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Responsible for what we are

More than one writer and philosopher pointed to the fact that we are all ourselves responsible for what we are, have become or what we shall become.


“We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be,
we have the power to make ourselves.
If what we are now has been the result of our own past actions,
it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in future
can be produced by our present actions;
so we have to know how to act.”
~ Swami Vivekananda

Image of Vivekananda, sitting in meditative posture, eyes opened

The Indian Hindu monk Vivekananda sitting in meditative posture in Cossipore 1886

 

Dr Austin Ejaife *(Ugo1)* also looks at this statement which should be a warning for us all. He writes:

It can be easy for us to lose focus of the incredible potential we possess to make ourselves into anything that we wish ourselves to be. All too often we let the little failures in life get us down, or we lock ourselves up into our current situations in life and our same old routines. But it is true what Swami says here:

today, we are a result of our past actions… and it therefore follows that we can come to be whatever we wish, if we so choose to.

The key is that we must choose to make positive changes… and then act upon those changes now. {Take Action To Bring Yourself Closer To Who And What You Wish To Be}

He too is aware that such changes do not have to happen at once. question is first if we are willing to change ourselves. In which way do we want to grow and mould ourselves when we go along the path of life? Question to be posed is on what do we as a person want to focus?

In this world for many the focus is on material things. Not many are interested in the spiritual richness which can be in front of us. We should be aware were we want to position us in this world and how we want to look at ourselves but also would love others to see us.

Dr Austin Ejaife *(Ugo1)*his advice is

We can make slight changes to our routines that help us to become more positive, more productive, and bring us closer to where we desire to be. {Take Action To Bring Yourself Closer To Who And What You Wish To Be}

But also questions

Why is it easy to get caught up in who we are now and lose sight of who we want to be? {Take Action To Bring Yourself Closer To Who And What You Wish To Be}

So many people fall in the trap of their own ego tripping and selfishness, that they miss the opportunity to become part of a greater unit. Lots of people are also afraid to be confronted with their-self and always postpone to change something essential.

For this reason it is not bad to take in consideration the following thought:

 


“Never again clutter your days or nights
with so many menial and unimportant things
that you have no time to accept a real challenge when it comes along.
This applies to play as well as work.

A day merely survived is no cause for celebration.
You are not here to fritter away your precious hours
when you have the ability to accomplish so much by making a slight change in your routine.
No more busy work. No more hiding from success.
Leave time, leave space, to grow. Now. Now! Not tomorrow!”
~ Og Mandino

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Preceding

Getting up to bring changes into your life

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Additional reading

  1. Change
  2. Control and change
  3. Only I can change my life
  4. A Living Faith #8 Change
  5. Concerning the Spiritual Body
  6. Control your destiny or somebody else will
  7. Sociological changes to be taken serious by the church
  8. We will all be changed

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Related

  1. The Humans and The Humanity
  2. Isaiah 24-27; Perfect Peace
  3. April 25th 2018 – Our Focus
  4. Maintaining an Upward Focus
  5. Focus; Pt. 2
  6. May 30th 2018 – Seek His Face

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To come to live in the peace of fulfilment of our own Divine Identity

We had a look at Susan Billmaier her views on the turbulence of life, and the transformation of the self.

At her blog SusanWithPearls – Living Life. Learning to do that better. Sharing it here.- she often wonders how we know ourselves and how we do get at what is inside.

Lots of people question their own self and look for way to have a good life. For years they try out several things. Most often they go looking for

The self that… is a deeper self, some say a “higher self”, some say a “Christ self”, or the “Buddha/enlightened self”, in some Native cultures it is called, simply, “beauty”. {Knowing your Self is more than knowing the size of your stomach.}

She writes

 Whatever it is– the moral self, the good will– I am not too particular about the label, or the words– it is simply the best that a person can find within themselves and everyone has it…whether they know it or not. {Knowing your Self is more than knowing the size of your stomach.}

Copyright Tam Black 2013 Designed for susanwithpearls.comShe also knows that man has to come to a point where the individual comes to see that it has its own value and its own reason to be, demanding to take personal action and own personal focus on personal awareness.

