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Where is the government strategy to prevent violence against women?

Visiting Lecturer in International Politics at City University London, Patrick Pinkerton, records his less systematic thoughts on everyday political, cultural and social life in the hope it’ll be illuminating.

He has thoughts by the the British government currently engaged in a public and media campaign to change the terms of the debate on radicalisation, with David Cameron urging people to be ‘intolerant of intolerance’ and calling on communities to do more to tackle the extreme ideologies that allow violent ones to emerge.

He doesn’t think it would be an over exaggeration to suggest that Cameron is placing part of the blame for young people turning to ISIL on the failure of the Muslim community in the UK to challenge extreme narratives, and that he is urging the Muslim community to take more responsibility for this.

Regardless of whether you agree or disagree with this point, I think you can accept that Cameron is seeking to apportion some blame on those who could have acted differently in order to prevent young Europeans travelling to Syria and Iraq to join the brutal and murderous IS movement.

he writes in his article Cameron’s Blame Game. And continues

Cameron’s platitudes about building a ‘national identity’ that ‘young people in our country feel truly part of’ is not enough. If he is so keen to ensure people take responsibility for their actions then he should take responsibility for his own: for the demands he makes on Muslims to pledge their loyalty to an undefined idea of ‘British values’, that could indeed not be defined in anything but an exclusionary manner; and for the essentialised notions of a ‘Muslim community’ his government propagates, requiring surveillance and securitisation. {Cameron’s Blame Game}

The government may be aware of how disengaged it is from large sections of the British Muslim communities but is it aware how ethics and moral values in a country play a very important role in how people are behaving or going to behave?

We also have to be aware how children can become influenced by others, and most of all by those who may offer security, glorious cause, a new way of life. It is unacceptable that many children face bad situations at home, where 22% had suffered from physical or sexual violence by a partner.

The UK and France reported the 5th highest number of violence against women, with 44%. Violence by an intimate partner being the most common type of abuse.
European civilians should shame themselves having about a third of all women in the EU having experienced either physical or sexual violence since the age of 15, according to a survey by the European Union Agency for Fundamental Rights.

We also should do something against “fear of stigma” which still prevents many women from reporting sexual violence.

slutwalk_1891529cMany countries in the so called civilised world are derailed. In many countries of Western Europe men and women have an abundant life full of libertine sex. In all those countries where there is a certain economical wealth we notice psychological and ethical poverty. Men as well as women do not seem to have ethical values and do not seem to have any proud about the sanctity of their own body. At the same time that so many boast about their free sex life with many we see unacceptable levels of sexual coercion and female genital mutilation (FGM), sexually transmitted infection (STI) diagnosed and an increase of teenage pregnancy.

Often it looks like we are living in an oversexed world, were there do not seem to exist any borders. Many do find it normal that youngsters and adults share sex videos online at the touch of their cell phones. Many find it normal to see sex between the same sexes and even find it more interesting to see it done by several partners in one go. Though many may find it weird to run naked in the garden or on a beach they do not worry to strip in front of a camera and showing their nakedness on a screen hoping to get themselves a million likes.

When approximately 85,000 women and 12,000 men are raped in England and Wales alone every year [pdf] we should ask serious questions because that’s roughly 11 adult rapes per hour. (!?!)

Over 1,200 victims of FGM were recorded between January and March this year, and unknown numbers of girls and women remain unprotected. Gang violence and grooming are increasingly recognised and the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community remains at risk from stigma and discrimination. Sexual health services identify and support these vulnerable groups every day so the ramifications of reducing access to this support and expertise will be far-reaching and significant. {About the crisis, no not the referendum.. the sexual health crisis!}

We too think like the Guest-author that

Such figures dwarf the violence committed in the name of radicalism, whether inspired by an interpretation of Islam or a far right ideology (both of which are targeted in the Prevent strategy).

It is high time that abuse and exploitation are tackled and that the educational institutions again try to get the youngsters on the moral and ethical path which a civilised country should have.

