How to heal after childhood sexual abuse

In the debate about abortion too many people do forget to look closely at what had happened before the person got pregnant and why there could be justifications for acts to be taken.

In certain countries there are very young children who come with child against their wishes and after not just sexual abuse but after sexual violence they have to endure stressful trauma’s which will haunt them for the whole of their life.

The young innocent being lost their innocence and after their traumatic experience they need a listening soul, not condemning them straight away but having comprehension and willing to show sincere help.

After their traumatic experience society has to be very careful not to ‘rape’ them once more.

It is totally wrong to assume that the person must have had some pleasure in the physical touch and therefore must be guilty as well. In certain instances events can take place where there maybe may have been a feeling of love towards the perpetrator who gave them special attention.

Wounds are made and the victim, because that is what she is, can’t go on fighting forever. And with a confrontation with what is growing inside her there may be even a bigger battle going on.

They really needs guts; courage to look inside themselves, feel the emotional pain, willing to look for solutions which shall make it less painful in the future. Lots of emotions have to be released and new strength has to be found. If not, they will not be able to recover and not able to enjoy their lives as much as possible, having normal relationships.

Please, Let us be more understanding of sexual victims.

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To remember

  • healing from childhood sexual abuse = long and tedious process
  • All various emotions = to be felt and released
  • suppressing emotions does not help
  • Eat well, rest + get lots of sleep
  • no miracle cures or quick answers
  • You will need to work through
    feelings of loss and its impact on your life + feelings of betrayal and perhaps a desire to punish those involved for what happened + for not looking after you
    any shame you feel and learn that it is safe to open back up to love, sexuality, passion and joy
  • You will need to learn to trust others and allow yourself to be vulnerable again.
  • Do your best to support yourself with kindness, love and friendship >  Be the loving parent to yourself that you wished your parents were.
  • Love = melt the armour and help the emotions to surface
  • allow to be vulnerable, weak, and to be looked after by others
  • Life is meant to be enjoyed. Just this and other experiences get in the way. Do the work to free yourself from the past, so that you can enjoy the rest of your life and make the most of it. You can do it and it’s worth doing.
  • Go easy with yourself. You don’t need to dig through your past trying to find clues about what did or didn’t happen. it will surface when it is meant to, when you are strong enough and ready to process it.

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Preceding articles:

Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression

It continues to be a never ending, exhausting battle for survival.

Whoopi Goldberg commandments and abortion

My Choice (by Jezabel Jonson)

The Real ‘Choice’

“They Told Me What I Wanted To Hear” – Real Abortion Stories

The Things We Carry, by Penny

Hillary Clinton Says Religious Beliefs About Abortion Have to be Changed

Freedom and amendments, firearms and abortions

If the baby is part of the woman’s body…

Not an easy decision to make

Stop Burning Rape Survivors at the Stake

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Further reading:

  1. Sexual Violence and the Media
  2. Global Sexual Violence: Breaking the Cycle
  3. Sexual Violence – Prevention and Response
  4. Violence Against Women: When Are We Going to Address It, Seriously?
  5. New York magazine to publish week-long survey of college sex
  6. Guns on Campus: Sending the Wrong Message to Men
  7. Is the Office for Civil Rights Taking Over Campus Sexual Assault Discipline Systems Through Resolution Agreements?
  8. International Day of the Girl Child ……AIDS Healthcare Foundation
  9. Why I Fear Going Home On My Own
  10. India shamed by sexual violence
  11. Outrage in India after 2 teens arrested for raping 2-year-old girl
  12. They Claimed It Never Happened: A Woman is Arrested After Reporting Her Rape
  13. Saskatchewan rolls out anti-sexual violence public awareness campaign
  14. pornography’s link to sexual violence
  15. Rape: we are all at risk
  16. Debunking the Mythologies of Rape
  17. The #1 thing I want people to do this week to support ace survivors
  18. A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara
  19. Going back to the place where I was raped
  20. ‘On the Pull’
  21. I Was Almost a Police Officer: An Interview with Melodia
  22. way to be careless
  23. sssssssssss
  24. Detroit’s Kym Worthy turns to football rivalry to fund rape kit testing
  25. Abusers Cannot Be The Face of Anti-Violence Campaigning
  26. Welcome, Widen Agents!
  27. SACHA in Bathrooms
  28. To Survivors Of Sexual Violence
  29. False Reporting is Rare
  30. Reclaiming My Self
  31. Women, Peace, and Security: What’s to come?
  32. Detroit women pledge $600k to solve untested rape-kit crisis
  33. Yazidis in the face of rape, enslavement: “We will not die … we will live”
  34. This man saved 40,000 women. Will he win the Nobel Peace Prize?
  35. Indiana University frat suspended due to video of apparent sexual hazing
  36. From “Slutwalk” to March: Philadelphia Brings Rape Culture Awareness
  37. We Don’t Allow Sexual Violence in Real Life, So Why Do We Allow it in Video Games?
  38. A Call to ASUPS to Prioritize Sexual Violence Prevention
  39. Judge deals Bill Cosby a major legal blow
  40. Marriage is not a license to rape
  41. Responses to Sexual Violence Within the British Criminal Justice System Pt 2: Problematic Views
  42. Trauma, the Brain, and Why the Positive Impact We Can Have on Kids Is so Important!
  43. Women of #nzpol Twitter: on the incarceration of trans women in male prisons
  44. Discover Haiti | Story about the Struggles of Haitian Women
  45. #NotAskingForIt – a review of Louise O’Neills ‘Asking for It’
  46. My Scratching Shows My Pain

