose to fight our given problems and that we never should fear so much man, or run away from them. (the only One we should really fear is the Divine Creator God. )

When we become aware of too much stress we should think about going into the defence by ‘becoming calmer’ and by using the flight of the ‘own personality’, making sure that you start to regain your full positive energy from your life.

Never may we get carried away by thinking our stress is a sign of weakness. It is up to us to make us stronger by putting all experiences up to the good and to relative many issues. Sometimes taking distance of what bothers us can help. Going for a stroll or a nice walk in the green nature, calming us down and taking care we come not so stressful that we do come in a circle of depression.

A little bit of stress or anxiety can help us to stay alert and to stimulate us to undertake certain actions. Let us use it for our advantage to create new things and to be very active. But let it not destroy our creativity nor our aim to continue that what we believe would be good.
Therefore always keep faith in yourself, believe in yourself and in your own family and always ‘stay your self’ whatever the circumstances may be. Always keeping your own personality shall already avoid much of stress taking you down.

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To take in consideration:

Dangers:

• whatever you achieve is not satisfying to you and something is always missing
• constantly looking for something that you don’t know what it is

Signs:

• faced by “sink or swim situations”
• driven by negative impulses or stress
• dissatisfaction
• not feeling to achieve
• feeling bored
• cynicism
• strange reactions from your part
• short answers
• mistrust
• feeling like running on our toes
• overeating, heart disease, hypertension, stroke

Avoid:

• exposing yourself to long- term stress > causing physical dysfunction
• let it drive you
• neglect of spiritual life
• loosing hopes, loves, dreams, plans
• to be taken by the maelstrom of the earthly experience
• negative people
• constant noise(background music)
• uncomfortable clothing (too tight shoes, hosiery, itchy sweater)
• too much stuff, a cluttered home or office
• disorder around you

Solutions:

• see challenges as opportunities to succeed
• set smart goals for yourself => Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely goals
• remain positive > ready for opportunities that rise
• bring a sense of connection, renewal and  energy
• dare to think things over and try to meditate on it
• let it be useful > if it was a short-term stress
• keep people from stealing your joy
• keep optimistic
• concentrate on the nice things around you
• seek someone else’s love and assistance
• talk with someone close to yo, whom you can trust
• be ready yourself for others
• bless different circumstances and bless others around you
• concentrate on the people with positive thoughts
• concentrate on the positive thoughts in yourself
• focus on shifting what drives you from stress to performance – from negative to positive –
• nurture yourself as any garden does
• realize > what truly makes a difference = way you see things.
• Do know what your driver is
• Remember Which Source you can have with you

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Additional reading:

1. What is life?
2. A philosophical error which rejects the body as part of the human person
3. Materialism, would be life, and aspirations
4. Searching for fulfillment and meaning through own efforts, facing unsatisfaction and depression
5. Kitty Werthmann her account of growing up in Austria under Nazi regime
6. Fragments from the Book of Job #7 Epilogue
7. Fear knocked at the door
8. 8 fears caused by the fear of Man
9. Depression Is and When
10. How do you keep people from stealing your joy?
11. Seems no future in suffering
12. Suffering
13. Suffering – through the apparent silence of God
14. Suffering continues
15. Suffering leading to joy
16. Surprised by time in joys & sufferings
17. Words from God about suffering
18. Working of the hope
19. Getting out of the dark corners of this world
20. Running away from the past
21. Walking in the Light of Life
22. Hope does not disappoint us
23. If you do pray you shall not be disappointed
24. Always a choice
25. We have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace
26. The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands
27. Aligned
28. To Work Longer or Die Younger
29. We all have to have dreams
30. Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement
31. Peace Takes You
32. Answering a fool according to his folly
33. Feeling-good, search for happiness and the church
34. Feel-good Factor?
35. How to Feel Good About Yourself
36. Ageing and Solidarity between generations
37. Everything that is done in the world is done by hope
38. Faith is knowing there is an ocean because you have seen a brook.
39. Hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark
40. Hope does not disappoint us
41. See the conquest and believe that we can gain the victory
42. Change should not be stressful
43. Happiness is like manna
44. Spreading good cheer contagious
45. Spark of Positivism
46. Thanksgiving wisdom: Why gratitude is good for your health
47. Importance of parents 1
48. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
49. Depression, Anxiety, Pressure and megachurches
50. Breathing and growing with no heir
51. Come ye yourselves apart … and rest awhile (Mark 6:31)
52. United people under Christ
53. Commit your self to the trustworthy creator