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Previous articles

How to heal after childhood sexual abuse

About a human being or not and life

Stop Burning Rape Survivors at the Stake

How to heal after childhood sexual abuse

Responsibility for children who were molested by clergy

“Prayer 2” – Child Abuse

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Additional reading

  1. Subcutaneous power for humanity 2 1950-2010 Post war generations
  2. Mental Enslavement and Sins Syndrome (MESS)
  3. African misery and women inequality
  4. The dark side of our earthly existence
  5. Manifests for believers #1 Sex abuse setting fire to the powder
  6. Violence against disabled children
  7. Justififiable anger or just anarchism
  8. Being Religious and Spiritual 8 Spiritual, Mystic and not or well religious

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  2. About the crisis, no not the referendum.. the sexual health crisis!
  3. Remember, prime minister: British Muslims hate Isis too
  4. Theresa May issued direct plea to Britons not to destroy their lives and children with Isil
  5. Violence against women: One-third of EU women affected – survey
  6. Swedish police blame “foreign young men” for spate of sex assaults at music festivals
  7. Guinness, alcohol much more of a threat to women.
  8. British woman saved from her father’s forced marriage, FGM plans by court order
  9. Women in Mexico are being assaulted so police can boost arrest numbers in war on drugs, Amnesty says
  10. Women’s rights activists blasted for taking selfie with alleged rape victim
  11. What We’re Telling Victims
  12. The White House refuses to visit colleges that don’t address sexual assault
  13. 6 players from Cuba’s men’s volleyball team in custody over alleged rape
  14. Football’s abuse of women is institutional
  15. Rolling Stone reporter provides insight into circumstances that resulted in retracted rape story
  16. Women who have premarital sex are ‘degenerates’: China textbook
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  62. Naked Before God: Praying in Humility
  63. A Naked Mind Reminded
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Everyday Deconstructions

Last Monday a clause of the Counter-Terrorism and Security Act (2015) came into effect, placing the Prevent Duty Guidance for seven sectors of the public services on a statutory footing. Local authorities, schools, further education, higher education, the health sector, prisons and probation have joined the police in having a legal duty to safeguard persons from radicalisation, be it through challenging the narratives of radical preachers and political ideologues who argue that violence is acceptable, or through tackling exposure to beheading videos or other violent images online that normalises such barbaric behaviour.

The government hope this legislation will stem the flow of British citizens to Syria, and hlep prevent the kind of home-grown terror attacks witnessed recently in Paris and Copenhagen. At least 700 Britons are thought to have travelled to Syria to join IS in the last few years, but fortunately there has not been a violent incident on…

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How to heal after childhood sexual abuse

In the debate about abortion too many people do forget to look closely at what had happened before the person got pregnant and why there could be justifications for acts to be taken.

In certain countries there are very young children who come with child against their wishes and after not just sexual abuse but after sexual violence they have to endure stressful trauma’s which will haunt them for the whole of their life.

The young innocent being lost their innocence and after their traumatic experience they need a listening soul, not condemning them straight away but having comprehension and willing to show sincere help.

After their traumatic experience society has to be very careful not to ‘rape’ them once more.

It is totally wrong to assume that the person must have had some pleasure in the physical touch and therefore must be guilty as well. In certain instances events can take place where there maybe may have been a feeling of love towards the perpetrator who gave them special attention.

Wounds are made and the victim, because that is what she is, can’t go on fighting forever. And with a confrontation with what is growing inside her there may be even a bigger battle going on.

They really needs guts; courage to look inside themselves, feel the emotional pain, willing to look for solutions which shall make it less painful in the future. Lots of emotions have to be released and new strength has to be found. If not, they will not be able to recover and not able to enjoy their lives as much as possible, having normal relationships.

Please, Let us be more understanding of sexual victims.

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To remember

  • healing from childhood sexual abuse = long and tedious process
  • All various emotions = to be felt and released
  • suppressing emotions does not help
  • Eat well, rest + get lots of sleep
  • no miracle cures or quick answers
  • You will need to work through
    feelings of loss and its impact on your life + feelings of betrayal and perhaps a desire to punish those involved for what happened + for not looking after you
    any shame you feel and learn that it is safe to open back up to love, sexuality, passion and joy
  • You will need to learn to trust others and allow yourself to be vulnerable again.
  • Do your best to support yourself with kindness, love and friendship >  Be the loving parent to yourself that you wished your parents were.
  • Love = melt the armour and help the emotions to surface
  • allow to be vulnerable, weak, and to be looked after by others
  • Life is meant to be enjoyed. Just this and other experiences get in the way. Do the work to free yourself from the past, so that you can enjoy the rest of your life and make the most of it. You can do it and it’s worth doing.
  • Go easy with yourself. You don’t need to dig through your past trying to find clues about what did or didn’t happen. it will surface when it is meant to, when you are strong enough and ready to process it.

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Preceding articles:

Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression

It continues to be a never ending, exhausting battle for survival.