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Dr. Jodi-Anne M Smith

light of godThis is a gigantic topic that can not be addressed in one blog. We will give some general guidance and cover other aspects in future blogs. Childhood sexual abuse is a heinous act that takes away a child’s sense of innocence and trust in the world. Whether the act was done in a violent or loving manner it rips apart a child’s identity. They are no longer a child living in a world of mystery, awe and learning. They no longer can lose themselves in the moment, they lose spontaneity and joy for life. In its place come watching, scanning for danger, for fear of it happening again. Confusion terrifies – is it good, bad, dirty, evil? Am I a bad person because of it? Why is it a secret? Why mustn’t others know? All of this takes a child out of a child’s mindset and experience of life. It…

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  3. Man has kept Children unprotected for 7,000 years.
    I would think people would be more interested in stopping 10,000,000 Children ages 13 years old and up from contracting at least one (1) or more STIs or STDs, or both JUST THIS YEAR!!!!
    NOW, as far as false reports on DV, at least 1 out of 2 or at least 1 out of 3 are false DV reports.
    IF this were not so, WOMEN would not lead men by at least 10% in Child Abuse, and this is one of those tainted numbers padded by the CPS, the number is more probably closer to 20% higher than men.
    The bottom line is wholesale MURDER of Children just for the right to say “I AM MURDERING MY BABY” is WRONG.
    MOST PROBABLY ABOUT 70,000,000 BABIES MURDERED SINCE Roe v. Wade in 1973.
    How can you find this acceptable????? While at the same time, the worrld went wild with the killing of a Lion.
    You Lemmings are weird people.
    Robert

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    • We are not at all saying it would be acceptable to kill so many babies, even not one.

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      • I apologize for being very tardy.
        I appreciate your stance in this matter, and believe you truly care.
        I have hopes that with a meaningful conversation and exchange of thoughts from each others point of view, we might just come up with some ideas that have merit and hopefully do Our Children and Fellow Man so badly needed good.
        Just so I would be ready, I paid enough attention to Ms Clinton to know she is blowing a very big smoke-screen.
        I will know more when Our Attorney General here in Texas runs Planned Parenthood’s numbers.
        I do know that abortion numbers are not falling, so I have a hard time believing that Planned Parenhood is making a significant difference with this birth control issue, and I feel the same about the clinics offered to Women.
        People have a serious I, I, I, ME, ME, ME issue in Our Country at this time.
        I have a serious problem with STUPIDITY, but lets just start right here.
        I have never hurt any animal, on purpose, unless I meant to do so in the act of hunting.
        However, to see so many people come together all over the world, for a common cause was amazing.
        BUT with the out-of-control Violence, Child Maltreatment, and the out-of-control HIV, I can sum this group of Lion Champions up with one word…. S-T-U-P-I-D-I-T-Y!!!!
        I am going to say one more thing about this and give an example:
        People have no, and do not take HIV and AIDS seriously enough.
        To say that HIV and AIDS does not spread by kissing, breathing, mosquitos, and especially latent samples spewed in a planned parenthood waiting room when someone sneezes on a hand that they didn’t just wash, or the examination room where who knows how many people were in this room previously.
        Body Fluids come out of a lot of possible places on a body.
        A REAL Medical Facility, where there is NO THOUGHT of possibly an under-the-counter abortion or sales of body parts which must be buried or incinerated unless someone indeed signed a HITLER-TYPE HUMAN EXPERIMENTATION Document.
        The example I want to throw outm here, with nothing but respect for Medical Professionals Intended:
        A Degreed Nurse contracted ebola in a hospital.
        Robert

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