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Why do you do what you do?

Do you recognise this ?
The good intentions at the beginning of each new year?

We make lists of
that which we will never do again
of what we will do more often
of what we will do less often
of that of which we will eat less
or more
of whom we would like to see more often
or less often.
We think about our dreams
and also about the bad luck we had in the past.

We stand still. Just for a moment.
As soon as the bottles are empty, the snow has melted, the wishes for happiness have been distributed, we return to the issues of the day, life zooms by and very quickly the list is forgotten in the bottom drawer.

What would happen if we would read that list again every day?
If we would ask this big question to our reflection every morning :
why am I doing what I do”,
If we leave that list in the sunlight on our working table ?
What would happen if we would ask ourselves every day, and not only the first day
of the year : why am I doing what I do ?

Let us stand still more often.
A few moments every day.
Look into the mirror.
To dare to ask that one question, to dare to hesitate, to try, to fail, to get up, to choose.

And then to try to live like we réally want to.

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It´s not how you fall, but how you standup

Niet hoe je valt, wel hoe je opstaatThere is a beautiful text by Peter Handke in which he says ‘Fail calmly’. Fail, yes. Calmly, no. We did not learn that it is o.k. to fail. Let alone that we stay calm while failing. To fail calmly is an art of living, a constant balancing between trying, exercising, and daring to stumble.

Daring to stumble is showing your vulnerability.
To show that you don’t know either.
Socrates already said : ‘I know that I don’t know’.
That wisdom is centuries old .
Why is it so difficult to take away the layer of veneer?
To show who you really are, hesitating and stumbling?

Maybe it helps when we choose.
To choose to dare.
To choose to love stumbling people.
To choose to surround yourself with warm people who do not reject you when you stumble, but who on the contrary reach out.
And to offer your own hand or shoulder when someone nearly falls.

To get up and continue.
It sounds simple, but you never do it alone.
On top of your restored self confidence  you need others.
Warm, encouraging others who also believe in your ability, your resilience and your talents.

To believe in yourself is to allow yourself to stumble.
Stumble calmly, struggle to get up and accept those hands, smooth your hairs and try again.
Not how you fall, but how you get up.

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Original Dutch version / Originele Nederlandstalige versie: Niet hoe je valt, wel hoe je opstaat

Preceding article:

Searching for fulfillment and meaning through own efforts, facing unsatisfaction and depression

Using failure

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Further reading

  1. The Fallacy of Failure
  2. failing 1
  3. Failing 2
  4. Failing 3
  5. Failing 4
  6. day 122 . failing
  7. Fail Like a Scientist
  8. Failing at life
  9. Failing to Grace
  10. Failing and Flailing
  11. Fear of Failure, Failure to Risk
  12. Can I take my time?
  13. What have we done?
  14. Still not perfect
  15. 5 Ways to Fail a Class
  16. Average???
  17. Acceptance: I’m A Failure!!! But I’m Working at it!
  18. Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes
  19. Failing Fast
  20. Failing IS Part of Our Process
  21. Throwing out the cheese
  22. Two-Facedbook
  23. Is it bed-time yet?
  24. Making it to Xmas
  25. Smart Goals
  26. Mastering the art of quitting
  27. And Endless Downward Sloping Set of Stairs
  28. 7 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re Afraid Of Failure
  29. “Negative Vibes”
  30. Why?!
  31. Why I Love Failing Just As Much As Succeeding
  32. I’ve got spirit, yes I do!
  33. what should you be?
  34. Reality Check
  35. One thing about Mark Zuckerberg you never knew
  36. Designed To Fail (& Grow)
  37. Fear Of Not Flying
  38. Once bitten
  39. The Countercultural Icon, #2
  40. Motivation Monday – Fear Edition!
  41. Life is hard. Send help
  42. The sun still rises even with the pain
  43. Learn To Strike Out
  44. One year older, one year…wiser?
  45. What’s At Risk When We Choose Not To Take A Risk?
  46. 365 Days Later
  47. 5 Lessons I’ve learned from 2016
  48. It wasn’t about me.

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Come in and sit down

This is what you see.
Your neighbour has recently arrived in the street.
His children are passing by on their bikes. You don’t know their names.

This is what you know.
You congratulate your long-standing girlfriend by text message but you haven’t seen her or heard from her in ages.
That family close-by, they need help, but you are afraid to knock on their door.

This is what you feel.
Your own heart is bleeding or palpitating and you would love to air your feelings, here or there.

Maybe we are scared, you and I.
Of the world and of each other.
Because you are different from me. And I am different from you.
Because the world challenges us every day.
In the humanitarian, economical and climatic field.

What makes us strong is that you can knock on my door and I can knock on yours.
That I say hi and you say hi.
That you are allowed to share sadness and me too.
That we don’t always have to understand each other, that we can be who we are.
People with a warm heart who want to listen to each other’s story.

