It´s not how you fall, but how you standup

Niet hoe je valt, wel hoe je opstaatThere is a beautiful text by Peter Handke in which he says ‘Fail calmly’. Fail, yes. Calmly, no. We did not learn that it is o.k. to fail. Let alone that we stay calm while failing. To fail calmly is an art of living, a constant balancing between trying, exercising, and daring to stumble.

Daring to stumble is showing your vulnerability.
To show that you don’t know either.
Socrates already said : ‘I know that I don’t know’.
That wisdom is centuries old .
Why is it so difficult to take away the layer of veneer?
To show who you really are, hesitating and stumbling?

Maybe it helps when we choose.
To choose to dare.
To choose to love stumbling people.
To choose to surround yourself with warm people who do not reject you when you stumble, but who on the contrary reach out.
And to offer your own hand or shoulder when someone nearly falls.

To get up and continue.
It sounds simple, but you never do it alone.
On top of your restored self confidence  you need others.
Warm, encouraging others who also believe in your ability, your resilience and your talents.

To believe in yourself is to allow yourself to stumble.
Stumble calmly, struggle to get up and accept those hands, smooth your hairs and try again.
Not how you fall, but how you get up.

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Original Dutch version / Originele Nederlandstalige versie: Niet hoe je valt, wel hoe je opstaat

Preceding article:

Searching for fulfillment and meaning through own efforts, facing unsatisfaction and depression

Using failure

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Further reading

  1. The Fallacy of Failure
  2. failing 1
  3. Failing 2
  4. Failing 3
  5. Failing 4
  6. day 122 . failing
  7. Fail Like a Scientist
  8. Failing at life
  9. Failing to Grace
  10. Failing and Flailing
  11. Fear of Failure, Failure to Risk
  12. Can I take my time?
  13. What have we done?
  14. Still not perfect
  15. 5 Ways to Fail a Class
  16. Average???
  17. Acceptance: I’m A Failure!!! But I’m Working at it!
  18. Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes
  19. Failing Fast
  20. Failing IS Part of Our Process
  21. Throwing out the cheese
  22. Two-Facedbook
  23. Is it bed-time yet?
  24. Making it to Xmas
  25. Smart Goals
  26. Mastering the art of quitting
  27. And Endless Downward Sloping Set of Stairs
  28. 7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re Afraid Of Failure
  29. “Negative Vibes”
  30. Why?!
  31. Why I Love Failing Just As Much As Succeeding
  32. I’ve got spirit, yes I do!
  33. what should you be?
  34. Reality Check
  35. One thing about Mark Zuckerberg you never knew
  36. Designed To Fail (& Grow)
  37. Fear Of Not Flying
  38. Once bitten
  39. The Countercultural Icon, #2
  40. Motivation Monday – Fear Edition!
  41. Life is hard. Send help
  42. The sun still rises even with the pain
  43. Learn To Strike Out
  44. One year older, one year…wiser?
  45. What’s At Risk When We Choose Not To Take A Risk?
  46. 365 Days Later
  47. 5 Lessons I’ve learned from 2016
  48. It wasn’t about me.

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2 responses to “It´s not how you fall, but how you standup

  1. Redeeming Luv Greetings to you!
    Love this: Niet hoe je valt, wel hoe je opstaat.

    This is why believers should pray one for the other.

    I pray that God our heavenly Father would continue to bless and keep you healthy and strong in Christ, and that you fulfill his will and purpose for your life, grant it heavenly Father in JESUS’ name. Amen.

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  2. I really enjoyed reading your post and am excited to check out the Peter Handke. Failing calmly to me is all about trusting God that He has you. When I intentionally live this way I find myself able to focus on all the opportunities given to me because I failed. Thanks also for sharing my link–we are trying to make it ‘normal’ for our children to have a healthy relationship with failure.

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