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The world needs a bit more Kindness and Compassion

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“The Little Boy and the Old Man
Said the little boy, “Sometimes I drop my spoon.”
Said the old man, “I do that too.”
The little boy whispered, “I wet my pants.”
I do that too,” laughed the little old man.
Said the little boy, “I often cry.”
The old man nodded, “So do I.”
But worst of all,” said the boy, “it seems
Grown-ups don’t pay attention to me.”
And he felt the warmth of a wrinkled old hand.
I know what you mean,” said the little old man.”

~Shel Silverstein

Artist~Daniel Kevin
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Don’t cry because it’s over



“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
Dr. Seuss


Dutch version / Nederlandse versie > Ween niet omdat het voorbij is

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Evil wins when the good does not act.

‘Level 4’ is now a concept
The attacks in Brussels on 22 March were nothing short of vile. It was a tragedy, a disaster that everyone experienced as totally reprehensible. Everyone, in their anger and desperation, was looking for words they could not find. At the same time to remain silent or do nothing was not an option. Thousands gathered in squares and other public places. They marched in silence, sang, wrote things down, burned candles or laid down flowers. One did not want to give in but give a clear sign.

This happening between people surpassed us.
When language is not available, we reach out for symbols. A symbol can express without words the indignation, sadness and compassion that lives within us . A symbol is more however than just a ‘sign’.

“The symbols we use are real , in the sense that they work and do not fail their effect“,

wrote Han Fortmann once. A society that is criticised for being individualistic, experienced a kind of renaissance of ‘shared values’ on the 22nd of March in its solidarity with the victims and in its compassion with the families. This rebirth did however not remove the calamity that happened to us.

It put things in a perspective.
If terror seeks destruction and chaos , at the same time it creates its opposites. In tears, but through the madness it mobilised citizens who chanted:

We are not afraid!”

The rubble of destruction had to make place for defiance, while chaos was immediately transformed into solidarity, togetherness and commitment.

“To cry is the first prophetic deed in human history. Only when we have the capacity to cry with others, in compassion, can we change the culture of death into a culture of life”.

BzN-Mov Without a Name-Logo_EN– Hyun Kyung Chung

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Previous articles

Just be yourself…

From Guestwriters 2015 in review

Christians at War? Christians using violence?

Before you blame All Muslims for the terrorist attack in Paris

Paris, in Retrospect

Tears for Belgium

Bruxelles Ma Belle

A darker and stranger place

Il terrorismo è l’urlo di un bambino al buio

Bringers of agony, Trained in Belgium and Syria

A charter for a truly free world and why we need it

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie: Kwaad wint als goed niets doet

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Additional reading

  1. A world in denial
  2. Christian fundamentalism as dangerous as Muslim fundamentalism
  3. Public not informed enough about Jihad terrorism in Belgium
  4. Summary for the year 2015 #1 Threat and fear
  5. 2015 Human rights
  6. Brussels’ Jewish Museum re-opened on Sunday
  7. Brussels-born Salah Abdeslam key suspect Paris terrorist attacks
  8. Daesh hits heart of Europe
  9. A Black day for Belgium – Brussels Airport ravage
  10. Knife-trust in democratic sore back
  11. Tears for Belgium
  12. Reaction from U.S.A. President Barack Obama
  13. De getuigen bij Pauw zijn bekende uit dezelfde hoek
  14. What Associated Press released on Wednesday 23 March 2016
  15. Iranian media implicitly accuse Erdogan to have known of the Bruxelles’s attacks in advance
  16. Hard questions
  17. Terrorist attacks in brussels
  18. Social media, sympathy & shocks
  19. Belgian Muslims Refusing to Aid Police in Finding Terrorists
  20. Europe unites to defeat terror
  21. Silence, devotion, Salafists, quietists, weaponry, bombings, books, writers and terrorists
  22. Internet meeting 2016 March 30, Tuesday
  23. Is God behind all suffering here on earth