I would like to hear yours.

Come in and sit down.
Say this also to your neighbour, that long-standing girlfriend, those children and that family.
Come in and sit down.

 

Dutch version /Nederlandse versie: Kom binnen en zet u

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Allow yourself a chill-out day

” I miss the simplest things the most during my detention. To see the horizon! A nightly sky full of stars! Sleeping in a tent, far away from concrete that wears me down here. After many years of detention, I was allowed my first “day out”. I took the train to the coast and, on top of a dune, I stared at infinity for hours. My soul and heart were filled with so much beauty”.

A prisoner of our thoughts.

Is there such a big difference between what we need – outside the walls – in order to be a better version of ourselves? Can we still do it, break through the walls of our thoughts and take a little while to relax? Even on holiday we seem sometimes caught in our everyday thoughts, our mobile phone which is never quiet.

And yet to do nothing for a little while is just as important as to write off your to-do list. Check the most recent books on management, burning the candle at both ends, can have serious consequences.  Because our mind – just as our body – needs a break every now and then. When year in year out we continue, we run the risk to get a burn-out or depression.
A chill-out day is then the valve with which you release the tension.

A right to slow living

English: Full Steam Ahead Thoughts of escaping...

Full Steam Ahead Thoughts of escaping life in the slow lane as this steam traction engine heads north out of Pontefract towards the M62. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Everyone of us knows the feeling : a whirl of thoughts in your head which stops you from sleeping, the pressure of the things you still have to do. When we have high expectations, we increase our inner stress. When something is not going according to plan, we cannot be creative anymore. In the poem ‘Recht op traagheid’ of Alexis de Roode in ‘Gratis tijd voor iedereen’ the question ‘why all this is required’ is raised. Who is asking this and why today?

Another pitfall can be that we hide behind a full agenda. Because the place – where nothing is required and where it is quiet – can be quite confrontational. In that way we do not have to think about our own uncertainties and fears. We avoid the confrontation with ourselves. But this confrontation can be very revealing in order to have a positive attitude to life.

A detainee has no problem with a full agenda . To stand still is a must. It is not possible to  escape from yourself and the ways in which one is stuck.

 

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Holiday making and dreaming

Going on holiday is… silence in your head

Family happiness and little things we do

Home-stayers and their to do list

May, for many a month for mothers and many celebrations

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Additional reading

  1. Moving around looking for a homeland
  2. Holiday tolerance
  3. Month of many special moments
  4. Holidays, holy days and traditions
  5. Raising digression
  6. Self-development, self-control, meditation, beliefs and spirituality
  7. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
  8. Remember there’s a light in the next day
  9. Be an Encourager

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Further reading

  1. Home sweet home
  2. Digital Detox
  3. Simplify Your Life Week!
  4. 💙Friday Vibes💙
  5. Vacaciones!🍉
  6. ring.
  7. Year of Joy: July
  8. Heart of darkness: Life in the Northern Triangle and the failure of international protection (part 1)
  9. Sleeping in…
  10. It’s Okay To Be Silly
  11. Rain
  12. Stuck
  13. Taking A Break
  14. Pause. Have some dessert.
  15. Tranquility…
  16. Meditation: You Should Try It!
  17. Find a tree
  18. De-Stress in 15 Minutes or Less
  19. Be Like Grass
  20. Tea! Coping with depression #1
  21. Sunny garden breakfast
  22. How to have the perfect, psychologically fit staycation
  23. Staycation 2016 | A Photodiary
  24. BB-8 : Relaxing Weekend.
  25. 15 Tips when travelling
  26. Off to the mountains
  27. Photo of the day: Tiger sunbathing at Orana Zoo
  28. Fall in Love with Florence
  29. Berlin as a tourist and a local.
  30. Spontaneous Camping
  31. Freaking out! Only 78 days left until our Florida holiday!!!
  32. A tour of Hollywood
  33. The ruins of Mỹ Sơn
  34. Picture Diary: Exploring Cornwall
  35. Bigger and better: the expanded Yorkshire Dales and Lake District national parks await
  36. Interrail Part 1: Prague, Czech Republic
  37. Hello from Belgrade!
  38. Mytilini Travel Diary
  39. Shades of Greens & Blues
  40. The Three Stages of Climbing Mount Fuji
  41. What I wore in Corfu, an outfit diary…
  42. Packing List for Women – Your Island Holiday Packing List (Bali, Vanuatu, Fiji, Thailand, etc)
  43. West Palm Beach Travel Diary
  44. 2 weeks of Sweden 
  45. Our Weekend at the Frio River
  46. Borneo – Tunkyu Abdul Rahman National Park
  47. Reggae Falls
  48. Britain to Bali, my brief summer experience!
  49. Best End of #SummerVacation Spots
  50. Relax & Get Your Zen On | White Noise | Tinnitus Relief

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Go outside. Let the world in.

