Stop Burning Rape Survivors at the Stake

Often when an awful trauma comes over a young female person, when the ‘person’ is taken away from her, she does not only feel a prey but becomes also the hunted by society who points with a damning finger when she wants to make an end to that what the intruder placed in her body.

In certain countries, like India and in Africa, sexually assaulted girls become cast out by their beloved ones and by the community. They have to carry the wounds of the awful event with them for their all life.

Those who say they can not stop the childbearing have to wonder themselves what they would do in such a situation and should better listen to some people who experienced the trauma of their life.

For all the anti-abortion groups and people who condemn those girls who decided to undergo an abortion it is best to listen also to the voices of those victims.
Witnessing for this reason is very important. If there can be no empathy on the part of the anti-abortionist leagues communication and understanding on both parts will stay difficult.

For sure too often the victim is blamed for what went wrong and often the rapist can go without punishments and even gets some encouragement from others.

What rape victims need is a comprehending ear and people who can understand why and how they feel and why they want to take certain decisions.

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To remember:

• eviscerated rape survivors > over how they deal with their rapes
• consent activists come down on a survivor for saying her rape was less traumatic than most
• incredible pressure on victims to ‘tell the police or shut the fuck up.’

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• Rape is not drama (overreaction) + play for attention, a performance < This is a total wrong attitude and wrong thinking; Those rape victims are not at all wanting to get more attention. Many of them would prefer to go in a little corner and often feel a nobody
• When telling a survivor that they’re attention-seeking =  you’re saying =  “Rape is not so bad. Shut the fuck up and get over it.”
• impossible to overreact to rape = can’t think of a damn thing in this life that is harder to cope with
• Dealing with rape = one of the most gut-wrenching, confusing things this life has to throw at a person
• responses not always going to look elegant, selfless, and wise => no perfect response to rape
• rape survivor responding normally to an abnormal situation
• Judging rape survivor’s responding =  like judging a tree for moving when the wind blows = requiring someone who is going through hell to fulfil your expectations as a casual observer
• needs + expectations rape victim = about them
• victims not psychologically well enough to get through a case
• sometimes there is no evidence = spent months, or often years, agonising over their options in terms of a case

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Preceding articles:

Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression

It continues to be a never ending, exhausting battle for survival.

Whoopi Goldberg commandments and abortion

My Choice (by Jezabel Jonson)

The Real ‘Choice’

“They Told Me What I Wanted To Hear” – Real Abortion Stories

The Things We Carry, by Penny

Hillary Clinton Says Religious Beliefs About Abortion Have to be Changed

Freedom and amendments, firearms and abortions

If the baby is part of the woman’s body…

Not an easy decision to make

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Find also to read:

1. Subcutaneous power for humanity 2 1950-2010 Post war generations
2. Stronger than anything that wants to destroy

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Further reading:

1. Society is the problem and the disease… forcing sexual abuse & child sexual abuse survivors, to suffer more.
2. No, I don’t want paedophiles, rapists, sex offenders etc, to be beaten up, abused back.
3. It continues to be a never ending, exhausting battle for survival.
4. Numbing…..helps me cope, with the severity of all the heinous abuse, I have endured.
5. Too many people, have touched my soul, with their dirty hands.
6. Ignore the troll on my facebook page – Nefertari/Abortion page admin/LisaMarie
7. Using Charlotte Dawson’s abortion ‘only’, by Fred Nile for his own agenda, is digusting.
8. I knew some Christians would ‘need’ to talk about abortion, in relation to Charlotte Dawson’s death.
9. Where do Abused Children turn for Help?
10. You can Not Stop Abuse…(Or how I slid off the Bell-Shaped Curve of Sane decisions)
11. This is Your Brain…This is Your Brain on Abuse
12. Why Abuse Victims often feel they are Swimming Upstream
13. Ultimate Recovery from Abuse
14. A child, who is abused, is a child no more

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