Be Kinder to Yourself

How many times are you thinking positive about yourself? Only by placing a positive continuation after “I am” that the “I am” in you can grow positively and enjoy life.
Why wait until tomorrow. Start to day by accepting yourself how you are and to treat yourself nicely. When you treat yourself the way you would like to have others treating yourself, you too may come to treat them the way you would love to be treated and cold come sharing a love which shall construct you positively, giving you renewed energy every day over and over again.

Always remember, the way you feel shall let others feel a certain way.  Your positive attitude shall not only reflect your person’s mind and courage, it shall offer a mirror to the people you have contact with. Your positive attitude shall infect also other  people and give you and them extra power.

The Power of Positive Thinking (EP) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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4. Benefits of Positive Thinking
5. Praying and thinking positively
6. Believe in yourself!
7. Believe in your greatness
8. Getting fate in your change to positiveness
9. There can only be hope when there is a will to be and say “I am”
10. Positive – Negative being positive, negative or positive
11. Watch out
12. Helping to create a Positive Attitude
13. Attitude of Unstopable Success

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Why not be extra kind to yourself today. Stop being so hard on yourself and accept who you are, and revel in it. Start treating yourself with the love and respect you deserve. The better you feel about YOU, the more value you can create for your world. It’s alright if you can’t do a lot for yourself all at once, just do a little something each day. These small moments of joy for yourself will add up and they will keep you pointed in a positive direction.

If you had a friend that spoke to you or treated you the way you treat yourself, how long will you allow that person to be your friend? So, get it together and start being kinder to yourself!

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Mourners Celebrate Life Of Inspirational Cancer Teen

Stephen Sutton, a young man who had to face cancer, but did not let it bring him down, has died. His spirit, bravery and determination to live life to the full was and should be an inspiration to us all.

Sutton, from Burntwood, Staffordshire, who spent his last weeks raising more than £3million for the Teenage Cancer Trust charity, died on Wednesday after being re-admitted to hospital at the weekend with breathing difficulties and his family said his condition was rapidly deteriorating.

For all healthy and sick people it is good to take this young man in mind.

“Stephen didn’t measure life in time, preferring instead to measure it by the difference someone makes. Stephen has made an enormous difference to Teenage Cancer Trust and the seven young people diagnosed with cancer every day who need our help.”

said Siobhan Dunn, chief executive of Teenage Cancer Trust which Sutton raised his money for.

The final photo posted on Stephen Sutton’s Facebook

You may find on Facebook RIP Steven Sutton and already a Facebook page Steven Sutton deserves an OBE.

No matter his illness which he knew would bring soon bring an end to his life this boy was full of life and wanted to do many things in his life. He wanted to try to make the world a better place no matter what.

Kenneth Blanchard with many others found Stephen a fantastic lad who was always thinking of others and will be sadly missed.

The Teenage Cancer Trust wrote on its site:

Stephen Sutton, the amazing young man who did so much to raise funds and awareness for Teenage Cancer Trust has died. The thoughts of everyone here at Teenage Cancer Trust are with Stephen’s family and friends. We are humbled and hugely grateful for what Stephen achieved, and continues to achieve, for young people with cancer.

Stephen Sutton was a normal kid who did well at school, had ambitions of becoming a doctor, played lots of sports and played drums in a local band. Like anyone else his age, he liked socializing and going out with friends.

Then in 2010, when he was 15, he was diagnosed with stage 3B colorectal cancer. After 6 months of crippling symptoms he underwent a hemicolectomy to remove a tumour from his bowel, then had 6 months of chemotherapy. The treatment had all kinds of side effects but throughout it he was determined not to let the treatment and diagnosis get on top of him.

In January 2013, diagnosed with a s continued growing and spreading cancer, this young lad decided to share his life and outlook with the whole world, starting off by making a Facebook page called Stephen’s story. I’ve raised over £160,000 so far, through events ranging from charity quizzes, to a skydive to dinner parties. I think there should be some fun in fundraising, and I always encourage people to try something new.

I smile because I have a lot to smile about. I’ve seen a lot, achieved a lot — and had a lot of fun doing it too. – Now he is gone but his spirit may carry on.

