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Abortion — Not a Trouble-Free Solution

A tantamount to murder

Bill had grown up to believe that abortion was a serious sin, tantamount to murder. But his firm, decades-long stand softened in 1975 when this issue became personal. His girlfriend, Victoria, became pregnant, and Bill could not face the commitment of marriage and parenthood.

“I quickly opted for the convenient solution,”

admitted Bill,

“and told Victoria that she had to have an abortion.”

Pregnancy in the 26th week.

Pregnancy in the 26th week. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

What Bill called a convenient solution to an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy is not uncommon. A 2007 global study reported that in 2003 there were an estimated 42 million induced abortions worldwide. Women who have abortions come from every race and nationality, from a variety of religious backgrounds, and from every level of income, education, and age between puberty and menopause. If you were facing an unwanted pregnancy, how would you react? Why do so many choose abortion?

‘All I Could See Was One Option’

“I had just gone through a scary pregnancy and a hard birth, and there was a mountain of monetary and family stress,”

explained a 35-year-old woman.

“Then six weeks after the birth, I was pregnant again. We decided for abortion. In my heart I felt it was wrong, but all I could see was this one option.”

Women seek abortions for a variety of reasons, ranging from financial problems to a failed, perhaps abusive, relationship that results in their not wanting any further ties with the man. Or the pregnancy may simply not fit into the plans of the woman or the couple.

At times, abortion is chosen to protect a reputation. Such was true of the case reported on by Dr. Susan Wicklund in her book This Common Secret—My Journey as an Abortion Doctor. A patient of hers who was seeking an abortion confessed:

“My parents are very religious. . . . If I have a baby out of wedlock, it would be a mark on them. It would say to all their friends that their daughter has sinned.”

Dr. Wicklund then asked:

“Okay, so you’ve sinned in their eyes, but how do they feel about abortion?”

The girl confided:

“Oh, abortion. That’s totally unforgivable. But it’s the lesser evil because it would be a secret. If I have an abortion, [my parents’] friends in church will never know.”

Regardless of the situation, usually the decision to terminate a pregnancy deliberately is not an easy one. It is often intensely painful. But is abortion a trouble-free solution?

Consider the Consequences

A 2004 research study of 331 Russian and 217 American women who had an induced abortion revealed that about half of both groups felt bad after the abortion. Nearly 50 percent of the Russians and almost 80 percent of the Americans felt “guilt” over the procedure. More than 60 percent of the American women were ‘unable to forgive themselves.’ Since guilt is such a pervasive problem — even among those who do not consider themselves religious — why do so many young women still have abortions?

They often come under intense pressure to have an abortion. Parents, a mate, or well-meaning friends may encourage abortion as a lesser of two evils. This can lead to a hasty, ill-informed decision.

“However, after the stressfulness of the decision and the procedure have ended,”

explained Dr. Priscilla Coleman, an expert on the mental-health risks of abortion,

“women’s cognitive abilities return to normal, often ushering in feelings of pronounced guilt, sadness, and regret.”

This regret often centers on the question: Did the abortion terminate a life that already existed?
A report by the South Dakota Task Force to Study Abortion concluded that many pregnant women considering an abortion

“were misled into thinking that nothing but ‘tissue’ was being removed, and relate that they would not have had an abortion if they were told the truth.”

After an evaluation of the “stunning and heart-wrenching testimony” of 1,940 women who had abortions, the study concluded:

“Many of these women are angered by grief at the loss of a child they were told never existed.”

It also stated that

“the psychological harm of knowing she killed her child is often devastating.”

But what is the truth? Does an abortion merely remove some tissue from a pregnant woman’s body? Is an unborn child actually a living person while in the womb?

GIVING BIRTH VERSUS HAVING AN ABORTION

A 2006 study reviewed the life history of scores of women who became pregnant as teenagers. Half of them gave birth, and the other half had abortions. The study concluded that

“childbirth was associated with a lower likelihood of receiving psychological counselling services, less frequent sleep problems, and a lower probability of smoking marijuana when compared to abortion.” — Journal of Youth and Adolescence.

