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Illusion of control

Fraser Illusion

Fraser Illusion (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

To remember:

  • illusion of being in control of your own life = an intricate one.
    entertain dreams of kids +  letting them believe => Making them see a perfect illusion of the world > utopian world
  • Sometimes perseverance isn’t the key
  • Fate = key
  • external locus of control

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Additional reading:

  1. My life…
  2. Your struggles develop your strengths
  3. Suffering produces perseverance
  4. Just be yourself…
  5. Developing new energy
  6. Kindness
  7. Continuing Paul’s Prayer Requests
  8. A Living Faith #5 Perseverance
  9. A Living Faith #7 Prayer
  10. God’s wrath and sanctification

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  • Locus Of Control Is Alive And Well In The Workplace (thoughtcatalog.com)
    Locus of control is the idea that people have direct power over events in their own lives. Furthermore, locus of control involves how these events impact, motivate, or empower a person on a multitude of levels. There is a measurable means of pinpointing where someone’s locus of control falls in the grand scheme of things. This brings us to the concept of internal (inner) versus external (outer) locus of control.
  • A Hundred Days to Happiness #21: Happiness in the Face of Stress (davidicuswong.wordpress.com)
    Distress, however, is from negative stress or stress that overwhelms us. This can affect us mentally and physically. It can take the form of competing demands from your work, school, home or social lives, an abusive or adversarial relationship, or situations that seem beyond your control.We function at our best when the challenge of our activities matches our resources and abilities. An example would be the perfect job that absorbs all of your attention, engages your talents and provides you with the time and support you need.
  • No More Mister Nice Guy (lewrockwell.com)
    Nice Guys take a passive approach to life and relationships. Instead of standing up for themselves, they let others walk all over them. They’re pushovers and perennial People Pleasers. Nice Guys have a hard time saying no to requests — even unreasonable ones. They’re considerate to a fault. When they want or need something, they’re afraid to ask for it because they don’t want to inconvenience others. Nice Guys also avoid conflict like the plague. They’d rather get along than get ahead.
  • The one about getting distracted, mean tweets and balance #28daysofwriting (chrisharte.typepad.com)
    Our young people are constantly jacked in to a stream of distractions, from Facebook (which they are all abandoning like rats apparently), to Instagram, the deliberately ephemeral SnapChat and the exponentially exploding YouTube, with 100 hours of new video being uploaded every minute.
  • Social Mobility and “Locus of Control” (cato.org)
    Plenty of research confirms that everyone likes to attribute their successes in life to their own virtues, and their disappointments to misfortune.  Only at the end of the article does it float the possibility that the causality may, at least in part, run in the other direction: That believing it’s a matter of luck how one fares in life may lead one to do less well, while believing (even somewhat unrealistically) that your fate is in your own hands is a prerequisite for having the motivation to do as well as you can. Perhaps—and there’s a whiff of paradox here—a belief in that kind of personal responsibility for outcomes is one of the lucky advantages that affluent parents pass on to their children.
  • Tremendous Power Lies In Your Hands (kisslesslove.com)
    In order to be successful at any one endeavour we decide to pursue from the depths of our mind, is simply through massive actions. If we were to admit that the outcome of any events because of external circumstances, then we fail to exercise our power as a strong person.Luck then becomes a scape goat for our lack thereof. Therefore, it is dangerous if we consistently push outcomes as a result of luck. In fact, powerful people have been identified with strong internal locus of control. This means that they firmly believe their lives are a result of their actions and inaction.
  • Modesty and the Lust of Men (godaslove.wordpress.com)
    Women are told that if they do not conceal their femininity adequately, they will “cause” men to fall prey to the sin of “lust.”
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    The temptation to sin comes from within a person, not from without. It is also important to recognize that we can always say “no”: “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure” (1 Corinthians 10:13, NLT).
  • Talkin’ About Your Generation (psychologicalscience.org)
    We tend to view our preferences and idiosyncrasies as inherently singular — a unique cocktail of traits that emerges from mixing genetic predispositions with our familial and social experiences. But ever since Karl Mannheim proposed his theory of generations in a seminal 1923 essay, researchers have tried to elucidate the influence of the sociocultural environment — including those influences unique to each generation — on aspects of our personalities and attitudes.
  • God’s voice or mine? Knowing the difference, (part 5, reputation) (faithsighanddiy.com)
    Whenever we are deciding what behavior is or is not right for us as followers of Christ, the one thing we mustn’t do is adopt any behavior or give up any behavior in an attempt to appear more righteous or holier than we are. Whatever we decide should be because we simply want to become closer to God. Jesus condemned the Pharisees who used their behavior as a means of appearing better than anyone else, while at the same time treating people poorly. Integrity is more important than image.
  • Letters: Teaching Character in Our Schools (rss.nytimes.com)

    if schools learn to teach beyond grit alone, it won’t. The best schools are already pairing grit (or more eloquently, resilience) alongside other character skills like creativity, teamwork, ethics, curiosity and time management.