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Further reading

  1. Conflict, Attack and Situations That Seem Impossible to Overcome
  2. How to face new waves of terrorism
  3. Muslim Options in the West
  4. Islamic State committing genocide against Yazidis: U.N.
  5. Terror
  6. U.S. officials say American Muslims do report extremist threats
  7. ISIS working to send operatives to the West for further attacks: US spy chief
  8. Right-wing homegrown extremism continues to be ignored
  9. The Danger Of “Right-Wing Extremists”
  10. Because “you can’t handle the truth..”
  11. The good the bad and the unsettling
  12. “Bad as it is that President Obama refuses to use the words “Islamist terror,” it’s far worse that he’s put blinders on everyone who’s supposed to be keeping America safe”
  13. Killing of Two Police Officers in Paris a ‘Terrorist Act’, President Hollande Says
  14. French police alerted to possible arrival of extremist fighters
  15. In Brussels police arrest 12 ‘plotting to attack during Belgium-Ireland match’
  16. Belgian authorities charge 3 in major anti-terror raid
  17. What in the world?
  18. Citizen With Firearm Stops Muslim Terrorist
  19. How To Stop Most Homegrown Terrorists—-Shutdown The FBI Sting Operations | David Stockman’s Contra Corner
  20. CIA Chief: ISIS Still a Threat
  21. G. Edward Griffin: This Story Could Be the Smoking Gun For All False-Flag Ops :: The Last Great Stand
  22. A Week of Terror
  23. War on Terror_ Nothing is as it appears to be
  24. France will see further terror attacks: PM
  25. My terrorists: rich old white guys
  26. Countering Jihad
  27. Not Islamic terror
  28. ISIS killer posts chilling Facebook video after murdering French policeman and wife
  29. Crimes and misdemeanors of Pulse shooting
  30. Not again!!!!
  31. Terrorism too close to home …
  32. American Bataclan?
  33. Orlando Nightclub Shooting: Questions and Anomalies Surround ‘Worst Mass Shooting in U.S. History’ « Memory Hole
  34. How America’s Mass Shooters Now Use Weapons of War | Mother Jones
  35. The Orlando massacre: the lies, the exploitation and unasked questions | The Vineyard of the Saker
  36. Flawed, Angry, Grief-Stricken – But We Will Not Succumb to Terror
  37. French police march silently to honor ISIS attack victims
  38. A Distressing Morning
  39. The Orlando Morass
  40. Orlando suspicions: Multiple shooters, multiple ‘motives’ and a siege that just doesn’t add up | Truth and Shadows
  41. Seventy-two killed resisting gun confiscation in Boston! | Fauquier Free Citizen
  42. Orlando ‘Known Wolf’ Watched by FBI, Worked with DHS, Amid Crisis Actors, Drills & CI’s
  43. City Officials Reportedly Won’t Turnover Fire Code Inspection Records For Pulse Nightclub | LawNewz
  44. Orlando attack: Gunman’s ‘struggle with his true sexuality’ could have made him snap
  45. Orlando gunman describes himself as ‘Islamic soldier’ in chilling 911 transcripts
  46. 19 June 2016. A Foreign Response to Orlando
  47. “Gun sales surge among gays, lesbians after Orlando shooting”
  48. Did FBI Informants Assist Mateen in the Orlando Shooting?
  49. Exploiting the Orlando nightmare
  50. Jimm Fallon Addresses Orlando Shootings In ‘Tonight Show’ Monologue
  51. Orlando Shooting: Is God Hate or Love?
  52. Obama’s cerebral reaction to terror tested in Orlando
  53. Pulse Nightclub Shooting Original Tribute Song
  54. Threats against Muslims must stop after Orlando attack: US
  55. Tens of thousands attend Orlando vigil
  56. My Opinion on… Orlando
  57. My Thoughts for Orlando
  58. Thoughts on the latest terror attack
  59. Bubble Explosion: The Orlando Tragedy
  60. Man Who Claims To Be Omar Mateen’s Gay Lover Says The Orlando Shooting Was Revenge, Not Terror
  61. “Gun sales surge among gays, lesbians after Orlando shooting”
  62. Taliban suicide bomber kills at least 14 in Afghan capital
  63. Boko Haram Attacks Force 50,000 to Flee Homes
  64. Suspected Fulani Herdsmen Attacked Ogun State
  65. Millitants Finding their way in Ogun State – Commissioner of Police
  66. Taliban suicide bombing kills 14 Nepalese guards in Kabul
  67. A theory of attacks?
  68. The Outrageous Attack on Conservative Christians After the Orlando Massacre
  69. Still Redacted, Still Deceiving
  70. Zero tolerance for hate speech, says Shanmugam
  71. The eyes of free will
  72. #27 – Hatebreed / Madball / Hate Eternal /Terror
  73. #75: Coward
  74. Conspiracy theorists are harassing the families of women killed in mass shootings
  75. Man arrested at Heathrow Airport on suspicion of terrorism
  76. November lectures in US: How the Mideast will react to the election
  77. 6 troops killed, 14 injured in car bomb attack on Syria border
  78. Terror v Trust
  79. Sharia and Freedom
  80. War and Ignorance
  81. Love breeds Love, so does Hate breeds…
  82. Does one person have control to stop Every bad thing in the world?
  83. Hatred and Division Make Me Sick
  84. Capitulo 4 – Indicios

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Not an easy decision to make

Too many people forget in what for a difficult situation a female person may be placed when she has to choose what to do with what is growing inside her body.

Previously, before the moment the where confronted with something coming in them, they perhaps had to undergo already a lot of suffering which caused them to close their heart,

for the fear that they live in, and for all of things that they are missing out on because their hearts are hurting so much that they cannot accept the love that they are offered. {Though the words were not written about this subject, we have taken the liberty to use this beautiful phrase from the nice writing: The Sound of a Breaking Heart}

Human fetus at eight weeks. According to Catho...

Human fetus at eight weeks. According to Catholics, the debates on abortion make the human embryo and fetus signs of contradiction (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The person involved in a tragedy may well realise that the answer to her questions about the horrific slaughter of innocent people is linked to hardened hearts, but she does not want to harden her heart, because it is hurt. In herself her heart is crying, crying out loud; But not many do seem to understand her crying.

She feels the reality that

the ones who need love most are the ones who ask for it in the least loving ways, {The Sound of a Breaking Heart}

But love is often broken by heartless people, who do not mind to show their ‘higher power’.