Ask any traveller about his strongest experience and a story of an encounter invariably follows. When we meet people not only face to face , but ‘heart to heart’, we experience this as something special.

When travelling, each one of us recognizes the feeling of being out of one’s comfort zone.
Far away everything is different. Also the people. When we position ourselves at eye level of the ‘foreigner’ , we come to know him with an open mind , we enter his world and everything becomes different.

Trust that we give, we also receive.

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Margot Kässmann responding to a question from the audience following her lecture on “Multicultural Society – Roots, Resistance, and Visions” at the University of Freiburg. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

When we accept that someone is different, a certain chemistry is created. We should not only look at the exterior, but we should keep listening. In this way prejudices and predispositions do not get a chance and the ‘foreign exterior’ will make place for a ‘recognizable interior’. We will experience that wealth is to be found in being different, exactly within the differences. In this sense, people we called ‘foreigners’ at first, are in fact a blessing. The only condition is that we open our heart and allow ourselves to be moved.

In this way foreigners become friends
If our society feels strongly about pluralism we should not be satisfied with an ennobled form of permisiveness that preaches tolerance. In our multicultural society pluralism only has a chance of survival if we go towards the other person and if we are really interested in who he or she is , regardless of whether he/she is a foreigner , of another religion or conviction.

Intercultural dialogue depends upon authentic pluralism
It is essential to allow the other person’s truth , in which a ‘ heart to heart’ encounter is the golden key. In this way a meeting close to home can become a rich experience worth telling. We are only asked to go outside and to let the world in.

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Dutch version / Nederlandse versie: Ga naar buiten. Laat de wereld binnen.

Are you right down in the dumps? Stop digging!

Responses to Radical Muslims and Radical Christians

Tolerance Ends When There Is No Tolerance Shown Towards Us

My two cents on the refugee crisis

Stabbed victim parent’s hope for less hatred and more tolerance

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About going outside

  1. “Sometimes our stop-doing list needs to be bigger than our to-do list.”
  2. It’s Simple, Really, We Don’t Need Much
  3. Going Outside: The Sunrise Edition
  4. A wee tail
  5. Learning to Longboard – Novice Shred Spots

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About meeting people

  1. We are strange
  2. Striving To Connect
  3. Meeting new people, Amazing Experiences & Giving help
  4. unexpected tips: ways to meet people
  5. How can I start meeting friends
  6. 5 Places To Meet People Offline
  7. 10 Ways to Meet People in the London
  8. 25 Small Ways You Can Bless A Stranger’s Life
  9. A person worth knowing
  10. Some Relationships Are Just Blips On The Radar (But They’re Still Beautiful)
  11. The type of people you Do Not want to meet in life Again!
  12. meeting horrible people and you’re complaining about it
  13. No makeup – One-liner Wednesday #1linerWeds
  14. Pumpkin Munchinskaij 🙂
  15. Men with Machetes!
  16. Moms have enough to worry about, let’s not make friendships one of them
  17. Conversation, Where Are You?
  18. Coincidental
  19. Good date 8/10
  20. Some Wine, Some Words, and Some Confusion
  21. Another Source
  22. Workshop # 3 – We are all the same
  23. Being Religious and Spiritual 8 Spiritual, Mystic and not or well religious
  24. Some one or something to fear #5 Not afraid
  25. A participation in the body of Christ
  26. Justification – salvation is by grace through faith – JI Packer
  27. Disciple of Christ counting lives and friends dear to them
  28. A Holy week in remembrance of the Blood of life
  29. Atonement And Fellowship 3/8
  30. What’s church for, anyway?
  31. Gathering or meeting of believers
  32. Vergadering – Meeting / Meeting – Vergadering
  33. Congregate, to gather, to meet
  34. Why we do not have our worship-services in a church building
  35. Not trying to make the heathen live like Jews #2
  36. The Magic of Books
  37. Summertime Blues
  38. Good Vibes
  39. Thought Positions
  40. Police Visit
  41. A Stop In Mamou To See Fred’s and Tante Sue
  42. in which we update our dating status, and talk about tinder
  43. Dating Again After Divorce
  44. Collective Dating
  45. Better late than never
  46. Met a new pagan group last night
  47. Wading in the Sea
  48. It’s all in my mind…