    When it comes to developing children in this way, we don’t simply want a swinging pendulum; we need schools to function like clockwork.

     

Awordseeker

The illusion of you being in control of your own life is quite an intricate one.
Just like adults entertain the dreams of kids bt letting them believe that they have built an actual castle in stead of a sand one.
We let them feel they can do whatever they want.
Are we making them brave,by having the courage to dream? By letting them believe that dreams do come true? Or are we damaging their sense of the reality . Making them see a perfect illusion of the world. A utopian world which doesn’t exist. Are we building them up for a big heartbreak for their future when the reality of life and the world comes crashing down on them?
The fact is that sometimes no matter what you do, it’s never enough. Sometimes perseverance isn’t the key. Fate is. Sometimes even in moments of utter desperation you know no…

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Falling in Love’ as Temporary Insanity.

Love may be like a form of insanity, but for sure it will be a pleasant one and a toxic one. Nothing can build up or create so many things than love, be it love for a job or for a person. Without love for a person the ‘I’ is left behind to become a ‘Me’, forgetting how more important it would be to have more ‘We’ in this world. Without love not only the world would become a place of selfish people, only interested in themselves, but also not willing to take care of others around them and as such abandoning the world around him or her.

Love is that what can be deep in us but gives a radiation seen far out of us. That radiation also becomes more toxic or contaminating others. This infectious situation is necessary for humankind to bring catching moments which can enlighten life of many.

Love is the sweetest butter life can bring. The clotted cream to have the scones of life the best to keep us going.

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Remember

Love is:

  • not ignoring details in her profile
  • seeing warning signs
  • not lying
  • not becoming blinded
  • to make us possessed by an alien force taking over our hearts
  • spontaneous love-reactions pulling together not into a whirlpool of hopeless, uncontrollable, overwhelming passion
  • Romantic love may be blind at first, but may not stay blind
  • emotion, taking place inside our own skins
  • being authentic and genuine
  • true love should be completely unconditional
  • love is given completely without any conditions attached
  • full of forgiveness for any and all transgressions or slights can be reasonably expected at all times, and without question
  • there have to be boundaries in order for two people to exist healthily in a reciprocal and loving partnership
  • bringing up patience or understanding for each other
  • not falling in love with illusions
  • love is daring to take risks

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  • Temporary Insanity (dunhillgrd2013.wordpress.com)
    Legally speaking, temporary insanity is used in criminal prosecution, a defense by the accused that he/she was briefly insane at the time the crime was committed and therefore was incapable of knowing the nature of his/her alleged criminal act. One difficulty however with a temporary insanity defense is the problem of proof.
  • Diagnosis – Temporary Insanity (yourspiritualtruth.com)
    As we are deep in the midst of these crazy earth changes and working our way toward ascension, resurrection, self-actualization, a new world order, or whatever you want to call it, there is an important lesson for all of us to be mindful of…..the insanity we are currently feeling is only temporary and Not our original, or even, our default nature.
  • Lena Dunham And Jack Antonoff Met On A Blind Date, But Will Their Blind Love Lead To Marriage?! (perezhilton.com)
    We’ve been seeing them get cuddly on social media for two years now, but it all started on a blind date.And by blind date, we mean the Fun. rocker introduced himself to the Girls star on the internet. LOLz!
  • Sane Adaptations to Insane Circumstances (clarissasblog.com)
    are we not paying the price of hopelessness? In other words, psychiatry is saying “there is something fundamentally wrong about you and the way you have been wired over which you have no control. Your problems are not sane adaptations to insane circumstances, but rather these symptoms indicate that your brain is broken.”
  • What is your definition of insanity? (onlifeandhope.com)
    Some insanity is good. Taking a risk may well be seen as crazy to some, but if you don’t try when all else has failed, then all is certainly lost. However, when we repeatedly risk our wellbeing and that of other’s this insanity is harmful.
  • Why You Are Insane If You Think GMOs Are Safe (thesleuthjournal.com)
    you are insane if you believe that ingesting Roundup contaminated food is safe, especially if you let your children consume it. In a world where Department of Children and Families can threaten to take your children away if you don’t pump up to 80 vaccines into them as children, knowingly letting your child eat food poisoned with glyphosate formulations, which have been linked to over 40 diseases in the peer-reviewed biomedical literature – should be considered at least as an egregious offense
  • 7 Ways to Overcome the Insanity of Modern Life (theunboundedspirit.com)
    For even the most resilient and positive of us, life can become oppressive, frightening and bleak sometimes, and when it does we have to make more of a conscious effort than ever before to maintain sanity and peace of mind. Bad news is infectious, but, while we’re sulking and entertaining this negativity, the beauty of our lives continues on before our eyes, and if we don’t actively reset ourselves, then we miss out on the joy that is life, and we overlook the astounding beauty that lies in each moment. Life is a gift and a treasure, and the best revenge truly is living well. – See more at: http://theunboundedspirit.com/7-ways-to-overcome-the-insanity-of-modern-life/#sthash.acXlDVEN.dpuf
    For even the most resilient and positive of us, life can become oppressive, frightening and bleak sometimes, and when it does we have to make more of a conscious effort than ever before to maintain sanity and peace of mind. Bad news is infectious, but, while we’re sulking and entertaining this negativity, the beauty of our lives continues on before our eyes, and if we don’t actively reset ourselves, then we miss out on the joy that is life, and we overlook the astounding beauty that lies in each moment. Life is a gift and a treasure, and the best revenge truly is living well. – See more at: http://theunboundedspirit.com/7-ways-to-overcome-the-insanity-of-modern-life/#sthash.acXlDVEN.dpuf