Having been hurt ones or even more than one time, now she would get her feelings hurt a lot. And it is not that she would know better and know that while some people still aren’t aware of the love that they are capable of, she does know that we should all be capable of loving to great measures. But then why does not show the world that comprehension and love?

Though she might understand that every human heart is prone to corruption – her own included, she does not understand why so many point a finger at her, wishing to condemn her to hell.

Have those who criticise the made decision having thought what they themselves would do if they were raped or would be a victim of incest, or would be confronted with congenital malformation of the foetus?

It is so easy to condemn but so the more difficult to understand.

English: 44years old gravid female with previo...

44years old gravid female with previous 6 children, was diagnosed with carcinoma in situ of cervix (early stage cancer of womb). So total removal of uterus( woomb) considered with fetus in situ, for long life of the female. So abortion was inevitable for future health of the lady. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Do those who are against abortion also think about certain cases where other matters have to be taken in account? Do they know about the many critical situations there exist for women like Ana and Aurora, two Costa Rican women who were carrying foetuses that would not survive, but which doctors did not allow them to abort.

In late 2006, a medical exam when Ana was six weeks pregnant showed that the foetus suffered from encephalocele, a malformation of the brain and skull incompatible with life outside the womb.

Ana, 26 years old at the time, requested a therapeutic abortion, arguing that carrying to term a fetus that could not survive was causing her psychological problems like depression. But the medical authorities and the Supreme Court did not authorise an abortion. In the end, her daughter was born dead after seven hours of labour.

The Collective for the Right to Decide and the Washington-based Center for Reproductive Rights brought Ana’s case before the Inter-American Commission on Human Rights (IACHR), as well as that of Aurora, who was also denied the right to a therapeutic abortion.

Her case is similar to Ana’s. In 2012, it was discovered that her fetus had an abdominal wall defect, a kind of birth defect that allows the stomach, intestines, or other organs to protrude through an opening that forms on the abdomen. Her son, whose legs had never developed, and who had severe scoliosis, died shortly after birth. {Costa Rican Women Try to Pull Legal Therapeutic Abortion Out of Limbo}

In public hospitals in Costa Rica, like the Rafael Ángel Calderón hospital in San José, there is no protocol regulating legal therapeutic abortion, for doctors to follow. As a result, physicians restrict the practice to a minimum, leaving women without their right to terminate a pregnancy when their health is at risk. Credit: Diego Arguedas Ortiz/IPS

In public hospitals in Costa Rica, like the Rafael Ángel Calderón hospital in San José, there is no protocol regulating legal therapeutic abortion, for doctors to follow. As a result, physicians restrict the practice to a minimum, leaving women without their right to terminate a pregnancy when their health is at risk. Credit: Diego Arguedas Ortiz/IPS

The world has to be aware that there are different sorts of abortions. Though none would be preferable, sometimes animal man has to use their brains and has to understand that the Creator has given them brains and medical specialists to help them in their life. Everywhere in the world  women should have access to medical help and in case the medics do find that a choice has to be made to safe the mother they should be able to propose a legal abortion. In such instances there may be no lack of clear medical guidelines outlining when and how a legal abortion can be conducted.

It urged the Costa Rican state to draw up clear medical guidelines, to “widely disseminate them among health professionals and the public at large,” and to consider reviewing other circumstances under which abortion could be permitted, such as rape or incest.

The international pressure has grown. Costa Rican Judge Elizabeth Odio, recently named to the San José-based Inter-American Court of Human Rights, said in a Jun. 20 interview with the local newspaper La Nación that “it is obvious that therapeutic abortion, which already exists in our legislation, should be enforced.”

“There are doctors who believe therapeutic abortion is a crime, and they put women’s lives at risk,” said Odio. {Costa Rican Women Try to Pull Legal Therapeutic Abortion Out of Limbo}

Who wants to put the woman her life at risk for trying to bring something in the light of the day which has no life chances?

The one who was raped may cry out in the dark. The one who was tortured and pressed to do something which she hated, who is going to understand and help her? In this world there are so many women who need to find a place where they can find a listening ear, a helping hand and yes sometimes people who help her to take away the spots of ‘contagion’.

For many it may be oh so easy, oh so logic, but is it really?

– a crying woman

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Preceding articles:

Whoopi Goldberg commandments and abortion

My Choice (by Jezabel Jonson)

The Real ‘Choice’

“They Told Me What I Wanted To Hear” – Real Abortion Stories

The Things We Carry, by Penny

Hillary Clinton Says Religious Beliefs About Abortion Have to be Changed

Freedom and amendments, firearms and abortions

If the baby is part of the woman’s body…

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Additional reading:

  1. Suffering redemptive because Jesus redeemed us from sin
  2. Let us not forget it was God who chose us
  3. We love because he first loved us
  4. A philosophical error which rejects the body as part of the human person
  5. Inner feeling, morality and Inter-connection with creation
  6. Roman Catholic Church in the United States of America at war
  7. 2014 Human Rights
  8. American Senate ignoring many voices and tears of their own people
  9. About lions and babies
  10. Westboro Baptist Church and Catholic Truth against Nelson Mandela
  11. Always a choice
  12. The chief function of the body is to carry the brain around
  13. We all are changed into the same image from glory to glory
  14. God loving people justified
  15. A love not exempting us from trials
  16. Cognizance at the doorstep or at the internet socket
  17. Establish your hearts blameless in holiness
  18. Purify my heart
  19. Sow and harvests in the garden of your heart
  20. Come, walk with me and find rest for your soul
  21. I can’t believe that … (4) God’s word would be so violent
  22. Are Christadelphians so Old Fashioned?