Whoopi Goldberg commandments and abortion

My Choice (by Jezabel Jonson)

The Real ‘Choice’

“They Told Me What I Wanted To Hear” – Real Abortion Stories

The Things We Carry, by Penny

Hillary Clinton Says Religious Beliefs About Abortion Have to be Changed

Freedom and amendments, firearms and abortions

If the baby is part of the woman’s body…

Not an easy decision to make

Stop Burning Rape Survivors at the Stake

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Find also to read:

Stronger than anything that wants to destroy

 

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Further reading:

  1. Sexual Violence and the Media
  2. Global Sexual Violence: Breaking the Cycle
  3. Sexual Violence – Prevention and Response
  4. Violence Against Women: When Are We Going to Address It, Seriously?
  5. New York magazine to publish week-long survey of college sex
  6. Guns on Campus: Sending the Wrong Message to Men
  7. Is the Office for Civil Rights Taking Over Campus Sexual Assault Discipline Systems Through Resolution Agreements?
  8. International Day of the Girl Child ……AIDS Healthcare Foundation
  9. Why I Fear Going Home On My Own
  10. India shamed by sexual violence
  11. Outrage in India after 2 teens arrested for raping 2-year-old girl
  12. They Claimed It Never Happened: A Woman is Arrested After Reporting Her Rape
  13. Saskatchewan rolls out anti-sexual violence public awareness campaign
  14. pornography’s link to sexual violence
  15. Rape: we are all at risk
  16. Debunking the Mythologies of Rape
  17. The #1 thing I want people to do this week to support ace survivors
  18. A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara
  19. Going back to the place where I was raped
  20. ‘On the Pull’
  21. I Was Almost a Police Officer: An Interview with Melodia
  22. way to be careless
  23. sssssssssss
  24. Detroit’s Kym Worthy turns to football rivalry to fund rape kit testing
  25. Abusers Cannot Be The Face of Anti-Violence Campaigning
  26. Welcome, Widen Agents!
  27. SACHA in Bathrooms
  28. To Survivors Of Sexual Violence
  29. False Reporting is Rare
  30. Reclaiming My Self
  31. Women, Peace, and Security: What’s to come?
  32. Detroit women pledge $600k to solve untested rape-kit crisis
  33. Yazidis in the face of rape, enslavement: “We will not die … we will live”
  34. This man saved 40,000 women. Will he win the Nobel Peace Prize?
  35. Indiana University frat suspended due to video of apparent sexual hazing
  36. From “Slutwalk” to March: Philadelphia Brings Rape Culture Awareness
  37. We Don’t Allow Sexual Violence in Real Life, So Why Do We Allow it in Video Games?
  38. A Call to ASUPS to Prioritize Sexual Violence Prevention
  39. Judge deals Bill Cosby a major legal blow
  40. Marriage is not a license to rape
  41. Responses to Sexual Violence Within the British Criminal Justice System Pt 2: Problematic Views
  42. Trauma, the Brain, and Why the Positive Impact We Can Have on Kids Is so Important!
  43. Women of #nzpol Twitter: on the incarceration of trans women in male prisons
  44. Discover Haiti | Story about the Struggles of Haitian Women
  45. #NotAskingForIt – a review of Louise O’Neills ‘Asking for It’
  46. My Scratching Shows My Pain

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Dr. Jodi-Anne M Smith

light of godThis is a gigantic topic that can not be addressed in one blog. We will give some general guidance and cover other aspects in future blogs. Childhood sexual abuse is a heinous act that takes away a child’s sense of innocence and trust in the world. Whether the act was done in a violent or loving manner it rips apart a child’s identity. They are no longer a child living in a world of mystery, awe and learning. They no longer can lose themselves in the moment, they lose spontaneity and joy for life. In its place come watching, scanning for danger, for fear of it happening again. Confusion terrifies – is it good, bad, dirty, evil? Am I a bad person because of it? Why is it a secret? Why mustn’t others know? All of this takes a child out of a child’s mindset and experience of life. It…

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Stop Burning Rape Survivors at the Stake

Often when an awful trauma comes over a young female person, when the ‘person’ is taken away from her, she does not only feel a prey but becomes also the hunted by society who points with a damning finger when she wants to make an end to that what the intruder placed in her body.

In certain countries, like India and in Africa, sexually assaulted girls become cast out by their beloved ones and by the community. They have to carry the wounds of the awful event with them for their all life.

Those who say they can not stop the childbearing have to wonder themselves what they would do in such a situation and should better listen to some people who experienced the trauma of their life.

For all the anti-abortion groups and people who condemn those girls who decided to undergo an abortion it is best to listen also to the voices of those victims.
Witnessing for this reason is very important. If there can be no empathy on the part of the anti-abortionist leagues communication and understanding on both parts will stay difficult.