Another report provided

“the results of the four largest record based studies in the world.”

What did these studies reveal?

“Women with a known history of abortion experience higher rates of mental health problems of various forms when compared to women without a known abortion history.” — Report of the South Dakota Task Force to Study Abortion—2005.

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About this subject:

Should I Have An Abortion

My Choice (by Jezabel Jonson)

The Real ‘Choice’

“They Told Me What I Wanted To Hear” – Real Abortion Stories

The Things We Carry, by Penny

Not an easy decision to make

Whoopi Goldberg commandments and abortion

Stop Burning Rape Survivors at the Stake

How to heal after childhood sexual abuse

“Til It Happens To You” by Lady Gaga

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Additional reading:

  1. I can’t believe that … (4) God’s word would be so violent
  2. I Can’t Believe That … (2) God would allow children to suffer
  3. God does not change
  4. A philosophical error which rejects the body as part of the human person
  5. About lions and babies
  6. Westboro Baptist Church and Catholic Truth against Nelson Mandela
  7. Always a choice

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Further reading:

  1. Things people say…. and don’t
  2. The Sexual Revolution hurts everyone, especially children
  3. On consent & choice; objectification & violence
  4. When Does Life Begin?
  5. New study: unborn babies are viable at 22 weeks
  6. Frozen Embryos, Parenthood, and Personal Property
  7. Abortion objectifies both women and children
  8. If the baby is part of the woman’s body…
  9. Mum whose unborn baby was cut out from womb shares ordeal …
  10. A Letter To My “Almost” Baby
  11. To My Children, That May Never Be,
  12. Diary Of An Unborn Child – Anon
  13. Letter to My Unborn Child – 7
  14. It’s your choice (Part 3)
  15. Why You Should Take Iodine In Pregnancy
  16. What is abortion?
  17. ABORTION: THE HARD AND SOFT OF IT
  18. Relentless War on Unborn Babies
  19. Abortion on Demand and Without Apology
  20. The Real Story of an Abortion
  21. Since Abortion Was Legalized in the U.S., Women’s Risk of Breast Cancer Has Quadrupled
  22. A generation lost
  23. The Risk Factors Associated with Abortions
  24. Feminism, Patriarchy and Misogyny
  25. Celebrities, Activists Read Misognynist Anti-Abortion Tweets from Trolls
  26. Scott Klusendorf defends the pro-life view on the Unbelievable radio show
  27. Planned Parenthood executive admits abortion victim is a baby in fourth video
  28. Governor Scott Walker signs ban on pain-capable abortions
  29. Clinton-appointed judge rules that pro-life license plates are “patently offensive”
  30. Apologetics, Diatoms and the Flood, patriarchy, and more!
  31. Barbara Kay: Tough questions on the health risks of abortion remain
  32. The Damning Middle Path of Abortion Stances
  33. Nauru refugee and rape victim sent home after not making ‘quick’ decision about abortion
  34. Planned Parenthood attacks are the pettiest of politics
  35. Looking the Other Way!
  36. Churches That Don’t Speak Against Abortion Are Like 19th Century Congregations That Stayed Silent on Slavery
  37. Clueless
  38. Kansas court speeds handling of lawsuit over abortion law
  39. Proposed Bill Would Restrict Abortion Clinic Doctors
  40. The Story behind The Keyhole- Part 1
  41. Grandma Palin Couldn’t be Prouder of Her Pro-Death Stance
  42. Choosing a cursed life
  43. Connecticut court case takes up issue of when fetuses become people
  44. How Should Christians Respond to Abortion?
  45. Another Consequence of a Liberal Victory
  46. “Empty the Uterus”
  47. Bodies that matter. Bodies that don’t.

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