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About prejudice

  1. Want to Stop the Contempt, Hate, and Violence?
  2. Prejudices and Stereotypes
  3. Arrest the prejudices
  4. Things are rarely what they seem :: Why I scrambled to offer food to a stranger
  5. Dirt Daubers, Humans, and Other Pests
  6. Bias, stereotypes, and prejudice. Oh my?
  7. Are You Contagious?
  8. Dissolve The Barriers You Created
  9. Why Is It Important To Have Opinions And Communicate Them?
  10. Dealing with love burden
  11. “Nowhere to Go”
  12. Suicide blond
  13. What is True Compassion?
  14. our own guru
  15. The Enemy Camp: Creativity vs. Logic
  16. But You Can’t Shoot Them
  17. The Kind of Christian I Am Today (with an addendum on Orlando)
  18. Exceptions never ‘prove the rule”
  19. Strip Yourselves from Social Masks
  20. Heart for sale

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About tolerance

  1. Religious Practices around the world
  2. Christmas in the 1950s
  3. Migrants to the West #10 Religious freedom
  4. More Muslim children than Christian children growing up in our cities
  5. Quran versus older Holy Writings of Divine Creator
  6. Back from gone #3 Giving worries to God and believing in His promises
  7. Where is the USA wanting to go with the freedom of their people
  8. ISIL will find no safe haven
  9. Holiday tolerance
  10. If you have integrity
  11. Integrity of the fellowship
  12. If you want to go far in life
  13. People who are always making allowances for themselves soon go bankrupt
  14. God let my compassionate affection be tolerant and kind
  15. Diversity
  16. A social experiment
  17. A Musing on Discerning Tolerance
  18. Introducing Students To Disability- Year 2
  19. Love
  20. Making Peace with the Middle East
  21. Learn and Live
  22. Republican vs. Democrat “Tolerance”, Compare And Contrast
  23. How religion can lead to violence – Gary Gutting

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Evil wins when the good does not act.

‘Level 4’ is now a concept
The attacks in Brussels on 22 March were nothing short of vile. It was a tragedy, a disaster that everyone experienced as totally reprehensible. Everyone, in their anger and desperation, was looking for words they could not find. At the same time to remain silent or do nothing was not an option. Thousands gathered in squares and other public places. They marched in silence, sang, wrote things down, burned candles or laid down flowers. One did not want to give in but give a clear sign.

This happening between people surpassed us.
When language is not available, we reach out for symbols. A symbol can express without words the indignation, sadness and compassion that lives within us . A symbol is more however than just a ‘sign’.

“The symbols we use are real , in the sense that they work and do not fail their effect“,

wrote Han Fortmann once. A society that is criticised for being individualistic, experienced a kind of renaissance of ‘shared values’ on the 22nd of March in its solidarity with the victims and in its compassion with the families. This rebirth did however not remove the calamity that happened to us.

It put things in a perspective.
If terror seeks destruction and chaos , at the same time it creates its opposites. In tears, but through the madness it mobilised citizens who chanted:

We are not afraid!”

The rubble of destruction had to make place for defiance, while chaos was immediately transformed into solidarity, togetherness and commitment.

“To cry is the first prophetic deed in human history. Only when we have the capacity to cry with others, in compassion, can we change the culture of death into a culture of life”.

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Previous articles

Just be yourself…

From Guestwriters 2015 in review

Christians at War? Christians using violence?

Before you blame All Muslims for the terrorist attack in Paris

Paris, in Retrospect

Tears for Belgium

Bruxelles Ma Belle

A darker and stranger place

Il terrorismo è l’urlo di un bambino al buio

Bringers of agony, Trained in Belgium and Syria

A charter for a truly free world and why we need it

Dutch version / Nederlandse versie: Kwaad wint als goed niets doet

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Additional reading

  1. A world in denial
  2. Christian fundamentalism as dangerous as Muslim fundamentalism
  3. Public not informed enough about Jihad terrorism in Belgium
  4. Summary for the year 2015 #1 Threat and fear
  5. 2015 Human rights
  6. Brussels’ Jewish Museum re-opened on Sunday
  7. Brussels-born Salah Abdeslam key suspect Paris terrorist attacks
  8. Daesh hits heart of Europe
  9. A Black day for Belgium – Brussels Airport ravage
  10. Knife-trust in democratic sore back
  11. Tears for Belgium
  12. Reaction from U.S.A. President Barack Obama
  13. De getuigen bij Pauw zijn bekende uit dezelfde hoek
  14. What Associated Press released on Wednesday 23 March 2016
  15. Iranian media implicitly accuse Erdogan to have known of the Bruxelles’s attacks in advance
  16. Hard questions
  17. Terrorist attacks in brussels
  18. Social media, sympathy & shocks
  19. Belgian Muslims Refusing to Aid Police in Finding Terrorists
  20. Europe unites to defeat terror
  21. Silence, devotion, Salafists, quietists, weaponry, bombings, books, writers and terrorists
  22. Internet meeting 2016 March 30, Tuesday
  23. Is God behind all suffering here on earth

