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Words spoken too fast or too hard

In the previous article we mentioned the dangers of reacting to quickly and in a wrong way. Around us we always may have people who would love to see us to jaded, become angry or to be helpless. Some people will try to get us so on our nerves we act in an non-Christian way.

The words spoken too fast or too hard then can at their turn also evoke anger or sadness. The same we may have to hear our or others their words taken out of context. Those words also may be otherwise referred to, may even have a devastating effect.

Problem is that once said, once used certain words you can not alter them any more. The impact of speech and language is greater than we dare accept as true. Perhaps not meant to be hurtful or poisonous the can have a terrible effect like the bite of a scorpion.

In this world we do have learned to speak, but forgot to listen.
As old as politics, the question is asked:

“Please listen to the citizens!”.

Nederlands: foto. Deelnemers in de zaal luiste...

Participants in the hall listening to a speaker behind the conference table at the 26th Decentralistiecongres (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The conflict model used by politicians, makes it difficult to really be open to another. They discuss a lot, while of true listening is often not the case. Therefore, there is constant, abundant and widely needed rhetoric to convince the other.
Poor listening is a disease of our time. In the political world there is an increasing noticeably cramped of the fellowship. It results in a kind of lack of oxygen that “listening to each other ‘prevents’ ‘Listening’ starts where talking stops.
When we listen with half an ear we do not hear. It’s about making time, to empathize and give space to the other. It means to hear what the other person says or even more: to hear what the other will not say. You will share his or her experience.

Listening happens for 30% with our ears and 70% with our hearts. The right words can do wonders at the right time, because they can comfort, heal and help liberate. Who has mastered the art of listening, is able to find the right words.

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Preceding articles:

An arm around the shoulder

Soft values? Needed heart- and- soul!

Disscusion Questions

For a Dutch version / Voor een Nederlandse versie: Wie luistert, ontwikkelt de gave van het spreken

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Additional reading

  1. A tongue to speak slowly and well-considered
  2. A listening ear
  3. Think before you speak
  4. Be still and listen
  5. Listen, or thy tongue will keep thee deaf
  6. If we view the whole world through a lens that is bright
  7. Feed Your Faith Daily
  8. When we love we do not need laws
  9. Looking for wisdom not departing from God’s Word
  10. Get up in the morning and pray for the Lord’s blessings

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Lose a little inner peace

 

  • Practice Forgiveness. (positive-thoughts.typepad.com)
    “I have a right to be upset because of the way I’ve been treated. I have a right to be angry, hurt, depressed, sad, and resentful.” Learning to avoid this kind of thinking is one of my secrets for living a life of inner peace, success, and happiness. Anytime you’re filled with resentment, you’re turning the controls of your emotional life over to others to manipulate.
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    First, you have to get past blame. Then you have to learn to send love to all, rather than anger and resentment. Just as no one can define you, neither do you have the privilege of defining others. When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will know inner peace. With that sense of inner peace, you’ll find yourself free of the negative energy of resentment, and you’ll be able to live a life of contentment. A bonus is that you’ll find that others are much more attracted to you. A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy
  • Forgive You Once Shame on You, Forgive You Twice Shame on Me (kehugo.wordpress.com)
    Steve Maraboli once said “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize the situation is over you cannot move forward”. While this may be the case for some, others believe that “Some wounds run too deep for the healing” (J.K. Rowling).  Many people do consider forgiveness to be relieving; however, some see it as forgetting the situation and sending a message that the situation is acceptable when it is most definitely not.
  • Jealousy (Final) (heguidry.wordpress.com)
    Jealousy has the potential to build a boulder in relationships and in one’s self-confidence. “The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves” (William Penn). How is jealousy affecting inner peace and would peace be gained if you were able to overcome your jealousy? Jealousy is a common problem in many relationships. At first jealousy is seen as a good thing. It shows that the partner is sweet and truly cares about the relationship and his/her partner. As that may seem a good thing at first, this can turn into a big problem fast.
  • Worldly knowledge doesn’t guarantee peace and compassion, wisdom will… (mydailyyogapractice.wordpress.com)
    It doesn’t matter who we think we are, or we think we know about the scientific facts about this and that, or how much knowledge that we attain from reading books and hearing from other people’s research and their personal experience, it still doesn’t guarantee us peace and compassion, be free from suffering and unhappiness that derived from ignorance, egoism, attachment, and impurities.
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    The stronger we attached to the egoism and qualities of names and forms, the more we think we are smarter or better than other beings, and the more suffering and unhappy we will be, as we will get very impatient, dissatisfied, disappointed, frustrated, irritated, or angry with other beings whom we think and believe as less smart and less good than us.
  • Weekly Spiritual Digest: Be Wary of Your Jealousy of Others (princesdailyjournal.com)
    Jealousy is like a thunderstorm–it builds and builds, forming dark clouds. And when it is ready to strike, it will spout out a bolt of lightning which can electrocute or kill a person in less than one second. In this same respect, jealousy is dangerous and hard to control; it’s unpredictable!
  • Writing that October 15, 2012 story (gordma.wordpress.com)
    A few years back, I sat down and went through John Lennon’s solo career. When I got to Imagine and the song “Jealous Guy,” I began to think about the psychology and especially the inner dialogues of envious and jealous people. Who were these people? What were they thinking? How did they come to those conclusions? Did they know what they were doing and thinking? And why couldn’t they stop?
  • Bonhoeffer on Peace (abnormalanabaptist.wordpress.com)
    There is no way to peace along the way of safety. For peace must be dared. It is itself the great venture and can never be safe. Peace is the opposite of security.

 

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The Insight of a young soul

Keeping grudges over insignificant issues

binding myself more and more each day.

I lose a little bit of the good in me.

I lose a little inner peace.

Using hurtful words,just to get back at someone

ruining relationships ‘coz of selfish wants.

I lose a little bit of the good in me.

I lose a little inner peace.

Call her fat,call him ugly.

He hurt me,he deserves it.

I lose a little bit of the good in me.

I lose a little inner peace.

Lying,cheating,manipulating

people closest to me.

I lose a little bit of the good in me.

I lose a little inner peace.

Building  mountains of hatred and jealousy

with each passing day,

I lose a little bit of ithe good in me.

I lose a little inner peace.

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