Failing once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything

Just because you fail once,
doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything.
Keep trying,
hold on, and always,
always, always believe in yourself,
because if you don’t,
then who will,
sweeetie?
~ Marilyn Monroe

Dutch translation / Nederlandse vertaling: Als je één keer faalt, betekent dat niet dat je bij alles zult falen.

Always keep trying and believe in yourself

“Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself,
because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie?”
~ Marilyn Monroe

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie > Steeds blijven proberen en in jezelf blijven geloven

to Strive to get lessons of living life

One of our readers  officially graduated from the Dale Carnegie course which strives to teach the lesson of living life, which is something that reader and we do believe each of us should constantly be conscious of and getting better at.

That visitor of our ecclesia-site like so many would love to see his best version of himself. Understandably would not be that the best thing to hope for?

He knows there is no substitute for good health and we can do a lot to keep ourselves well. Too often lots of people do forget that we have a lot of power over our lives and we can effectively realize and use it by just being intentional. As told more than once at this site, the ideal visualization of the future generates positive feelings and hopes, which is an important part of the journey to get there. We have to set a goal and think positively.

The nagging feeling in itself is not a great motivator or productivity inducer. Even worse constant confrontation with the negative thought pulls us down. So we better avoid contact with negativeness, be it thoughts or even negative people or people who have a bad influence on us.

We should have confidence in ourselves, knowing that what we want to do is not impossible! concerning that matter he writes

And this probability is not from factors outside of our control. The ratio shows how many people come up with the strength to win against the odds. It can be up to us what side of this ratio we land on. {Draw Your Future}

He looks at Patti Dobrolowski her model and wants to highlight her explanation of a factor that makes her strategy work:

“Your brain actually emits serotonin and oxytocin when you draw and dream. So you feel happy. Capable. Creative.” Who wouldn’t want to feel that? Without getting too scientific about it, serotonin and oxytocin do affect mood positively and they can also be attained by exercise or a detailed daydream so whenever you need a boost, you can also try that. {Draw Your Future}

All of us should know we are fallible, but all those around us are as us also not perfect and have their faults and limits. We should not always compare ourselves to others but believe in ourself going for what we believe we should and can do. We should set our mind to delivering on that, knowing that it is in our power. And if we need some help, we also should know there is always Some One high above Who is stronger and mightier than all beings, Who can help us.

The effort to realize this reality in our visitors life started well before the Dale Carnegie course. He was encouraged by it, and wants to continue on his path for long after. He writes

With work and personal issues clouding my mind, I did not get a chance to appreciate the course as much as I would have liked (I failed at being intentional there but we all have our down days). However, I hope that, in coming time, I can realize some benefits from the foundation that the course set for me. I also want to learn more about the man and the movement that grew into this program. {The Power in Me}

We would advise him to look beyond the doors of that institution and to get even more wisdom in the Book of books, trusting in the Most High Establisher Elohim, God His Power but also the power which can grow in himself, which is the power each of us at to be on the look-out for.

For now, he leaves his readers on Matters of Living with a good thought from Dale Carnegie, which we like to repeat here too:

Are you bored with life?
Then throw yourself into
some work you believe
in with all your heart,
live for it, die for it,
 and you will find
happiness that you
had thought could
never be yours.

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Related

1. Power Posts: Motivational Snapshots
2. Power Posts: Inspiration
3. Power Posts: On Life
4. Nothing Takes Place Outside Consciousness 4/5
5. Once you feel avoided…
6. Today’s Scripture – April 18, 2018
7. Confrontation, Repentance, Forgiveness
8. Examine What You Tolerate
9. The Stroke of Luck.
10. Joy. Who Has Time for That? Here’s One Reason to Pay Attention to it.
11. Reasons to be Happy (part one)
12. 9 Easy Techniques that Will Make You Feel Happier
13. Putting All The Pieces Together
14. Desire for the unrealistic
15. be careful what you wish for…

Your only limitations are those you set upon yourself

“Believe in your infinite potential.
Your only limitations are those you set upon yourself.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie > Jouw enige beperkingen zijn diegene die je op jezelf hebt gesteld

To come to live in the peace of fulfilment of our own Divine Identity

We had a look at Susan Billmaier her views on the turbulence of life, and the transformation of the self.

