So you’re out with your toddler, who loudly points out that someone in earshot is “really fat.” What do you do?
Rather than scolding the child, the best course of action is to simply and matter-of-factly acknowledge the observation while emphasizing that humans come in a variety of shapes and sizes and that that’s “totally fine,” writes Megan Margulies in Parents. That said, it’s probably best to teach kids to avoid commenting on other people’s appearances, as even positive comments can be harmful or unwelcome.
“You’re not trying to shame your child for noticing differences,”
child and adolescent psychologist Lori Fishman,
“but you can also let the child know [their comments] can hurt other people’s feelings.” [Parents]