Stephen’s Story has expanded to other forms of social media including Twitter, Tumblr and Instagram. Facebook acquired over 12,500 dedicated Facebook fans and over 16,000 followers on Twitter at one point, and he hoped to inspire people with motivational quotes, humour and positivity.

His time on this world was too short. Lichfield Cathedral had to be host for his death body, but had to see his spirit was much alive, seeing a sea of yellow as the vigil for Stephen was held this Thursday and Friday. The respons of local shops and homes in Lichfield to an appeal to ‘paint the town yellow’ was nicely followed and the home town, Burntwood, was covered in yellow ribbons in memory of this strong boy who made it possible that many other people could be helped in the future.

At 6pm on Thursday, Stephen’s coffin had left his home in Burntwood by horse-drawn carriage, entering Lichfield by The Bowling Green, passing along The Friary, Swan Road and Bird Street before entering the Close. He was taken into the cathedral at 7pm and laid in a place of honour and given a short opening ceremony at the cathedral. The Cathedral remained open until midnight for people to pay their respects. When I watched the Breakfast Show on BBC I could already see the many people passing from 7am on Friday, before a public farewell ceremony at 3pm that afternoon.

All are welcome to attend. At 3.45pm on Friday, Stephen’s coffin will exit the Close and leave Lichfield for a private family funeral.

His mother wrote on Facebook:

My heart is bursting with pride but breaking with pain for my courageous, selfless, inspirational son who passed away peacefully in his sleep in the early hours of this morning, Wednesday 14th May. The ongoing support and outpouring of love for Stephen will help greatly at this difficult time, in the same way as it helped Stephen throughout his journey. We all know he will never be forgotten, his spirit will live on, in all that he achieved and shared with so many.

It is nice we can see people like Stephen and Matt who had this amazing ability to just make you forget, to have you laughing at old stories or chatting away about what’s been going on at work, and suddenly nothings wrong, you’re not talking to someone who’s ill, you’re just talking to Matt or Stephen. Such personalities are needed in a society who is afraid to face the illnesses that can kill.

Under the constant shadow of terminal bowel cancer – creating a bucket list and spreading awareness to other young people Stephen saw his campaign gain rapid momentum.

In an interview with The Sun when he was well enough, the teenager said:

“You only get one shot at life. I need to make every second count.”

Before his death, Stephen, who was diagnosed aged just 15, said:

“I don’t see the point in measuring life in terms of time any more. I’d rather measure life in terms of making a difference.”

You may say he made a difference and let every second of his life be of some importance by which he also dared to put himself at the side and be there to help others.

It was that attitude which earned the highest praise and admiration, including from celebrities including  Benedict Cumberbatch, Jason Manford, Simon Pegg , Russell Brand, Simon Cowell, and Ricky Gervais.
Prime Minister David Cameron went to meet Stephen while in hospital, and following his death on May 14, said:

“I’m deeply saddened to hear that Stephen Sutton has died. His spirit, bravery and fund-raising for cancer research were all an inspiration.”

The Mirror front page for tomorrow’s paper. – A fitting tribute to a courageous teenager who was taken too soon.

Rock legend Roger Daltrey paid tribute to Stephen last night.

The Who frontman, 70, said to the Sun:

“The courage of the boy was amazing. Stephen became an inspiration to teenagers around the world.

“His short life will have an impact for years to come. It is very hard for the family but he was so resilient.

“You’d never think he was so ill. He had incredible spirit and encouraged other teenagers not to hide away from the illness.

“The world needs examples like Stephen so teenagers can get the treatment they need.” {Sun Press associates}

Many can learn from how he looked at himself:

“I actually I see myself as very fortunate- despite being incurable for a while I have had a sustained period of very good health where I was able to go out and enjoy things thoroughly…”

“Ultimately, there is no miracle cure for me. I am potentially the most positive and optimistic person in the world, but we have to be realistic with what we are up against. My disease is very advanced and will get me eventually, but I will try my damn hardest to be here as long as possible.”

Jason Manford, who helped to champion Stephen’s fundraising, paid tribute to the teenager as being

“the most inspiring person I’ve ever met”.

The comedian added:

“He was an incredibly positive young man and a credit to his family, to Burntwood and to humanity itself.

“The reason we took to him so passionately was because he was better than us, he did something that none of us could even imagine doing.

“In his darkest hour he selflessly dedicated his final moments to raising millions of pounds for teenagers with cancer.