My own Loving Presence is my Self. I turn my attention inward and become aware of my own Loving Presence. With my focused awareness, my own Loving Presence fills me, grows brighter, and grows warmer. {Claim only the Self that you love. A Journey of Purpose: Day 32}

Being faced with the self one may not loose that self nor the faith in the self. Being confronted with the surroundings one need also to be willing to go into confrontation with it and with the inner thoughts, at the same time willing to perceive the necessary changes to be taken or the changes going on around the self.

as a guiding thought can be notated

Accept your light and your lightness! Feel your Self expand! As you perceive change around you, remain anchored in your Being of Light. Allow yourself to sit peacefully in the still place of nothingness as life moves quickly around you. {Arguing with myself and losing: Journey of Courage 2017 – Day 19}

Too many people do forget that we are here on this earth because we are allowed to be here by the Most High Divine Creator. Many do not want to know about that Omnipotent, Omniscient, Powerful Eternal Divine Source of all life, existence and knowledge, but also of peace and joy Though daily they are confronted with “Existence” that surrounds them.

In ““Self Fulfilled”: Journey of Fulfillment 2.0 – Day 05” Susan Billmaier looks at the guiding thought

In Divine Mind, I am filled full! All are equally filled full. All are equal in Love. I fill my mind with thoughts of fulfillment and remember what I already know. I am determined to fulfill my purpose, to know my Self as Divine Love, and to share the fullness I am.{“Self Fulfilled”: Journey of Fulfillment 2.0 – Day 05}

For her “Guiding Thoughts”

acts like a guided visualization and I see/experience the words. There are days when reading the Guiding Thought seems to open a channel within me and I can feel energy within me moving in a new or different way. {“My Self Has My Back, Now if It Would Scratch…”: Journey of Abundance 2.0 – Day 33}

First page of "On the Difficulty of Knowi...

First page of “On the Difficulty of Knowing One’s Self”, 1744 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We can only ascertain that lots of people are afraid of looking at them self in the light of a Higher Being that would be Master over them and would be responsible for their being. We can enact that it is difficult for man to accept that there is a Higher Being Mightier than them and giving them all what the can see around them. That High Being wants us to come into a good relationship with our self, with others around us and with Him. He wants us to get filled with that what made Him create us in the first place. Even when the first man rebelled it was His love for man that made He wanted to allow them to take care of themselves and to find solutions for themselves, but providing also The solution to bring an end to their agony, suffering and continues wandering. Also that foreseen solution, the sent one from God, the Messiah, God His own begotten beloved son shared that love of God with mankind and gave his life for all. Like that man of flesh and blood did not want to do his own will, but only did the Will of God, we too should come to a point where we want to do the Will of God and share His love with others.  Only that way we can come to fill our mind and heart with love, aligning with the Light of Truth. Steadfast and focused on our own Loving Presence, than we shall be able to live in the peace of fulfilment of our own Divine Identity.

Copyright Tam Black 2016 Designed for susanwithpearls.com

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Preceding

Inner Voice

Transformation is easy, when you step into something that already IS.

In the turbulence of life, listen and wait.

How to Live Beyond the Ordinary

Learning that stuff is just stuff

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Additional reading

  1. No curtain placed over tomorrow
  2. There is no true and constant gentleness without humility
  3. Only the contrite self, sick of its pretensions, can find salvation
  4. For those who make other choices
  5. Knowledge of Christ and fear for God
  6. Looking for answers on the question Is there a God #4

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Further writings of interest

  1. Body image bullshit
  2. If I could talk to my younger self
  3. Scattered Thoughts
  4. Spring Cleaning for the Mind
  5. Solitude..
  6. Desires
  7. What’s Happening To Me
  8. “I don’t know what living a balanced life feels like..”
  9. Dear self
  10. Your Greatest Privilege
  11. One-Forty-Five AM Exert- Self Discovery
  12. My sensory problems: The Big List
  13. Flush the Ugly and Soar
  14. Vacay
  15. On Strength
  16. Rejection: What Others Think (Our Challenge)
  17. Color and Character
  18. Making Sense of the Senses
  19. Issue With the Self-Image
  20. It is not what it seems… maybe
  21. Knowing Me…
  22. Am I, a Romantic?
  23. Self Obssession is Getting Out of Hand
  24. The Paradox of Being in the Present Moment
  25. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (1): Introduction
  26. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (2): Mental multiplicity
  27. Unity: Coherence of the manifold self (3): Material causes
  28. Who Do You Find Your Worth In? Part 2
  29. A Female Factory Worker & a Writer, the Features of a Woman
  30. Putting Yourself Down: Don’t
  31. Intellectual, maybe not
  32. Work from within: Combatting inflammation with lifestyle changes
  33. Dreaming in India
  34. Connection
  35. The Monkey-Trap
  36. To Open Up, Once More, Memories of a Plant
  37. Selfie Woes
  38. Lets put the self in selfie
  39. The Well of Knowledge
  40. Initially, you are unformed
  41. If I could only…
  42. Time for Changes
  43. Thoughts to Myself
  44. What is love?