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Further reading

  1. Conflict, Attack and Situations That Seem Impossible to Overcome
  2. How to face new waves of terrorism
  3. Muslim Options in the West
  4. Islamic State committing genocide against Yazidis: U.N.
  5. Terror
  6. U.S. officials say American Muslims do report extremist threats
  7. ISIS working to send operatives to the West for further attacks: US spy chief
  8. Right-wing homegrown extremism continues to be ignored
  9. The Danger Of “Right-Wing Extremists”
  10. Because “you can’t handle the truth..”
  11. The good the bad and the unsettling
  12. “Bad as it is that President Obama refuses to use the words “Islamist terror,” it’s far worse that he’s put blinders on everyone who’s supposed to be keeping America safe”
  13. Killing of Two Police Officers in Paris a ‘Terrorist Act’, President Hollande Says
  14. French police alerted to possible arrival of extremist fighters
  15. In Brussels police arrest 12 ‘plotting to attack during Belgium-Ireland match’
  16. Belgian authorities charge 3 in major anti-terror raid
  17. What in the world?
  18. Citizen With Firearm Stops Muslim Terrorist
  19. How To Stop Most Homegrown Terrorists—-Shutdown The FBI Sting Operations | David Stockman’s Contra Corner
  20. CIA Chief: ISIS Still a Threat
  21. G. Edward Griffin: This Story Could Be the Smoking Gun For All False-Flag Ops :: The Last Great Stand
  22. A Week of Terror
  23. War on Terror_ Nothing is as it appears to be
  24. France will see further terror attacks: PM
  25. My terrorists: rich old white guys
  26. Countering Jihad
  27. Not Islamic terror
  28. ISIS killer posts chilling Facebook video after murdering French policeman and wife
  29. Crimes and misdemeanors of Pulse shooting
  30. Not again!!!!
  31. Terrorism too close to home …
  32. American Bataclan?
  33. Orlando Nightclub Shooting: Questions and Anomalies Surround ‘Worst Mass Shooting in U.S. History’ « Memory Hole
  34. How America’s Mass Shooters Now Use Weapons of War | Mother Jones
  35. The Orlando massacre: the lies, the exploitation and unasked questions | The Vineyard of the Saker
  36. Flawed, Angry, Grief-Stricken – But We Will Not Succumb to Terror
  37. French police march silently to honor ISIS attack victims
  38. A Distressing Morning
  39. The Orlando Morass
  40. Orlando suspicions: Multiple shooters, multiple ‘motives’ and a siege that just doesn’t add up | Truth and Shadows
  41. Seventy-two killed resisting gun confiscation in Boston! | Fauquier Free Citizen
  42. Orlando ‘Known Wolf’ Watched by FBI, Worked with DHS, Amid Crisis Actors, Drills & CI’s
  43. City Officials Reportedly Won’t Turnover Fire Code Inspection Records For Pulse Nightclub | LawNewz
  44. Orlando attack: Gunman’s ‘struggle with his true sexuality’ could have made him snap
  45. Orlando gunman describes himself as ‘Islamic soldier’ in chilling 911 transcripts
  46. 19 June 2016. A Foreign Response to Orlando
  47. “Gun sales surge among gays, lesbians after Orlando shooting”
  48. Did FBI Informants Assist Mateen in the Orlando Shooting?
  49. Exploiting the Orlando nightmare
  50. Jimm Fallon Addresses Orlando Shootings In ‘Tonight Show’ Monologue
  51. Orlando Shooting: Is God Hate or Love?
  52. Obama’s cerebral reaction to terror tested in Orlando
  53. Pulse Nightclub Shooting Original Tribute Song
  54. Threats against Muslims must stop after Orlando attack: US
  55. Tens of thousands attend Orlando vigil
  56. My Opinion on… Orlando
  57. My Thoughts for Orlando
  58. Thoughts on the latest terror attack
  59. Bubble Explosion: The Orlando Tragedy
  60. Man Who Claims To Be Omar Mateen’s Gay Lover Says The Orlando Shooting Was Revenge, Not Terror
  61. “Gun sales surge among gays, lesbians after Orlando shooting”
  62. Taliban suicide bomber kills at least 14 in Afghan capital
  63. Boko Haram Attacks Force 50,000 to Flee Homes
  64. Suspected Fulani Herdsmen Attacked Ogun State
  65. Millitants Finding their way in Ogun State – Commissioner of Police
  66. Taliban suicide bombing kills 14 Nepalese guards in Kabul
  67. A theory of attacks?
  68. The Outrageous Attack on Conservative Christians After the Orlando Massacre
  69. Still Redacted, Still Deceiving
  70. Zero tolerance for hate speech, says Shanmugam
  71. The eyes of free will
  72. #27 – Hatebreed / Madball / Hate Eternal /Terror
  73. #75: Coward
  74. Conspiracy theorists are harassing the families of women killed in mass shootings
  75. Man arrested at Heathrow Airport on suspicion of terrorism
  76. November lectures in US: How the Mideast will react to the election
  77. 6 troops killed, 14 injured in car bomb attack on Syria border
  78. Terror v Trust
  79. Sharia and Freedom
  80. War and Ignorance
  81. Love breeds Love, so does Hate breeds…
  82. Does one person have control to stop Every bad thing in the world?
  83. Hatred and Division Make Me Sick
  84. Capitulo 4 – Indicios

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The present for every sick person? Give time!