For sure too often the victim is blamed for what went wrong and often the rapist can go without punishments and even gets some encouragement from others.

What rape victims need is a comprehending ear and people who can understand why and how they feel and why they want to take certain decisions.

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To remember:

  • eviscerated rape survivors > over how they deal with their rapes
  • consent activists come down on a survivor for saying her rape was less traumatic than most
  • incredible pressure on victims to ‘tell the police or shut the fuck up.’

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  • Rape is not drama (overreaction) + play for attention, a performance < This is a total wrong attitude and wrong thinking; Those rape victims are not at all wanting to get more attention. Many of them would prefer to go in a little corner and often feel a nobody
  • When telling a survivor that they’re attention-seeking =  you’re saying =  “Rape is not so bad. Shut the fuck up and get over it.”
  • impossible to overreact to rape = can’t think of a damn thing in this life that is harder to cope with
  • Dealing with rape = one of the most gut-wrenching, confusing things this life has to throw at a person
  • responses not always going to look elegant, selfless, and wise => no perfect response to rape
  • rape survivor responding normally to an abnormal situation
  • Judging rape survivor’s responding =  like judging a tree for moving when the wind blows = requiring someone who is going through hell to fulfil your expectations as a casual observer
  • needs + expectations rape victim = about them
  • victims not psychologically well enough to get through a case
  • sometimes there is no evidence = spent months, or often years, agonising over their options in terms of a case

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Preceding articles:

Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression

It continues to be a never ending, exhausting battle for survival.

Whoopi Goldberg commandments and abortion

My Choice (by Jezabel Jonson)

The Real ‘Choice’

“They Told Me What I Wanted To Hear” – Real Abortion Stories

The Things We Carry, by Penny

Hillary Clinton Says Religious Beliefs About Abortion Have to be Changed

Freedom and amendments, firearms and abortions

If the baby is part of the woman’s body…

Not an easy decision to make

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Find also to read:

  1. Subcutaneous power for humanity 2 1950-2010 Post war generations
  2. Stronger than anything that wants to destroy

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Further reading:

  1. Society is the problem and the disease… forcing sexual abuse & child sexual abuse survivors, to suffer more.
  2. No, I don’t want paedophiles, rapists, sex offenders etc, to be beaten up, abused back.
  3. It continues to be a never ending, exhausting battle for survival.
  4. Numbing…..helps me cope, with the severity of all the heinous abuse, I have endured.
  5. Too many people, have touched my soul, with their dirty hands.
  6. Ignore the troll on my facebook page – Nefertari/Abortion page admin/LisaMarie
  7. Using Charlotte Dawson’s abortion ‘only’, by Fred Nile for his own agenda, is digusting.
  8. I knew some Christians would ‘need’ to talk about abortion, in relation to Charlotte Dawson’s death.
  9. Where do Abused Children turn for Help?
  10. You can Not Stop Abuse…(Or how I slid off the Bell-Shaped Curve of Sane decisions)
  11. This is Your Brain…This is Your Brain on Abuse
  12. Why Abuse Victims often feel they are Swimming Upstream
  13. Ultimate Recovery from Abuse
  14. A child, who is abused, is a child no more

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Not an easy decision to make

Too many people forget in what for a difficult situation a female person may be placed when she has to choose what to do with what is growing inside her body.

Previously, before the moment the where confronted with something coming in them, they perhaps had to undergo already a lot of suffering which caused them to close their heart,

for the fear that they live in, and for all of things that they are missing out on because their hearts are hurting so much that they cannot accept the love that they are offered. {Though the words were not written about this subject, we have taken the liberty to use this beautiful phrase from the nice writing: The Sound of a Breaking Heart}

Human fetus at eight weeks. According to Catho...

Human fetus at eight weeks. According to Catholics, the debates on abortion make the human embryo and fetus signs of contradiction (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The person involved in a tragedy may well realise that the answer to her questions about the horrific slaughter of innocent people is linked to hardened hearts, but she does not want to harden her heart, because it is hurt. In herself her heart is crying, crying out loud; But not many do seem to understand her crying.

She feels the reality that

the ones who need love most are the ones who ask for it in the least loving ways, {The Sound of a Breaking Heart}

But love is often broken by heartless people, who do not mind to show their ‘higher power’.

Having been hurt ones or even more than one time, now she would get her feelings hurt a lot. And it is not that she would know better and know that while some people still aren’t aware of the love that they are capable of, she does know that we should all be capable of loving to great measures. But then why does not show the world that comprehension and love?

Though she might understand that every human heart is prone to corruption – her own included, she does not understand why so many point a finger at her, wishing to condemn her to hell.