“Some of Stephen’s words will stay with me and others forever and they are words to live by – ‘life isn’t measured in time, it’s measured in achievements’.

“If that’s true, Stephen, then you had a fulfilling life full of special moments and you will live long in the memory of thousands, if not millions, of people.”

Many well wishers gave a thumbs up as the coffin of Stephen Sutton stood in Lichfield Cathedral during a two day vigil in his memory.

Stephen pictured with his mother, Jane, who left a moving tribute to her son on the Stephen’s Story Facebook page

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The Guestwriters team wishes his family strength and hope they can find comfort that Stephen could inspire many others and followed his dreams, showing others that even when their life sadly may be full of misery it is still possible to enjoy that shortened life.

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Please do find what Stephen Sutton has raised at the Stephen’s fundraising page which stood at Raised: 189% on May 31 2014: £4,164,869.00 raised of £1,000,000.00 targe; 178,284 donations

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Find also about Matthew Burton who was cared for at the YPU unit at the QE hospital Birmingham and who too are fund raising for The Teenage Cancer Trust (though not quite on Stephens scale) : McHeroes London 2 Brighton! … trekking 100km from London to Brighton for Teenage Cancer Trust because they do fantastic work for young people.

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There’s no rule book on how to manage grief or the death of a person you know or have connected with. There’s no right or wrong way to feel and everyone will react differently.

There are some organisations who offer support at times of bereavement and loss.

www.samaritans.org

www.cruse.org.uk

www.winstonswish.org.uk

www.childline.org.uk

If you are worried about your health, speak to a doctor or visit www.nhs.uk

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Praying and thinking positively

Think Positive

Think positive
Is what always echo in my ears,
Do no think otherwise
This will wipe away your fears.

The moment anything negative
Comes to your mind,
Immediately strike it out
By thinking about something positive.

While praying do not bring
Any negative words in your mind,
Keep chanting only positive
Peace and solace then you will find.

Say, we are stuck in the midst of a bad traffic,
We pray, ‘Oh God! I should not get late! ‘
See a negativity running in our mind
And by God, we are really late!

Our whole day goes bad
We keep blaming the fate like mad,
Instead, a positive prayer, Oh God, May I reach early
Might have worked out fairly!

As one says, its always easier said than done!
As its not really easy to eliminate negative thoughts from our mind,
But surely its possible to strike out the negative,
And thereby make our disturbing thoughts unwind.

Kavya …

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What kind of attitude do you have?

Choosing the people around us is important. We can become influenced by them, but we also can influence them. Those who are full of negativism can become transformed by our positivism.

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Remember:

1. Evaluate people, places and things in the right way
2. Form your attitudes through life experiences in a good way
3. Show your feeing
4. do not hide you way of thinking
5. dare to show your acting
6. Create a positive environment => be more positive = have a positive attitude
7. learn about positive thinking and practice what you learn => develop habit of being positive.
8. !   Negative people can pull down your mood and make you very unhappy.
9. Do not have to their bad mood get to you.

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An attitude is how you evaluate people, places and things.   Attitudes are formed through life experiences and show how you feel, think and act.

Depending on the environment you grew up in, the people you surround yourself with and how immersed you are in the media, you may have developed a more positive or a more negative attitude.  When you are in a positive environment, you will tend to be more positive and likely have a positive attitude.  When you are in a negative environment, you will tend to be more negative and likely have a negative attitude.

The good thing is, you don’t have to keep the attitude you have.   If you learn about positive thinking and practice what you learn, you will develop a habit of being positive.

When you meet someone who has a negative attitude, how does it make you feel?  If they are being nasty, mean…

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Attitude of Unstopable Success

When people do want to get rid of the negativeness in their life they should come to the understanding that they shall have to change their attitude and direct their choices in the good direction.
To be able to find a path to success we get to put away our memories of the bad things. We have to chose to let go bad memories and most of all the fear for what happened in the past to us and for what still could happen to us. We must be aware that we may have to walk on a hard road, the one less travelled but the one with less hurt.

We perhaps have to choose to go into other directions than most people do want to go and we have to chose the better friends to walk with us. There is no reason at all to cling to the past nor to people who are not meant to stay with us.