At her blog SusanWithPearls – Living Life. Learning to do that better. Sharing it here.- she often wonders how we know ourselves and how we do get at what is inside.

Lots of people question their own self and look for way to have a good life. For years they try out several things. Most often they go looking for

The self that… is a deeper self, some say a “higher self”, some say a “Christ self”, or the “Buddha/enlightened self”, in some Native cultures it is called, simply, “beauty”. {Knowing your Self is more than knowing the size of your stomach.}

She writes

 Whatever it is– the moral self, the good will– I am not too particular about the label, or the words– it is simply the best that a person can find within themselves and everyone has it…whether they know it or not. {Knowing your Self is more than knowing the size of your stomach.}

She also knows that man has to come to a point where the individual comes to see that it has its own value and its own reason to be, demanding to take personal action and own personal focus on personal awareness.

My own Loving Presence is my Self. I turn my attention inward and become aware of my own Loving Presence. With my focused awareness, my own Loving Presence fills me, grows brighter, and grows warmer. {Claim only the Self that you love. A Journey of Purpose: Day 32}

Being faced with the self one may not loose that self nor the faith in the self. Being confronted with the surroundings one need also to be willing to go into confrontation with it and with the inner thoughts, at the same time willing to perceive the necessary changes to be taken or the changes going on around the self.

as a guiding thought can be notated

Accept your light and your lightness! Feel your Self expand! As you perceive change around you, remain anchored in your Being of Light. Allow yourself to sit peacefully in the still place of nothingness as life moves quickly around you. {Arguing with myself and losing: Journey of Courage 2017 – Day 19}

Too many people do forget that we are here on this earth because we are allowed to be here by the Most High Divine Creator. Many do not want to know about that Omnipotent, Omniscient, Powerful Eternal Divine Source of all life, existence and knowledge, but also of peace and joy Though daily they are confronted with “Existence” that surrounds them.

In ““Self Fulfilled”: Journey of Fulfillment 2.0 – Day 05” Susan Billmaier looks at the guiding thought

In Divine Mind, I am filled full! All are equally filled full. All are equal in Love. I fill my mind with thoughts of fulfillment and remember what I already know. I am determined to fulfill my purpose, to know my Self as Divine Love, and to share the fullness I am.{“Self Fulfilled”: Journey of Fulfillment 2.0 – Day 05}

For her “Guiding Thoughts”

acts like a guided visualization and I see/experience the words. There are days when reading the Guiding Thought seems to open a channel within me and I can feel energy within me moving in a new or different way. {“My Self Has My Back, Now if It Would Scratch…”: Journey of Abundance 2.0 – Day 33}

First page of “On the Difficulty of Knowing One’s Self”, 1744 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We can only ascertain that lots of people are afraid of looking at them self in the light of a Higher Being that would be Master over them and would be responsible for their being. We can enact that it is difficult for man to accept that there is a Higher Being Mightier than them and giving them all what the can see around them. That High Being wants us to come into a good relationship with our self, with others around us and with Him. He wants us to get filled with that what made Him create us in the first place. Even when the first man rebelled it was His love for man that made He wanted to allow them to take care of themselves and to find solutions for themselves, but providing also The solution to bring an end to their agony, suffering and continues wandering. Also that foreseen solution, the sent one from God, the Messiah, God His own begotten beloved son shared that love of God with mankind and gave his life for all. Like that man of flesh and blood did not want to do his own will, but only did the Will of God, we too should come to a point where we want to do the Will of God and share His love with others.  Only that way we can come to fill our mind and heart with love, aligning with the Light of Truth. Steadfast and focused on our own Loving Presence, than we shall be able to live in the peace of fulfilment of our own Divine Identity.

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Preceding

Inner Voice

Transformation is easy, when you step into something that already IS.

In the turbulence of life, listen and wait.