Have those who criticise the made decision having thought what they themselves would do if they were raped or would be a victim of incest, or would be confronted with congenital malformation of the foetus?

It is so easy to condemn but so the more difficult to understand.

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44years old gravid female with previous 6 children, was diagnosed with carcinoma in situ of cervix (early stage cancer of womb). So total removal of uterus( woomb) considered with fetus in situ, for long life of the female. So abortion was inevitable for future health of the lady. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Do those who are against abortion also think about certain cases where other matters have to be taken in account? Do they know about the many critical situations there exist for women like Ana and Aurora, two Costa Rican women who were carrying foetuses that would not survive, but which doctors did not allow them to abort.

In late 2006, a medical exam when Ana was six weeks pregnant showed that the foetus suffered from encephalocele, a malformation of the brain and skull incompatible with life outside the womb.

Ana, 26 years old at the time, requested a therapeutic abortion, arguing that carrying to term a fetus that could not survive was causing her psychological problems like depression. But the medical authorities and the Supreme Court did not authorise an abortion. In the end, her daughter was born dead after seven hours of labour.

The Collective for the Right to Decide and the Washington-based Center for Reproductive Rights brought Ana’s case before the Inter-American Commission on Human Rights (IACHR), as well as that of Aurora, who was also denied the right to a therapeutic abortion.

Her case is similar to Ana’s. In 2012, it was discovered that her fetus had an abdominal wall defect, a kind of birth defect that allows the stomach, intestines, or other organs to protrude through an opening that forms on the abdomen. Her son, whose legs had never developed, and who had severe scoliosis, died shortly after birth. {Costa Rican Women Try to Pull Legal Therapeutic Abortion Out of Limbo}

In public hospitals in Costa Rica, like the Rafael Ángel Calderón hospital in San José, there is no protocol regulating legal therapeutic abortion, for doctors to follow. As a result, physicians restrict the practice to a minimum, leaving women without their right to terminate a pregnancy when their health is at risk. Credit: Diego Arguedas Ortiz/IPS

In public hospitals in Costa Rica, like the Rafael Ángel Calderón hospital in San José, there is no protocol regulating legal therapeutic abortion, for doctors to follow. As a result, physicians restrict the practice to a minimum, leaving women without their right to terminate a pregnancy when their health is at risk. Credit: Diego Arguedas Ortiz/IPS

The world has to be aware that there are different sorts of abortions. Though none would be preferable, sometimes animal man has to use their brains and has to understand that the Creator has given them brains and medical specialists to help them in their life. Everywhere in the world  women should have access to medical help and in case the medics do find that a choice has to be made to safe the mother they should be able to propose a legal abortion. In such instances there may be no lack of clear medical guidelines outlining when and how a legal abortion can be conducted.

It urged the Costa Rican state to draw up clear medical guidelines, to “widely disseminate them among health professionals and the public at large,” and to consider reviewing other circumstances under which abortion could be permitted, such as rape or incest.

The international pressure has grown. Costa Rican Judge Elizabeth Odio, recently named to the San José-based Inter-American Court of Human Rights, said in a Jun. 20 interview with the local newspaper La Nación that “it is obvious that therapeutic abortion, which already exists in our legislation, should be enforced.”

“There are doctors who believe therapeutic abortion is a crime, and they put women’s lives at risk,” said Odio. {Costa Rican Women Try to Pull Legal Therapeutic Abortion Out of Limbo}

Who wants to put the woman her life at risk for trying to bring something in the light of the day which has no life chances?

The one who was raped may cry out in the dark. The one who was tortured and pressed to do something which she hated, who is going to understand and help her? In this world there are so many women who need to find a place where they can find a listening ear, a helping hand and yes sometimes people who help her to take away the spots of ‘contagion’.

For many it may be oh so easy, oh so logic, but is it really?

– a crying woman

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Preceding articles:

Whoopi Goldberg commandments and abortion

My Choice (by Jezabel Jonson)

The Real ‘Choice’

“They Told Me What I Wanted To Hear” – Real Abortion Stories

The Things We Carry, by Penny

Hillary Clinton Says Religious Beliefs About Abortion Have to be Changed

Freedom and amendments, firearms and abortions

If the baby is part of the woman’s body…

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Additional reading:

  1. Suffering redemptive because Jesus redeemed us from sin
  2. Let us not forget it was God who chose us
  3. We love because he first loved us
  4. A philosophical error which rejects the body as part of the human person
  5. Inner feeling, morality and Inter-connection with creation
  6. Roman Catholic Church in the United States of America at war
  7. 2014 Human Rights
  8. American Senate ignoring many voices and tears of their own people
  9. About lions and babies
  10. Westboro Baptist Church and Catholic Truth against Nelson Mandela
  11. Always a choice
  12. The chief function of the body is to carry the brain around
  13. We all are changed into the same image from glory to glory
  14. God loving people justified
  15. A love not exempting us from trials
  16. Cognizance at the doorstep or at the internet socket
  17. Establish your hearts blameless in holiness
  18. Purify my heart
  19. Sow and harvests in the garden of your heart
  20. Come, walk with me and find rest for your soul
  21. I can’t believe that … (4) God’s word would be so violent
  22. Are Christadelphians so Old Fashioned?