For sure there will be haters of all sorts of thing and mostly of those who do not like us. But why keep worrying about them? Why wanting to walk around with those who so often doubt? We may doubt, but it may not catch us like a virus. When we do face the Non-Believers and the Unbelievers, we should stand strong in our own shoes, going for what we feel in our inner guts.

We better dare to stand strong in the heavy waters of the sea of this demanding world and have the strong feeling that we will and shall prove them wrong.

Positivism demands first a strong change in ourselves. First we do have to believe in ourselves before we can start constructing.
The attitudes given here are one step to the start-blocks to do the relay race of our life.

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Additional reading

1. Happy is the person who knows what to remember of the past
2. Running away from the past
3. Rejoicing in the day

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“Attitude is a matter of Choice and not a Chance”.

Alphabetically let’s learn to practice in life.

1. Adjust with people and situation
2. Bear every thing to achieve any thing
3. Communicate clearly as desired
4. Develop confidence in people
5. Engage your self always
6. Forget and forgive
7. Give love to all
8. Help all in difficulty
9. Influence every one with your nature
10. Judge people’s feelings
11. Keep your promises alive
12. Lead from front
13. Motivate every one
14. Network with good people
15. Open your heart
16. Pass on all odds
17. Qualify your elegibility
18. Respect all
19. Stay connected to needy people
20. Tolerate all
21. Unite all
22. Value people
23. Willingness to learn
24. X-ray all weakness
25. You propose and people support
26. Zip your thoughts

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Benefits of Positive Thinking

How often do we hear ‘it is all in the mind‘? In a certain way we should find the truth in it that we ourselves do have a lot in our own hands by adjusting our own mind and making the right choices.

Everything in life for ourselves depend how we look at it ourselves and how we want to tackle it ourselves.

Once born and being in this world we have to face many challenges. When growing up we come to understand those opportunities in front of us demand us to make the choice either to be in this world but not part of it, or to prefer to do like most of the human beings and to be taken by the mainstream, putting aside the own personality to be part of the masses.
The majority does not want to see many things, but the positive person does not have close his eyes for the bad things that happen. Those can be challenged with a positive outlook. Instead of avoiding or ignoring the bad things, we should involve ourselves making the most of potentially bad situations, trying to see the best in other people, and viewing ourself and our abilities in a positive light. We should stimulate others also to put on the right glasses,which colour this world as a rainbow, with many various colours and brightnesses.

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To take in mind:

• give yourself and the other adequate credit for successful outcomes, when good things happen
• do not blame outside forces for bad outcomes, but be realistic and knowing that not always one person has to be blamed and that everything can overcome
• blaming yourself for events outside of your control makes no sense
• do not take unfortunate events as a persistent part of your life
• try to see the positiveness in everything
• belief in yourself
• belief and trust those around you
• always stay realistic
• always keep moving forward
• do not stay with your thought in the past
• put the bad things behind you

Remember:

1. Positive Thinkers Cope Better With Stress
2. Optimism Can Improve Your Immunity
3. Positive Thinking Is Good for Your Health
4. It Can Make You More Resilient

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  “Emotional resilience” is more hard-hitting than many of the other methods promising to keep us cool, calm and collected. Originally developed to help victims of natural disasters and massacres cope with catastrophe, it’s reached our shores and is slowly infiltrating offices, schools and communities.
• Optimist Or Pessimist? Brain Scans Show Positive And Negative People Really Do Think Differently (medicaldaily.com)
  Some optimists will believe anything they hear, read or see as long as it goes along with their positive viewpoints on life. Granted this is probably a bit of an extreme, but it is feasible that an optimist can be taken advantage of because they wish to believe in the good they choose to see in everyone. This can lead to trouble if the optimist finds themselves in the wrong situation where their unwavering positivity meets with inevitable negativity that does exist in the world.
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  While the optimist generally believes in the positive and favorable aspects of life, the realist will sometimes disagree taking the stance that we live in an unpredictable world that can be as bad as it is good. While the optimist realizes that there are situations, people, and incidents that are by definition bad, they tend to focus on what positive elements can be taken from those incidents. The realist will usually acknowledge (and accept) those positive elements but they will also focus on why bad things happen, i.e. – there are bad people in the world/stuff happens/life isn’t perfect, etc.
  “It’s the first time we’ve been able to find a brain marker that really distinguishes negative thinkers from positive thinkers,” Dr. Jason Moser, lead author and a researcher at Michigan State University, said in press release.