Thé present for every sick person? Give time!

Imagine that one day you are taken into hospital and put in a bed for months on end. You are lying there. Alone. Waiting. Connected to a drip, plastic tubes and beeping monitors, while your eyes are constantly turning towards the door of your room. Because there is no-one.
 
File:Krankenzimmer.JPGSpecialists and nurses come to your bed every so often. They give you attention and take care of you. It is not always easy, because the work pressure is high. It is often a hurried care. There is not much time for other things. At the same time it is not necessary to talk to the nurses about living with uncomfort, pain and loss. They know, better than anyone, the hard and rough side of a hospital bed.

Let us be grateful that they ARE there and do what they DO.
Being a patient is under-estimated. To be seriously ill, feels life threatening. Illness throws you back, confronts and makes you dependent. Isolates. When something is seriously wrong with your body, your spirit follows. A lot of things happen. Questions about life, belief and other issues arise. They force you to look at things in a different way. Unasked-for your heart is put to the test, your spirit chastened.

It is the inside of life that knocks at the door, holds up a mirror and invites you to be different, to look for answers, to be receptive to new, until then, unknown insights.

Therefore, do not enter a sickroom in order to talk and talk. The sick suffer and struggle with a lot, fight against sadness and loss, live with uncertainty, confusion, fear and many unanswered questions.

Every ” And how are you ?”…
is best followed by a respectful silence and listening. Give them the time to speak, the possibility to search for words or … to say nothing at all. In the context of drastic questions of life and death , silence is often suitable. Because when language is not enough, silence can be meaningful.

By ‘being there’ and listening, you give a sick person that which he needs most: presence. Or is it ‘being inside’?

Dutch original / Nederlands origineel: Hét cadeau voor elke zieke? Geef tijd!

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Tact? Knowing when it is better to remain silent!

Words can be weapons.
When words are sent into the world without careful consideration and impulsively, they can have a devastating effect and hurt. Poisonous words are always offensive and can terrorise. Bullying can be hell for children in school, for adults at work. It is the cause of many a deed of desperation. “We did not intend it that way”, is then the most common excuse. But what was the intention?

A tactometer…
… is a tool that determines the sensitivity of your skin. This is very closely related to what tact is: the capacity to judge the sensitivities of human association correctly so as to act correctly and subsequently.
To be tactful is to be tactile : to have a sense of touch, a kind of subtle discernment to correctly sense people and circumstances.

To know when it is best to remain silent

…is at the same time to know when to talk. For is it right to abandon someone to whom an injustice has been committed? Can we remain silent when disdainful words are spoken? To suffer from insulting remarks is very offensive, but neither is it a sign of tact when spectators remain silent in order to save themselves and not have to share in the mess.

The eternal middle course.

In fact it is about the capacity to sense when it is better to remain silent, thus about the correct silence. Just as it is about finding the right words at the right time. All this requires training. One needs to really become aware of which impact all this has on people and  human association.

In essence it is important to remain kind in all circumstances. To return people in the most tactful way to themselves and each other. In this way one helps to keep the harmony, so that everyone can continue with themselves and each other.

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Dutch version: Tact? Weten wanneer je beter zwijgt!BzN-Mov Without a Name-Logo_EN

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Additional literature:

  1. Think before you speak
  2. Free to be quiet
  3. Be still and listen
  4. Be kinder than necessary

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Remain lovingly = No path for softies

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Remain lovingly. No path for softies.

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David Grégoire Van Reybrouck Flemish Belgian author who writes historical fiction, literary non-fiction, novels, poetry, plays and academic texts. He has received several Dutch literary prizes, including AKO Literature Prize (2010) and Libris History Prize.

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Jens Stoltenberg

One hears language of war here and there as a reaction to acts of terror worldwide. In his opinion column David Van Reybrouck pleads for other forms of resoluteness than war language. Immediately after the attacks in Norway the Prime Minister Stoltenberg pleaded frankly for

“more democracy, more openness, more participation“.

In this climate of violence we need this connective thinking. Violence starts indeed  where people allow themselves to be played off against each other and point at innocent people.