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Further readings:

  1. Seeing Miracles In The Fog
  2. a fictional story about the effects of abortion committed years ago: Nancy’s Abrotion
  3. Video Facebook: I am Not your nut rag
  4. The Road to Matrimony… A Preamble!
  5. Ohio Man Gets Life Terms For CSA
  6. Letter I Won’t Send
  7. The Lasting Effects Of Child Abuse
  8. 19 year old girl from wood be kidnapers and winds up getting in to her life a little too deep
  9. 14 Children Of Divorce On How It’s Affected Their Views On Love & Relationships
  10. Unexpected Triggers
  11. The Church – Trigger Warning- Poetry on Incest
  12. College Rule #22
  13. What Did Trauma Do To You?
  14. Lose My Everything
  15. I pledge allegiance to the secret!
  16. How to heal after childhood sexual abuse
  17. Struggles
  18. Purity Ring…
  19. Pure Hatred
  20. Ready to remember?
  21. Severe trauma silenced victim
  22. A Survivor Talks to Incest Offenders (And Others)
  23. How Many Incest Offenders Do You Think You Know
  24. What Incest Has Caused in My Adulthood
  25. Focus on: Rape – What is Rape?
  26. I Don’t Think About Them
  27. Father rapes 11 year old daughter and impregnates neighbour’s daughter
  28. I should be happy
  29. Love Leaps
  30. Beauty and the beast
  31. ~Because you are Special~ Innocence Lost!
  32. Guys This Was So Scary!
  33. Raping innocence
  34. What we can learn from sexual sin of Bible heroes (podcast)
  35. thirteen
  36. Published today – Indecent exposure
  37. The Rape of Sweden
  38. Rape: we are all at risk
  39. Rape, Period
  40. Review: Asking For It by Louise O’Neill
  41. Stop Burning Rape Survivors at the Stake
  42. Newly Married Woman #Gang #Raped by 6 Men in Assam
  43. Cries from India
  44. ‘Calculated, depraved, evil,’ HIV positive Harrisburg man charged with rape of 6-year-old
  45. 4 Forgotten Cases Of Satanic Rape And Murder That Turned Out To Be ‘Satanic Panic’
  46. It Does Not End There…
  47. How to Date a Rape Survivor – Latest Article for Vice Broadly
  48. A Mother’s Son: Breaking the Cycle of Racial-Sexual Violence.
  49. Judge upholds conviction for Owen Labrie in prep school rape case
  50. To My Niece On Her Birthday
  51. Rearview Mirror
  52. White Male Bibliobloggers and “rape threats as a matter of course”
  53. Controversy over Rape Advice?
  54. So bloody angry…
  55. KS Eshwarappa, My Sweet Summer Child
  56. Was it rape? Does it matter?
  57. Thanks a Lot, Mr. Cosby: The Huxtable Legacy and the Black American Identity Crisis
  58. Laura Bates talks feminism
  59. Consent: it’s this simple.
  60. Debunking the Mythologies of Rape
  61. The depth of misery
  62. Innocence Lost (Caution: Mature Content)
  63. India shamed by sexual violence
  64. One in seven females experience serious physical or sexual violence at university.
  65. What Do Women Want?

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Responsibility for children who were molested by clergy

No pope has ever taken personal responsibility for the tens of thousands of children who were molested by priests over decades, as bishops moved them from parish to parish rather than reporting them to police

English: Pope Benedict XVI

Pope Benedict XVI (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Since being elected last year it is the first time the head of the Catholic Church has made an apology for the thousands of cases of abuse by priests and bishops which had to come to public light before the church was going to do something against it. The church has came to embarrassment with several stories in many countries of the “evil” of priests and bishops who raped and molested children. Already some years the church leaders were noticed by people and by their own clergy, but did not do much. It took a lot of media attention before something came off the ground. Many times the leaders said they did not know about such cases, but when others came with proof they should have known they tried an other whistle. Pope Benedict XVI was not the brightest example in trying to escape the accusations.