How to Live Beyond the Ordinary

Learning that stuff is just stuff

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Additional reading

1. No curtain placed over tomorrow
2. There is no true and constant gentleness without humility
3. Only the contrite self, sick of its pretensions, can find salvation
4. For those who make other choices
5. Knowledge of Christ and fear for God
6. Looking for answers on the question Is there a God #4

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Further writings of interest

1. Body image bullshit
2. If I could talk to my younger self
3. Scattered Thoughts
4. Spring Cleaning for the Mind
5. Solitude..
6. Desires
7. What’s Happening To Me
8. “I don’t know what living a balanced life feels like..”
9. Dear self
10. Your Greatest Privilege
11. One-Forty-Five AM Exert- Self Discovery
12. My sensory problems: The Big List
13. Flush the Ugly and Soar
14. Vacay
15. On Strength
16. Rejection: What Others Think (Our Challenge)
17. Color and Character
18. Making Sense of the Senses
19. Issue With the Self-Image
20. It is not what it seems… maybe
21. Knowing Me…
22. Am I, a Romantic?
23. Self Obssession is Getting Out of Hand
24. The Paradox of Being in the Present Moment
25. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (1): Introduction
26. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (2): Mental multiplicity
27. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (3): Material causes
28. Who Do You Find Your Worth In? Part 2
29. A Female Factory Worker & a Writer, the Features of a Woman
30. Putting Yourself Down: Don’t
31. Intellectual, maybe not
32. Work from within: Combatting inflammation with lifestyle changes
33. Dreaming in India
34. Connection
35. The Monkey-Trap
36. To Open Up, Once More, Memories of a Plant
37. Selfie Woes
38. Lets put the self in selfie
39. The Well of Knowledge
40. Initially, you are unformed
41. If I could only…
42. Time for Changes
43. Thoughts to Myself
44. What is love?

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It´s not how you fall, but how you standup

There is a beautiful text by Peter Handke in which he says ‘Fail calmly’. Fail, yes. Calmly, no. We did not learn that it is o.k. to fail. Let alone that we stay calm while failing. To fail calmly is an art of living, a constant balancing between trying, exercising, and daring to stumble.

Daring to stumble is showing your vulnerability.
To show that you don’t know either.
Socrates already said : ‘I know that I don’t know’.
That wisdom is centuries old .
Why is it so difficult to take away the layer of veneer?
To show who you really are, hesitating and stumbling?

Maybe it helps when we choose.
To choose to dare.
To choose to love stumbling people.
To choose to surround yourself with warm people who do not reject you when you stumble, but who on the contrary reach out.
And to offer your own hand or shoulder when someone nearly falls.

To get up and continue.
It sounds simple, but you never do it alone.
On top of your restored self confidence  you need others.
Warm, encouraging others who also believe in your ability, your resilience and your talents.

To believe in yourself is to allow yourself to stumble.
Stumble calmly, struggle to get up and accept those hands, smooth your hairs and try again.
Not how you fall, but how you get up.

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Original Dutch version / Originele Nederlandstalige versie: Niet hoe je valt, wel hoe je opstaat

Preceding article:

Searching for fulfillment and meaning through own efforts, facing unsatisfaction and depression

Using failure

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Further reading

1. The Fallacy of Failure
2. failing 1
3. Failing 2
4. Failing 3
5. Failing 4
6. day 122 . failing
7. Fail Like a Scientist
8. Failing at life
9. Failing to Grace
10. Failing and Flailing
11. Fear of Failure, Failure to Risk
12. Can I take my time?
13. What have we done?
14. Still not perfect
15. 5 Ways to Fail a Class
16. Average???
17. Acceptance: I’m A Failure!!! But I’m Working at it!
18. Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes
19. Failing Fast
20. Failing IS Part of Our Process
21. Throwing out the cheese
22. Two-Facedbook
23. Is it bed-time yet?
24. Making it to Xmas
25. Smart Goals
26. Mastering the art of quitting
27. And Endless Downward Sloping Set of Stairs
28. 7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re Afraid Of Failure
29. “Negative Vibes”
30. Why?!
31. Why I Love Failing Just As Much As Succeeding
32. I’ve got spirit, yes I do!
33. what should you be?
34. Reality Check
35. One thing about Mark Zuckerberg you never knew
36. Designed To Fail (& Grow)
37. Fear Of Not Flying
38. Once bitten
39. The Countercultural Icon, #2
40. Motivation Monday – Fear Edition!
41. Life is hard. Send help
42. The sun still rises even with the pain
43. Learn To Strike Out
44. One year older, one year…wiser?
45. What’s At Risk When We Choose Not To Take A Risk?
46. 365 Days Later
47. 5 Lessons I’ve learned from 2016
48. It wasn’t about me.