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Further readings:

  1. Seeing Miracles In The Fog
  2. a fictional story about the effects of abortion committed years ago: Nancy’s Abrotion
  3. Video Facebook: I am Not your nut rag
  4. The Road to Matrimony… A Preamble!
  5. Ohio Man Gets Life Terms For CSA
  6. Letter I Won’t Send
  7. The Lasting Effects Of Child Abuse
  8. 19 year old girl from wood be kidnapers and winds up getting in to her life a little too deep
  9. 14 Children Of Divorce On How It’s Affected Their Views On Love & Relationships
  10. Unexpected Triggers
  11. The Church – Trigger Warning- Poetry on Incest
  12. College Rule #22
  13. What Did Trauma Do To You?
  14. Lose My Everything
  15. I pledge allegiance to the secret!
  16. How to heal after childhood sexual abuse
  17. Struggles
  18. Purity Ring…
  19. Pure Hatred
  20. Ready to remember?
  21. Severe trauma silenced victim
  22. A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (And Others)
  23. How Many Incest Offenders Do You Think You Know
  24. What Incest Has Caused in My Adulthood
  25. Focus on: Rape – What is Rape?
  26. I Don’t Think About Them
  27. Father rapes 11 year old daughter and impregnates neighbour’s daughter
  28. I should be happy
  29. Love Leaps
  30. Beauty and the beast
  31. ~Because you are Special~ Innocence Lost!
  32. Guys This Was So Scary!
  33. Raping innocence
  34. What we can learn from sexual sin of Bible heroes (podcast)
  35. thirteen
  36. Published today – Indecent exposure
  37. The Rape of Sweden
  38. Rape: we are all at risk
  39. Rape, Period
  40. Review: Asking For It by Louise O’Neill
  41. Stop Burning Rape Survivors at the Stake
  42. Newly Married Woman #Gang #Raped by 6 Men in Assam
  43. Cries from India
  44. ‘Calculated, depraved, evil,’ HIV positive Harrisburg man charged with rape of 6-year-old
  45. 4 Forgotten Cases Of Satanic Rape And Murder That Turned Out To Be ‘Satanic Panic’
  46. It Does Not End There…
  47. How to Date a Rape Survivor – Latest Article for Vice Broadly
  48. A Mother’s Son: Breaking the Cycle of Racial-Sexual Violence.
  49. Judge upholds conviction for Owen Labrie in prep school rape case
  50. To My Niece On Her Birthday
  51. Rearview Mirror
  52. White Male Bibliobloggers and “rape threats as a matter of course”
  53. Controversy over Rape Advice?
  54. So bloody angry…
  55. KS Eshwarappa, My Sweet Summer Child
  56. Was it rape? Does it matter?
  57. Thanks a Lot, Mr. Cosby: The Huxtable Legacy and the Black American Identity Crisis
  58. Laura Bates talks feminism
  59. Consent: it’s this simple.
  60. Debunking the Mythologies of Rape
  61. The depth of misery
  62. Innocence Lost (Caution: Mature Content)
  63. India shamed by sexual violence
  64. One in seven females experience serious physical or sexual violence at university.
  65. What Do Women Want?

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Crying is good for inner self!!

English: Tears , often at childhood days. മലയാ...

Tears , often at childhood days. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Tears, be it of sadness but also of joy , can come over our cheeks. Often it can be a good thing to led tears have their free run. Often we can’t control them but at times we want to be master over them and would not like others to know something has moved us so much it could bring us to tears.

We should know that at certain moments that flowing water also can be the necessary fluid to give good to our inner strength, making us grow stronger in this world.

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To remember:

  • many feelings buried deep within us > resurface > love, hatred, anger, jealous, pain, sadness, kindness
  • ways of displaying these feelings like hugging, kissing, spreading smile, holding hands, throwing things, winking, crying..
  • Crying = first feeling we feel when we are born
  • cry even before realizing we’re crying = very deeply entangled to our soul
  • cry > sad + failed + in fear + happy + too much going on
  • crying = feel connected to it
  • Cry for the sad, the dead, the helpless, the weak. But make sure you are back to yourself again after the moment
  • Lighten your heart once in a while

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Additional reading:

  1. Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression
  2. A Glory followed by Despair
  3. Materialism, would be life, and aspirations
  4. Give your tears to God
  5. Depression Is and When
  6. Coming Out Of The Bipolar Closet
  7. A time for everything
  8. The soul has no rainbow if the eyes have no tears
  9. Come, walk with me and find rest for your soul
  10. Crying and trusting ones do not get disappointed

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  • You (It) Will Be Ok (acvoice.com)
    It is impossible to make a list of all the places I’ve cried, not because I’m a huge crier, but because my childhood, like many, was a bathtub of tears. So what follows instead is a list of (sometimes amusing) moments of beautifully necessary crying, followed by a reflection on what these moments might mean:
  • Wordy Wednesdays: Cry (winwhileyoung.com)
    It’s OK to cry.Really, who hasn’t cried.Even if you have an eight pack and look like the Terminator with zero emotion, I can almost guarantee you cried as a baby.
  • Tears for fears (jeannejennings108.wordpress.com)
    Tears for all these fears,that appear realin one moment

    dissipate as vapor

    in the next.