  The new study, which is published in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology, sought to investigate the difference between positive and negative brains by asking 71 female volunteers to put a positive “spin” on graphic images. For example, participants would be shown an image of a man holding a knife to a woman’s throat and asked to assign a better outcome, such as the woman breaking free and escaping. Moser and colleagues also conducted individual interviews to determine whether subjects were more likely to be positive or negative in everyday life.

  By monitoring each subject’s brain profile throughout the experiment, the team discovered that negative participants displayed much more activity compared to those with an overall positive attitude. “The worriers actually showed a paradoxical backfiring effect in their brains when asked to decrease their negative emotions,” Moser said. “This suggests they have a really hard time putting a positive spin on difficult situations and actually make their negative emotions worse even when they are asked to think positively.”

• How Optimism Can Be Learned (psychologytoday.com)
  Optimism, it turns out, isn’t just defined as the tendency to expect things to turn out better than probability predicts, nor is pessimism defined only as the tendency to expect things to turn out more poorly. Both terms are also used to describe the way we think about the causes of adversity, pessimism in particular being defined as the tendency to think about them in a way that makes us feel powerless. A pessimistic self-explanatory style, then, describes the tendency to attribute the causes of adversity to forces that are internal (“This is all my fault”), universal (“This affects absolutely everything”), and immutable (“This isn’t changeable”).
• The Successful Optimist (entrepreneur.com)
  Optimists make more money and are more loyal.
  The optimist with high reality testing is a gold mine.
  Pessimists are more accurate about reality than optimists.
  There is nothing wrong with being a pessimist.
  Pessimists are more likely to become depressed than their optimistic counterparts.
  Optimists keep moving forward because they believe there are options.
• Optimism, Pessimism, and Realism (hayeskaufman.wordpress.com)
  While the optimist generally believes in the positive and favorable aspects of life, the realist will sometimes disagree taking the stance that we live in an unpredictable world that can be as bad as it is good. While the optimist realizes that there are situations, people, and incidents that are by definition bad, they tend to focus on what positive elements can be taken from those incidents. The realist will usually acknowledge (and accept) those positive elements but they will also focus on why bad things happen, i.e. – there are bad people in the world/stuff happens/life isn’t perfect, etc.
• An easy way to change how you think (the1bigthing.com)
  In the past 15 years Psychologists have turned their attention to what makes us happy in life. The research is loud and clear, your thinking has a huge impact on this. This post looks at what the research shows is ‘good’ thinking, what is not and shows an easy way to change how you think.
• Learned optimism personal_transformation3 (slideshare.net)
• Which one is better: Optimist or pessimist? (umsenglish2011.wordpress.com)
  Human personality traits can be inherited and learned. Nativists believe personality traits are inherited and empiricists believe personality traits are experienced.
  Both nativists and empiricists still argue whether personality traitsare inherited or experienced.
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  Being optimists are also taught in religion. For instance Islam, of course, our religion taught us to be optimists.
  As moslems, we are also taught that being positive can have big impact on our body and longevity.
  It has being said that positive thinking is not only broader our future but also prolong our lifespan. It is self-evident that being positive is not only for our health and well-being but also for our achievement in life.

  Finally, what should we choose? Either way could be disappointed depends on yourself.
  Then, I recommend you to be an optimist person because some researches, even our religion,
  have shown that being positive can reduce stress, increased immune system, prolong your life,
  and above all the very quality of your life.

Motivation & Inspiration

You have probably had someone tell you to “look on the bright side” or to “see the cup as half full.” Chances are good that the people who make these comments are positive thinkers. Researchers are finding more and more evidence pointing to the many benefits of optimism and positive thinking.

Such findings suggest that not only are positive thinkers healthier and less stressed, they also have greater overall well-being. Even if positive thinking does not come naturally to you, there are plenty of great reasons to start cultivating affirmative thoughts and minimizing negative self-talk.

Positive Thinkers Cope Better With Stress

When faced with stressful situations, positive thinkers cope more effectively than pessimists. In one study, researchers found that when optimists encounter a disappointment (such as not getting a job or promotion) they are more likely to focus on things they can do to resolve the situation. Rather than…

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