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Grounded

Daily we are surrounded by bad news-stories via the media (television and social media). All those terrible stories can weaken us and manage to bring fear to many (for no obvious reason, because they live far away from the trouble).

Often it is better to detach because it is not possible to live day to day if you spiral into all in the grief in the world. We have to be conscious about it, but may not close our eyes and ears for the beauties that are around us. And for sure there can be found a lot of beauty, even in the smallest thing.

Each of us can help to give others a feeling of safety and comfort in their own surroundings, accepting the wide variety of cultures that can go together anyway.
A person can not love the others without loving himself first and without wanting to share with others.

Today we can see that the fear for the unknown brings many to choose for extreme right wing political groups, which make use of the fear for other people and cultures, and bring the immigration in a wrong exaggerated light. Immigration, by the way, has been there for ages. It is nothing new. Every generation has come to know about some migration.

When we are willing to learn more about the world we and others live in we shall understand the different positions better and come to accept certain things much easier.

When each person is willing to come closer to the other, and is willing to open his mind to come to understand the other better, by willingness of openness of mind and heart the little environment we live in can change, but like a domino falling can bring something bigger changing too.

Let us always remember that a spiritual shaking is always safer than a real earth shaking.

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To remember

All through life when times get tough, when things start to run away with us or when things start to get too much we often hear the advice

“stay grounded.”

  • to balance us, to remind of something solid, something steady

how exactly do we stay grounded when we can’t even trust the ground we walk on?

  • on a little Greek island = best + worst moments of humanity play out on a daily basis => difficult to stay grounded

Facebook safety check icon > pictures of Parliament + London Bridge > horrors + pictures of frantic families trying to trace their missing children

  • a family connected by love
  • memories of places we love
  • distract ourselves from terrorism on our doorsteps with the escalating rhetoric of nuclear war between North Korea and the US?
  • watch white supremacists march the streets
  • ongoing refugee crisis on shores of Italy + Greece
  • hundreds of lives still lost in the Mediterranean
  • hundreds of lives trapped in camps + detention facilities > endless wait for asylum in Europe.

=> pretty hard to stay grounded

=> have become so desensitized

= not go to denial but keep our heads?

  • most important thing = not buy into all the hate.
  • majority of people = kind + loving
  • fear + when we are really scared => ignorance can lead to some pretty extreme standpoints on issues we never really felt too strongly about before.

== to stay grounded we need to start learning more about the world we live in + we need to discover how we can make change.

Stand together, show love where you find hate and don’t let fear win.

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Preceding

Going on holiday is… silence in your head

Summer holiday time to knock and ask, and time to share

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Additional reading

  1. Uncertainty, shame and no time for vacillation
  2. What is life?
  3. Immigration consternation
  4. Would you run
  5. Mountains of information, disinformation and breaking away
  6. Fearmongering succeeded and got the bugaboo a victory
  7. Fear of failure, and fear of the unknown
  8. I Am Not Alone – By: Kari Jobe
  9. Emotional pain and emotional deadness
  10. The soul has no rainbow if the eyes have no tears
  11. Not fear or dread or blind compulsion
  12. Can We Pay The Price To Free Humanity?
  13. The chosen ones to fear or not to fear
  14. Whom Shall I Fear (God of Angel Armies) by Chris Tomlin
  15. Prayer has comforted us in sorrow

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Further reading

  1. What Makes Me Bern about Fear
  2. Fear
  3. “… Fears…”
  4. Worry and Fear
  5. Fear, Surprise, Relief, What’s Next?
  6. Courage is not an absence of fear…
  7. What Fear Can Do To You.
  8. The Power Fear Holds Over Us
  9. Overwhelmed
  10. Anxious And Worried? Pray!
  11. Celebrate Victories Daily
  12. Change
  13. Face Your Fears | Choose Joys
  14. Italy: Migrants from Riace are to be resettled
  15. Criminalization of aid puts migrant lives at further risk
  16. Migration: 416,000 more people moved to Germany than emigrated
  17. After the Crisis? Reflections on Migration Governance
  18. Turkey slams developed nations over migration issue
  19. The migration which is changing the demography of India : The illegal migrants of Bangladesh
  20. The Year of Immigration theme seeks to create a renewed sense of community in College Park
  21. Szijjarto rejects the UN Migration compact
  22. Thousands flee due to crisis, Brazil deploys army to Venezuela border
  23. Parliament condemns the Sargentini Report
  24. Crosses Erected For Thousands Of Dead Immigrants Who Never Reached American Dream – Desert Graves

From Greece With Love

All through life when times get tough, when things start to run away with us or when things start to get too much we often hear the advice “stay grounded.” We are told to “keep our feet on the ground” to balance us, to remind of something solid, something steady that can help bring us down from those dizzying heights that challenging times can take us to. But what happens when that safety net fails, when you can no longer trust the earth to keep you steady?

