Quality of listening on the planet is terrible

‘The quality of listening on the planet is terrible,’ says Len Traubman who was born at the beginning of World War Two in Duluth, Minnesota, and all his ancestors had immigrated in the eighteen hundreds from the old country — Bohemia, Poland, Hungary, Ukraine, Bessarabia, Tsarist Russia. His mother’s Orthodox Russians fled right after the first pogroms of 1881.  As a pre-schooler walking by the synagogue, he asked:

“Grandma, is everyone in Duluth Jewish?” Everybody in my world was Jewish.’

The Traubmans joke that their training for peacebuilding and conflict transformation began with their 1967 marriage, which they now call “the gymnasium of the spirit” where they learn and exercise most of what they know.  Differing personalities and religions created workouts for the couple especially during their early days.

Their expanding circle included diverse, creative people deeply interested in the planet, marriage, parenting, living cooperatively on Earth, and becoming contributing human beings. They began studying how to mature from ego-centricity to unconditional love.

Together we learned from the symbolism and wisdom of Torah, prehistory myths, Biblical narratives, insights from Jesus the teacher and from Jung and other geniuses of the human psyche and spirit.  With this remarkable community of colleagues, our prime allegiance became to the planet and all humankind.‘

Libby has top tips for a successful cross-cultural marriage:

‘I have to be a really good listener. And it helps to have self-knowledge to see where my own conditioning is causing this anger, this hurt. At the root, it’s usually not Len doing it. It is something old from my childhood. Oh, how much we are pushed around by our early life experiences! Yet a lot of people don’t choose to self-reflect because it is much easier to blame another. The blame game easily destroys relationships. So I try to take a lot of responsibility for my own spirit and not jump into blaming. Too, we always say the key to a good relationship is to experience joy; we have a lot of fun together and share activities that we enjoy.’

Today many people prefer to blame others. Most people are also not concerned it what others think , say or do, as long as they do not interfere with them.

According to Len Traubman:

‘Everyone wants to be heard and louder, hoping things will change. Everyone wants to speak, yet fewer wish to listen.”

The Audience's Listening

The Audience’s Listening (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

but I do think there are not enough people who want to let others hear their voice. There are not enough people who want to bring a voice for others. Perhaps there may be many just wanting others to follow what they are saying for their own benefit, but being not interested in the other. Often they do not want to spare an ear for others like they do not want to listen to them. Lots of people also do not think they can learn from others.

The skills for listening-to-learn are just terrible. So this is the great challenge for all of us.’

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My StoryLibby And Len Traubman; Their journey of cross cultural dialogue

This month’s cover story features Len and Libby Traubman, who whilst they might not be royalty, are widely regarded as the doyennes of cross cultural dialogue. Their amazing 47 year inter faith marriage, which they call, ‘the gymnasium of the spirit’, has been the cornerstone of their learning and resources, which they have generously shared with all of us here at Goldenroom.  The story, one’s own personal narrative is critical to building dialogue between people of conflicted cultures, as they explain  that ‘ an enemy is one whose story you have not heard.’ and so we are especially honoured that Libby and Len Traubman have chosen to share their story with Goldenroom this month.

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the Living Room Dialogue

My Story. LIBBY and LEN TRAUBMAN

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One response to “Quality of listening on the planet is terrible

  1. Thanks for the link. Listening is definitely a valuable and too often missing skill. blessings, Brad

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