  • Tears (rajasinsight.com)
    Tears run down his grief stricken face
    And land on the ground of that isolated place

    A call out to his father if there were any other way
    The tears on the ground are there to stay

    The grief so heavy his sweat turns to blood
    Tears keep falling the dirt turns to mud

  • Cleansing Tears… (stormiesteele.com)
    All things have their place & time – consider what you can do…what you can’t do – then release.The cleansing tears have a season.
  • The Storehouse (workforthecausenottheapplause.com)
    The last twenty-four hours has been an infinitely unique dance, the stroke of a pen, some tears and breakthrough. It’s hard to explain how in the middle of your greatest struggles you have a hope that is alive and vivacious and thriving. How the tears can sting as they fall but you are smiling. Believing God is an art, a choice, a step, a motion. You are walking in the darkness following the light. And though the forest is thick with brush, He becomes the walking stick, the guide, the means, the only. It is only through a deep-seated place in your soul that you can learn to love your Jesus more than you love your sin.
  • My Mask That Always Smiled (spicyemozione.wordpress.com)
    I was once sad and lonely,
    Having nobody to comfort me,
    So I wore a mask that always smiled;
    To hide my feelings behind a lie.
  • 365 Writing Prompts: Happy happy joy joy (sabethville.wordpress.com)
    We cry for lots of reasons:  sadness, pain,fear….. and happiness.When was the last time you shed tears of joy?
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    I am longing to see and  feel the fresh air without covering myself from head to foot, the green grass, trees covered with leaves, birds singing, announcing the end of winter and welcoming the arrival of summer.
  • Father (lifeisaferriswheel.wordpress.com)
    The first time i heard my father cry was when i was with him in his office. He owns a restaurant, it doesn’t make a lot of money but it profits enough for us to live comfortably. Or so I thought. We were watching television as we had dinner as usual. He was in his chair when he slowly turned around, and the sniffs began. It took me a few seconds to piece the random bits of conversations between him and my grandmother, but i understood. We were running low on money. I just focused on the television not really watching the show but simply staring at the odd colors.
  • Are you sad? (amazingjenni.wordpress.com)
    All emotions have purpose. Sadness isn’t destructive if not prolonged. Sadness isn’t unproductive, as it offers awareness. Telling someone to “cheer up” or “be happy” is so ineffective and patronizing.

 

Smiles here & Smiles there

We have so many feelings buried deep within us. These feelings resurface and to name a few like love, hatred, anger, jealous, pain, sadness, kindness and lots..

We have ways of displaying these feelings like hugging, kissing, spreading smile, holding hands, throwing things, winking, crying..

We all are familiar with all these feelings and at some point or other in life we feel these feelings and act on these in our own unique ways..

Crying is the first feeling we feel when we are born. We cry even before realizing we’re crying and crying is always so very deeply entangled to our soul. One doesn’t cry just because he is sad and failed but also when he’s in fear.. when he’s happy.. when there is too much going on in his life and crying becomes just a passage to lighten his heart and sob for sometime to make the passage…

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Putting your feelings into words and sharing them

Beings with feelings

Let's Talk About Feelings

Let’s Talk About Feelings (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

All human beings have feelings. We have to cope with them. There are many ways to cope with them.
We also see lots of things happening around us. We are touched with what we notice, and we also want to give a voice to our feelings. We all want to be heard as well.

You too may find that putting your feelings into words and sharing them with a sympathetic listener will make it easier to deal with them.

Writing can also be a helpful release. Some who find it difficult to talk about their feelings may find it easier to express themselves in writing.

Looking at old writings

Most of the things today are not written for education, but we still should find time to look for writings that can edify us. We can take time to look at the old writings which were written for our instruction, that through our endurance and through the comfort from the Scriptures we might have hope. In the very old books we can find people who wrote down their thoughts so that others also could hear about them. But they also put their feelings in their writings to get freedom in their inner soul.

Following the death of Saul and Jonathan, the faithful man David wrote a deeply mournful song in which he poured out his sorrow. This emotional dirge eventually became part of the Bible book of Second Samuel.—2 Samuel 1:17–27.

Crying may also serve as an emotional release. “For everything there is an appointed time, even . . . a time to weep,” says the Bible. (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4) To be sure, the death of someone we love is “a time to weep.” Tears of grief are nothing to be embarrassed about. The Bible contains many examples of faithful men and women who openly expressed their grief by weeping. (Genesis 23:2; 2 Samuel 1:11, 12) Jesus Christ “gave way to tears” when he neared the tomb of his dear friend Lazarus, who had recently died.—John 11:33, 35.