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There can only be hope when there is a will to be and say “I am”

Hope: expect and desire. Without a ‘Desire of fulfilment’ there is no soil for a seed of hope to grow.

When we do want to build up hope we do have to be willing to be, to stand strong.

Therefore we better considered the power of the statement “I am” which we use so many times a day. When we answer the phone or when we are asked if it our us entering the place or when we give others an idea of who we are or how we feel.

You might be surprised what is hidden in those two little words. They also can say a lot to the others, even making them cross, like it happened some two thousand years ago, when the Pharisees asked Jesus if he was that person been spoken of, and he confirmed that he was that man. (Too many Christians today still do not understand the answer nor the question posed that day, and take it because Jesus said “I am” that he is God.) All the people who continue to say “I am” are not all gods and mostly do not think to be a god nor the God. but they have good reason to keep saying “I Am”. Because without ‘to Be’ there is no being, no existence. Jesus existed and therefore he also could say “I am”. He also could confirm he was the person the Pharisees heard speaking about, the one man preaching fervently about his heavenly Father Who would be not only his god but also The God. That was what made the high priests so mad and shouting it was blasphemous. Jesus never did say to them he was God, nor did he say such a thing to the people. He always said he could not do the things he did without his Father in heaven, the God of Abraham, Whose will he wanted to do and not his own will.

First, we have to be, before we can have any hope. Without being there is no hope at all. Thanks to the Creator we can be. Without Him there is no life possible at all. Without the God of gods there is no being no way of saying “I am”.

To many people do forget how these two simple words will determine what kind of life a person lives.

We when we say ourselves “I am” or when we hear others saying “I am” generate an idea of feeling and being. A Christian should be best in being able to say:

“I am blessed.”

Because we are blessed, by the allowance to be in a living condition and by the Grace of God, having become accepted, washed clean by the ransom offer of Christ Jesus. It is in that Jewish man we have found “hope”. In him we should place our hope. He is the one who has presented the world with the most high hope, the possibility of the best possible life on earth, a never ending life in the Kingdom of God. that should be our real Hope.

Knowing that we can live by the Grace of God we should not fear man, but with the fear of God, should also be happy that Jesus reconciled ourselves by his heavenly Father, the Only One God “The I Am Who Is”. He is the Most High Being, the Supreme Being. It was the son of the Elohim who gave his life to the One and Only Who gives life. He is it who can make us weak or strong, slow or fast, stupid or wise. It is Him Who can make us say:

“I am strong”. “I am healthy.”

Or,

“I am slow”. “I am unattractive”. “I am stupid.”

The “I am’s” that are coming out of our mouth will bring either success or failure. Not enough people are aware how the thinking about themselves shall decide how they themselves shall be or become. Unconsciously and for some consciously, all through the day the power of “I am” is at work in our minds. And there is the problem of denial. The will not to see the “I am” in ourselves. Many people also place the “I am” in the wrong phrases or in the wrong context, making life for themselves more difficult.

Too many people are not aware how they themselves can use the “I am” for them selves but also against themselves. Mostly they have no idea how they use the power of “I am” against themselves and how it is affecting their future.

In the Bible the answers are given. It tells us clearly how we are to be ‘in-breath’ with the “I Am”, the most High God. all being created in the image of God, having received life from God “The I Am”, should be willing to have The Elohim living through their “I am”. According to the Holy Scriptures The “I Am Who Is” (The Elohim Hashem Jehovah) is always there for His Creation. He is always looking for us, and as such our “I am” is also always looking for us.