 

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Find also:

How to Relieve Stress (with Stress Relief Techniques) – wikiHow How to Relieve Stress. Stress. We all deal with it. Whether it be our jobs, family life, drama with friends, a relationship problem, or finances, stress is there. http://www.wikihow.com/Relieve-Stress

How to Deal With Stress (with Stress Reduction Techniques) How to Deal With Stress. Life can be stressful; sometimes you’ll have to deal with ongoing stress positively. Stress can have a variety of causes such as family … http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Stress

How to Create a Stress Ball: 5 Steps – wikiHow Feeling stressed a lot? Having a way to relieve stress at your desk, in front of the TV, or wherever your health and one very simple way is to use a stress ball for … http://www.wikihow.com/Create-a-Stress-Ball

Managing Stress – how to articles from wikiHow wikiHow has Managing Stress how to articles with step-by-step instructions and photos. http://www.wikihow.com/Category:Managing-Stress

How to Avoid Stress During the Holidays: 12 Steps (with Pictures) How to Avoid Stress During the Holidays. Although the holiday season is supposed to bring joy and harmony to all, the many expectations that lay behind the … http://www.wikihow.com/Avoid-Stress-During-the-Holidays

How to Beat Workplace Stress: 12 Steps (with Pictures) – wikiHow How to Beat Workplace Stress. People in many professions work well over the usual 40 hour work week and end up bringing workplace stress home with them. http://www.wikihow.com/Beat-Workplace-Stress

How to Avoid Stress on the Internet: 7 Steps (with Pictures) How to Avoid Stress on the Internet. Believe it or not, using the Internet can be a major source of stress for some people. This article will offer some tips of … http://www.wikihow.com/Avoid-Stress-on-the-Internet

How to Be Calm in a Stressful Situation (with Helpful Techniques) Identify the cause of your stress. Is your heart pounding because that idiot just cut you off on the freeway, or is it because of that presentation you have to give to … http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Calm-in-a-Stressful-Situation

How to Reduce Stress (with Stress Relief Techniques) – wikiHow How to Reduce Stress. Reducing the stress in your life will take a lot of reflection and action, but it will be worth it. If you’re less stressed, you’ll be able to sleep … http://www.wikihow.com/Reduce-Stress

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  To be healthier in every way, we need to consciously take care of this important part of us in a way that heals cynicism as well as other signs of stress. What’s needed is a rethink about how we view our world and our place in it.

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  It’s more than easy to dip into stress and frustration when circumstances in our lives allow for it, and here, I’d like to offer five things we can do when stressful situations pile on and make it harder to be in a positive space.
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  Remember that you’re never alone, and if you need to, take some time off from whatever’s stressing you out and ease into your unfolding higher-vibrational perception. In due time, stress will cease to bring people down like it has for so long, but for now, we have to be able to be here for each other when it gets the best of us.

  Stay strong, fellow seekers, because stress or no stress, our greatest work is just beginning.

 

 

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I am talking about when whatever you achieve is not satisfying to you and something is always missing, when you’re constantly looking for something that you don’t know what it is, then you still get things done but the motivation differs.
Those are signs that you are driven by stress, when you’re faced by “sink or swim situations” and that’s the only way that you would go above and beyond, then that’s when you realize you are driven by stress. A recent discovery took me to a place to see the reason I am dissatisfied, not achieved or maybe just bored.
Performance driven people are the ones that see challenges as opportunities to succeed; they tend to set SMART goals for themselves, no magic involved (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely goals) and remain positive to be ready for the opportunities that rise, on the other hand stress driven people perceive…

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