Working through grief takes patience, for you may feel that you are on an emotional roller coaster. Remember that you do not have to be ashamed of your tears. Many faithful individuals have found that shedding tears of grief is a normal and necessary part of the healing process.

Sharing is helping

Putting down words of feeling can help you but also can help others.

It is a matter of sharing love for each-other that we should share thoughts with each other. We, by bringing matters to attention, can bring others to think about that matter. By publishing our own story we might show others they are not alone having those feelings or having to go through the same struggle.

Social networking Web sites

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The last few years several placed their little pieces   and their little stories on Facebook. Recently they added Twitter to give some shouts into the internet world, or they threw in a nod to Google+ or Circles. We may even find pets with Facebook pages and politicians’ Internet campaigns and etiquette for R.S.V.P.’ing to events and the best way to wish someone happy birthday without feeling like an exclamatory fool! Social networking Web sites are the latest and greatest way to interact with other users on the Internet. Thirty-five percent of adults on the Internet now have a profile on at least one social networking site, and 51 percent have more than one. Three-quarters of users between the ages of 18 and 24 have an online profile.

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CrazyFriendz is the free online social networking service. The service allows users to make new friends and manage existing relationships. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The Pew Research Center found that 89 percent of these people use the sites to keep up with friends, 57 percent to make plans with friends and 49 percent to make new friends.

There are articles that tell us that sharing is the most popular form of internet use today. But what is being shared and how? As the world of P2P file sharing grows and evolves, various torrent search sites distinguish themselves. Some bands don’t mind if you share their music, and they even encourage it. But what about reading material? Who wants to share interesting reading material? Who wants to let others know he  or she did find something interesting to read?

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This UML diagram describes the domain of LinkedIn social networking system. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Facebook, MySpace, LinkedIn, Friendster, Urban Chat and Black Planet are just a few of more than 100 Web sites connecting folks around the world who are eager to share their thoughts and feelings. But just like in real life, there’s such a thing as sharing too much information (TMI). It’s easy to get caught up in the social aspects of sites like Facebook, but what you choose to share is there for all to see if you don’t limit who can view your information. The same study by Pew Research found that 40 percent of users have open access to their profiles, allowing anyone to view their information. The other 60 percent restrict access to friends, family and colleagues. Sharing personal information with strangers can be dangerous business, and there are some things you should definitely put on your “do not share” list.

Crossover, public and genres

With 51 percent of social network users taking advantage of more than one site, there’s bound to be some crossover from one to the other, especially if you have the sites linked. Sometimes we may find interesting bits or would like to talk or discuss matters not on our own private blog, because it could bring an other site of us in the forefront we do not want to be known directly, before our friends and bosses, or want to make sure no connection is made endangering our work.

Many do not mind sharing lots of things on Facebook, but are afraid to share real serious material on their blogs or on other blogs which reserve a place to contribute stories, like this site does.

Social networking sites like Facebook and MySpace cater to a smorgasbord of users while people using sites such as Subeta and Neopets are mostly teens. Social networking sites can be very specific, too. For instance, you’ll find sites for just about every type of car, sport and sports team or music genre. And one of the largest groups of specialized social media sites is dedicated to parenting.

Many men and women will be, are or hope to be parents. That’s why social networking sites for parents are growing all over the Internet.

Communities and chit chat

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Friendster (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

How many sites will you be able to find about the way of life, or how to help each other, working to get a better living together? You may find lots of “Communities” where is being chit-chatted about little things of the world or materials things, like puppets, cars, games, etc.. but who wants to take time to share something about the beauties of nature. Sharing about the beautiful ladies, we may find enough, but about the plants and animals we shall find less. Mothers, fathers, gamers, fun or entertainment-park users, all have some sites where they can meet each other. They all have their own social networking sites aiming toward connecting, like minded of from the same sort, online. Users on those sites can choose to navigate in different easy to use areas including Discussions, Groups, Things to Do, Photo, Video, Coupons, Marketplace and My Stuff.

Some do not mind to pay to have a “Family’s home” on the internet. Other sites, like Minti, ask to join discussions and offer advice to others in search of the answers to the perpetual questions that come with raising children, providing a forum for parents to share advice and network with parents with similar interests, problems or questions regarding parenting.

Focus of the writers

At those social network-sites the focus of the writers is mostly on themselves. From Guestwriters has no pretension to become also a social network site. It does not aim to bring the focus to particular writers. Instead of aiming themselves in the picture, the writers on this site do want to bring subjects and things they find interesting into the picture. The focus is on the material and not on persons or individuals. The material presented here wants to be undone from the writer, bringing thoughts which could be for everybody and should move many.

Here we want to confront issues and not so much persons. the aim is to give place to matters which should interest many and which should be of importance for human beings. The people joined here, do not want to put themselves on the first row. They want to approach others with sympathy and respect. They might approach the sharing of their or your thoughts and feelings with others. This they want to do with an attitude of respect for them-self with respect for yourself and for the other persons.