At a conference to combat human trafficking and child exploitation, called ‘Church and Law Enforcement in Partnership’, survivors of sex-trafficking from Hungary, Chile and the Czech Republic, were also greeted by the Pope.

Hosted by the Pontifical Academy of Sciences and organized by organized by the Catholic Bishops’ Conference of England and Wales the Vatican event brought sex-trafficking global police watch-dogs INTERPOL together with other police forces around the world. It also brought discussion between active members of the Catholic church, with members of foreign governments who are working today to slow the rising tide of crime in the worldwide human sex-trafficking industry.

“It is a crime against humanity,”

said Pope Francis on Thursday on the last day of the event that ran for two days on April 2 and 10.

“Our meeting today includes law enforcement authorities, who are primarily responsible for combating this tragic reality by a vigorous application of the law.  It also includes humanitarian and social workers, whose task it is to provide victims with welcome, human warmth and the possibility of building a new life,”

continued the Pope.

“These are two different approaches, but they can and must go together.  To dialogue and exchange views on the basis of these two complementary approaches is quite important.  Conferences such as this are extremely helpful, and, I would say, much needed,”

Pope Francis added.

General Audience with Pope Francis

General Audience with Pope Francis (Photo credit: Catholic Church (England and Wales))

Today we may find a total different pope than the previous ones, who takes this matter very serious. By giving attention to what happened to all those youngsters in the past, he is giving forgiveness and forgetfulness a chance. On Friday he was asking forgiveness from victims and saying the church must be even bolder in its efforts to protect the young. It was the first time a pope has taken personal responsibility for the sex crimes of his priests and begged forgiveness.

The Catholic Church has faced numerous allegations of child sex abuse by priests around the world and criticism over inadequate responses by bishops. Earlier this year Pope Francis strengthened Vatican laws on child abuse, broadening the definition of crimes against minors to include sexual abuse of children.

While in office, predecessor Pope Benedict XVI apologised to victims of child sex abuse, saying he was “truly sorry” for the “sinful and criminal actions” committed by priests.

Francis’ off-the-cuff remarks were the latest sign that he has become sensitized to the gravity of the abuse scandal after coming under criticism from victims’ advocacy groups for a perceived lack of attention to, and understanding of, the toll it has taken on the church and its members.

The main U.S. victim’s group, SNAP, said it was waiting for more.

“We beg the world’s Catholics: Be impressed by deeds, not words,”

said SNAP’s outreach director Barbara Dorris in a statement.

“Until the pope takes decisive action that protects kids, be skeptical and vigilant.”

Vatican Radio, and Vatican Television gave screening material wich we also could watch on the Belgian Newschannels. We could see the Argentine-born pontiff talking very very slowly, saying he had formed a high-level group on the scandal including an abuse victim to probe the allegations and come clean on this matter which is haunting the Vatican for quite some time.

“I feel compelled to personally take on all the evil that some priests – quite a few in number, (although) obviously not compared to the number of all priests – to personally ask for forgiveness for the damage they have done for having sexually abused children,”

he told members of the International Catholic Child Bureau.

Many adults who remember their childhood, where they got slapped in their face when they told their parents what had happened in the parsonage or presbytery, shall perhaps find some peace now. For many it is unbelievable that the abuse could go on for so many years. And that even after the Dutroux rage still nothing was done again what had happened and still happened in many Catholic presbyteries. they are convinced that the ‘church’ should have been aware of what was happening. Many might have lost their faith in church and religion and can not understand how such an institute which preaches love and peace, and say we all do have to be honest could itself be constructed so much on loads of lies.

Those damaged people can only hope the Catholic Church shall try to soothe this personal, moral damage carried out by men of the church. Lots of men and women (because they also may not be forgotten) shall be looking at the  Catholic Church under its new leader to see if it will not take one step backward with regards to how they will deal with this abuse problem. Many people are also curious about the sanctions which shall be taken.

Are we going to see serious sanctions that must be imposed? the pope himself promisses:

On the contrary, we have to be even stronger. Because you cannot interfere with children.”

Pope Francis

“It is personal, moral damage carried out by men of the church and we will not take one step backward with regards to how we will deal with this problem and the sanctions that must be imposed” the Pope Francis I called for zero tolerance. – Copyright © 2014 Fairfax Media

In a response, the Center for Constitutional Rights, which represents the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests or SNAP, issued a statement calling on the Pontiff to take decisive action against abusive clergy.