Only light can conquer darkness.
Last november ,’Hart boven Hard‘ (Heart above Hard) and other similar organisations have organised simultaneous “silent wakes”   in various towns in solidarity with all the victims of terror attacks and wars. Under the common motto “together against hate” the civil movement invites as many people as possible to make a gesture against violence, polarising and terrorism.
Also the youth brigade Tony! takes to the streets in order to commit hopeful attacks. In the autumn they drove through the city and projected connecting messages onto public buildings like the MAS. With this wildbeam action these young people offer a constructive counterweight. They choose for radical hope as a last freedom of the human being. The freedom to choose how we want to deal with the things thrown at us today.

An alternative for fear begins with …. YOU!
Every person who chooses resolutely every day to stay lovingly, to accept dialogue, to choose for encounter, knows that this is not an easy path to take. Resistance, disappointment, desperation are part of it. Resilience is a must. Notwithstanding this MWN summons – already for over 55 years – to choose this path. To keep trusting. Also when it becomes difficult. Because we keep believing in the silent force of many citizens who together keep delivering small , meaningful deeds. As a silent protest.

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The present and 14th Dalai Lama Tenzin Gyatso

The Dalai Lama has spread a similar message :

“Violence is a reaction of shortsighted people that have lost the plot. At 81 I believe that violence cannot be solved by prayers or Governments. We have to create change at an individual level and then spread this to your neighbourhood and the society”.

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BZN or MWN Who we are & What we do;

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Original Dutch Version /Nederlandse versie: Liefdevol blijven = Geen weg voor softies

 

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Additional reading

  1. Muslim Grooming (Rape) Gangs and Sharia
  2. When the wind blows hard on a tree
  3. Hope does not disappoint us
  4. If you do pray you shall not be disappointed

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Further reading

  1. ‘I try to keep my hate in check. If you can’t hate, you can’t love.’
  2. Resistance (1)
  3. Resistance (2)
  4. Defiance vs Resistance
  5. ‘Let’s pull this humongous tree by the root’
  6. Goal Setting: It’s the Little Things
  7. We are Yedikule!
  8. Tout inclusif
  9. Revolutionary Internationalism Makes a Comeback in Oakland
  10. Activist hunting
  11. Thoughtful Thursdays #115 Three Wishes
  12. Day 378: Waking Up To Revenge
  13. Shards
  14. I Feel Broken
  15. What It Looks Like to Be So Happy It Hurts
  16. F.L
  17. Raw Thoughts
  18. good people
  19. New Beginnings

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One can buy a lot in the supermarket, but not hope

A thermometer in the proverbial mouth of society would measure a high temperature. We are all feverish. Psychiatrist Dirk De Wachter calls our society ‘borderline‘. Are we aware of a kind of collective delusion? ‘Hypermarkets’ , that offer up to 30.000 articles, have increased their turnover from 616 to 4.823 billion euro. A good and strong pupil who perfectly meets our economic model of better, faster… and always more.

The supermarket is a temple of consumption.
File:Supermarket beer and wine aisle.jpgEvery product cries out to be bought . With an agressiveness that borders on hysterical, our advertising boys try to convince us that margarine produces a more harmonious family life and that coca cola creates friendships. They shamelessly use insights of psychology to encourage people to consume. And they do not spare anyone, not even children.

The energy that is required of human beings to produce 30.000 articles, to distribute them and to sell them is colossal. This whole chain mobilises gigantic forces and realises this with such passion, that it betrays the conviction that to produce and consume material things will give us what we are looking for.

Does it still surprise you that we are drawn into consumption with forever stronger stimuli , at the cost of other things ?
 
It is a kind of psychological materialism that makes that we are more preoccupied with ‘having’ than ‘being’. If there even is time for ‘being’. Recently a study with 8000 students at the Catholic University of Leuven has shown that 1/7 has serious emotional problems: fear, depression, suicidal thoughts. Philosopher and author Hein Stufkens said in an interview :

” People that think about suicide, do not really want to stop living, they want to stop living ‘in this way’. They want to live differently. They are looking for real life “.

These are hard facts that in the West we are strongly ego-centric. Isn’t it high time that we look beyond the borders of the ego? One can maybe buy a lot in the supermarket, but you do not buy friendship there, no hope and no trust. Just like it is impossible to buy happiness, which is a good thing!

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Dutch version / Nederlandstalige versie: In de supermarkt kan je (g)een hoop kopen

Looking for the consummation of presents

Luxury

Summermonths and consumerism

Your position about materialistic desires having conquered the world

Learning that stuff is just stuff

Fear, struggles, sadness, bad feelings and depression

Material wealth, Submission and Heaven on earth

Family happiness and little things we do

Why “Selfishness” Doesn’t Properly Mean Being Shortsighted and Harmful to Others

Looking at a conservative review of Shop Class As Soul Craft

Life isn’t unfair

Soft values? Needed heart- and- soul!