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Oh god, this is never going to end!

How many times do people block themselves by putting in their head that they can not help themselves?

Each human being, like any mammal, has received the capability to heal him or herself. Most human beings have forgotten how to do it, but if they really want to heal and become stronger, they themselves can make themselves stronger, without help of others even.

We also, when we have reached a point where we do not see any way out and can not help ourselves, dare to go to professionals who can come to our help, bringing us back on the road to self-growth and successfulness.

Being aware you need counselling is already a very good step in the right direction. Now you need to find the love for yourself again and find love for what is around you, by opening your eyes and your heart, plus opening your mind to let bad things go out of it and let good things enter your head and heart.

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To consider:

When there is a wonderful, amazing, caring, patient boyfriend why should you not want to live any more?

Good to talk with the partner or friend.

When you are thinking about suicide and think the other can’t help go find a medical professional.

Never believe everyone has had enough with you, because that just can not be.

You also never deserve all the hate that is reaped upon you. How often we interpret something as hate or badness, whilst it has not to be so?

Hating yourself is often that what gets you down. First of all you have to start finding love for yourself again.

Do not hate yourself nor the other.

By punishing yourself you shall not help yourself.

When you know you are not what you want to be and therefore feel not perfect, know that nobody is perfect and that we may have dreams of what we would like to be but that we should not be ashamed that we not always can become who we would love to be.

Allow yourself to be happy.

Do not punish yourself  berating yourself for doing something “normal” like knocking a cup over, but dare to laugh it away and to see the funny things and pleasant things of life around you.

Do not think you will always make everyone’s life a misery with your misery. Try talking about it and try meeting others, in your own surroundings, in the park, etc.

Try to enjoy the small things of life.

Good Luck

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Please do read: Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression

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  • What doesn’t kill me . . . makes me? (brake5.wordpress.com)
    We toss relationships so easily in a minimal way in the words of ‘what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger’?  To be honest, strength is a good God characteristic; but when not balanced with the love of God we lose our gentleness towards others killing our reflection of Christ.  The question then rises . . . How tough do we want to be; tough enough that we miss God’s leading in areas that exemplify His love.
  • Things I am growing in since turning 25…part 5 (nissiknows.wordpress.com)
    I used to hate getting hurt – I still do…but less so. With every emotional and physical battle I find myself fighting I now know I am learning a little more about myself and taking on a quality in me that causes strife and division.
  • Embraceing The Darkness (peternavratillife.wordpress.com)
    Darkness is all around us.  I am not just talking about the physical darkness of the night sky and under the bed and stuff, but of the darkness that lurks everywhere in our lives too.  Darkness is the absence of light.  And every time we choose to reject the light of Christ and turn away from God and what He has to offer and focus instead on ourselves and what we can get, we are embracing that darkness.  I’m not just talking about things like abortion, suicide, rape, but mostly the little things like lying, swearing, and not passing the salt at dinner.  Every time we do something selfish, we are inviting the darkness in.
  • America, land of 1,000 addictions (wnd.com)
    Of course, toddler iPad problems, video-game addiction, even the mushrooming epidemic of online gambling as well as the massive numbers of people reportedly “addicted” to the Internet itself, to Facebook, to texting and so on – all these pale in comparison to the truly gargantuan and society-ravaging problem of Internet pornography.
  • Wallow not in self-criticism and blame, (ifewale.wordpress.com)
    Wallow not in self-criticism and blame, as it destroys self confidence. Your negative beliefs are not necessarily true. Since confidence is founded on a positive view of self, believing that you are always good enough the way you are (created in the image of God) and that you deserve the best is vital in getting the things you want.
  • Afflictions That Heal Us (brokenbelievers.com)
    Any affliction that keeps me from going astray—that drives me deeper into his Word—is healing. God’s most gracious healing force spiritually and physically can be afflictions.

Living with the black stuff

Today, I have told my wonderful, amazing, caring, patient boyfriend that I do not want to live any more.  I feel like I can’t take feeling like this for eternity.  I have had a massive chat with him this morning, we do usually chat quite a lot about my feelings and how I am today, but this is the first time I have “fessed” up to thinking about suicide (well, I think about it 24/7).  He can’t help me, I know he wants to, but he cant.  I can’t help myself, I push him away so he hates me, then I can be hateful to me when everyone has had enough with me.  I will deserve all the hate that is reaped upon me.  I can then finally say, “yes, this is what I want and this is what I deserve”.  I am such a shitty girlfriend.  We are waiting…

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