Veel pluimen geven sterke vleugels

Veel pluimen geven sterke vleugels!

Geen mens bestaat of hij heeft behoefte aan bevestiging. Een baby wordt aangemoedigd om te eten, een peuter en een kleuter worden onophoudelijk gestimuleerd om te lopen, te praten en te leren. Geen enkele ouder moet je overtuigen. Kinderen die aangespoord worden, zullen immers voortgang maken, groeien.

Tot kinderen volwassenen worden.
Dan blijkt in de menselijke psychologie iets te kantelen. We houden op met onze groter geworden kinderen en later ook onze collega’s, onze werknemers of gewoon onze medemens, aan te moedigen. Alsof het om één of andere reden niet meer nodig blijkt. Alsof volwassenen daar geen behoefte meer aan hebben. Niets is minder waar.


Sterke Sietze

Sterke Sietze (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Wellicht vindt dit soort van onachtzaamheid haar oorsprong in het feit dat, als we zélf niet meer positief worden gewaardeerd, we nalaten anderen aan te moedigen, terwijl we deze nood van in onze kinderjaren in ons dragen. De aandachtige toeschouwer zal immers vaststellen dat mensen eigenlijk voortdurend wachten op een bevestigend woord, ja, … een pluim!

Geef mensen een pluim en ze krijgen vleugels.
Dat was de spreuk die Bond zonder Naam enkele jaren terug publiceerde. Massaal kwamen toen reacties van lezers en leden. Waarom? Omdat mensen in deze gevleugelde en met een kwinkslag bedoelde woorden hun nood herkenden om eens een pluim te krijgen… of te geven. Peuter of kleuter, arbeider of leider, ze hebben allemaal nood aan dat schouderklopje. In de (h)erkenning die ze ontvangen, weten mensen zich pas echt bevestigd in wat ze doen. Mensen willen immers horen en voelen dat ze gewaardeerd worden voor datgene wat ze vaak met veel toewijding en inzet proberen te realiseren.En geef je mensen véél pluimen, dan krijgen ze sterke vleugels.
Met dank aan Bond Zonder Naam

 Aanvullende lezing:

  1. Wees sterk en moedig
  2. Plicht van aanmoediging
  3. In je koers volharden en mensen aanmoedigen


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