Recently I experienced a rather nasty earthquake which has left this question playing on my mind. When we live in a world of such uncertainty, how exactly do we stay grounded when we can’t even trust the ground we walk on?

But this idea of losing trust in your surroundings goes further than a shift in tectonic plates, for me personally anyway. Over…

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Going on holiday is… silence in your head

An average Westerner lives in his head. From kindergarten until university he is indoctrinated with the idea that there is an answer to every question and a solution to every problem. In this way his need to understand and control keeps the illusion alive that we have a grip on our reality and have everything under control.

But nothing is further from the truth.

In his book ‘De Schaduw van de Verlichting” Eddy Van Tilt speaks about ‘the over-drive of rationality‘.Because we give our ratio absolute status , we have become estranged of that part of reality that is not rational and with which we have lost touch.

The psychologist Van Tilt asks :

” What happened that caused the heads of Westerners to become so hard and their hearts so weak?”

Because he is confronted with the pathological results of too much ego, the delusion of manipulability and rationalising.

The psychiatrist Mark Epstein reacts to this as follows :

our thinking mind is compulsive, because it does not want to forget or be forgotten and therefore always has something to do’.

That is why it will not be easy to ” let go of everything” on holiday.
Because as hungry and restless as our mind is preoccupied with the past and the future, it will need other kinds of stimuli, in order not to forget or be forgotten.

We can put our mind at rest.
In the first place by keeping our heart open, by simply observing what happens inside ourselves and by reconnecting with our body, our surroundings, and by accepting …to be moved. When we enter silence, we will experience “now” and  not so much hearing it, but rather feeling it or even better …. experiencing it.
 
To obtain this , it is not necessary to leave your ego or anything else behind, but to look past its borders.

By standing still we do not see new things, but we look at things in a different way’,

is what C.G. Jung concluded once.

Or how going on holiday is mainly… silence in your head and heart.

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Preceding:

Summerholiday season time to read the Bible

Holiday making and dreaming

Home-stayers and their to do list

Written by inspiration of God for our admonition, to whom it shall be imputed if they believe

Dutch version / Nederlandstalige versie: Vakantie is… stilte in je hoofd

English: Sigmund Freud, G. Stanley Hall, C.G. ...

Sigmund Freud, G. Stanley Hall, C.G. Jung, A.A. Brill, Ernest Jones, and Sándor Ferenczi posed at Clark University, Worcester, Mass. Photograph first published in September 1909. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Additional reading:

  1. Be still and listen
  2. Control and change
  3. Control your destiny or somebody else will
  4. Malefactors becoming your master
  5. Patience is the ability to count down before blasting off
  6. He who smiles rather than rages is always the stronger
  7. Know Who goes with us and don’t try to control life
  8. A Living Faith #7 Prayer
  9. Praying is surrendering in all circumstances
  10. Giving cogent reasons to young people why Christian faith is relevant to them

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Further reading:

  1. Rationalisation
  2. I’m proud of me
  3. Day 300: Rationalising Not Buying Anything
  4. Day 552 (or 1 Year, 6 Months, and 7 Days of Continuous Sobriety)
  5. When We Shouldn’t – And Should – Argue from Authority
  6. Hofstadterisms
  7. Why imagination is great (and why many evangelicals don’t like it)
  8. People focus on what they can see
  9. An Artifact of Our Time
  10. Are biases deviations from the mean?
  11. Do we really live in the Age of Empathy?
  12. Excellent. With musings on religion and mass extinctions.
  13. Rationality as a Social Process
  14. Illogical Rationality
  15. Sam Harris’s War on Rationality
  16. The Image of Objectivity
  17. Looking at the world through the eyes of others
  18. Relapse
  19. Working toward a new paradigm
  20. Does your brain know what’s best for you?
  21. Effective Altruism: the global movement that combines your heart and your head
  22. Animal rationality
  23. Do irrational idiots exist?
  24. The Grasshopper and the Ant – a story of economic rationality
  25. Maybe Everyone Is Actually Super Rational!
  26. Note: Misconceptions on Understanding
  27. Too many decisions can be exhausting.
  28. How to make the best decisions you can
  29. Rationality over the long term
  30. Desperate for a “Pause”
  31. “Time to take out the trash”
  32. It doesn’t always stand to reason

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