These steps include defrocking all known child abusers; handing enforcement over to secular authorities; punishing officials who failed to report instances of abuse; and ensuring the protection of whistleblowers.

“Actions speak louder than words,”

the statement reads in part.

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  • Deceptive evil Jesuit anti-Pope Francis I asks for Forgiveness for paedophilia by clergy (theunhivedmind.com)
    Last month, Pope Francis strongly defended the Roman Catholic Church’s record on tackling sexual abuse by priests, following UN criticism.

    The Pope set up a committee last year to organise help for victims of clerical sexual abuse but has been accused by some Catholics of dragging his feet in acknowledging the extent of the moral and mental damage caused by paedophile priests, the BBC’s David Willey reports from Rome.

  • Pope asks forgiveness for child sex abuses (vanguardngr.com)
    “I feel compelled… to personally ask for forgiveness for the damage they have done for having sexually abused children,” the pope said at a meeting with members of a children’s charity, Vatican Radio reported.

    The apology was a first for Francis since he was elected last year and he was quoted as saying there were “quite a few” guilty priests, although “obviously not compared to the number of all the priests”.

  • Pope Francis Apologizes For Sexual Abuse: Asks For ‘Forgiveness’ For Damage Done By Priests (medicaldaily.com)
    Perhaps most importantly, though, Francis has taken responsibility for the priests who have sexually abused thousands of children over the course of decades — at least partially. Barbara Dorris of the U.S.-based Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP) isn’t impressed by his speech. “But that is all it is: talk,” she said. “We beg the world’s Catholics: Be impressed by deeds, not words. Until [Francis] takes decisive action that protects kids, be skeptical and vigilant.”
  • Pope Francis Asks Forgiveness For Catholic Clergy Child Abuse (thewire.com)
    Pope Francis gave some unusually direct comments on the Catholic Church’s decades-long clergy abuse epidemic on Friday. Francis “personally ask[ed] for forgiveness for the damage they have done for having sexually abused children” in a short speech on Friday to a Catholic children’s NGO. The remarks, according to the Vatican Radio write-up, were at least partially off script.

    Although he has taken some steps to address the scandal, and the calls for church reform that it created, Francis has faced criticism from victim advocates for failing to fully address the child abuse epidemic in his first year as pope. Today’s remarks could be, in part, an attempt to convince advocates that he takes the spiritual aspect of the abuse scandal seriously.

  • Pope begs forgiveness for ‘evil’ of clerical molesters (triblive.com)

    Children were molested by priests over decades as bishops moved them from parish to parish rather than reporting them to police. Pope John Paul II denounced the abusers, saying there was no place for them in the priesthood. Pope Benedict XVI expressed sorrow and regret to victims, met with them and even wept with them.

    The main American victim’s group, SNAP, said it was waiting for more.

    “We beg the world’s Catholics: Be impressed by deeds, not words,” said SNAP’s outreach director Barbara Dorris in a statement. “Until the pope takes decisive action that protects kids, be skeptical and vigilant.”

  • Pope Assumes Responsibility For Priest Sex Abuse (mintpressnews.com)
    The evolution began last month when he named four women and an abuse survivor to a sex abuse advisory panel that the Vatican has suggested will address the critical issue of sanctioning bishops who cover up for pedophiles.

    Francis delivered the comments to members of the International Catholic Child Bureau, a French Catholic network of organizations that protects children’s rights. Sitting with them in his library Friday, Francis spoke slowly, deliberately and softly in his native Spanish, deviating from his text.

    “I feel compelled to take personal responsibility for all the evil that some priests, many — many in number, (although) not in comparison with the totality — to assume personal responsibility and to ask forgiveness for the damage caused by the sexual abuse of the children,” he said.

  • Pope Francis pledges to tighten action to stop all forms of child exploitation (womennewsnetwork.net)
    “We beg the world’s Catholics: be impressed by deeds, not words. Until the Pope takes decisive action that protects kids be skeptical and vigilant,” says SNAP Outreach Director Barbara Dorris.

    “This may be the first time a Pope has talked of sanctions against complicit bishops. But that is all it is: talk. (and if this ever happens, many, many tangible steps to safeguard children in the church must be taken),” Dorris continued.

    In February 2014 a United States Catholic Archdiocese in Los Angeles, California closed what has been described as a decade of priest molestations lawsuit cases under what advocates called “wrenching” courtroom litigation. The combined court cases cost the Catholic Church more than $740 million.

  • Pope asks forgiveness for pedophile clergy (news.smh.com.au)
  • Pope asks forgiveness for clergy abuse (skynews.com.au)
  • Pope asks forgiveness for child sex abuses (ndtv.com)
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