We are aware that not many people are interested to take time to read deeper going articles or poetry today. But we can only hope enough interested people would come along and would not mind giving their ‘contribution’. We would love to find a place where there may be created a healthy discussion atmosphere. But this site is not in the first place a discussion forum. No, it wants only to be a place where different thoughts may be uttered next to each other, without anybody taking a grudge or being disturbed or scandalized. We do not want feelings over the presented material to run high. We do not want to find polluting or poisonous words, but spiritual feeding words. We do not want to present destructive powers on this site. Contrary we would love to see building up material, presenting positive material.

Peace loving agreement to disagree

We would like to find all peace loving people over here. We may all want to have change, but we do not want to get change by violent actions. The general idea is to come to a place of peace with each other. We do know that peace at any cost is not peace and that we should work for it. We shall have to dare to put wounds open to be able to let them heal. We shall have to point the finger to the ulcers in our community. We shall have to face the illnesses in our community. Yes, to get on our way together, to find peace and a nicer world to live, we shall have to see the good and the bad things in the world, and be able to talk about them. It is over those good and bad things we would like to see writings on this site, by different people, who might have very diverse opinions. We want not restrict such divergent ideas nor a diversity of interests. Varied opinions may be sharply, but over here we do not want them to hurt any body. We all want to accept that each writer may present things from a different viewpoint. though we may differ from opinion we do not mind sharing together those different viewpoints and enjoying such a variety of ideas. (Imaging all wearing the same grey uniforms, all using the same words in the same order.)

We do not want to be blind for the different views there are in the world, but also do not want to ignore the different solutions which could be possible. In case a conflict would be shown it does not mean that such conflicting views would not allow a good relationship. It is not because we may have different opinions we do not like each other. We do not mind to admit there is conflict and consider the way we handle it more important and part of enjoying the peace in our relationship. Looking and discussion about the differences always keeping an open mind and having a willingness to work it out to come to a place of peace, shall give both parties fulfilment.

It may surprise you, but it should not, that we allow different opinions to exist next to each other. Presenting such different ideas also does not mean we would like to provoke argument nor agreement. We want to show that people can live together in peace even with different ideas and believing in agreement to disagree.

Willing to come together

Our hopes are that we may find enough people willing to share ideas and to taste the different flavours others might present here. It would be lovely if we can bring a pallet of different writers from all over the world. Perhaps it might be the nostalgic feeling of what we had in our children time, which was called in Dutch “poëzie”, an album of verses, little stories, uplifting texts and pictures.
The big differnce now being that in that album everything might have been centred to ourselves, now the focus goes to the others around us.

As adults we have come to see that the world doesn’t revolve around us and the world doesn’t revolve around the person. One of the keys to success in relationships is learning to yield to each other. Over here we would like to offer a place where everybody can come along and find material that can feed him or her to go on. In case many persons do not mind sharing positive ideas and inspirational thoughts, those who want to write on this site would be pleased to offer a source of inspiration and spiritual guidance.

Providing a warm, supportive environment

We all get some nice but also very unpleasant moments in our life. at the darker moments in life either we can get in our own little corner or look for a place where we can enjoy some light. We do hope this site might become such a place where many people shall be able to find some comfort, peace, tranquillity and find some inspiring notes, which can help them to get above the garbage they are feeling in.

We do not want to be pretentious squirts. We make no pretensions to expert knowledge. We have not the presumption we can solve all problems. But we do think we can help each other in different ways. The writers as well as the readers can find support in each other and build up a relationship of good feeling.

We want to offer stories of many people by showing an interest in their journey. We love it to share those voyages throughout the world. Not to walk alone is much nicer than staying in our recluse. We prefer not to be lone wolfs, but to find many people willing to live together in peace on this beautiful earth.

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Join us today by becoming a reader or, why not a contributor as well?

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Step in the van or in the bus and go on a nice voyage with us. (By Clicking on the picture you may find out more about the Bloggers for peace.

In case you have already your own blog, why not contribute now and then to this one and presenting some of your writings?
In case you also write regularly about love and peace, you might consider also to become a Blogger for peace.

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Additional reading:

  1. Words in the world
  2. Helpful words
  3. Words to inspire and to give wisdom
  4. Spring in sight
  5. Hope
  6. Working of the hope
  7. Hope does not disappoint us
  8. The true hope of eternal life!
  9. Hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark
  10. Hope as long as you live

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  1. Living With(out) Regret and Negative Feelings
  2. Words are important
  3. Liberty-human-rights – article 10 – freedom of expression
  4. Twitter, Outrage, and Jesus
  5. 10 Powerful Tips For Sharing Thoughts and Feelings
  6. Did You Ever Wish for a Fast Way to End an Argument?
  7. Relationship Help–Allow Someone to Struggle to Get Strong

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  • Make your readers do the weeping. (scribbledrevisions.com)
    Grief and pain are universal human emotions from which none of us are immune. You’re familiar with it. So am I. We all are.
  • Emotions and Faith – Part 1 (commentsonchristianity.com)
    Humans are emotional creatures. It’s one of the things that God gave mankind that He did not give to animals (or at least not on the same level we experience them). It’s what makes life beautiful, painful, joyful, sorrowful and meaningful. It’s a gift and a curse, a crutch and a burden.
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    I feel an anger when I hear about violent or hateful acts. When I hear of murders, rapes, kidnappings, torture or even hateful speech I am disturbed. I cannot fathom the evil that is in this world.
  • Into The Blue (anupturnedsoul.wordpress.com)
    “Even as you suffer apparent defeats, you may discover that what you are losing is not really anything significant. You may learn that the needs of your ego are not your real needs at all.” – Robert Hand.