Each individual has given the breath of God, i.e. life, because otherwise he would not be living. This breath of life, i.e. the soul, is our being our possibility to say “I am”. Without life we shall not be able to say “I am”. When death, you also shall not be able any more to say “I was”. Others shall be able to say that ‘you were’, but once the light of life has gone out, it its finished with the being, the “I am” shall not sound any more.

Therefore, as written in the Holy Scriptures, it is in the “Now,” that we have to make it. It is when we live and can say “I am” that we can be and that we can do things. Jesus gave several parables as examples of what happens when we do not follow the good direction as the “I am” and do not make work of being the right “I am”.

The “I am” expresses a hope, or it should do. When you go through the day saying,

“I am blessed,”

blessings come looking for you. The same way when you say

“you are blessed”

you give the expression of the I am who wants to bring over the other blessings by your loving-kindness for that person.

In case you want to build up hope in your life you first have to believe in yourself and secondly have to believe in the Most High “I Am” to get you there where He wants you to be and to succeed. but you have to be willing to give yourself in the hands of the “I am” to get the feeling of growth in assurance you can do something. as such you, yourself have to believe in yourself and have to dare to say

“I can”

And continuing to think you shall be able to reach your goal and as such to be able to say:

“I am talented.”

Only when you are willing to go for the hope in succeeding you shall be able to succeed and to become talented.

Let blessings and talent come looking for you. Let health come to you and come to say

“I am feeling fine”, “I am healthy,” “I am strong.”

You might be surprised how much the “I am” can do wonders in yourself. How good feelings, good health and strength shall come on your way. Are you willing to surrender to your own self? To surrender to the “I am” in you?

Vicki Flaherty rightly writes:

Not to be ‘be good’ or ‘do better’ but to surrender to the amazing person I am and what I might create with a deep appreciation of all that is abundant in me. {Hope}

Your “I am” has to start tracking you down, by your invitation into your life.

Get up in the morning and invite good things into your life. Declare

“I am blessed. I am strong. I am talented. I am disciplined. I am focused. I am prosperous.”

And always make sure God’s truth follows “I am”!

Are you able to say:

I feel complete with who and where ‘I am’.

What is your answer when asked: Is it you, Pete, John, Mary, Sonia, Vicky, or ‘so and so’? “Are you him or her”?

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What is your answer when asked: “Are you feeling all right?”

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Are you believing in the power of perspective and positive outlook?

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Are you willing to choose to live into today with hope in your heart?

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Are you able to honour all aspects of your being and let go of any judgement and attachment that might divide you or leave you feeling broken.

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Are you willing to be whole in all your imperfection and brilliance.

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What would be you you answer when asked “Are you a Christian”?

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Do the give your answer in big capitals, to this question:

Are you a believer in the Son of God, and willing to follow this Jewish man who gave hope for a better future? Are you a follower of Christ Jesus, the son of God, accepting he really did die for the sins of the whole world, and who now has been made higher than the angels, though he was lower before, in the knowledge that God is was and always shall be the Most High?

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* Note: If you could not answer every-time with “I am”, than you have a problem and should reconsider your way of thinking and should go to examine your self and your believes. If you could answer  all questions with “I am” than we want to invite you to continue your way with us, helping others to find their “I am”.

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Find also to read:

1. I am that I am Ehyeh-Asher-Ehyeh אהיה אשר אהיה
2. Hashem השם, Hebrew for “the Name”
3. Creator and Blogger God 7 A Blog of a Book 1 Believing the Blogger
4. Pluralis Majestatis in the Holy Scriptures
5. Marriage of Jesus 8 Wife of Yahweh
6. Accommodation of the Void
7. Does He exists?
8. Wishing to do the will of God
9. Looking for blessed hope
10. 8 fears caused by the fear of Man
11. Fear of God reason to return to Holy Scriptures

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Additional reading in Dutch:

1. Ik ben die ben Ehyeh-Asher-Ehyeh אהיה אשר אהיה
2. Heer, Yahuwah, Yeshua of Yahushua

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Find also on other websites:

1. Wholeness
2. Radiate
3. Hope ( by Vicki Flaherty)
4. Focus

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