Watch out

You’re Lighter Than Air~

How do Other People Feel About Mental Health?

How to Find the Meaning of Life and Reach a State of Peace

Misleading world, stress, technique, superficiality, past, future and positivism

O’ Captain! My Captain!

Just be yourself…

Searching for fulfillment and meaning through own efforts, facing unsatisfaction and depression

Less… is still enough

Less for more

A bird’s eye and reflecting from within

We all have to have dreams

Forward ever backwards never!

“Der Grad der K… De mate van creativiteit – Degree of creativity

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Additional reading

  1. Capitalism
  2. Increasing wealth gap of immense proportions in the Capitalist World
  3. Capitalism and economic policy and Christian survey
  4. Migrants to the West #3
  5. Materialism, would be life, and aspirations
  6. Poverty and conservative role patterns
  7. Forms of slavery, human trafficking and disrespectful attitude to creation to be changed
  8. Welfare state and Poverty in Flanders #3 Right to Human dignity
  9. Welfare state and Poverty in Flanders #9 Consumption
  10. Paris World Summit of Conscience, International interfaith gathering #3
  11. Message of Pope Francis I for the 48th World Communications Day
  12. société, crise, esprit
  13. From Winterdarkness into light of Spring
  14. Parenthood made more difficult
  15. Living Apart together
  16. Being Charlie 6
  17. Land not an ordinary asset
  18. Securing risks
  19. Reflect on how much idolizing happens
  20. Looking to the East and the West for Truth
  21. Oh god, this is never going to end!
  22. Depression Is and When
  23. What IF you’re only driven by stress?
  24. A little ray of sunshine.
  25. Getting fate in your change to positiveness
  26. Remember there’s a light in the next day
  27. Pieces
  28. Joy: Foundation for a Positive Life
  29. Be an Encourager
  30. Four Pressing Needs in Rural Communities, and How the Church Should Respond
  31. Trusting, Faith, calling and Ascribing to Jehovah #3 Voice of God #2 Instructions and Laws

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Further reading

  1. What I Want
  2. Materialism or Emotions?
  3. Snail
  4. The choice of being “choiceless”
  5. Convenience Store | Grocery Store in Delhi-NCR, India
  6. Gloomy retail outlook for the first quarter
  7. Walmart – World’s Largest Retail Chain
  8. The Supermarket is the Nexus of Existential Dread
  9. Battle Of The Supermarkets
  10. Grocery Chains Aren’t Building New Supermarkets Where Most Needed
  11. there’s more to stacking shelves than you think
  12. These are the dirtiest places in every supermarket
  13. Grass hair clip..?
  14. Russian supermarket slammed for selling chopping boards with photo of Barack Obama as a monkey
  15. Russian store sold ‘monkey Obama’ chopping boards & apologized
  16. Day 7 – An Educational Day at the Supermarket
  17. What’s the Best Way to Sell a Product?
  18. Overhaul the world’s money policy
  19. Intermittent truth
  20. Global economies shape our cities: is it acceptable?
  21. Woes and Watch-out Warnings
  22. Listening to the Web
  23. Please Sir, I Want Some More
  24. I am rich and famous. Now what…?
  25. The truth about Consume
  26. How Much Do I Consume?
  27. Rule #105: Cyclical consumption
  28. Materialistic Wants? Not.
  29. “money is the reason we exist, everybody knows it, it’s a fact, kiss kiss”
  30. Top Risks for a Consumer-Driven Society
  31. Cotton and cocaine
  32. The Culture of Excesses- Losing Humanity
  33. Contrasts.
  34. Contented Consumer?
  35. The foolish man
  36. Being No One One, Precis: Part 2
  37. Turning the Poor into Consumers
  38. Capitalising on Christmas
  39. Lighting up Christmas
  40. Christmas fragment 1
  41. Holiday Shopping For Your Token Atheist Friend
  42. Holiday gift-giving between adults is a needless, consumerist chore
  43. To Save Pandas, We Must Eat them
  44. Things I’ve learned from killing consumerism #13 – We want beauty for ourselves
  45. Obama: Stop pretending you care about Syrian people
  46. Should We Be Scared?
  47. Its 100% OK to offend people in my world
  48. Life..a never ending..
  49. Born Privileged
  50. {quote of the day}
  51. Only to be Lost
  52. Run
  53. Self Harm
  54. My Only Way Out
  55. Ahhhhhh
  56. the curtain comes up
  57. I Have This Urge
  58. Letter Of Departure
  59. The truth about approuachable
  60. Officially Trumped: When “being Real” gets too Real
  61. Contented Consumer?
  62. Magic
  63. First Feelings – Sonnet No. 4
  64. Friends
  65. Universe
  66. 2015/2016

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