    It is sometimes said that our own suffering makes us more empathic towards others and their suffering. Because we know what suffering is, we see it, recognise it, understand it in others. We understand what they are going through, because we too go through it.

    Pain, sadness, grief, connects us. We all feel it, experience it, get to know it more than we would ever like to.

    Yet our own pain, sadness, grief, and suffering can disconnect us too. Especially when our mind and ego get involved in how we process our emotions.
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    I feel blue and discouraged as things repeat themselves relentlessly and my efforts never materialize, never lead me to progress. My empathy is an obstacle as I keep thinking if I say how I feel it will hurt him and it makes me shiver; I have another pending situation with someone to whom I really need to make things clear and although she is the one who had pricking words for me, I feel guilty if I choose stand for myself.
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    Do not fear the deep, dark, often seemingly bleak abyss of blue, breathe it in, breathe it out, let it flow and flow with it, see where it leads. We become stronger as we allow ourselves to embrace all of ourselves, all of life as it is. As we become stronger, how we experience life changes.

  • Journeys to Resurrection (improbableoptimisms.blogspot.com)
    “How could God let this happen?”
    We hear this question all the time: after shootings, after tragic car accidents and plane crashes, after typhoons and mudslides and earthquakes. During the seven years I volunteered as a lay hospital chaplain, I heard it often.
  • He Is Our Comfort In Times of Grief (csahm.com)
    grief is inevitable because death is inevitable. All of us must pass from this earth one day and leave loved ones behind.
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    Everyone grieves differently, and at a different rate. We must learn that tears are okay; the feelings of isolation or emptiness are normal and will pass
  • The Knit Soul (1031lifeministries.com)
    There are hundreds of friendships and companionships in the Bible, but few compare to the perfect example of David and Jonathan. David was the captain of Saul’s bodyguard and a high ranking member of his army. He had slain Goliath and helped tear the Philistines to shreds; he had killed his ‘tens of thousands’ (1 Samuel 18:7). Saul attempted twice to kill David, and despite this Jonathan stayed by his side because “the soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David,” (1 Samuel 18:1) and the two became as brothers, as well as brothers-in-law.
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    stop spending any effort on unhealthy relationships because the ones that matter will be much more fulfilling. If there is somebody that you would weep and fast for then cherish that person and let them know how important they are to you.
  • Tender Love (essentialthingdevotions.com)
    What is the most moving film you’ve ever watched? I went to see Les Misérables last week and my husband was outraged that I didn’t cry! Needless to say he shed more than one tear himself. It wasn’t that I wasn’t moved, I was deeply. But I didn’t cry.
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    For the record, there have been many films I have been moved to tears by – Message in a Bottle, Titanic, It’s a Wonderful Life, Pay it Forward to name but a few. And of course, the hopeless romantic in me cannot help herself from blubbing at films like PS, I Love You, Sleepless in Seattle, 50 First Dates and Love Actually! Cold-hearted? I think not :-).
  • It Stinks. (gillianbarr.wordpress.com)
    The Bible doesn’t shy away from death. In our culture, we do. We use euphemisms. Bodies are whisked away on gurneys to be cleansed by undertakers   We avoid the word “death”–we don’t say someone died. “He passed,” “she transitioned,” “he crossed over,” “she has gone to a better place.” We “celebrate their life” but go to great lengths to avoid the cold hard word “death.” We prolong life in hospitals, we avoid making wills or estate plans or advanced directives. We don’t tell our pastors when we are sick or in trouble because we “don’t want anybody to see us like that.” We may show death and gore in action and fantasy film plots, but we avoid talking about how it happens in real day to day life.
  • 10 More Hollwood Actors and Performers Who Are Bible-Believing Christians (theblaze.com)

    Last year, TheBlaze brought you a list of 10 notable celebrities who are openly Christian. While critics generally charge that there aren’t many “believers” or genuine religious adherents in Hollywood, some would argue against this claim, noting that there are certainly some in the entertainment industry who embrace Christ’s teachings.

    Regardless of the exact numbers, there are surely more than 10 celebrities who live by Christian doctrine, so we thought we’d bring you yet another round of Jesus-friendly singers and actors.

  • Pro-Faith Hollywood Power Couple Discuss Upcoming Mini-Series ‘The Bible’ on TheBlaze TV (theblaze.com)
    As society currently rewards reality television, violent YouTube videos and tends to portray people of faith as “cheesy” or “corny,” Beck pointed to the Emmy Award-winning actress, most famous for having starred in the the popular series “Touched by an Angel,” to showcase the best sides of faith and faith-centered entertainment.

    Downey, who has produced and starred in a myriad movies and television productions including “Monday After the Miracle” and “Borrowed Hearts,” and was honored as People Magazine’s “100 Most Beautiful People,” shared what faith means to her in an increasingly-secular world.

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