    For even the most resilient and positive of us, life can become oppressive, frightening and bleak sometimes, and when it does we have to make more of a conscious effort than ever before to maintain sanity and peace of mind. Bad news is infectious, but, while we’re sulking and entertaining this negativity, the beauty of our lives continues on before our eyes, and if we don’t actively reset ourselves, then we miss out on the joy that is life, and we overlook the astounding beauty that lies in each moment. Life is a gift and a treasure, and the best revenge truly is living well.

  • I hate my feelings. (thiscrazywriter.wordpress.com)
    People assume I always like a loss of inhibition. As if it’s fun being consistently insane, speedy, out-of-control. Of course it can be fun sometimes. Of course it’s an advantage sometimes. But it’s really not. Euphoric doesn’t mean happy, I’ve realized. Happiness is controlled. Happiness knows when to stop; it’s rational. Euphoria isn’t. Euphoria will seduce you right off a cliff. Euphoria will change who you are. It will keep you up at night, eat away at your inhibitions and self-control, and make you do things that you regret later. Euphoria makes you angry, arrogant, irritated, and moody. It makes you dizzy. You can’t stop euphoria. It’s delectable, tantalizing, and destructive.

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~ Sink or Swim ~

  • They’ve Only Gone and Done It (emmajayashton.com)
    Never was this feeling of being “had” by experience so strong as on the passage across the Atlantic. The whole thing has taken on a dreamlike haze. Absolutely mental, in other words. I mean, I sailed across the Atlantic! The bloody Atlantic! And while I was in foetal position quietly weeping for most of it, I still did it.
  • You Stand There (nimbusinabottle.wordpress.com)
    And you stand there. And I stand here.
    And a barrier keeps between
    A tsunami wave rising
    Almost surmising
    The silence settling unseen
    Like snowflakes, but redder
    Decorating your dark hair
    In a glorified haze
    Over numerous days
    Lying amid Asphodel, fair.
  • Total Submergence (sanesamantha.wordpress.com)
    There are times when we dive underwater to explore what rests below; to discover what can be found at such great depths within ourself. And then there are times when we go under not from our own choosing, but because something forced us under; our fingers slipped, and without premeditation, we suddenly let go.

    I’ve found that almost all of my answers can be found from looking within. Some answers I placed there years ago. Others surprise me with their appearance. Memories dwell inside us like colorful coral reefs. And when the time is right we swim gently around every outcropping, allowing ourselves to live in the memory.

  • LUI: Peace and Freedom (kittypalmer.wordpress.com)
    Stressed and frustrated I exited the building. Why had everything changed? I had just gotten a handle on the procedures and was beginning to feel confident about my abilities. Now I had to change again to keep up with the new requirements placed on me. I was angry and needed a release.  “Ok God, you have to help me.” With my ear buds in and MP3 player turned on I tried to find that place where the cares of this world disappeared, just like when I was a kid.
  • ~ Sink or Swim ~ (rajasinsight.com)
  • Swim/Sink (brokenfigments.wordpress.com)
  • Poseidon Drooled (danielraythomason.wordpress.com)
    She swims with the tradition in her grandma’s shins,
    the tradition in her mother’s knees,
    and the rendition in her summer tees
    where transgressions bend about in a trustful wind that seems to please the morning sea–
  • sinking (ciarajohnson.com)
    it’s just what i need right now.

    the wetness smears it all away,

    you would want it too…  if only i could feel like you

    but i don’t.

    so let’s sink.

  • Ocean’s Huge Underwater Waves Explained By Seafloor Ridges (VIDEO) (huffingtonpost.com)
  • Underwater Adventures – Jamaica (emilyhambi.wordpress.com)

 

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